So before I start, I'm a social person. I can get phone numbers, and I can hold conversations with attractive people. I like to use a lot of humour and roundabout conversation, flying from topic to topic.
My job requires me to be athletic and dress well, so I have confidence in myself and think I look pretty alright.
But when it comes to texting, I suck balls with a bendy straw. Every time I text someone, I don't know how to approach it. Should I be humorous or serious; use proper grammar and punctuation or "lol nuzzle u ;3"? Are there certain... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I feel very manly and I'm extremely self-conscious about it as a woman who was born as a woman. >voice low enough that people say it doesn't match how i look >subconsciously check out other women's tits and asses >chiseled manjaw >can't bring myself to be attracted to tall guys >can't bring myself to be attracted to hairy guys >strongly dislike it when men are overconfident Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Uh, okay. Apart from your "chiseled manjaw", which, frankly, I'm a little skeptical about -- not an insult, it just sounds like you have some self-image problems -- you just described yourself as a confident, nigh dominant, woman with a low voice (something plenty of people find attractive.) Are you quite sure these are problems?
Reflecting on a near-miss with a really cute coworker, and I question whether I did the right thing. This story honestly makes me feel sad whenever I think of it:
>in relationship with a girl who I'm not 100% happy with, and working hard to build our relationship >my new coworker ticks off all my boxes and while I'm still in my relationship I secretly harbor a major crush on this coworker >we spend nearly every morning together and get really comfortable with one another >we finish each other's sentences, crack the same jokes, and start doing nice things for each other like secretly running out of coffee or leaving notes for each other >perfect office romance >we both are "okay" with our respective relationships, but don't talk about our significant others with each other much beyond "oh, they're doing okay, but let's talk about this hilarious thing I know you'll love instead!" >major office party comes up and it's the first time our significant others are meeting our coworkers >also first time my work crush and I actually get to hang out >I meet her bf and he's a cool guy, we get along great and he calls me his "bro" as we drink beers and battle it out in beer pong >my gf is not impressed with the place or my coworkers, especially my crush >she leaves early and even though I'm upset she tells me to stay and let her go home >my coworker tells me this should be a red flag >around this time her bf disappears >she starts talking about what a disaster he is >she's a little drunk as she says it and he overhears >they have a huge spat in front of everyone, leaving her crying as he runs off to who knows where >I agree to grab him for her while other coworkers console her >he tells me "trusts me" and says he just wants some time alone
>>16636782 >I find my crush and we end up talking for what feels like hours as we walk around outside, share a cigarette, and sober up >she tells me she isn't happy >her bf puts his hands on her and says mean things to her to boss her around >she feels distant from him and everyone else, and is now too embarrassed to rejoin the party >we literally spend the next hour sitting under the stars talking about our relationships, our lives, and what we want >she gets closer and I put my arm around her >we end up just getting real quiet, holding each other >she starts telling me that she knows this is "it" for us, that after tonight we probably won't see each other again because the office changed her position to a different department >I feel my heart and stomach sink, tell her that that can't be true I will find a way to hang out with her >she then tells me that she is happy with one thing >says she knows what she wants now, and it's a relationship with a guy who supports her and makes her feel special, somebody who's stable and can always make her smile >she then puts her hand in my lap and tells me it's me, and has always been me >she knows the way I look at her, the way we talk and how we flirt >she knows I want it too and wants me to say yes so bad >but she knows I have a gf and although it's not my ideal relationship things seem okay and I shouldn't leave her just because some cute coworker told me to >I start choking up a little >I tell her I really like her too, that she's right about everything >but I can't just leave my gf like that, I can't be "that guy" and what would her bf think? >she gets serious and then says, "but why are you rubbing my back, anon? why are out here with me, listening and making me the most valuable person to you in this moment? why do you care so much about me if it isn't for this one moment you were hoping I might say I liked you back?"
>I really start choking back tears now >"I'm so sorry... I want to... I just don't know what the right thing to do is. You're everything I want. I really care about you. I mean it every day when I say you're wonderful or fantastic or hilarious or anything. But I've never done this and I can't just leave my gf like that." >"Well... she didn't have a problem leaving you, anon.... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
So I need your help in telling me how fucked I am and what I should do.
