Well /adv/, I am in a tight spot here and obviously always have been a retard when it came down to life choices. So I need you to help me evaluate how shit my life is and what is the best way to proceed.
I fell for the STEM meme in university and fuck up my major hard. I do think that I could manage the work, but I have a severe amount of distractions. My life outside of uni is absolute trash and I seriously doubt that I can handle it without ending up in some psychological institution. I still did not move out at 21 and my parents constantly ride my ass about every single... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
To be successful on the STEM path you need to be really, really good. That basically means you have to be autistic as fuck and live and breathe math, otherwise that shit is going to eat you alive and you are going to scrape by with shitty marks at best. And when you are finished, if you are finished that is, you are going to get rejected at every single place you send your application to, because no one needs a half baked scientist who only managed to get through by doing... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
First of all, depending on what your GPA is, see if you can internally transfer your major within the same department to a less strenuous course. Most universities have an unwritten rule that no matter what degree you were accepted into, if you gain the prerequisites and credit points for something, you will graduate with whatever degree you earned it for. Speak to Dean of Students, speak to your head of department, see what you can salvage. THEN see if you can get your apprenticeship.
Ive been a NEET for a decade. I want to lock myself away for a few weeks in order to study for my upcoming GED test (if i do very well I get college credit and stuff,) study Japanese, workout, quit video games/watching porn cold turkey. Ive heard 21 days is the avg amount to set a new habit.
Do you guys think it'd be possible to develop these good habits and stop the bad ones for 21 days? Any advice?
I hope it's possible. I'm in a similar situation, but I fear that everything is hopeless because I just lack any semblance of self control at this point. Every time I try to make a resolution to abstain from the computer or do something productive, I just end up giving in to mindless pleasures. Personally I think a lifetime of engaging in mindless pleasures without putting in any effort has rewired my brain in a way that makes it very difficult to change. I hope you have more discipline than I do.
>get word from friend a to hang out at store >pick up friend b >arrive >person I hate shows up >says event is happening >person I hate is hosting event >both friends know this >abandon me to play in event >left with nothing to do I hate this. How do I not making shit friends?
>>16776488 Find someone with good values, find people who normally dont do anything, if you in highschool this happens to a lot of people someone says they want to link up, then when the event starts they dont wanna go, they dont bring you, then you find out your friend then you find them posted on frankblock with their fucking gang
I arrived at the conclusion that sex is beyond me. Better than me. That there's something wrong with me because I can't have it. I tell myself that I also don't need it. That it isn't important for me and relationships would only serve to destroy me. I see myself as being incapable sexually, yet capable of other things. I control my sexual desires rather than them controlling me. I ponder on how amazing sex could be if I could experience it on the highest level.
I became a wizard time ago. I mostly ignored ever having a sex life. Now I feel as if... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>there can be some risks involved regardless of preventative measures.
Does it honestly matter at this point? Literally man just YOLO it doesn't even matter. Do you really want to keep going on like this if it's bothering you so much? And also experience, so what? You are making some pretty weak excuses if this is something you really want man.
You have Three options. You need to pick one right now.
- Fuck a hooker and learn sex isn't that big a deal - Start signing up for dating sites or networking and meeting... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
So, /adv/, any hypocondriacs here who want to share methods to "just like chill"? I'm being ultra paranoid because I'm afraid the constipation and slightly impacted colon I just got visited for two days ago might be worse than initially thought and that before the 6 days of therapy the doc prescribed me I'm going to die an explosive, brown and smelly death. Granted it already happened to me and lasted much longer, but my intestine didn't hurt that much the one time it happened two years ago.
In all seriousness though, because of a previous... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Anon, we're all going to die. Why the fuck are you worrying about what's going to kill you? Sure, prevent your death as long as you can, but it's going to happen. If you end up with an illness that cuts your life in half, fucking whatever man. You're wasting the (very short) amount of time you have on this stray blue planet worrying about the inevitable. SNAP OUT OF IT!
>>16776502 That's why I'm worried to waste time in whatever therapy or hospital. Everyone I know gives me shit about being paranoid about my health, considering I've gone through much, much worse stuff, but I think they see it more as a "Oh you must be afraid of being hurt or dying". I'm more concerned with wasting time being hospitalized or otherwise incapacitated. Every moment I'm not studying, learning, having fun or shitposting on my favourite chinese cartoon website feels wasted, doubly... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16776562 See, that's the thing man. Waste is subjective. Your entire life is a cumulative series of good/bad/exciting/boring/etc. events. Spending time in the hospital or therapy or what have you isn't a "waste", it's just another experience.
I figure this is a good enough place to post my dilemma.
