So I'm not sure exactly how to word this, but I'll try my best. I personally believe that you shouldn't change for others, others shouldn't be expected to change for you either of course; people with similar interests would naturally bond I assume. I'm 19 in community college and have had no friends and never been in a relationship (the usual), but I don't really mind. I like alone time a lot and I've never been sad over being single or having no friends. When people try to talk to me, I'll talk back, but we just never connect. I'm... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16475885 I feel pretty much the same way, save for the fact that I desire a relationship but don't really want one. I think I could comfortably live like this. It only ever bothers me whenever well meaning but ignorant people try to insist that I'm broken and in desperate need of living like they do, even though I hate doing that.
So yeah, live how you want. It's not like you can't start doing something different if you ever change your mind.
i'm 24 and its depressing having the same mindset you described. People are mean and mistrustful towards me and unfortunately i can't just isolate myself I have to see coworkers and people to make it in the real world.
I'd probably like to teach, just so I can speak about shit i care about and hopefully make more than I make now.
>>16475912 I also felt like complete shit today from how badly people can't accept me and I basically just tell myself I need to just enjoy the misery. Somehow twist it around so its for me. Thats the best I can come up with today when feeling completely miserable and lonely.
How to tell mental health practitioners that I will most likely kill myself within the next 5 years if I will deteriorate even more, without getting myself hospitalized against my will? I just want someone to know how horrible my existence is, and that my psychiatric illness is incompatible with me living anymore - I don't want to be severely disabled for the rest of my life. I want them to know that unlike many who aren't even aware of their severe mental illness, I'm painfully aware, and I know what symptoms I have, and to what extent they disable me and... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
You won't get hospitalized for that, at least not where I live. Also suck it up and start working on recovering. Try different meds, try different kinds of therapy, even inpatient or IOP if you think you need it, work out, find something to do during the day.
My girlfriend doesnt believe in herself at all. I was up with her while she was crying all night for no real reason, she hates herself and doesn't want to fix it.
The next day I'm in class and there are actually happy people all around, and I feel happy until I think of how she is at home. All of her problems could be solved in a day if she stopped putting herself down. It'd take 3 proper workouts to get her to start to like how she looks, but she doesn't do anything. Meanwhile I'm watching this thin happy girl singing and dancing, and I'm... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Ubuntu is pretty good. The support community is strong. Would you install it as the main OS or from a bootable drive? Im sure that if you know how to install linux, you'll have minimal problems installing windows games on it.
>>16475698 listen buddy/girl, with all the respect you deserve, let me tell you that depression isn't a real illness, the only damage you get is given by the action you take by yourself, decide to be better, to get over things, to be strong, start eating healthier, sleep long enough, try to do happy things and your mind will reward you with happiness, happiness and sadness are just mental statements conceived as a result for your own choises. Best wishes anon
>>16475697 bruh just go up to her and ask her out. Whats the worst thing thats going to happen she rejects you, big deal dude. I asked a girl out who was a cashier at hastings she rejected me and i was totally cool with it and that was it. The point is you never know until you try.
My youngest sister (15) is blind. We get along exceptionally well, since her accident brought us a lot closer together. I helped her through a lot of stuff back then (still do) and was basically the one going to her appointments with her as my father couldn't just quit working because of it, although he did take quite a lot of time off. Ever since my sister turned blind, she just seeks a lot more physical contact. She tends to sit really close to me, I lead her around holding her hand in crowded places (jokingly referred to as me being her seeing eye brother), we hug a lot and she also like to cuddle up to me. Now this girl I have been kinda dating for a few weeks and was friends with before "caught" us cuddling up while watching a film on the couch in my room (not like we were hiding anything, but that's how she saw it). It's nothing unusual for me and my sister, we were just having a lazy Saturday, so still in pyjamas, and she came by. I can understand if some women are uncomfortable with this, but I never told her because I simply didn't think about it. To me that's just my everyday life. However, she went totally berserk, cussing, screaming how this would be completely disgusting and so on. I tried talking to her about this in a calm manner, but she wouldn't have any of it, didn't even listen. Nothing I can't take, so I just wanted her to get this out of her system and then talk to her, we were friends after all and sort of dating. When she started insulting and threatening my sister, I just saw red, threw her out and told her to never come near either of us again. It's just something I won't tolerate at all and she knew, all my friends know talking about my sister is a line you simply don't cross, especially like that. She did it anyway. It took me a good while to calm my sister down again. She was pretty shaken up and crying because of being legitimately scared by that girl.
>>16475665 Now my question is whether she or I or both overreacted. Is the relationship between me and my sister really that weird? I have had one girl before stop dating me because she said she wasn't comfortable with it, but we ended things on good terms and both understood the other, so now we are pretty good friends. This time it has just been so different and I am wondering if there are even women out there who'd be okay with this situation. Pushing my sister away is not an option for me, I won't ever consider doing that.
