I'm a 28-year-old woman who just got out of her first relationship. Because I was so focused on school and work and kind of too insecure to be in a relationship, I got into my first one about a year ago and since I was just taking my first steps, the guy wasn't right and it ended.
I don't want to be alone anymore and I want to find someone else but I'm wondering if such a history is something that would weird "regular" guys out? As in should I pretend to be a little more normal or would it be okay for a female to have little experience at my age?
i imagine most guys your age would find it to be an interesting change. they are kinda used to women being jaded and sorta 'used' at this point. finding a woman who has little experience would be refrshing.
that being said, its not anything that has to be explicitly said. i LOVE hearing about my partners dating and sexual history just cuz i find it interesting (and sometimes hot) but most men seem not to like this sort of discussion.
at best you might get a 'so how was your last relationship'... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16614026 >on a rainy afternoon somewhere down the line when you are already more or less together.
Yeah you're probably right but I wonder if a long-term partner would feel differently about me once he knew this. It night be a silly thing to say but I don't really know how this love business works. But like you said, if I play it confidently it will probably be okay.
Senior year of high school I went to this a school football game. There was this girl theee who talked to me. She was very cute. Im such an idiot though, I should have asked for her number.
Anyway, fast forward about a year to today. I saw her on my "suggested friends" on facebook and she accepted my request. Would it be inappropriate to message her and lead off about the game? I really dont want to come off as a creep.
I have yet to get my girl to have an orgasm. I've had partners before her, and they all claimed to have orgasmed (maybe some fakers in the mix), but I can't crack this one. I've tried extensive foreplay, role playing, g spot stimulation and clit stimulation, all to no avail.
She's expressed the desire to get tied up, so I'll try that in the future and maybe trying to hold better rythm. Can any of you offer some tips? Femanons welcome too!
Some girls just can't orgasm, OP. I'm one of those girls with an endless libido but an inability to orgasm fully. Penetration generally does not give orgasms. I find that fingering hard helps, and my boyfriend bought a couple of sex toys to use on me, one is a hitachi wand and the other this dildo thing that stimulates the clit at the same time. They usually cause me to squirt. Girls generally like being dominated and being roughed up. Dirty talking, biting, pulling her hair and holding her hands behind her back works wonders. Nipples are very sensitive too so if... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16614013 Do you really believe it is biologically impossible for you to come? That's pretty good adv though, I've been thinking of roughing her up more and grabbing her wrists and pulling back as I doggy her, but like you said penetration rarely causes orgasm. I might look into some electronic toys...
Just to get this off the table; I consider myself more or less confident and I have no real problem connecting to people at work, college, sports or partys.
Now I started to use the train on a weekly basis and more often than not there is some person I am dying to talk to. We are talking 2hour rides here. Some persons I see again some I do not. Seems such a waste to be bored and stare out of the window when I could spend the time with nice people.
"Good evening. How are you doing?" "Nice day we're having :)" "Is that <insert book/movie/whatever you have in common>?"
Not that hard. A nice smile and a friendly tone goes a long way.
Source: A formerly socially anxious kid who trained himself to be socially by going to restaurants after work, sitting at the bar with a meal and a drink, and forcing himself to start conversations with the complete and total strangers around him.
I've been a neet for some time and I want to turn my life around. I want to do gym, some guy is offering being my instructor to avoid myself a hernia the first week. I want to put effort in studying and doing something so I can get a decent job at my third world country.
The thing is I can't sleep at nights and I feel sleepy all day and afternoon. Even if I don't take a nap in the morning or afternoon in hopes of being so tired I sleep at night, I can't.
