Literal autist here, not just 4chan autism. I guess I'm looking for any feedback from any people who were able to maintain a relationship with that stuff going on, and what they did to help balance it out.
>>15516073 why is it that for some guys, it takes them forever to get their shit together? Had a guy friend who is 24 and still doesn't have a drivers license.When i ask him why he tells me that it's because of insurance.
>>15516331 Guy, but is stinks like shit and fucks up your body. Also, addiction isn't attractive. It's like that dude I knew who ate raw garlic every morning without brushing his teeth and no-one liked to be around him (fuck that guy).
>>15516304 One of my friends, a girl, just got hers at 24 years. She was the oldest of our entire group but procrastinated on it for years because she was lazy.
Guys do have higher insurance costs and maybe he can't afford a car. He should get his license since new regulations can bite him in the ass and that piece of ID is handy. He's probably just lazy and near-sighted.
>>15516331 Smoking is being looked down on increasingly in many Western Countries.
>>15516320 Never. I don't have THAT many Facebook friends to begin with, the ones I actually talk to know I have a boyfriend, and I never reply to anyone I don't know.
>>15516331 If you're my friend, you can do what you like as long as you don't smoke around me. I'm not going to hesitate to tell you if you smell like shit though. If you're my boyfriend, you don't smoke anyway because I don't date guys who smoke.
>>15516337 I don't. I have my shit together, I expect the guy to have his shit together too.
>>15516347 The age gap isn't the problem, it's the difference in maturity and where you are in your lives >inb4 she's very mature for her age! No, she's not.
I'm gonna ask this again, because in the last thread, the answers I got weren't really that conclusive.
What sort of gift should I get for my cousin when she is turning 10 soon? I myself was thinking of a set of Girl orientated legos, but some people in the last thread thought that would be a poor idea. Stuff like clothes, and necklaces were suggested, but I don't know enough about that stuff, or her tastes, to really get that sort of things for her. Someone also suggested rollerscates.
>>15516346 Possibly, but I fucking hate the smell and wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who chooses to do that to their own body. It's a personal choice, but it's shared by a lot of people.
I knew heaps of people who have done weed and hallucinogens, but when someone starts smoking tobacco, they get a bad reaction from everyone else. I guess it also has to do with the awareness campaigns that talk about it like its the devil.
>>15516347 I assume by like, you mean relationship-wise and not just friends >Is it okay Socially, expect some weird looks and distaste. Morally, if it's consenting and she is mature enough, I have no issue Emotionally, I think that's fucked up; both of you.
>>15516361 >one cig is not the same as a bottle of vodka Well no shit, a bottle of vodka a day will kill you.
And yes, it does affect your health. Also your scent and sense of smell. If you don't notice it your senses are already being damaged. As you start getting older your teeth and nails will yellow and you'll wrinkle up faster. My sister has been smoking since she was a teenager and it's starting to show (she's only 26).
>>15516381 You really can tell when someone is a smoker or has been in the past, even when they haven't recently smoked. They just have a weird yellow-orange tinge to their skin and their skin usually wrinkles odd too.
>>15516385 My family had a hotel business for a short bit and we'd always get smokers trying to smoke in their bathrooms with the window open. Their sense of smell was so damaged they actually thought opening a window got rid of the smell.
>>15516357 Does she like crafts? You could get her some sort of children's jewellery making kit.
>>15516391 >what should I do, back off and just be friends and then ask her if she still interested when she turns 18? If you're going to wait for her to be remotely as mature as you, you'll be waiting until she's in her 20s. Even between 18 and 22 I've matured and grown as a person a lot. Just leave her alone, stop pursuing her.
>>15516362 I don't know if she reads that much. She seems to be more interested in watching stuff from tablet or her smart phone.
>>15516390 Well, I have some clue what sort of music she listens to, and what shows she watches. I also know that she and her sister already got some girly lego sets, which was the main reason I considered getting them some more.
>>15516401 I'm not sure. I think I have seen her making some small crafts stuff etc. This makes me realize how little I actually know of her interests. I should pay more attention to what she does when I am visiting.
>>15516450 >everybody is different some mature faster than others By definition some also mature slower than others. You don't know what she's going to be like in a year and a half. Don't sit around waiting with your life on hold for her because nothing is given.
>>15516441 I just don't like kissing. Kissing my cats on the head, fine. Kissing my family on the cheeks, fine. But kissing a guy on the lips? Actually makes me less attracted to him. I think it's because I usually don't know the guy very well, so I'm not comfortable with him, and I don't feel anything for him like I do my family (kissing = affection).
And I want to get to know a guy without crushing him/making him think I find him repulsive or his kissing technique is off.
Girls, would you react if your virgin friend was dating a guy who used to sleep around a lot? They were good friends before dating, and he's nothing but the sweetest boyfriend to her, but would you think she's settling or that he doesn't deserve her?
