I've been bartending for the past couple of months. I don't have time or want to spend on money on bar tending school. Just get out there and start doing it. I had no fucking clue what I was doing and never made a drink before in my life. I started working at a bar as a barback cause I really needed a job back in the summer. Slowly I started learning basic drinks and terminology like "vodka soda" "well whiskey coke" once I had the basics down the bartenders started showing me how to make martinis,mojitos, and other cocktails. Then I started teaching... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
No bartending job postings ever ask for you to have gone to bartending school. Bartending school is for hobbyists. It won't prove you can handle tending an actual busy bar with patrons. Google the basic terminology, then apply somewhere that doesn't require experience and learn the rest. Or do like >>16606445
It would be more valuable to get yourself a certification employers are required to pay for (like R.A.M.P. Certification in Pennsylvania). May not even apply to your state/city.
So I have a problem with my LD boyfriend of about one year. We were together for a month like two weeks ago and it was great although it was clouded by some bad news. Namely he lost his job and his mom who is very important to him isn't feeling very well. So when I came back home he went home to take care of him. Since then we barely speak cause he claims to be too busy. I said that if he's over the relationship he can just tell me and and I'll understand but he says he doesn't want to lose me. I don't have a lot of experience with guys and I know... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
It sounds like he has a lot on his plate right now. And as you already know, a LDR can complicate things further.
Give him some time. Ask him how things are going once a week, touch base, and see how the job hunt is going. How his mother is doing.
Since you care about him and want to make things work, set your own needs aside for a minute and consider what he needs. Maybe its a clingy girl calling him every day. Maybe its some space to handle the stress.
>>16606333 I already ask him how things are and how him mother is but I feel like he just dismisses me or changes the subject to something that ends the conversation. He won't talk to me long enough to make anything clear.
I would do anything to make it work but the problem is that I don't know how things are between us. Whether he's just busy or whether he's tired of me. I don't want to keep bothering or caring about someone who doesn't give a shit.
I guess I'm just hoping... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
It doesn't sound like he's tired of you. It sounds like you're not getting enough from him (understandably so) and you're projecting your feelings onto him. Rather than being honest with your disappointment, you're acting like he must be the one disappointed with you.
Don't be such a coward. It's okay to simply admit that this situation is not providing you enough of what you need. I don't care how much you want to make it work. I want to hit the lottery so very much. It's still not going to happen. But I'm not going to... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Hello fellow /adv/isors, I'm in a bit of a pickle and could use some help.
About a month ago my gf and I broke up. We were only together about 5 months, and the last two of them were a bit of a struggle as we were not very compatible sexually. The breakup was vaguely mutual, but she was the one who brought up the idea of "taking a break." Basically she made the coffin and I hammered down the last nail by telling her a break is a no go and that I'd rather just end things.
The breakup was a little rough, but we both agreed that after a bit of... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
So how do I fully move on and get over this girl without having complete closure first? I'm just so confused because since the couple days after our breakup it seems as though she's an entirely different person, and as I've said she refuses to explain anything to me.
I can provide more details if need be, just ask.
>Tl;dr: gf and I broke up a month ago, she said she loved and cared about me still and wants me in her life, now she acts as though she wants to have nothing to do with me and won't explain what happened between... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16606257 >>16606251 You two broke up; there's no obligation for closure. It'd be nice and probably better for the both of you, emotionally, if you could come to terms with the end of your relationship, but that shit doesn't always work out.
It's pretty safe to say she's still feeling upset, and is trying to distance herself from you and her sentiments. It was a mistake to suggest that you two should be friends, since you already had a deeper... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Alright, I really fucked up? >My boyfriend sent me a pic of some panties he found in his laundry, asking if I was missing them >I inferred they are mine, they look just like a pair of mine, red with tiger stripes >told him to cum in them >he does, tells me it was hot as hell, he sniffed them n stuff >be getting dressed this morning and see supposedly missing parties in my drawer >mfw he... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
So. I know for certain that she has basically been cheating on her boyfriend (sexting, flirting, snapping other dudes). She did this with her last relationship too. It was something I speculated for a while (I am/was friends with her on snapchat) but I have now heard from someone else that has confirmed it. Unsure why that ended though but perhaps he found out how promiscuous she is. She has a daughter (got knocked up really young, unsurprisingly) but I feel like it is unfair on her child and also her boyfriend that she does this thinking it's ok. You would think she would... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
This is not any of your business nor is it your place to meddle with a relationship that doesn't concern you. The only way I would think it would be ok for you to let the boyfriend know is if you were close friends with him or something. If not, fuck off.