>tl;dr: Girl I have been kind of dating saw my blind younger sister cuddled up to me on the couch and started screaming that'd be disgusting, insulting my sister and me. Threw her out, told her to never talk to me again. Did anyone (possibly both) overreact? Is our relationship really that weird? Are their women who could accept this?
>>16475666 Well, she overreacted, but she was also working off of faulty information (i.e. that you were fucking your sister). You should probably have known better than to reinforce this impression by losing it, but whatever. Now you know it maybe an issue going on in future. It does sound like you may have dodged a bullet with that one.
Although with her being blind it really does make a lot of sense for her to be touchy feely, and some families are like that anyway, so
No, but seriously. I WAS going to post this on /fit/ but...let's get real here. Basically, I'm 5'5" male, and in the last few months alone I've gone from around 185 lbs. to today, at the gym, weighing myself and seeing 159 lbs (with clothes of course). So it's not that I'm not satisfied, my eating habits are better, I feel better, I haven't had munchies since panic attacks from weed got to be too much and I haven't smoked in a little over a month now.
But, I still feel like I'm missing some info that would change things.... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
To maximize weight loss you should limit either fat or carb intake. High carb low fat or high carb low fat. Can try carb cycling too but make sure there's a minimum of 5 hours between cycles.
There's a lot more to this than calories in calories out. If you're really wanting to jumpstart weightloss try a mono diet for 3-7 days. Like eating only potatoes (with vinegar and like salt/pepper if you want for taste), or going wth just steak and eggs. Bananas might work too. I suggest potatoes though, and always cool them after cooking (can reheat again f you want) to turn it into resistant starch.
And for eating in general, make sure you're not eating anything too processed. Ideally most of the food you buy will not even come wth nutrition labels because it's like meat/eggs from a local farm and fresh vegetables/fruit.
>>16475678 Well I'll tell you right now any diet that isn't 'eat basic good foods' is out of the question. One of the things that's acted as a barrier for me in fitness is my stubbornness, back when I started it was to dealing with hunger and I wanted to eat the same amount. Now it's more about laziness with actual exercising, which will make any amount of food I eat, even a lower amount of calories/better nutrients/less fat stick to me more. I do run, but I haven't been consistent with it... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
tl;dr: Moved to small college town with GF, hate it here, don't love her, broke, late 20s and need a restart.
Moved here almost a year ago because there was nothing else going on in my life and I figured "well it can't be any worse than where I already am." I now have 0 friends, no passion in life, she treats me like a child even though I do all the work around the house and drive her to class and everything, and I'm broke because I work a crappy job doing something I hate and I have to spend everything on college loans and rent and shit. I hate... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I have been living with my boyfriend for 6 months. And honestly I feel a bit neglected and I am starting to believe he doesn't love me anymore and is only with me because he's scared of being alone or something..
I've noticed that he treats cuddling like it's a chore now, he seems to not enjoy it at all. He doesn't want to sleep on the same bed with me (we have a pretty big sofa bed and a twin sized mattress) and uses the excuse of it not being comfy but they feel the same.
He never wants to do anything with me aswell. For example I suggested... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
My ex did the same thing, treated togetherness as a chore, not wanting to cuddle, jumping at the chance to go hang out with friends but balking at doing literally anything else
He may still love you but he's getting "comfortable", a lot of guys do this where they make bold promises and advances and work themselves at 110% instead of acting normal, and when they feel they've "succeeded" in getting a relationship, they stop trying as hard and even start getting lazy.
It may be worth expressing your concerns, about him ignoring you and not wanting to hang out, about feeling unloved. But it rarely works out as far as i've seen. Men are usually either slow and consistent or fast and then they crash. You'd be better off finding someone who does the first
>>16475537 >>16475544 Ahh I guess I'll just start to focus on myself more then and take up more hobbies. Normally I try to leave him alone for at least 5hours a day. But he probably just needs more time to himself. He also plays fallout during the times I'm (there) and away so he might not even notice.
I slept with my best friend in August. I didn't plan it, I met her one night and we drank and smoked too much. I made her and the others up beds in my home afterwards. She crawls into bed with me though. I'm pretty sure I ended up saying some cringy shit. Its all very blurry except that We fuck. She falls asleep. I probably say some more cringy shit. We wake up and fuck again.
I decide to go to work because I didn't want to get fired. I should've called out. Haven't spoken since. Had as mini nervous breakdown as I had... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
What is your opinion on smokers? I smoke cigars once a week, with Kentucky cheroots on standby as an everyday smoke, and some pipe tobacco that gets occasional use. I try to be considerate; whenever I go to my local coffee shop that allows smokers on the deck, I ask people if it's ok that I light up. Do a few bad eggs make all of us look bad, do you just have an ambivalent opinion toward us, or do you hate smokers for whatever reason?
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