>>15516320 I got one once from someone I didn't know and wasn't even in my country. They then asked to be my friend :(((!! please
I denied the request and just didn't respond. >>15516331 In a lot of places it's considered inconsiderate to light up without asking if the other person is ok with it/wants one. I'm allergic to cigarette smoke which ranges from coughing and runny nose, to difficulty breathing normally among just not being pleasant to be around. I wouldn't mind if they went to a different area, but the smell still lingers strongly. As a smoker you probably don't notice it. >>15516357 does she like legos? Get her the normal legos if you do. The "girl" ones suck ass. Get her a barbie set if she wants that sort of thing. >>15516529 I would express concern if he's not had an actual relationship or has a past of cheating/leading people on. I'm not my friend's care keepers, but people don't always see things objectively when they're facing their own situation. Also just because he's sweet now, doesn't mean he actually will be once the honeymoon phase wears off. In my personal experience and from observation, you don't see someone's "true personality" in a relationship until 8 months-1.5 years and after seeing how each settles serious conflicts with each other, and how they communicate.
>>15516099 This is another fetish I am interested in... are you Lt Dan? >>15516337 We know what it is like to be fucked up, and we have empathy for cute guys. Don't waste our time, If you want to stay fucked up then just say so. >>15516347 No >>15516529 Idgaf, be happy
>>15516701 Well, imo, it is a benefit of sexism. So, if you want men to be chivalrous you have to accept some of the other aspects of sexism that are not beneficial. If a random stranger is holding the door for you, please don't freak out on him but if you complain about sexism, please don't expect your bf to pay for everything, open doors all the time, lift everything, etc.
>>15516701 It's nice, just don't insist upon it. Ex: I went on a "date"(wasn't supposed to be a "date" but the other person we were going with suddenly decided not to come hurrr hurr) even if it wasn't for the above scenario, he literally wouldn't let me pay for myself which made me extremely uncomfortable and part of why I never talked to him again. Or like those people who run ahead of you to hold the door even though you're like 20feet away still. If you have to insist so much, you're not being polite or considerate anymore.
The later isn't something worth arguing, but it's definitely a bit annoying and unwarranted.
>>15516698 Don't even begin to even, just no. >>15516701 It's nice in moderation, but independence is valued far more in todays society. It used to be the code trade off for the nuclear family and that was abandoned right after the depression.
>>15516701 Rules of battle? Always follow them bruh
>>15516726 This shit happened to me three fucking times, wanted to pay and literally got knocked out of the way, like wtf dude. Also some guy came over to my house so I held the door for him (because, you know, I need the fucking key, also it's polite) and he stood there for like half a minute until he spaghetti'd out >Uh-uh y-you f-first FUCK OFF PLS
>>15516745 It should be, but some people insist that it's a mens thing since it's still seen as something you absolutely should always do which is annoying. It's like pushing a handicap persons chair when they're perfectly fine and able to do so themselves. Which is the exact thing people bitch about when the topic comes up, but of course it's generalized because that's what happens in arguments. >>15516784 Assuming you had a little sexual tension going in, that's fine.
Why would a girl go cold all of a sudden over the course of one day, when she was the one making the initial push. Is it really just because she felt she wanted to pursue someone else? Trying to understand the logic behind this.
don't even try to understand it. if you try to push it out of her, you'll just make it worse. but don't let her treat you like shit now. if you feel like you can't take it anymore, tell her, but give her some time to think about it all.
American here, chick keeps touching my arm and taking interest in me. I don't know if she has a crush on me because her touching may just be a european thing (she's polish) and I might actually just be an interesting guy.
>>15516832 Nah it's been a couple weeks now. By over one day I meant she started ignoring me and all that stuff instantly, it wasnt a gradual progression. I know enough to move on, I'm just trying to figure out the "why" so I can know if I did something I can avoid.
>>15516835 Yeah well I'd appreciate her telling me what's up. We still have to deal with each other now and then and I don't like the tension.
>>15516780 He did later on turn out to have a few fedoras and it turned out he liked MLP. Explained a lot in retrospect.
>Go out to student association party (we met through said association) >We'd been dating, take him home with me >Lock the door behind him, start seducing >'Uh-uh y-you're home s-safe, I'd b-better go' >Continue smothering me in roses and teddy bears, bitch I just want some
Turns out he 'respected me', he fucked other girls a lot sooner. I actually thought he was either super awkward or just not really into me.
>>15516898 Good question, I'm not sure, it was a few years ago. I think I noticed he liked me and I wanted to see what kind of guy he was and if I liked him too. Dropped him after the above incident though, one bridge too far.
>Meet this guy >Qt3.14 >Received: text from Qt3.14 >Namaste, how are you on this glorious day? I hope you have a fine morning, afternoon, evening, and everything inbetween .*.*. >W-why won't you text me back?
>>15516923 Then I'm legitimately stumped. I don't really get what I could have done to upset her on those two fronts, if just because our topics were pretty neutral. I'll keep that in mind in the future though.
