>Girl I didn't know starts talking to me every day
>Decide to ask her out, she says she's busy but would love to.
>Says she wants time for herself after coming out of long relationship
>Wait a month and ask again, she says maybe and leaves it at that
>I say fuck it and just ignore her, since she would not stop talking about some other guy that's known her way longer than me, and she was seeking attention
>Me ignoring her has made her more incomfortable and has triggered her to walk up to me and talk more, she also looks at me a lot more now
What the fuck do I do? She was leading me on previously, and before I couldn't stop thinking about her. Do I keep ignoring her and rarely talking to her, or do I try again?
Why are all my friends becoming feminists? I used to have a lot of friends, but slowly I am being pushed out, thrown to the side for being... well me? am I being passed up by something? did I miss something? My friends don't invite me to places as much and when they do it always ends in me having to defend myself in someway to their bullying... what do I do?
yeah but we've been friends for so long, and because I don't want to join them they treat me like I am garbage... it all seems so ridiculous though... they became the kind of people me and my other friends would laugh about, people you didn't think really existed but my friends have become them. I still have a couple of guy friends, but I liked being in a group of girls... I never was fully accepted being I was so different from them from the beginning, but they've gone completely off the deep end now.
Before I get to my question, some back-story: I'm a 23 year old male virgin living with my parents. I have no friends to speak of, no dreams, no passions, no college degree or qualifications and no chance of finding love because I'm socially retarded and physical human contact makes me feel very uncomfortable. I'm not a NEET but the job I have is a low paying one, only allowing me to get by if I live at home, so moving out is completely out of the question.
So what I want advice on is, what the hell am I to do with my life? It's obvious that I'm not meant to live a normal life with friends or a girlfriend, a career or marriage and children later on. But what else is there? Sure, I can continue to be as I am, but working a dead end job and distracting myself with mindless entertainment can only get me so far.
I've been slipping in and out of depression, anxiety and alcoholism for years now, so it's important that I find something meaningful to do with myself before my mental health suffers even more.
You sound almost like me OP.
I try to get by day by day. Always have a goal in mind. We all get shitty days or phases. Time is essential but dont stress over it too much because even the healthiest people can die from a freak heart attack.
It sounds like you are living in a good condition. Use this time to develop something. Almost every artist had to work and work like dirt to produce something meaningful.
Stand on your own feet anon, and imagine you have the best idea you want to invest...
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>Use this time to develop something.
That's the thing, I really don't know what to do.
>I hope you've been saving at least some money in a savings account.
I don't have enough disposable income for that.
How the fuck can i know if a girl is just being nice or is down to something else?
Why the hell would a girl completely go silent on me out of nowhere? Was seeing and sleeping with this girl the last month or so, having a good time. We got along well and were really compatible.
Last saw her on Sunday, kissed goodbye and exchanged a light text that night. After that, silence. I've messaged her a couple things, nothing needy, just conversation and can't get a reply.
What the fuck. Did she fall down a well or something? Has anyone dealt with this before?
Under 25: she's mad because of random reasons which she will never explain.
25 or over: a man with higher value is already fucking her, she doesn't need you anymore.*
*may also apply to under 25
why does it seem like everyone smokes weed? obviously i know not everyone but it seems like all entertainers, musicians etc are daily smokers and consider it absolutely vital to their whole lifestyle and mindset.
i hate the dependency aspect of it all, that without smoking some plant you can't feel good or enjoy things or be creative or think deeply. how can people be so comfortable being so reliant on something so transient, so impermanent, disappearing as soon as it begins?
i know so many people who rely on weed to handle everything in their lives, the concept of solving a personal issue soberly solely by thinking is totally alien to them, they need to drug themselves into a stoned stupor to feel better.
rather than making me embrace it, it really turns me off and induces a deep sense of disillusionment towards it. i don't want to be dependent on weed, i don't want to be creative or whatever if i can't be like that without it. i'd be plagued by doubts: is it me or the weed? if i can't do this sober, what does that mean? if i can only accomplish something high, or "be" a certain way because i'm high, then it's not a personal attainment, it's entirely dependent on the drug.
does ANYONE here agree with me and this way of thinking? i'd honestly rather be bored, depressed, devoid of pleasure than getting my kicks from inhaling smoke and thereby becoming dependent on it. all my stoner friends are veritable buddhas when they're stoned but ill tempered bastards the minute they come down and run out. then they desperately call their contacts looking for more.
to me, it seems like an unwise lifestyle choice in the longterm view. shouldn't we be developing coping mechanisms that rely on nothing but our own thinking rather than an external thing like drugs? if anxiety or depression is caused due to a problem in my lifestyle, then drugging myself will only mask the symptoms, not solve the fundamental problem. how can people be so deceived by this?