>Taking an online Computer Science class >Promptly begins to fail the fuck out of it >End up 7 weeks behind because I'm lost and understand nothing >See dudes computer open with all the assignments that need turning in >Download that kush >Copy/paste the code and just change the name and some other code Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Well, assuming that he turned in his stuff as well she'll probably put them side by side and see how you pretty much copied it. And even if he didn't she would probably ask him what the fuck happened and then he'd for sure know you copied his shit.
I mean, wow. You really fucked up. You left the guys fucking NAME there!
Let's say you and your S/O were invited to a party. You hang out with your friends for a little. You come back and see your S/O is not around. Somebody tells you they saw your S/O go into a room with another person. You go to said room, they jump up quickly, you couldn't see much because it's dark.
Is it overreacting to think something sexual was going on?
Definitely not. I will say that it's silly to ask any of these sorts of questions on /adv/ though, most people here will be willing to tell you ANY kind of suspicious or maybe out of the ordinary behaviour is 100% cheating.
However in this case that does seems weird as fuck and I would suggest you firmly press the issue until you get the truth.
Last night a girl and I were walking around and started looking up at the stars and shit and commenting how pretty the night was, then we both kind of leaned in and made out for a bit. there wasn't any hestitation or pulling away from either of us.
but now I kind of feel like a rapist because, we were the only ones there in the park right then, so if she was uncomfortable she wouldn't be able to scream or get help. She never SEEMED uncomfortable and we talked afterwards normally but I still worry. is what I did rapey?
If she was uncomfortable, she would've said so. You're not expected to be a mind-reader, and spontaneous make-outs are great if everyone is on board. It sounds like she was on board. Don't overthink it.
I'm with you, OP. This one time I had sex with my girlfriend but there was nobody else at home so in a hypothetical situation I could have beaten her savagely. It's months later and our relationship is still running smooth, but the fear that it's only like that because I raped her so thoroughly she's been silenced into submission is slowly eating away at my mind.
Went on a job interview a week or so ago. It would be the second time I have applied as I have interviewed with them and had the same outcome. I received a letter saying blah blah thanks for applying but due to the large number or applicants we have decided not to hire you or something. Thing is...idk why...im more than qualified.Not to sound like some ass but from what I saw in the waiting room...I should have been hired, everyone else was so unprofessional...post about times that you should have gotten the job..but didnt.
>heard from three or more people (including my fucking mom) that my gf seems to not give a fuck about me >been getting that feeling a lot myself >New Year's eve, she goes to the countryside with her family >this was thursday >no internet signal, so no contact >leave her two messages these days, one saying I was thinking about her >comes back today Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
/adv/ I need you. For the first time ever. Seriously. I stumbled upon an album while random searching in picasaweb
>album consists of a little girl getting molested >check the uploader name on facebook >found only one legit profile with that name >'murican redneck guy >texan retard has a daughter. >album's name is her daughter's name >holy... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
If you don't report him, someone else will. And when that happens, he'll come clean about you blackmailing him, which is equally illegal. It might even go further than blackmail, since you would have known about it and done nothing. Either report him, or don't, but don't try to use this situation to your advantage because you're not going to win.
makes sense. he's just taken the pics 15-16 days ago so eventually someone will discover them.
So, Where can I report it? Google would only remove the pics probably but would FBI be interested in this? Would they need my testimony and stuff? I'm asking because I don't know how these stuff work in USA.
If you take the time to read this and offer your advice, I will be more grateful than you can imagine. I am depressed 24/7. I have been diagnosed with clinical depression, anxiety, aspergers, panic attacks and ADHD. I have a huge heart and people offend me all the time. My mental fog/fatigue is so blinding that I fuck up at work and I'll soon get fired. I have no interest in anything and don't enjoy anything. I am already on 7 pills and have been to 3 therapists and no one is helping. This girl messaged me on face book and I am afraid to message her back. I have... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16636430 You have gotten farther than most people without those conditions. You need to continue to stay the course as hard as it is, eventually the seas will calm down to were you can handle it better. Also, if the girl shows you interest, go for it, it might improve your outlook.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a year. About 2 months into our relationship I met her dad. Her parents got divorced when she was really young, her dad never showed up to court to attempt to get custody, so her mom moved about 8 hours away.
