Hey, I've recently turned 19 and have been to a few small house parties. During a couple of these parties, guys would bring girls over and try to fuck them. At one party, the girl declined and literally everyone treated her (and her friend that she brought with her, and who must've been brought there to have sex with one of the guys at the party) like shit for declining. It was the weirdest thing and I'm still a little emotionally scared by it (I'm a 19 kissless virigin and I couldn't rape another human being)
At another party, a couple was making out and someone else forcibly began to finger the girl until she started to cry.
Then at another party the same guy from above raped his girlfriends best friend while she was passed out.
All of this is so completely confusing to me, I have no idea what I should do when I bring a girl back to my place for a couple of drinks. Should I force myself upon her? Wait for the signals? Does this sort of thing happen often?
What the fuck, where do you find people like that? I mean me and my crew like to hit on girls and shit, but damn forcing your finger into a girl is disgusting as shit. Lose these creepers man, make better friends.
Simple answer - wait, see if she is enjoying herself, and then see if she is open for a kiss.
If she is, take it slow, no need to go overboard, if she wants it she will let you know.
Never, ever force a woman unless it is roleplay and she is in on it from the start.
Thank you for the sound advice it's what I was looking for, I'll also drop contact with those friends ASAP as I have plenty more.
But just to confirm, these are rare events right?
These people are seriously fucked up and this is going to come back to bite them in the future. Make your distance as fast as possible. The last thing you need is some girl telling the cops that "Anon was there too" 5 years from now.
Never really thought of this before, but - how come (a lot of, not all I guess) women seem to "under-react" to this kind of thing? I mean it obviously affects them quite seriously, but it's very rare you hear of them actually doing anything about it, right?
I guess everyone reacts to things differently, people do things the way they're used to. I can tell you for certain sure though, that if I got pissed up and some bloke tried to do me up the shitter, I wouldn't think twice about beating him like a readhead stepchild, putting him in a coma then burning his house down, just to make sure I really got my point across. I honestly don't understand it.
These are trash-tier people. Wouldn't hesitate capping them in a state of anarchy. Don't associate with them, avoid their company if you don't want to be seen as "one of those guys".
Regarding bringing back a girl to your place: Show her gallantry, but not pussiness. Flirt a lot by loosely following these steps (from step 11): http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt and if things go well you'll be just naturally get drawn to each other physically as well.
What I went through is nothing compared to this, but I do think I have a bit of insight. When something like that happens the shock that takes over can be paralyzing. Every sane reaction there is just flies out the window. It happening in a room filled with a bunch of other people some that you might even consider friends, adds to the surreal feel that takes over.
While it happened to me it was like I wasn't around mentally, but I broke down as soon as he was finished. He knew I didn't want him, I leaned back, said no, and tried to push him away, but other than that I just stood there when I could have ran. Many strangers walked past, and they knew that I was in distress, but they didn't care. I was fourteen at the time, and have gone through it a thousand times in my head telling myself I'd react differently if it ever happens again, but I really don't know.
Stop hanging out with nigger ass people, OP. If this isn't bait, then you should get the hell away from people like that, the are a bad influence. The reason why legitimately honest women hate frat guys is because of shit like this. Only idiot whores actually allow themselves to be put in a position where they can get drunk raped, and only shitty men who can't get girls sober drunk rapes. It's fucking abhorrent, and as a resident advisor, I hate to see the girls I oversee end up with a crotch full of cock because they were convinced by a bunch of shitheads to give herself alcohol poisoning so that they could fuck her comatose, soon to be brain dead body.
>At another party, a couple was making out and someone else forcibly began to finger the girl until she started to cry.
I don't even care if this could be a troll, 12/10. Ruined my fucking week.
Or contact the fathers, tell them what happened. Get some shovels and a saw.
>i saw someone rape someone and i didnt do anything about it because im a huge faggot
>im emotionally scarred from it
>should i rape a girl?
if you are this fucking stupid, please just a hero. but please take out your scumbag friends first
OP, saying yes to a drink is saying yes to sex.
>should I force myself on her
The fuck. This better be bait.
Hey guys OP here, I've dropped contact with all of those people (I told them to fuck off and it was a pretty heated argument). Thanks for all the advice about this serious topic guys.