>>15516931 >go out on date last month with a qt I met at a bar >bunch of kids out on the street being loud >mumbles to me "fucking niggers, if I could shoot them I would" under his breath >I'm shocked and stutter some kind of answer >he smiles and says he doesn't much care for niggers, but the only race he really hates are Jews >I'm Jewish >fake a phone call and get out of there >he still texts me at least twice a week asking where I am and what happened to me
Guys who do this, Why do you run up out of nowhere to compliment a girl and then keep going even after they politely say" thank you I'll tell my boyfriend, /I have a boyfriend, have a good day" and then don't leave it or keep trying hard by saying shit like "well tell your boyfriend you're breaking up with him"
nigga, this ain't the club, don't negg.
I've had this happen twice this year, granted one had the obvious provocation of me handing back a pen that fell and saying nothing.
I don't get bothered by the compliment even if it takes me off guard when it comes out of literally nowhere, it's the insisting when I'm trying to be polite but direct that I'm not looking or interested in continuing the direction it's going.
>>15516982 I'm always a cunt about it right off the bat so they don't keep trying, but some cases are resilient, then I just ignore them and keep walking. If that doesn't help I just go back to being a cunt, hoping for the best, and scanning the street for random strangers to stop and talk to so the guy goes away. If there are no people I just keep walking and hope he doesn't get handsy. If that happens, I try to get away/pry myself loose/ignore him as much as possible while firmly saying no and hope some stranger shows up so the guy flees.
Femanons, what does it mean when a girl is really in to you in person? We hang out quire regularly and get on well. She tells me I am always surprising her and I make her laugh. But she blanks me on social media or text when we aren't together. At most it's one word replies or my messages are totally ignored.
We have some history in that we have slept together but she said she only wants to be friends and we share quire a lot of friends as well as working together.
Is she playing a game with me? Am I reading too much in to all this? Or something else?
>>15517011 Relax and really get in to it. Try not to be hung up or nervous about anything. Don't be afraid to get a little messy. Try to be confident and take control of the situatio, don't just let him push your head up and down.
>Meet qt guy who lives in my building >We go to this thing about once a week, that's where we met >He came over for a chat >Ask him on the day of the event if he's going so we can go together >He stops replying
I mean, yeah, he could be annoyed by a stranger contacting him more than he's maybe comfortable with, or maybe he's just really busy and doesn't have time for new people in his life. Regardless, I'm just letting it go, whatever. If he's nice to me in person I'll be nice back, try and be the same about the girl. What else can you realistically do?
to the women, my high school crush who has been engaged for some time messaged me on facebook the other day, she made a status about going to the gym and i commented that i just started getting back into running myself, anyway she contacted me instantly after i wrote that, then she said we should get together and work out, she told me her work schedule and when she is free, and then i went to actually organize a time and she hasnt responded since, is she just playing with me or what?
>>15517183 I doubt it, she is really charismatic and lively to be around, and like all of us is a pretty regular user of messengers etc.
The situation just seems odd to me. For example the last message I sent was continuing something we were talking about in person (a totally platonic subject), yet she doesn't even send any sort of reply. But when I see her in person its all cool and we are friends.
talking to a male friend commenting that her period is late to the guy then him saying if it doesnt come in a week or two to get herself checked out then both comment they dont really want a baby then she says 'it wouldnt be yours anyway' in a sarcastic manner he replies 'seriously?'
what the fuck is going on also this went over my head initally it wasnt until i pasted a portion of our chatlog to another different friend that he picked up on it im not comfortable sharing the exact chatlog, sorry
>>15517291 >Why do so many of you cut yourselves? It's a cry for attention, it's kewl when you're 12, because everyone does it and for the hardcore cutters it relieves emotional pain, because the physical pain overpowers it.
Why do so many of you hate your dads? >Surprisingly, even though I never met my dad and he left my mom when she got preggo at 19 when she had to move to another country, I was never mad at him. I always understood 19yo make bad decisions and it's hard to change that.
>How often do you cry randomly? Often. But I recently noticed men simply act more aggressive instead of crying. Unless something really bad happens it's often simply a certain pressure that will lead a girl to cry and a guy to hit something.
>What's your favorite breed of cat? British short hair and british long hair. I don't care what everyone says about breeding, I love my little pure-bred teddy-bears.
>>15517295 It means being open. If you don't have much confidence then just act like you do, put on an act of what you think a confident person behaves like. Confidence is about having an open posture (arms not sunken in your lap or closed in front of your chest), a friendly expression on your face (smiling, eyes opened in interest), a straight posture. Also, you can show confidence through a light small-talk, not taking every word literally and not over analyzing everything, showing interest in the other person's opinion, much nodding and much laughing.
is it possible for a religious and non-religious person to have an intimate relationship? half of the girls i crush on always seem to be the religious type (church twice a week, not much partying, ect ect) and that's just not me. i feel like im reaching for the type of girls i shouldnt be attracted to.
If a guy you worked with for three years showed no interest in you for the majority of that time, then asked you out because circumstances in both your lives had changed. How would you react? Would you feel initially a little weird about it? My co-worker said 'maybe, just give me a minute' and I'm a little unsure wtf that's supposed to mean, or how to take it.
