How do I learn to enjoy my own company?
Because I really don't. I get lonely and depressed.
I'm going to a video game tourney alone tomorrow to see if I can be a strong independent womxyian who donneedno man. Hope I don't get too lonely. Oh jeez.
I find it's really helpful to do something creative and/or productive. For the most part it sucks to do "fun" things alone, but I find I can pass the time pretty enjoyably if I've got a task I can focus on, where I can put thought and effort into doing it well, and feel some kind of satisfaction if it turns out well.
I write, I make music, I don't really want a career in any of these things or think I'm great at it, but I like doing it. Cooking is good too. Exercise. Stuff like that.
>tfw university admittance decision comes in today of afternoon
I'm freaking out! If I don't get in my life is over!
Hey /adv/, i noticed a pattern in my personality. When i'm in a shit situation or there is some risk involved, i behave in an ideale manner
meaning, i become perceptive, persuasive, charismatic and full of energy
As soon things get quiet, i start becoming more shy and letargic
The point is, how the hell can i control this thing? how do i avoid slowly going back to beta when things go well?
I can't really give precise examples because i really feel like my base personality is the one coming out when i'm motivated, and the way i am normally is some kind of bind that happend at some point in my life
in fact now that i think about it, i kind of remind being extremely outgoing when i was very young
So in short, there is a way to identify and undo traumas, behavior conditioning and shit like that?
Stress is your body using adrenaline to pump you up and prepare you for conflict. It heightens all your senses and cognition.
We have been told a lot stress is bad so people panick when theyre stressed out and perform worse. Stress is actually good and normal.
All i see is that you handle it exceptionally well compared to others. You benefit from the stimulant cocktail your body serves up.
Either accept your personality and stop panicking by recognizing everyone has strengths and weaknesses...
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I'm very picky and don't want to waste any more time then I have to getting to know a girl who doesn't share my views. How can I filter them out effectively.?(No more than one date)
Ask questions that make her feel she needs to prove how fun she is. Whats the craziest thing you've done? You seem like you meet lots of people. Are you someone who lives in the moment? Etc. She may be honest if she's trying to impress you.
My sister has an unidentifiable illness she is always sick and she is always tired and has absolutley no energy..... this happend last summer and now its happening again and we went to many doctors .. medical and psychological and all have said they cant help us... my gamily is distraught please help me if uve ever seen this or know what im talking about
I have wax blocking my ear canal and its annoying as hell. I tried ear cleaner and hydrogen peroxide several times to clean it out and nothing is helping. I know you aren't supposed to use a qtip but I've managed to get some wax with it. However it hasn't unblocked my ear and I'm afraid to puncture my eardrum if I continue.
What should I do?
At this point you should visit an ENT doctor to have it examined and cleaned. From that point forward, make sure you generously flush your ear canal with warm shower water to promote the natural outward flow of wax. You should only be using a swab to collect the wax which has worked its way to the outer ear.
I'm a lonely fuck, pretty attractive but my personality defects keep me from getting holding down relationships with attractive women.
Should I just date a homely girl?
I think an odd looking face and general unkempt is pretty cute but I always get hung up about whether they know how to clean their fucking vagina's.
>majoring in Japanese (going to graduate in December)
>really, really enjoy it, but it has dawned on me that I will probably not be able to get a job with it because
>poor auditory processing, on top of that subpar hearing
>poor lateral thinking, affects translating (I think too literally for it)
>don't want to go to Japan because that would mean sacrificing drugs and pirating media
>plus am autistic so being in a radically different environment like that would likely be too jarring
>I feel like I have a slight chance at working hard at improving my translation skills so I can get a job at least online translating JP to ENG
So basically, useless degree. On top of that, I'm not suitable for hard labor because I have shitty genes and my hands are messed up because of video games (I need surgery or work is impossible, I can't use my hands for more than an hour or so at a time).
What do? I don't need much in life, just drugs and my rig. I'm just anxious about employment, though luckily my family is fairly wealthy so I have a decent safety net. What moves do you suggest I make to secure just above poverty employment given my circumstances ($~25,000/yr)?
god how can someone fuck up so much.
I'm inclined to say you're actually just a lazy bitch and is lying to yourself, trying to convince yourself you wouldn't get a job.
Anyway, or you translate or you teach.
You can also kill yourself.
Well, I've been taking classes for 4 years now, and I can say with absolute certainty that listening is my weakest point. I have trouble parsing even English words. Additionally, while I can understand anime at an acceptable level, spoken Japanese in live-action movies or real-life conversations are difficult for me because I drop and mishear words all the time.
I've considered teaching, however my lacking listening ability would likely interfere with it, but I'm willing to give that option a shake.
I can kill myself, and I have considered. I don't cling onto my current center of consciousness too much given the negatives in my life. I always have the option of using my credit card to purchase a handgun and ending my consciousness instantaneously if things seem incorrigibly bad. Things aren't quite there yet, though, but it is definitely a card I will play given the appropriate circumstances.
>recently ended long term relationship
>life is good besides this
>i want to move on but dont know how never been through this before
>i feel really lonely
Help me /adv/
well, why did you end the relationship?
why do you feel lonely? you opted to end the relationship. what did you think you were doing?
take some time to better yourself. read some books, hit the gym, rekindle with friends, go out and be social. figure out what you want. a relationship? something casual? nothing?
We did not work together. He couldn't work on himself when he was with me. At the same time he didn't want to accept this and even if he would realize it he wouldn't end it because of how loyal I was to him. We have been together since I was a freshman in highschool.
He barely matured while I have a good grasp on everything I am doing or what I want to do/achieve.
I am lonely because I loved him and I tried really hard to make it work but it just wasn't enough. And I am alone. I open...
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If you are lonely you should go meet people and socialize. What else do you expect us to say? In three months you'll barely feel any sadness over the end of the relationship. Give it time.
I don't think i have a premature ejactulation though it is somewhat below average. This wasn't a problem with my ex or previous sexual partners though there was more condom use back then.
So what do I do here?
I can't stop masturbating. Every morning, I jerk off looking at shit on my phone.
If I come home from work in the evening, and have the place to myself (not as often as I'd like) i crank one out.
I literally do this shit on the daily.
I didn't do it today (yet) and I'd prefer not to, my dick is raw in spots and needs to heal up, but I just can't stop jerking off.
I have a very active sex life too, but I'd almost always much prefer to just jerk off alone.
Unless you gain health problems, it stops you from doing important tasks, or if you start cumming/peeing blood, there is nothing wrong with jerking it a lot
Who cares what a bunch of anons on 4chan say "oh it makes me Happier." Bullshit.
I am wanting to build something and don't kno what to build, any ideas?
I will spend 2 days in Beijing, how are chinese women? Anyone care to share some experience?
Not looking for advice. I have to go to the office, and give testimony that a coworker has been sleeping on the job and steeling supplies. I have the support of my superiors, but I fear reprisals from this person.
Give me your energy. I fear him to be knocking on my door if this does not go well. Wish me luck.
there's this insanely cute girl that sits a few rows back from me in one of my classes. it's a large lecture class with 300+ people.
would it be considered weird if I went up after class and started a convo with her? nothing major, I figured I could just ask a question or make a comment about the class. like "hey do you know when the quiz is?" and just go from there.
I usually meet girls through my group of friends, but I realize I'm going to have to break away from that soon because I'm at my college the majority of the time.