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Do I break her?
2014-12-01 15:55:25 Post No. 15096689
Do I break her?
Post No. 15096689
>Carry on acting as we always did
>Learn things about her life (which I'll get to in a sec)
>Start falling for her
>She wins me over
>She asked me what our relationship was; are we together?
>Told her I'd tell her on Tuesday (tomorrow), implying that it's good news.
>Suddenly changed mind and realised I don't want to pursue a relationship with her
>If I reject her now, I'll ruin her life
This is why: some of the things she's told me are that her parents divorced when she was at a very young age and her father doesn't support or visit them (he's dead to her). Because of this, they've had economic problems and have had to move 13 times (she's 16 now) and she has to work with her single mother at the local market.
So apart from her fear of moving again and losing all her friends and all (she's been here a year now), she also lost her virginity (at some age before 14) and started passively smoking at 12. Her grades aren't that great either (to be expected when all the before has happened to you).
Now, since we started getting close and I tried to help her change, she's stopped smoking, been studying a lot more, just seems to be having a better life, as if she'd been saved.
Now, if I break up with her, she'd be devastated, I think that, not only she'd go back to the bad habits, but she'd do them in bigger proportions, worse than ever. And, honestly, I don't think she could handle nor deserves any more sad occurrences in her life. Even after all that's happened to her, she's still got a great personality, kind, sweet, honest, etc.
I really don't want to destroy her life, is there any way I can let her down without doing so?