Is she interest but just confused and unsure about dating a coworker?
>>15517478 I'm good friends with a girl like that and she's awesome, but has turned down several dudes like you. First off, they know you'll want sex, which they can't offer you, and secondly it's just awkward to date someone who dissafrees with you on something so fundamental, you know? My friend hasn't dated all through college because she's not willing to date someone she knows there's no chance of her marrying.
>>15517529 i mean it makes sense. but hear me out im actually genuienly interested in these girl, im not just looking for sex you know? in my group of friends im know as more of the "outgoing" type, yes, but that doesnt mean i value women. but i could understand how such a difference in belief in something such as religion could hinder two people. idk what it is maybe im just super hupocritical but maybe im just attracted to sheltered girls cause ive seen what so many other girls do and that shit is nasty, yet i was/in that crowd.
>>15516357 Google gifts for 10 year old girl, or ask her parents for an idea. Anyone that gets a gift for one of my children always asks me what to get. You could always find out what her favorite store is and get her a gift card, my almost 10 year old son enjoys that.
>>15516701 I enjoy chivalry from time to time, little bit goes a long way.
>>15517091 She sounds interested in hanging out with you, maybe she wants a relationship, maybe she wants a workout buddy.
When people are being kind to you, it's best to take it well. Even if you aren't interested in them, having such a negative view of people who are just being nice says a lot about you as a person. Not directed to you personally of course.
>>15517716 Depends, would you tell her the reason why? I'd understand if a guy said they were abusive or whatever. If he just avoided the topic or left it simply "No never gonna see them" I'd find it weird or suspicious. I can't imagine a serious or lasting relationship if you refuse to bring it up ever.
>>15517716 She'll pester you about it, because "come on, they can't be that bad!", so you better have a really good sob story about abuse or something like that ready. Just not being close to them is not enough reason.
>>15517716 Just chiming in here but you should know that "he won't let you meet his family" is a huge red flag for women. And I don't mean red flag in the "she has dyed hair so she must be a slut" sense, I mean in the sense that it is the mark of men who tell their chick on the side that she's their girlfriend. Normal people who are in love want to share this person with the people they are close to, want to know what they think about them, want to show their loved one such a big part of their childhood and themselves... so not doing that over time rings alarm bells that you're not actually his life partner but just a lay he feels is not worth looking his mother in the face by his side.
So before anything else, if you still insist on this in the situation of being with someone, be elaborate about the reasons why you don't want her to meet them. Being vague, trying to change the topic etc only raises more suspicion. It is still weird but some women would take it no doubt.
The only good excuse to not meet a guy's family and friends is that he lives far away from them all, or that they were abusive. Otherwise he obviously isn't serious about you and you aren't really in a relationship together.
>>15516073 Girls: My GF is a rape victim (2.5-3 years before we got involved) that probably has a natural mood disorder in addition to suffering from trauma related depression. She's going to be going back to therapy soon and getting back on her medications as well.
>Second time we had sex I told her I loved her (stupid stupid stupid, I know) >She told she me felt that way the second time we spent time together in person and that I'm the only guy she's been able to trust.
How do I avoid failing her? I feel like I'm in a position to help her to the extent I can show her that not all men are abusive and manipulative. I also feel like I can provide emotional support in the form of a willing listener since I have experience depression and suicidal thoughts and attempts in the best so I have an inkling of what she might be feeling.
>Be me >No girl ever showed interest to me in high school, no girls showing interest in college >go to lunch to Taco bell at time when high school had lunch >all the qt jailbait girls starting at me longingly
>>15518216 You need to realize that women are not so fucking desperate to get laid we need constant communication with a guy when we're not physically together. We have other shit going on in our lives besides constantly tending to the every inane text message from thirsty faggots such as yourself.
Am I the only one that really wouldnt give a fuck if I met a girl and she was missing a leg/arm?
Like, ok maybe both legs or both arms coz that means shes actually seriously disabled. Which would be hard to deal with, but if I met a nice girl that happened to have one arm/leg, or was in a wheelchair or blind or something. I dont think I'd care at all
But I'm literally talking about a shy chick that's probably never been kissed on this one; I completely never do the "trying to get" part of being laid, but with this chick O'm literally talking about "more than fuck-buddies" type of relationship and I mean, casual conversation while I'm texting and doing something else, instead of the glipses of eye-banging from across the room or the fleetingness aftergaze when we're eating lunch or I invite her to one of my classes.
Guys: I have a fantasy where I'm fucked doggy style and just lie there and take it. I want to tell my boyfriend this, but I'll feel bad because it's essentially telling him to do all the work. What do?
>>15518510 I probe him about fantasies all the time and he doesn't seem to have any. My libido's pretty high and I seem to have a new infatuation every week, this is just the first one that requires zero effort from me and I feel bad.
Problem is that she is consistently depressed and will whine infrequently, hides her tumblr from me, and is terrible at replying to texts. I'll take anywhere from 1m to 45m to reply. She takes hours to reply often because she takes long bathes or naps (supposedly). She has yet to call me first.