Why do you feel you need to "handle" this? Stay out of her life and out of her business.
If you feel bad for the guy and what you feel is best for the guy is to leave the relationship, then tell the guy this is happening.
If you feel bad for the kid, then alert social services that the kid's mother is an illegal sex worker (cam girl).
If what you're aiming for in your high horse is to "shame this whore" or some other ludicrously stupid shit, please stop. All you are doing is putting everyone associated with the woman through... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Background: I've been friends with somebody for 6 years now. Throughout this period I have been an incredibly good friend. They have had to deal with transitioning from a woman to a man, family issues etc. and I have always been there for him (I'll use him pronouns referring to my friend). Throughout this time they have generally been a shitty friend. They have caused excessive drama over nothing. They consistently have overreacted to things for no reason. But the thing that really pissed me off is they have a habit of belittling me for absolutely no reason. There... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I specifcally talked about how it infuriated me that he wouldn't let me have any space and how angry I was that he hadn't listened to anyhting I'd said in the conversation 6 months ago. After a while he stopped trying to bother me and has left me alone.
I don't really know how to proceed from here. In our entire friendship it has always been me putting in work for nothing. I've stayed up in the morning with him while he contemplated suicide, listened through the drama, been there when other people were not. I feel like it's a slap in the... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16606179 I would suggest lesser contact but not totally cut off. Totally cutting off a friendship is really awkward and could affect how other friends think of you, unless they did something really intolerable, like commiting a crime against you, then yes it's fine. Just don't be too eager to help out and talk less.
Basically I had booked a holiday for February for with my best friend and a friend of hers who I know vaguely for a few days. We booked the tickets and they are non-refundable.
My friend is the flaky type who constantly changes her mind. Suddenly, she's like "oh my graduation ceremony is on the second last day of my holiday, I'll have to maybe go back early and you two are alone for a day." I'm not comfortable being alone with this other chick since we barely know each other and I didn't book the ticket thinking this would be the situation.
That being said it's already practically January and we still have not booked the hotel and whenever I ask about it she doesn't reply me. I need to tell my boss in advance what days to take off, but she keeps saying stuff like "when does your next semester start? maybe we change the holiday till after the ceremony." It's constantly maybe this, oh I'll have to see this, bla bla. No fucking confirmations.
So I've been quite polite and patient, but today I texted her to stop being inconsiderate and just confirm everything already so I can tell my fucking boss what days to take off etc. She called me and we had a fight on the phone, her basically saying I was being harsh and "why are you stressing so much about this?" and "you know the other girl, what's the problem?" and saying I was unfair because she only received her ceremony date like a couple weeks ago.
Thing is obviously from months back she knows she will graduate and the approximate period in which the ceremony will be because it's around the same date every year. She also told me if she doesn't say anything, then shouldn't I assume nothing's changed? Uh, no, because you say a different plan every fucking time we meet. I just didn't want a risk of burning $600 dollars due to her change of mind.
This is the first actual fight we've had and she's kinda not speaking to me because she thinks I'm being unreasonable. What do?
I've had to deal with this shit before. Generally you should only pay for your own ticket. The other party needs to commit to buying the ticket at a specific time and date so that they are equally invested if they don't meet their obligations. Set a date to book a hotel and say you will book one at an ideal time for yourself if they don't negotiate a date.
I did only pay for my ticket. And she booked hers, but she told me doesn't care about wasting her money if she has to. And what if I book a hotel but she never does? At the end of our phone call she said angrily that she'd book the hotel and stuff and idk I'm pretty sure she's not going to talk to me for a while or something, I really didn't want to stuff up the friendship because I love her and all. But I just got really pissed off. I was still respectful when I told her today, but yeah.... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16606219 To me it sounds like you should consider getting another friend on this trip and you can book a room together in pairs. Fitting 3 people in a single room is usually kind of tricky. Solo travel is also actually a lot of fun so you can consider that too. Also, she may be fine with wasting her money but shes wasting not just hers but yours and your other friend by not booking early. This trip of yours is going to be really awkward especially if you fight going in to it, because you're going to have to be around... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Hi /adv/. I made a similiar post on here a few days ago, but I still feel like absolute shit, and I've been feeling like shit for days now.
Im 23 years old, and personally I am an atheist. TO my family however, i pretend to be a sikh. I have been living away from home for the last 5 years because of university, but next year I will be moving back home after finishing medical school.
Part of being a sikh means I can't cut my hard, on my head or on my face, and I hate it. I hate having a beard, i think it looks ugly. FOr the last 3 years I have been using tweezers to pluck hairs from my face so that my beard doesnt cover all of my face, but in august it just hit me that Im going to have to let it grow otherwise my parents will realize what I am doing.
