Welcome to the NEET and Shut-in advice thread! (Version 121, running since Oct. 31st, 2013) REMINDER: This isn't >>>/r9k/ or wizardchan
Drop out of school due to anxiety? Haven't left the house in a few years? Maybe you have a job, but don't leave the house or talk to people for any reason outside of it? Finding a job sure is hard these days.
The best time to change your life was 5 years ago. But the good news is, the second best time is right now!
I have failed as a student. I have failed as a son. I have failed as a person. I'm fat and ugly, every girl I meet either friendzone me or look at me as some kind of monstrous troll. I have failed in Darwinism in every way as possible.
I feel like I want to kill myself. I'm doing the world a favour.
are you dead yet? no? then you haven't failed and you still have time. You're just too much of a piece of shit to get off your fat fucking ass and doing the shit that needs to be done instead of wallowing in self pity.
Go right ahead and hang yourself right fucking now or get your head out of your ass.
I once put myself in a similar mindset. The best way to overcome it is to realize you are now in "don't-give-a-fuck-istan". So you're not who you imagined yourself as being... It's tough to realize but at least you're seeing it now rather than fifty years down the road when it actually is too late to change it.
Find the good virtues within yourself and then find ways to exemplify them in your day-to-day life. Stop caring about "friend zones" Shit... friends are a good thing to have... They won't turn out to be a cheap slut... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Hello friends, I'll try and keep this as short as possible. Basically my best friend at the time was dating a girl only to split 6 months ago after 3 years. In that time they were dating I basically lived with them and got to know them both very well. Due to some current lifestyle changes and realising how generally negative and toxic the guy is to be around I've started distancing myself. About two months ago I started seeing his ex and its gotten to the point where we would like to be official but feel guilty thinking about how her ex would feel. We know we can't... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
There are literally billions of other girls and you go after you best friends ex he was with for YEARS? No wonder you feel guilty. You're a shitty human being. Anyone that doesn't say so doesn't want to be involved or has done it themselves. I make a rule not to date or even flirt with my friends exs/crushes because surprise there are tons of other guys out there and it's not worth knowingly hurting someone for a fling. Especially a friend. Maybe he's toxic because he just went through a tough break up and his best friend is MIA because he's fuckkng... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16575923 Haha you spent a lot of time writing this, I said I already know it's bad.. he isn't a friend anymore, he was always toxic I just dealt with it until I made some lifestyle changes. The people that said go ahead (her brother, my sister, several of our close friends and our parents) know what he is like as a person (generally negative and treats everyone on earth like they are below him) and know that I will treat her right. Nice try though :)
I really don't know where or how to begin. I guess my problem(s) stem from alcohol and drug abuse or, more specifically, possibly the underlying mental health issues that could have caused me to self-medicate to such a high degree. If this kind of topic interests you, please continue reading and maybe offer up some advice, a kind word of support, something to make me laugh, or even make a donation ((I am being upfront about that (email@example.com), but everything else is appreciated equally or even more so)).
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After the last incident that left me homeless, I decided (was forced to decide) that I needed to try something different. I put myself into an inpatient rehab, initially to try to impress the judge and stay out of jail, but after that 2 month stay I decided to keep going. After the first 9 months of being clean, I was a fucking mess. I could barely leave my room at my parents’ house (she was kind enough to take me in since I was trying to help myself). I was depressed and anxiety was through the roof. So... I decided to get help for that too. I started seeing a therapist and also a psychiatrist, hoping that I could "beat this too" and be able to act "normal" again. After another 6 or 9 months or so, I started to feel exponentially better.
No one would hire me, so I decided to go to college. The last 4 semesters I have been working on a software development degree, but after adding some web development courses to my curriculum, I decided I'm more comfortable with the visual aspect of latter rather than the logical aspect of the former. I also enjoyed learning about network management.
That puts me to today. It’s been almost 3 years and I have been feeling like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I still have not been hired. I constantly interview, sometimes getting to the 4th, 5th, even 6th interview and not get the job. I interview for jobs that pay nearly 6 figures and jobs that are part-time at a pay rate of $9/hour. No love.
Has anyone else been down this road of personal discovery and self-improvement only to have nothing happen? Is there something that is glaring in my story that I am not seeing that anyone can point out? Can anyone relate to dealing with drug and alcohol abuse? Have you been able to drink socially/moderately? I feel more disconnected than ever and wonder what the fuck I am doing wrong. I have no money, no job, and no real friends anymore, nothing.
How do I leave the friendzone of a clingy girl. She acts like she's married to me but I am in the friendzone. It's a drain on my resources and time and I just want to be alone.
Anyone have experience in dealing with being friendzoned by clingy/controlling women?
Someone told me I should try making a move on her like going for a kiss, grabbing her hips or something sexual that usually results in a girl not talking to a guy friend anymore. But I'm not sure if it's a good idea.
I'm trying to organize a way to transport my girlfriend and her stuff (a couple bags of clothes, a couple boxes of Books and stuff and her pet bird) from Boston to Vancouver BC.
My ride I was gonna use didn't work out. I only have a learner's license (BC), she has a driver's license (USA) but neither of us have a car. I might be able to get a hold of my family's old van and have someone drive with me there and drive back with my girlfriend and her stuff. Although I can't tell if her class D drivers license means I can drive with her in the... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I'm pretty desperate to get her out of the place she lives in, it's a terrible living situation and it's going to get worse in a few days.