I feel like if I didn't reach out to her, she wouldn't communicate with me really.
>>15518518 Nah, I just really like the idea of lying there and thinking about getting fucked. I usually thrust back as good as I get and he really enjoys it, but I like the idea of being powerless and letting him have his way with me.
>>15518519 The point is that when you welcome an open exchange, it's no longer unfair and therefore nothing to feel badly about. You're letting him know that if he's interested in doing this, you'd be equally interested in doing something which requires all the work on your part.
The worst thing you can do in this situation is think that you know better than letting your boyfriend make up his own mind. Give him the choice to say yes or no. Taking that choice away from him is a big middle finger to both his adulthood and his masculinity. Grown men don't need people taking simple decisions away from them to assuage their own consciences.
And yes, since some emotionality is obviously leaking through here, I am speaking from experience. I've always had better relationships with women who respected gender roles.
So I have a question but I don't feel like its big enough to make a thread over it.
I'm currently after this girl that I have a crush on that is in one of my classes (I'm 19) but It's nearly impossible to talk to her since she is always outside of the classroom with her friend and when she enters the classroom she sits in the opposite way of me. The good thing is that she is friends with a friend of my own (both female), so the question is: Should I try to talk to her first or just tell my friend that I like her friend or that I think she's cute and see if she can work something out?
>>15518729 >age 27 >number of partners 1 >if they were LTRs or hookups Internet relationship that ended in a one time thing, and that was it. >aside from "it's fun/feels good," what you "get" out of sex: Anxiety.
>>15518749 Do not ever involve other people in your romantic affairs. That's some underage shit right there. Some of your peers will still do it but that's because they're still at a mental age of 15.
Without discussing your feelings, leverage your friend connections to spend time with her outside of class. Could be some party or group activity or meetup or whatever. Just give yourself a chance to talk. Then, even if it it's public, talk. It's unavoidable that your friends will notice, but that's different than getting them involved.
Girls: so last night i had a two hour long conversation with this girl i like most of her responses were short answers but very rarely she gave me long responses to some stuff i asked her. some of her responses sounded like she was comfortable with the whole conversation, she hasn't said anything today is this is a hint she isnt intrested? was she just being polite? even considering it was for 2 hours, should i just forget about it and move on?
Your boyfriend breaks up with you after a year, saying that for a couple months he just hasn't been enjoying the relationship and he's been feeling like he's forcing it. He still wants to be friends though.
Is it better to try to be friends even though it's weird? Or just gtfo of your life.
>>15518798 reall ythis depends entirely on the temperment of the girl. is she shy? usually super animated? what was her body language like? were there chances for here to escape the conversation? if she could have easily and politly left but didn't, i'd say she was interested, but really if just depends on the type of girl. Just try to engage her again, in a super non committal way and see how it goes
>>15518766 Thanks for the answer, I'm new to this relathionship stuff, I was overweight like a year ago but now Im pretty good looking so I got a confidence boost and all that. I've never had a girlfriend before but im sure if I got the chance to talk to her I would make it happen. The reason I wanted to involve my friend Is because I feel like I need help, guess I'll ask my closest friends.
Hey girls how long should I wait after a break up before making my move. I met this girl who I'm falling for hard and she broke up with her boyfriend because of me and she made it clear. We're getting closer but I hate the fact she's acting like we're in a relationship but we're actually not. We can't function without each other yet I don't think it's appropriate to jump in so early after a break up soon to be two weeks old.
>be me >in my classes >every semester have at least 5-10 girls who make a lot of eye contact with me, come sit next to me or stand close to me, generally try to be in my area >never start a conversation with me
why the fuck don't girls ever take any initiative with me? i'm 95% certain that most of them have had at least some degree of interest, and some of them you could definitely feel the tension?
I was told to treat women like men. Well men take steps toward friendship with me and initiate shit. Idk if i'm like subconsciously rejecting these women because i'm frustrated with society or because it's and easy defense mechanism.
i wish girls could just simplify it though. fucking try to gauge my interest for once, why is it always my job.
>>15519193 >"just treat women like you would a guy" "don't put pussy on a pedestal" etc... This shit is shitty advice and has ruined tons of great opportunities for me. I always thought that acting somewhat uninterested and pretending not to notice how hot a girl is was the way to go, but no, forget that. Giving women compliments and attention and the best way to go. If they don't seem to be responding by starting up conversations and similar, fuck it, you don't stop, just keep going until you're directly rejected.
Men are so scared of being doormats nowadays that they're shitting everything up by acting aloof.
>why is it always my job. You have a penis and you're trying to put it somewhere, that's why.
>>15519305 >Men are so scared of being doormats nowadays that they're shitting everything up by acting aloof. Same problem, different reasoning. Basically I don't want to come off as clingy. Hard for me to know when to back off so I end up playing it safe.
>>15517057 That I like your hips. >>15517478 Someone, in those kinds of relationships, is going to have to compromise to make it work. >>15517716 You'd have to have a good excuse to say that in a monogamous relationship. Mind you half will want to test the waters at least once. >>15518796 If you want to give facials and have babies then yes. >>15518852 Nah, just leave.