From ages 7-14 he never came to visit her, but occasionally her mom would bring her back over the summer to visit.
At age 15 her mom re-married and moved back to the city where she was born, and the city where I currently live. A few years later we meet and start dating.
Despite all this she told me... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Dont really need to read the entire story OP, sounds like you think that she holds her dad in such high regard, and you look at him like a piece of shit...youre afraid hes going to start fucking with your relationship?
I ask her how she thinks it went. She says she thinks it went okay. Over the next few months I occasionally see her dad, and I always try to strike up a conversation with him and he still gives me the cold shoulder.
Eventually my girlfriend tells me that her dad thinks I'm an asshole, even though I've always been cordial with him in person.
One day I'm looking through her phone and read her conversation with her dad. He's been calling me a fag, a bitch, a loser, and a douche behind my back. I ask my girlfriend about it and she says that she... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I just found out my gf has ASPD (she's a "sociopath")
>meet girl >she seems perfect, we hit it off immediately >she likes all the same things as me >she's always supportive and caring >start dating >slowly over the last year of my life things change >sometimes she says or does little things that are hurtful >takes... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16636384 What if those labels are bullshit, and she just chooses to have a really shitty attitude? Psychology seems to busy labelling instead of fixing. Ofc if she, she will need to see there's something wrong with her behavior. She'll only change if she suffers consequences, because right now, why would she change?
Not necessariy antisocial personality disorder. Sounds like "cluster b" though, perhaps narcissistic or borderline. The difference can be hard to tell outside of careful clinical interviewing by a professional. The difference doesn't matter to you.
You know what matters? She'll ruin your shit and you gotta turn and run. First chance you get. I know that you love her and that at least part of you thinks that you might be able to make it work, but that ain't gonna happen man. Trained, lifelong professionals don't even get close to a 60-80%... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I'm 25, I have wanted a cute girlfriend my entire life. I went to the gym, I have a really nice job. I sort of am talking to one or two girls. but I just don't care anymore, I don't feel like I can love anyone anymore. What's even the point anymore? There is no thrill in life.
I have honestly been sitting on my bed all day writing hate speeches on /pol/, and I don't even know what to do with my life anymore. I feel nihilistic, nothing seems exciting.
TL;DR; I lost my motivation to do things in life. and I don't know how to... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
My boss is a 40-year-old frat boy. I work for a tutoring business, and my boss is a pot-smoking moron who doesn't know how to stop talking. His personality is annoying as hell, and I hate having to be around him for long periods of time.
What got me (aside from numerous other experiences) is today I was sitting doing some work with my friend and his girlfriend. I made some innocuous joke like "dude, you're retarded", then his girlfriend piped up "who are you talking to?" and I joked "Him, you're just kinda retarded". Context:... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
If you can't take a burn from left field then your portrayal of joke/diss affection banter shouldn't have entered the workplace. Your boss is gonna call you a baby if you cry about it. You brought this upon yourself and you know how you have to get out by playing back.
>>16636295 I can take banter, but he's just downright insulting sometimes and it pisses me off. Another example:
I'm tutoring a group of students trying to get them situated, and he butts in continuing some earlier conversation we just had about personality differences. In front of the whole group he goes "You just don't really have an approachable personality. Actually you're not that intimidating either."
He then proceeds to question the entire group (wasting time, btw) to see... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16636266 >"haha you're single" This is not what has upset you. >my boss is just a cunt This is what has upset you.
>and you wonder why you don't have a girlfriend. Belittling you in every way possible. Calling you unattractive, immature, stupid, and basically accusing you of trying AND failing to hit on girls. >I know why you're single, actually me and Anon (my best... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
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