So, I need some input, hopefully from people who are older than 30. Upfront tl;dr: My neighbor/gaybro is married and has me worried about his ability to chill the fuck out and maintain appearances.
I am 40, bi, bit chubby, short, small cock (like 4in). Mostly women in my life but there were some guys 4 or 5 years ago. With guys I am 100% bottom, no making out/kissing/affection,etc. Just sucking and fucking.
I’ve done ok with women, better than I ever thought, but I have no real desire to get married and I’ve had a vasectomy, so no kids. Like being by... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Found my neighbor on Grindr, didn’t know it was him at first, but I did when we met because I’d seen him in his yard. He lives 2 or 3 doors down. Besides the fucking, he likes to come over and play video games and drink beer and chill away from the wife and kid which is all good. I think his wife is a bit annoyed that he spends so much time at my house but she’s always cool as shit to me.
The guy is kind of insatiable and he really likes my body which is kind of a new thing for me. I... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16583084 After reading what I wrote, yeah, it's stupid. He and I have talked about limits and appearances. He just does not seem to take it as seriously as I do. There is no emotional attachment at all, def from me and almost certainly from him so we could break it off.
It's the most satisfying sexual relationship of my life though. Everything I want and nothing I don't. Except for the threat of drama.
>be over at soon-to-be-moving-away coworker's house helping him move >yesterday, he took me out to dinner >today, we spent a few hours talking about life in his kitchen >at one point he gets up and starts massaging my back >then he asks to give me a foot massage >massages feet on his lap, after he's done keeps playing with my feet and occasionally strokes my leg up to the knee But! >he has never done anything explicitly romantic.
I'm confused. Is he just a touchy feely type of guy? I'm trying to flirt with him a bit and show interest but I'd be mortified if I'm coming on to a guy who's just super nice and gives massages to his friends. Also, while massaging him, my feet were on his crotch until I noticed and made it so I wasn't touching anything inappropriate. Would a guy notice that, like would it make him uncomfortable?
>>16583068 romantic actions dont have to be explicit, be happy and grateful he didn't just go to make out with you at first. he wants to be a gentlemen about everything and probably because you haven't seen that before, you don't know if he's just being nice. he does have interest in you and he's mature about it, and with that i can tell you he would think of your feet being near his crotch as being on hip lap, not his junk. it wouldn't make him uncomfortable
/adv/, I can't handle life, lie after lie, laziness, money issues, I'm so lazy that I no longer want to live, I've lied to my mom that I have money so that she'd stop worrying but I crashed my car, unable to when even if I wanted to, if my insurance finds out I'm ridesharing I lose my job..... But I can't do my job, I was supposed to save money for college but not it's impossible. food, education, rent, transportation and soon phone are all disappearing, I want a quick end, don't say I should ask my mom, she can't help, I'm gonna... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16583067 dying's never gonna fix problems with how you feel or situations because the situations are bad due to emotions, even if they're responses to what happened, those emotions stay with you. my friend is going through similar stuff and has been suicidal for some time now but when i remind her this, she remembers and re-realizes that she has to just do her best to pick up her life. she's a good 30-50 thousand dollars in debt without a job and having not finished her degree at college. the problem is things... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16583164 Look I get it, you think that I can pick life back up even in the worst situation... I disagree, I played chess with life and it beat me so bad that if I didn't an hero, I might as well go on a hunger strike and suffer the damages till death
How can I encourage my boyfriend to be healthier? He's gained 40lbs since we've met (around 1.5 years), which I would consider to be a result of poor eating habits and lack of exercise. He also refuses to go to the dentist or improve his posture. He is very stubborn and just claims that he hates things rather than giving them a shot. Ive tried to get him to go on long walks with me (to be rejected) and he eats salads sometimes and fruits sometimes, but at the end of the day, he's generally playing video games and eating foster farms corn dogs or cheap... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16583119 You can't emancipate him from himself. What you're saying is ultimately "I want to free him from his own choices." Careful there massa. He's an adult. He has every right to surrender to his lifestyle instead of being proactive.