I suggested commercial transportation but it seems I don't have much of an option there, bringing her pet bird along on a plane, train, or bus would be a hassle she doesn't feel like she can deal with and shipping her additional boxes of belongings is something she can't really trust to a company.
>>16575648 If your girlfriend is over 21 and has more than one year driving experience, I believe you can drive in Massachusetts, as long as the requirements for getting a learner's permit in the provinces you will drive through are as strict as in Massachusetts (for example, learner's permit in Massachusetts requires you to be 16. If BC says you can get it at at 15 and you're 15, it won't work in Massachusetts). This reciprocity probably works for who needs to be in the car with someone with a LP.
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>28 years old, 29 in 5 weeks >Worked hard, had a job while in uni and still got my degree at age 22 >got married after uni to girl who seemed really nice (dated her for 2 years) >she racks up credit card debt, ruins my credit rating >she cheats on me with some nearly anorexic 18 year old that could probably pass as a girl if he wanted (albeit a 6 foot 3 girl) >we get divorced Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Tomorrow we have a christmas party at work, consisting of a dinner from 7:30pm around an hour away from my workplace., Another colleague suggested we all go to a cocktail bar beforehand for around an hour. Would it be autistic if I said I'm going to stay at the office and meet them at the restaurant. I don't like cocktail bars and the idea of them repulses me, plus I don't intend on getting drunk tonight since I don't like getting drunk, so I'd just be standing there.
Thats pretty autistic. You'd rather be stuck in a boring office than god forbid hang out with your coworkers at a bar even if you're not drinking? You sound like a total mood killer, whats wrong with a cocktail bar? People like having fun.
>>16575633 The concept of a "happy hour" repulses me, and I don't enjoy the sort of "fun" it promotes, i.e. standing in a loud, busy room with people talking loudly over throbbing music while drinking alcohol. I am a mood killer, but then why should I insist on killing the mood when i could just not go?
>>16575639 Well...ok. Some people like the busy atmosphere and meeting people easily. You'd probably kill the mood if you did meet them at the restaurant later anyway because surprise, they're all still going to be drunk. And they will order more drinks. And restaurants are talkative and loud.
I never post here and I'm on mobile so sorry if the post isn't formatted to your liking.
My girlfriend just freaked the fuck out because she woke up in bed with me and I was jerking off. I'll admit it was kinda fucked up since it was right next to her while she was sleeping but what really tears her up is the while concept of me jerking off at all. We talked about it and I pretty much just started laughing in her face when she compared lying about jerking off to her lying about giving random blowjobs. I can break down the whole story and give background... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
If your girlfriend has the same sex drive as you and jerking off disrupts a normal sexual relationship with her, then she has a right to be upset. Otherwise, if time/location/ex drives aren't conducive to actual sex, then jerking off is fine.
I've been married a long time. Sex with the wife is sparse to say the least. One morning I suggested we have sex, she declined and went to shower. I jerked off. When she came out she said she wanted to have sex. I told her I had just jerked off and wasn't interested any more.
This was the first time she realized... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16575612 Haha yea. I've deduced as much myself. I keep thinking I should have bailed a while ago. She's basically one giant red flag. Example: I was on vacation with my family and went to a nude beach (optional nudity so it isn't that weird) but I ended up taking my dick out and going for a stroll. She.didn't take too kindly to that because "what would you think if I just went around showing my tits everywhere". Here's the kicker, we weren't even dating yet, just talking.
This is my first time posting on /adv/, but I think you guys are the board that I need to ask for a serious answer. Long story short, a couple years ago I put all of my porn in a zip file protected with the password, and now I forgot the password but I need to open it.
So, any advice on opening a password protected zip file without knowing the password?
Girl cancelled our "date" this evening. She gave no reason, really, just saying that she couldn't and that she was sorry. I simply just thanked her for letting me know.
Is it worth texting her when morning comes, and letting her know that if it ever does suit her to meet up, to let me know, and otherwise a good luck with everything? She didn't respond to my last message.
She's very clearly the shy/awkward type and I'm betting nerves got the best of her, or she took advice from friends and just didn't do it (we have never met face... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
My fiancé has been paying my cellphone bill and expenses since last February ever since I got laid off from my job. I had been going to interviews and job hunting with no success, so he had been paying for pretty much all my expenses. I don't like it and it makes me uncomfortable since I'm used to paying for myself, but he insists that he wants to help me out and goes out of his way to pay for me and says that I don't have to pay him back. I didn't want his help at first, but since I was in need of the money, I accepted his kindness. But because he had been paying for my expenses, he became very demanding. At first it was only fair since he was paying for everything, but he began controlling me whenever I couldn't fulfill his requests. He would bring up something he paid for and say "Who do you think has paying for ____ ? Did you forget that I paid for THAT? "
I recently got hired again and I'm slowly getting back on my feet, but as soon as he heard the news now he's asking me to pay back EVERYTHING he's ever paid for me these past few months. What the actual fuck? I just feel like there's something really twisted about this situation but at the same time I can't help but feel extremely guilty that he's spent so much money on me.
>>16575544 Pay it back and Ieave. He's been paying to controI you. This is unheaIthy in a person and onIy gets worse. Do you reaIIy want something Iike this forever with this person? Do you see any situation escaIating? lf so, Ieave the situation.
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