What do you do when you have troubles trusting women, because of previous experiences? I'm aware enough to understand this is becoming a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy but not sure where to even really start.
>>15518729 19 2-3 LTRs Still with one, :p Literally nothing, Its basically like doing saratonin except you don't lose the ability to be happy afterwards unless you're in a shit relationship. I find more satsifaction in "love" that in making "love" Like, the means of sex to an end have never been more alternately achievable.
Seriously, an intimate conversation gives me more pleasure than sex.
>>15517414 >But I recently noticed men simply act more aggressive instead of crying. Girls cut themselves with razors, guys cut themselves with walls. It's how we work. It's a physical stress release. I think I'm the only one of my friends that hasn't broken a keyboard in rage. And that's because I don't get angry often.
>>15518729 >age: 22 >number of partners: 1 (2 soon ... maybe) >if they were LTRs or hookups: LTR >what you "get" out of sex: Most the feels good part physically but it was also simply great to make my girlfriend feel good.
>>15518729 >number of partners 0 >if they were LTRs or hookups N/A >aside from "it's fun/feels good," what you "get" out of sex: Mainly the feel good; but I'm sexually anhedonic so I don't get that. Still want sex though. It's a primal urge. Sex (or masturbation) is a way to release the sexual tension we get. Also, in an LTR, it would provide some good fucking bonding. That's what sex is.
If I'm completely getting eye-banged by a female coworker, and it's apparent to everybody, and it even happens like mad when she's talking to her man, should I even ask the question here or should I bone like there's not going to be boning on the next day?
>>15519305 >You have a penis and you're trying to put it somewhere, that's why. but they're obviously attracted to me at least sometimes too. if they want me to put my penis inside them somewhere why don't they just ask instead of sitting back and wishing/waiting around and then when I invariably don't hit on them get passive aggressive and cunty because they feel rejected even though i did nothing
>>15519809 Don't know. But nothing good is going to come out of her knowing, or (gods forbid) me acting on it. Best case scenario, nothing bad happens, but nothing good will happen. So I'm going to wait it out until the feeling goes away.
Girls: If my girlfriend (from asian culture) described her guy friend as having a 4.0 gpa and funny (while I mentioned I do not at some earlier date), isn't it weird, should I be concerned, or did I handle this right? I responded "it does take someone special to do that." The guy friend, me and a couple of her other friends met at a later point time. I conversed with the guy a little and he seems sincere. Guy friend said we should go grab something to eat sometime. I said "yeah sure" (enthusiastically).
there's a girl that I've know for quite awhile, but she's had a boyfriend for a few months. She doesn't like him as much anymore, their relationship is in shambles, and he's verbally abusive, but she refuses to leave him because she doesn't think highly of herself. She has told me before that I make her feel much more special than he does. She wants to leave him, but she's hesitating. Would it be wrong to expedite the process?
I keep ending up being the friendly guy who deals with the issues that my lady friends don't tell anyone else about, not even their boyfriends or other women friends. Don't get me wrong, I'm cool with having women as friends, but I get pushed into this slot even if I try to make a move on the ones I'm interested in, and that bugs me.
Also, it weirds me out sometimes to think about how I'm essentially a surrogate boyfriend when it comes to dealing with their emotions, but I don't think they'd do the same for me. How do I get out of this life when it comes to women I care about in other ways? What do you look for in boyfriends that I don't have?
>>15520067 The outward impression that you will make problems go away, either through distraction or deft resolution. Right now you feed neurosis and obsession, which both drives venting but also feeds on it.
>>15520022 Considering the Totenkopf pretty sure he's talking more about the pol "redpill".
>>15520110 >And in those ten years you didn't learn anything? Not him but I learned very little from my rejections actually, because girls were so obsessed with "letting me down easy" or other nonsense. It was more of a matter of therapy and heavy introspection that I started making progress.
Do you guys normally just look at other dudes while you're with your boyfriend?
Earlier tonight I was just shooting the shit at my local vape shop and this girl who was with her boyfriend kept looking in my direction, from the moment I walked in to the moment I walked out (and everywhere else I moved around the shop). I'm not sure if I should see that as being judged or if it's because I'm (slightly) attractive.
I've noticed that this has happened a couple times over the past few months so it's got me wondering...
>>15520145 It's not "just look" but there are so many reasons to look that it's impossible to know which. Maybe she did think you're attractive. Or maybe she thought you were unattractive, or vaguely familiar, or dressed strangely, or awkward, or had nice hair, or...
>interested in two girls >two girls are friends with each other >A would probably be easier to date (with our personalities), sensible (like me) >B is a bit more attractive, /fit/, colourful, and I think a friend of mine is getting friendzoned hard by her and he's a bro so I don't want fonk with him I'm pretty sure the way this works is you can only pick once; if I pick one and fuck up, then the other will probably be impossible to get. Is that how it works? Also, who would you pick if put in my situation and why?