I'm fucking desperate, is like when I want to do something to change my life something... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Sounds to me you're going through a lot of stress and depression.. Check out certified life coaches/therapists Get organized: write down a goal you'd like to accomplish after a few months, then a year, then 4 years, 10 years. Make a rough plan on how you'll accomplish each one. Write down each risk that could offset those plans, and have a contingency plan for each. Keep tracking your progress like a manager keeps track of their employees. Be diligent. Do whatever the it takes to stay motivated, like rewards of success or fear of failure (my... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
two bits of advice here: 1) push your sleep cycle and 2) take your goals one month at a time.
so month one should be getting your sleep schedule on track. and for that, you need to push your sleep cycle forward. in addition to this, you will need a new morning activity that requires attendance, preferably outside of the house. this should be something like a job or study. even if its just one thing early in the morning, like a single hour long class, a workout class, SOMETHING that gets your day started.
so lets assume this starts January.
>day 1: sleep stay up as LATE as you can >day 2: sleep in as late as you can. ideally, past 2pm. then stay awake all the way up through: >day 3: where you go to bed early around 8 or 9pm >day 4: wake up early (desired time to always wake up, with enough prep time to get to your new morning activity, lets say, 7am.) you spend the day as usual, and just to be safe, you take a sleeping pill that night to guarantee sleep >day 5: wake up at that desired time (7am) AGAIN, but this time, you go to the class/volunteer work, etc..
for the rest of the month you let your body adjust to this. no other big goals should be aimed for other than perhaps applying for more gainful employment if that is something you need desperately. but give your body a month to adjust to the new schedule. dont even sleep in on weekends! this will guarantee a perfect human sleep schedule.
for help staying up the 24+ hours to make this sleep schedule, i recommend simply video games, sitting in a computer chair (comfortable enough not to exhaust you further but not so comfy you'lll fall asleep) talking to a friend and of course, starbucks energy drinks.
february, begin phase two of your plan. for february you might start full time schooling, or perhaps throw the gym / diet into the mix and try to conquer that.
each month you hit one really big goal so you can slowly phase it in to your schedule until it is second nature.
Hey /adv/ stuck at parents house, BTW mods don't throw your banhammer at my face, 20 year old.
I have a stepfather who snitches on me for everything I do, and no matter how hard I try to shrug away everything, he never changes, and I can't afford to move out to get away from him and leave, I am stuck on government disability as I can't work and in my location rent and bills are expensive.
Is there best advice to deal with snitches and asshole pigs like my diabetic stepdad? Because he's a pain in the chest to be around, and that's the only... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Okay, can someone please give me a more detailed explanation of this shit? How is it sent but not delivered? If I have white circle check marks do I just need to keep resending it till I get a blue check? I have messages with white checks that I sent like a month ago and are still white... And the person is on FB all the time. Why won't those send?
generally speaking SENT means that the server has your message in hand, and has sent it out.
delivered means that the person has 'accepted' the message, even if automatically. like if you are using KIK, it means that the person has logged on, or that their phone automatically notified them they have a message.
read means they saw that, swiped, and opened to read it in the chat box itself.
not sure what it means if someone people are still not getting it delivered if they been online.
More than a year ago I was involved with a woman who was technically not divorced yet. It was obvious that things were falling apart for them because he had cheated on her repeatedly and he abused her (he later confirmed it). Her then husband found out about it and confronted me. I basically agreed to never contact her again ( I have kept my promise).
Fast forward to the present and she pops up on my facebook feed. It seems to me like she has finally divorced (no ring on her finger).
I have this temptation to message her to see how she is and maybe to apologize... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16613897 Do you really need to apologize to her? It sounds like it was her husband that had the problem, not her... Anyway you should really give more detail. What happened between you her? How did it start, how did it end? Did she tell her husband about it or did he find out some other way?
>>16615075 >What happened between you her? We had a romantic relationship. We never had sex, but we met up only a couple of times and made out. >How did it start, how did it end? It started because she wanted it to start. I wasn't after married woman; I wanted a normal relationship obviously. She just started being more friendly towards me and finally just told me one day that she liked me. > Did she tell her husband about... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I know that you should ask more questions than you answer and always be curious about other people. Which I'm good at. But I've also read that a good listener doesn't spread advice around or try to solve people's problems unless asked to. I'm struggling with that part because I don't understand, if I'm not giving advice, what am I supposed to say? Just nod my head while going "hmm, yes, uh-huh"?