When I was 18 I trimmed by beard shortening it with scissors, and when my mom figured out what I was doing, she told me off, she started crying, she got very upset and took me to the temple so that I could ask god to forgive me. It was then I started to reject my religion. Since then Ive been using hairspray to make my beard look small, and finally im comfortable with how i can get it to sit on my face, which is why Ive been plucking the hairs from my face to stop it growing any further. THe hairs keep growing back though, and i dont want them to, I am finally happy with my looks, but if I look the same for years, it will be obvious to my parents what I am doing, especially since my beard is very neat and not bushy.
I can't stop thinking about my beard /adv/. I keep going on FB and instagram looking at pics of other sikh beards in order to work out how its going to grow, and how I can let it grow in. I don't feel like eating, Im losing sleep, and when I do I dont want to wake up in the morning. (1/2)
I have 2 sisters, who are allowed to wax their legs and pluck their eyebrows, and ive spoken to them about it, they keep telling me not to worry and that my parents wont notice me plucking my hair, and in fairness they havent so far. But my sisters are getting very annoyed with the fact i keep bringing this up. I've irritated friends with my worrys aswell, and i've been told it's a first world problem, and i should just stop complaining about this but its consuming me adv, i get its just a beard, but still I can't stop thinking about it, I cant shake this... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I'm a somewhat older virgin. In my life I've had opportunities to have sex but I always turned it down for bullshit reasons (or no reasons). Now even kissing someone seems like a daunting task. It sucks because as I sit here at my computer I would like to have sex (or just kissing, shit) but in the moment I always fuck it up. I really don't know what to do.
When I was younger I thought it was because I was self conscious about being fat but I lost weight and I'm basically the same person.
Maybe you just haven't met someone you have good body chemistry with?
I remember about 10 years ago I thought I wanted to fuck this girl, so I go over to her house and we're making out, fingering her etc, and I just wasn't feeling it at all. Ended up leaving around 1 a.m.
Havent had that issue with any other girl I've been with, just the one. We hadn't really been around each other that much in person, that may have had something to do with it.
after i came home for christmas i fell back into the depression pit, i should be studying for my state exam in april, but instead i sleep 11 hours a night, im in the same pyjama for 3 days, i barely eat, i don't leave my room. i just manage to lie on bed, lurk in the internet and brush my teeth once a day. my parents dont even realise somethings wrong. help me please, how do i get myself out of this?? please help.
I don't see why people are so afraid to do this. It's literally someone that sits there and listens to you, with no judgement, whose feelings aren't involved, which allows them to objectively assess your situation and offer advice or medication.
See a couple. Decide who you like best. If someone offers you pharmaceuticals on your first visit, do not go back to that doctor.
I don't really know where to start but I just need some help fixing my life. I don't even know where to begin. My romantic life is shit. Every girl I've ever been with has cheated (first was with a guy twice our age right out of jail, second was fucking our boss, third ended up saying "lol we're just FWB, I figured it would make our sex awkward if you knew I was still with my bf so I didn't mention we got back together" actual quote). /r9k/ as it sounds, I'm at a point of kind of hating women and really don't want to date or anything... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Have you considered packing your possessions into a bag, saving up say 5~6 grand, apply for a backpacker/working holiday visa in the UK or Aus or some other country, and jumping ship?
Insofar as your romantic life goes, I suspect it's one half you only looking at the negative ones because the negative ones are loud and attention-getting (why would a normal quiet relationship where two couple retire together for the evening and sleep in the same bed every night advertise themselves of that fact?) and partly because you are, for lack of a better word, uneducated white... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I mean: sometimes you feel like you've met the most important person in your life and that you're going to get together and live with each other for the rests of your lives, even though you barely know that person and it might turn out it's someone totally different that expected.
Other time you meet some person and your relationship looks like friendship with fucking. You care about said person and would do anything for her, but you don't go... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>sometimes you feel like you've met the most important person in your life and that you're going to get together and live with each other for the rests of your lives, even though you barely know that person and it might turn out it's someone totally different that expected. >you barely know that person thats infatuation
>Other time you meet some person and your relationship looks like friendship with fucking. You care about said person and would do anything for her,... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Hi /adv/ hope your day's going good Basically this is my life story >born with high metabolism which I got from my dad >not anorexic but just a bit thin >I try to eat as much as I can but no effect >bullied in school from friends,other pupils and teachers aswell. I've went through it all: name calling , weird looks, physical interaction ect... >even my own fucking family, the worst thing is most of my family... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
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