I met a woman with whom I have good chemistry, but on our first intimate hang out she intimated to me that her mom killed herself, and that she has been a victim of molestation and sexual violence.
I'm sorry. I'm just not equipped to handle this. Should I just let it die on the vine? She hasn't texted or called since yesterday. We haven't been romantic, so I don't necessarily feel compelled to go out of my way to reject her or let her down gently. I'd rather just pretend that we never hung out and bury my head in the sand. As petty and pathetic as that sounds, she just really shook me up.
>>15520158 I mean I spot some people that are pretty hideous or remind me of someone I know but after a couple glances I usually go back to my own business. So from my personal experience, it's got me interested.
>>15520169 Walked into shop and took a seat > started chatting with the guy running that shift > notice that someone at the corner of my vision was looking my way > made eye contact > repeat several times over the course of an hour and a half. So I guess she was the one who looked first.
>>15520193 >I'd rather just pretend that we never hung out and bury my head in the sand. Ignoring someone is the worst way to go. Give her some closure. The way I see it, you can either: 1) Tell her the truth (subtly or outright) 2) Say the break-up is for another reason
>>15520211 We've only ever been friendly, and we're neighbors. She invited me over to hang out after chatting at the pool and we just smoked and chatted. It's not really romantic like I said, and otherwise I've only ever chatted with her for like two minutes or so.
>>15520213 > i've just been so fucking far behind the curve it's been an impossible task to make up the lost experience. Well start today. Getting laid isn't easy, but it's not impossible. >go outside and approach girl >try and get laid if you get rejected >figure out issue >figure out how to fix issue >repeat
>>15519846 The same stuff everyone mentions all the time. Eye contact, sly smiles, staring, touching you or seeming like we want to touch you. That stuff. Laughing at anything you say that's remotsly funny too, that's not nessesarily body language.
>>15516099 I wouldn't shy away from someone due to a physical disability like a missing limb. I probably wouldn't bang a midget or someone who required excessive care (eg an individual who is paralyzed). But a missing limb doesn't affect anything for me.
>>15516320 They are annoying. You should state what you want in your initial message, like "Hey :P How have you been? Just wanted to talk." That's completely fine and understandable. But just a hey is pretty fucking annoying.
>>15516331 Dude, it's 2015. Smoking is gross, unhealthy, expensive, and low class. Everyone knows this and you have no excuse. No one likes it, not just girls. Find someone who also smokes.
>>15516337 I mean, there's always a scale of fucked up. I firmly believe you date "AS IS" and if you can't stand that person as they are, forever, then you should mercifully bow out. But no one is going to be perfect either, so you need to have a range of what is/isn't acceptable.
>>15516357 When I was 10, I liked to rollerblade, ride my bike, etc. However, you can always buy her tickets to an age-appropriate movie or a "together" activity too. A lot of kids at that age like to be treated like "one of the adults."
>>15516701 I test men on chivalry. If they "let" me open doors for them, pay for meals for us, etc, then I'm completely fine with it. If it bothers them, then I purposely annoy them as much as possible because they annoy me and I'm pretty catty.
>>15517011 Never use your teeth unless specifically requested. Just cover them with your lips. Also, use your hand with your mouth and just sort of bob your lips a little bit past the head, with your hand doing a corkscrew motion. As you lift your head up, the bottom of the head is exposed but your hand should be right there to cover it. So the bottom of the head sort of gets double duty with hand/lips. Probably makes no sense, sorry.
>>15520477 You'd be surprised. That sort of look for a man is out of fashion, but more women like it than you may think. The whole beardy lumberjack look coming into style is kind of a homage to it, I think.
Feel like shit about something that GF said which she probably didnt mean, I'm overthinking the fuck out of it and I felt like shit the last couple of days. However, GF is in NY celebrating her birthday and I don't want to ruin her time there but I feel terrible saying everything is ok when I think it's not. Also lack of sleep.
Do I say it now or after NY? We can Skype after she came back from NY, otherwise not and she will probably think about it all the time and I don't want to ruin her time there.
>>15520523 We had a small argument about something. She was supposed to pass an exam so that we could go to Londen with my parents (otherwise resits and stuff). She didn't act like I expected (I thought she was going to say something like yes we can go to Londen now!) but she said something along the lines of 'I'm just sad I didn't get a higher grade' while she was afraid of not passing the exam in the first place. I kind of lost my shit at that and tried to say her that she did a good job nonetheless but it was still bugging me and so I said that. Then she said something along the lines of 'well apparently I can't come to you with these kinds of things' which she probably didnt mean like that over text but that hit me as a brick. I felt angry, not understood and I felt like I didn't do good. Sometimes I'm afraid that my reaction is different for her and that it's not good therefore.
The lack of sleep the last couple of days has not made it better, but since then I just don't feel comfortable anymore, like I'm not myself. I am thinking about everything that I say in order not to piss her off or something like that, and I feel like I cannot say everything because I won't be doing anything good and we have an argument, etc, etc. Sometimes I feel like what I say is never good enough because it's different.