It would be better for you to come to grips with having chosen poorly. Trying to fix him is to start walking down the road of the sunk cost fallacy.
I'm going back to school in 3 weeks and I can't get a job for those 3 weeks but my parents don't want me sitting in the house all day so can anyone tell me some things that would get me out of the house?
I have zero friends in my hometown, I'm not very good at making friends and frankly I'm more of an indoor person. I'd rather sit inside and play games or something all day but they want me to get out of the house, I guess I could go exercise but that will only last an hour at best.
Is there anything I can do that would get me out... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I fucked up (trust me, I know I fucked up) and lied to my work so I could take my birth day off. Told them it was car troubles. Now they want proof and I have none. I could lose my job over this. what do?
It's been over a month and I still feel as shit as the day we broke up. This week I succesfully passed a couple of pretty demanding courses at my uni but I still haven't had any good feelings, no satisfaction what so ever. I went out with a friend of mine yesterday, it was pretty cool evening but still, it was there.
I don't eat much. I just try to get my brain of off these feelings everyway I can, I get drunk when there's money for booze, get high, drop pills...almost every night now. Most of the times alone.
She was the only thing that made... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16582927 But how can there be more turns on both sides, I mean, if you tell someone that you love her, that she is really the world for you and you mean it from the bottom of your heart, how can you tell that to someone else?
Is it all just fucking meaningless? I don't get it. I don't understand anything anymore.
I don't drink, but I work in a profession where after work it's damn near required. My brother, dad, and grandfather are all coin carrying AA members. I don't drink because I'm seriously scared about ending up like them. But when I say, "I don't drink" it turns into an all night affair of explaining to everyone who hasn't heard my story about why. And then fending off drinks for the rest of the night.
Well awhile back someone asked me why I don't... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Your reasons for not drinking are absolutely no business of theirs and they should not be pressuring you and putting you in this situation. They're at fault, not you. I think it's very smart and responsible of you to be aware of your family history and to refrain from drinking. Say whatever you have to in order to make the drinks go away.
Basically, lie your fucking ass off and don't feel bad about it. I absolve you.
my gf is threatening to break up with me if i dont stop watching porn so much. i watch porn multiple times a day and she thinks is excessive and unnecessary. she satisfies me but porn brings things to another level...
>>16582899 Have about 4 or 5 grainy mobile phone videos that all end with her looking up at you with that face, partly disgusted with herself that you talked her into this mess and partly disgusted with the glob of semen running down her nose
>Friend-Zoned from Oneitis >occupied myself to her most of my days/beta orbit to the max >We were cool until she became bitter about life >starts to treat me like shit >I still stayed even when she hurt me >had enough of it and ask her out with a love note >she rejects me >later on, we go separate... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
The way they treat you is ALL your fault, you let it happen being a beta orbiter and her sister knows that you are pathetic Improve yourself for YOU! not to other pathetic people, stop thinking about it Being successful is the best way to laugh at people who you despise
First of all, you acted like a fucking autist. It was probably obvious to them that you were trying your hardest not to notice her so that's why they decided to fuck with you. If you meet someone you know don't try to "not recognize" them, it will only lead to a more awkward situation. I don't know how obnoxious they were while making out, but I guess it wasn't that bad since no one else told them to fuck off, so ignoring them was fine (I guess), but the moment they moved next to you in order to record you or take pictures you should've confront... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I'm sick and tired of male shame. All that happened was 2-3 years ago. I wasn't the same person. I'm trying my best to be a socially adjustable person, but it's a hard fucking road. All I know is I shouldn't be a push-over.
>Don't be successful for other people
>Being successful is the best revenge
Way to contradict yourself. This isn't a fucking coming of age movie. This is REAL LIFE pathetic people don't become successful. People who don't take shit from people do! People who aren't afraid push down other people for them. I'm simply asking for revenge on HER. Not her sister.
I already felt like shit after the whole thing and learned my lesson about love. Doesn't mean I deserved to be bullied some more.