Been with my GF 3 years. Met when we were 21. Always told me she was the only guy she'd ever been with. Always talked up how she'd never done anything, we were doing everything for the first time together. Took her virginity and all that. She's my best fucking friend and I love the shit out of her.
Just found out a week ago that she partially lied about some of that. One night a year before we met she got insanely drunk at a party and this douche bag bad boy exchange student was hitting on her. She ended up starting to fool around with him in a bedroom at the party and ended up giving him a blowjob. At first I found out through a friend of hers joking about the story. When I confronted her on it, since she had lied to me she broke down saying that night is the biggest regret of her life and she hates herself for it and it was so out of character and that she was so drunk and that he got really pushy and tried to have sex with her, but she wasn't comfortable and her vagina was lockjaw shut and he couldn't get it in and she just wanted him to leave her alone so she figured if she gave him a blowjob he'd fuck off and he did. And that she didn't even consider it a sexual experience because she hated every second of it, where as everything she ever did with me she did wanting it and loving it and loving me.
Now, I'm a little fucked up about all this. One I'm hurt she lied to me about it and, although I can understand why she did. But it's weird because I'm torn between two places. One part of my brain now feels like so many of our "first times" weren't "first times" anymore. Like she'd been through steps 1-9 so its not exactly a new experience.
I feel stupid and lied to and like I was deceived. I wonder if every time she said that she's only done this things with me, or that my dick was the only dick she's ever seen(in jokes and stuff) that at the back of her head she knew she was lying. And I won't lie, I feel like she's less I dunno pure. Before everyone jumps down my throat I know that's complete BS, I don't want to feel that way, I'm just being honest with my gut reactions right now. She had built up this idea in my head that it was only me and her and re-enforced it and I started to think it was special, and now im like "and now there 's this guy, she's had some experience with this guy and I'm the niaeve little virgin boy who's only been with her." And I get jealous and weird and get weird flashes of that night.
The other part of me wants with all my heart to just say "so what?" it doesn't matter. I feel terrible for her and that she had to go through that, I love her and I don't want her to feel this guilt and shame she clearly feels about it, I want her to forgive herself and know that I still love her. I understand that to her this was a shitty non sexual event. she wasn't even aroused. It can't be sexual if you aren't into it, that's like saying a dog sniffing your crotch is sexual. Until there's sexual feelings from both parties its just her being naked and uncomfortable, there was no actual penetration and she just gave him a blow job to fuck off. To top it all off it happened before I knew her and can not possibly change the wonderful memories I have. Everything we've ever done all the wonderful things still happened and she is the same amazing girl I've always known.
And the weird thing too Is I know she's not my property and if she had told me this when we first got together I'd have not even batted and eyelash, if she had told me she had 4 or 5 partners before me I'd have been like, ok cool. It was just this weird idea that has been enforced in my head for 3 years that suddenly got shaken the fuck up and is causing me internal struggle.
I just seem to be switching between these two mindsets and it's really bugging me. Like some stupid monkey brain keeps kicking in and refusing me to just let it go and move on.
If... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
What she did doesn't seem to be the issue, it's the mindset and your image of her over the years that's been "corrupted". That and the fact she tried to keep it a secret.
Personally I'd me more angry at her lying. However, your not entitled to her secrets and neither is she to yours, we all have them. We also all have our moments of stupidity and regret, growing up is built on them.
You seem to have a good thing going, I wouldn't let this ruin it. Maybe your image of a perfect, virginal relationship full of first times for each... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I think i have some brain problem. I get bored very fast and lose my interest about anything. Sometimes I just look in van and I think I stop thinking. My brain goes too slowly sometimes. Any advice to improve it?
How do you deal with people who believes in street knowledge(experiences by living on the streets) over academic knowledge?. I srsly cant stand their stupidity and i dont know how to deal with them without losing my shit
>>16776413 Disagree. Those booksmart experience none guys are more annoying sure, and that rare chance one might go rampage is creppy, but street smart people equate to hustlers and gang members in the worst case scenario. And I don't have any time or desire to deal with that shit.
Hi anon, so here's the story. I'm in boarding school at a prestigious school and there's this guy in my class that confessed to me a few weeks ago, I rejected him while telling him that I was fine with that, that I didn't really care and that I just wanted him to act to normally afterwards and not think too much about me, the problem is, he's now stalking me even more frequently than before. He's joined our group of friends and is constantly seeking ways to spend time with me no matter what, keeps getting into my room asking me for silly things... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I guess he is obsessed with you, it is called erotomania. If you reject him he will think that you love him but you are afraid to accept it, he thinks you are his destiny. He may be smart but he is crazy. Be careful some girls have been killed by their stalkers. I do not know how you have to deal with him.
I am stalker in recovery by the way, I can not control my thoughts over my obsession.
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