>Being single for 2 years
>Match cute girl on Tinder
>Girl starts to talk to me
>I reply to her and start to have a good conversation
>Everything is going great
>We share a lot of interests
>Only 2 days of knowing each other
>We decide to meet up
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the first time meeting is the BEST TIME to be rude. Get your point across that you're only looking for friends, at least with her.
You dined and dashed, with the reason being retarded. Of course she's gonna follow up. Tell her the truth, that you only like men and were under the effects of hallucinogenics.
If I can't find work is there any reason why I shouldn't kill myself? Even people who fucked around in HS and got GEDs can get their lives together but I can't.
I was a NEET for six years after high school and a hikikomori for two-three of those. I have a job now. If you can't find a job you've either not put yourself out there enough/gotten your lucky break yet or are approaching job hunting wrong (bad resume, etc.). Shit takes work,
time, luck, and sometimes connections. Be patient and willing to reevaluate what you're doing.
My mother is a human resource manager and she says that the acceptance to even get an interview is like one in every 1000 resumes submitted. that might be off but you get the idea.
I remember it took me like a YEAR to get my first real job.
my recent job only took me like two weeks, but im managing an office for a psychic so yeah.
point is that you just gotta keep applying. everyone CAN get a job, it just takes time and some compromise sometimes.
How come when I smoke dank weed, I only get a body high? Vaping literally does nothing for me until I smoke the ABV to get that left over body-high CBD. I took a 2 month tolerance break and it didn't make a single difference.
Do I just have a permanent THC tolerance?
Hello Internet, I'm not okay
I'm not entirely sure, it's sort of everything and nothing. I think I'm depressed but I don't tick all the boxes and the boxes I do tick I'm not sure if I've just convinced myself that it's true or if my actual problem is I'm constantly convincing myself that I'm not okay, that makes sense right?
I grew up in a smaller town where it's wasn't considered okay to be gay. I think I internalized a lot of the disgust that people had with homosexuality and it comes out in my sex life. I'm single because dating hasn't really worked out and so I look to random encounters.
I recognize that I have a lot of problems. However, my most immediate problem is what I'm attracted to. A lot of people get confused by this so I'll try to be clear as possible. I'm attracted to getting ripped off by good looking men who then laugh at me for paying them...
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Live in the UK and have a really boring personality. pls help anons
I have a group of friends, who hang out regularly, watch movies, chat, and just have little get togethers. Well one of our friends brought someone new into the group, and at first she seemed alright, extremely quiet, just huddled up and drew on a tablet hooked to a laptop and then started playing video games. The thing is, later in the night I started to notice things about her, especially when she chimed in to discussions we had. She seemed very, behind the times, not just with her gaming choices but her views as well, and the women of our group tried to talk with her, and discuss our views on the matter, but she didn't seem to care, nor see any issue with the topics we were bringing up. The men in our group, who usually are very progressive, almost seemed to regress, suddenly trying to defend her, as if her lack of caring at a near sociopathic level was acceptable. Could she tear our friend group apart? I have texted to my friends that maybe we should keep her out of the group, its been three get togethers with her and the story is the same... is it rational to think maybe she isn't a good fit for us?
It is rational to think that OP. Just because a friend brought her into the group doesnt mean she is also compatible. Since you like the group you have( without the new girl) i would say organise a meeting without her . define what everyone wants and likes and tell them your thoughts about this girl. Do they share the same opinion? Do they think you are just jealous or they too are uneasy about it? And go from there
how would you name your daughter, /adv/?
i'm thinking of something like heather or eileen
Terra because I like that name. If I ever have a daughter that's what I'm naming her no fucks given.
Good thing I'll never reproduce though because no female with have intercourse with me.
So basically i have to give a 10-15 minute presentation on a power point project and i feel like i'm gonna have a heart attack. What can i do to calm down? I present in a few weeks.
>that's a lengthy presentation are you doing it alone?
yea by myself. i get nervous to the point of twitching a bit and it sucks. I just want to run away but i can't. I have to sit there and talk...for 10 minutes.....while everyone stares at me....