Also, general advice on being a good listener is appreciated.
>>16614245 >>16614245 >Being a good listener is (imo) about giving just a bit of an actual advice or showing people possible options when they've problems. Never telling them what to do. That's just bad. So if I for example tell a girl who thinks she's ugly that she may have body image issues, that's good; But if I tell her that she needs to suck if up and try to live life anyway, that's bad?
>And... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
It's very easy to be a good listener when people tell you anecdotes or tell you about their past and their plans or their fears. Even if they have a terrible past or circumstances or something. There is still opening for you to ask questions.
But the worst is when you get a "my life sucks and everything is hopeless" Not only is it hard to respond, they tend to get mad if you try to give them advice.
I don't know if I should break up with my gf or not. Points for staying: >She embodies pretty much all the values I want in a gf (conservative, smart, family values, loyal, basically the classic gf) >I don't think I'll be able to do better, as I'm pretty antisocial and don't like the whole hookup thing, and my sort of girlfriend is hard to come by, especially at university. >She's fun to talk to >She's a virgin who... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
i notice you didnt say anything of her attractiveness. coupling that wiht the fact that you only really starte ddating her because friends begged you to, you probably do not find her attractive. maybe 'okay' looking.
anway, if you just started uni, arent you like 18? arent you worrying a little too much about marrying this woman?
honestly you havent evefn had sex with her, so why are you talking about how if you dont end it soon you'll marry her. why not just break up with her later?... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Should I self-study for the CPhT? What are the best books and resources to use?
I'm 24 and have no direction in life, and this seems like a job field I can break into relatively quickly, provided there's actually a need for them and I wouldn't be wasting my time getting certified.
Can anyone please help me out here? Especially anyone who works as/has worked as a pharmacy technician.
>>16613854 Yes, go to school while you do it so you can make more as you get older. My sister is a pharmacist who started out as a tech. She makes extremely good money and loves her job. I'd say go for it bro, just continue your education after at some point.
I let a friend of 11 years move into my house. I own the house, she was going through a break up and she needed a place to move in other than her parent's home.
Long story short, she's a nightmare. She doesn't do dishes (won't even put dirty dishes in the dishwasher and won't put clean dishes away), won't buy her own shampoo or toothpaste so she uses mine, won't pitch in for essentials like toilet paper or trash bags or dishwasher liquid, and worst of all, she doesn't think she needs to pay me rent.
How do I kick her out?... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Oh no, please don't tell me that you're the one who made a thread a short while ago. The one who didn't know about established residency and who was told to get her out under the pretext of tenancy laws?
>>16613829 That's me. The same one. She's gotten worse. Promised me she would leave. She has spent the weekend (I was out all Christmas week for 2 weeks) unpacking when she told me she would leave.
Came home to find she had laundered all her clothes with my detergent. I needed to wash my clothes but there's no more detergent. We have one roll of toilet paper left. The trash is piled up to the ceiling in the kitchen because she missed trash collection. Dishes everywhere in the kitchen .
So my gf has this coworker whos always trying to ask her out and stuff. Normally im not the jealous type but she told me once he asked her to go to the beach with him (at 11pm btw) to which she replied "but im in bed already" and he said "so?" To which she changed the subject
Is she being a little too nice here? Why didnt she just say no? Should I say something about it? Because the way she said it sounds like she wants to but cant, which invites him to keep asking her out. Am I overthinking this?
This is a bit of a weird subject. But I am asking for some help. I don't know how much I can freak out over this. I just want it to end and don't know what to do.
>was molested as a child, around 9 y/o >was given sleeping pills by mother's ex when i spent the night at his house with my mom >passed out on couch >dazed, woke up to him penetrating me with his fingers >tried to fight but felt literally drunk,... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16613809 I had gone to therapy for about 8 years. I had to stop going to the clinic I was at for a couple of years, but I started seeing a new therapist recently. She doesn't know I've been molested yet. We're barely getting to know each other.
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