>meet a girl at work >we have lunch together whenever our shifts coincide >she always seems happy to see me >think she might be dropping hints that we should go somewhere >one day she calls me sweety when I'm leaving and this freaks me the fuck out, I decide to get her number the next day >within a few days she asks me to go see a movie with her >but any... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16582676 Don't over think things. How have you been asking her out? Next time just tell her that you're going out and she's welcome to come. Leave it open, but also if she makes up an excuse again then just leave things be and forget about her.
>>16582693 First was she was tired from a workout, cool Second was that her family suddenly asked her to do stuff last minute, which is whatever Third time was that she wanted to save money, which I just took as the sign to stop trying, because when you ask to have lunch with someone specifically, you're usually paying for it anyway.
I promise I'm not a sociopath. I work in a hospital, shuffling papers between departments, an errand girl basically. Sometimes I may stay in a department for a few hours gathering things - and that's when people will start in on including me into conversation. They'll ask about me, my day, my partner, etc. They'll talk about all the typical superficial bullshit to help validate them and get them through their day feeling accepted. They'll bitch about rude patients, on and on.
What happens if I don't want to talk to anyone? Whenever I've... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
It's called learning to be a polite, socially functional human being. You might not be a sociopath, but your brain is seriously missing a few pieces if you think like this:
>They'll talk about all the typical superficial bullshit to help validate them and get them through their day feeling accepted
It's called relating to other people. Even if you're a total robot, you should be smart enough to know that this isn't just pointless time-wasting unless you have literally zero ambition. You can't do anything... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16582637 Have you ever seen a TV documentary about monkeys or chimps? (Stick with me - this is going someplace)
They often sit together, picking nits out of each other's fur. It's called Grooming. But scientists have worked out that, while getting rid of nits is nice, what the monkeys are actually doing is finding an excuse to sit together and express their friendliness.
Humans don't pick nits off each other (much). Instead we make small talk. But it's the same thing. WHAT we talk about is... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>I couldn't care less about my coworker's lives or them in general
How is that supposed to come off as anything other than cold, angry and snobby? What makes you so great? You already admitted you're just an errand girl, they could fire you in a second and replace you with a talking, functioning human being. Unless you're some rich girl who doesn't really need the money, you might want to try a little harder to build relationships with your co-workers.
You... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
So I wanna watch get to know the star wars franchise more before I watch the the force awakens and many people are saying not to watch the episode 1,2 and 3 because they are shit, would missing them and only watchin 4,5,6 and eventually 7 make me miss any story line/plot?
It's correct that the old Trilogy is more important for understanding the plot of Episode VII. The prequels just tell the story before the happenings during the civil war in episode 4,5 and 6. But i really recommend you to watch the whole saga to get the real Star Wars feeling. The best episode of the prequels is 3 because it shows how Anakin Skywalker turns into Darth Vader. I always watch the movies in the following order: 4 5 (1 2 (optional)) 3 6
i'll try to keep this as short as I can and answer any questions about it, since there's more too it but nobody likes reading long ass posts.
Last night my bf invited me to his place for a small party with a couple of other people, one of which I was already friends with and the other 2 people were my bf's best friend and his girlfriend.
The night started out with some weed smoking, I didn't really take a part in it as it's not really my thing, plus the fact that I only went due to being pressured and to make my bf happy. Later on however,... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
If you're not an asshole, generally, you get the benefit of the doubt when you randomly act out. Just don't do it again. For bonus points, message the people you think you offended and say something like "hey, I'm really sorry I was rude last night, I was kind of having an anxiety attack and weed always makes me panic so I was lashing out. it's no excuse, just thought I owed you an explanation. take care and I'm sorry."
>am I redeemable as a person? I mean this in the best possible way: cut the drama. This isn't that big a deal.
Once I pushed my best friend into a table (full of drinks) because I thought he had his arm around my girlfriend. I was drunk. It was his girlfriend. I don't drink that much anymore.
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