I'm just probably overthinking it a lot. We're in a LDR right now due to me being on Exchange and this week just has been a little rough. I get happy when I know she's having a good time in NY with her friends.
>>15520550 I don't really know what to do but I can't really do anything at this point. I don't know how not to overthink it because I keep thinking of it again. So, yeah. We are always honest towards each other and sometimes there's just a direct attitude in between. I just want to do good, and at this point I feel like I'm just not, which I don't like a lot. It's the worst feeling in the world, feeling worthless.
>>15517291 >Girls. >Why do so many of you cut yourselves? I've never cut myself. I have never known any girl irl who has cut herself.
>Why do so many of you hate your dads? Why are so many men failed parents? Lots of sons hate their dads too. Dads are seldom good parents (mine is an alcoholic)
>How often do you cry randomly? I almost never cry.
>What's your favorite breed of cat/dog? Maine coon/german shepherd
>>15517368 I mean sitting before joining would be weird. If walked by and then was like, "Sorry, but I have blank experience here blah blah," was charismatic and funny and then sat, and also we were all drunk, it'd be fine.
>>15517383 Contrary to popular belief, it's REALLY difficult for most girls to detect a boner in pants unless it's really obvious. Like pretty much it has to be making a tent or we don't notice. But this one time at the swimming pool this old guy in wet grey sweatpants was hollering catcalls at a lifeguard from the diving board and he had a stiffy and that was stiflingly awkward to witness.
Talking to girls on tinder and stuff. Most say "I'm not here for hookups". So if I suggest "hey so what you think of getting some food, binge watching Breaking Bad and then making out?" Almost all day "that sounds perfect! :)"
Or I've seen YouTube videos of where guys can get random girls on the street to start making out with them during a quick random conversation. Shit, I wouldn't be cool with it if some girl just randomly put her mouth on me.
>>15520566 Shockingly, it is not casual to all women. You're probably just hyperaware of it and noticing when girls take it casually. My best guess with the girls that do take it casually is that 1. It is almost consequence free ( no stds, pregnancies) and 2. If they are on tinder they want to hook up, kissing is a great way to test sexual compatibility.
>>15520588 I'm fairly oblivious, so unless someone says "I like you" then I don't really pick up on it. I suppose touching and joking/flirting would be obvious but the latter can be construed as friendly.
>>15520594 That's kinda common with dudes. I dated a guy for a bit that wasn't into making out at all, it was a bummer. I can't really explain what I like about it, but I do enjoy it. I get a tingling buzzing feeling when I press the flat of my toungue against the flat of the other person's. It's exciting to get close like that. And of course, anticipation is most of the fun.
>>15516073 Do women honestly believe that men don't feel bad about their appearance like women do? Or is that just a small group of women who believe that? Because I feel bad about my apperiance and feel that I'm worthless that I'm not attractive, like being short and fat. So, do majority of women believe that men don't equate their self worth by their sexual attractiveness?
I'm in a relationship in the first time for several years and really don't wanna fuck it up, so here goes: How does the relationship between the limits of physical intimacy and time work? Like when is it normal to start dicking down/ feeling each other up etc.? How do you know whether a girl is interested in the above things at that moment? How does one go about formally requesting a dicking-down?
For some context, we're both 20, and all we've done as of yet is make out, watch movies and go bowling. Sorry if I sound like a loser I'm just really nervous about these things 'cause I know she's way better at relationships n stuff than I've ever been :P
I guess us guys worry about it. Like I don't really feel anything when I make out. I can't really tell what's going on. So I make it as brief as possible. I've had girl grab my head once and she like forced her mouth on to mine because I stopped early and was trying to work my way down
>>15520637 To be honest I'm still virgin but she is able to feel down there and I think we will go for it someday, but if you start to love someone, sex is not that important anymore. I think even if we couldnt have sex I would stay with her... Love is awkward.
Everyone: how do you react to someone backstabbing you?
I know I shouldn't care, but these days I get along with everyone and it's been such a long time since someone backstabbed me I forgot the appropriate response.
Back story is that a friend had a BBQ event, invited my boyfriend and I, alongside lots of our friends the hosts met through me. My boyfriend and I informed the hosts we'd be around for a short, but had another event to attend.
Anyway on the night we were there for about two hours, contributed to conversation, thanked the hosts and left.
Apparently the hosts proceeded to spend the rest of the night talking shit about my boyfriend and I for leaving early, and of course my friends told us, and looked down the hosts for doing so.
Is it appropriate to let it slide, but not really put any effort into maintaining friendships with the hosts?
Girls, if you like the profile pic from a guy who you never really talked before, what are your intentions?
I recently started a new class, and this cute girl is on there. I never talked to her outside from one time that she asked me what my project was about. We have a FB group, so I added a bunch of people, including her. I changed my profile picture some days ago, and she liked it. What can you say about it?
Sounds like a stupid question, but I'm doing it because if it's was the other way, it would be 99% the guy wanting to bone the girl.
>>15516073 >part of a gaming group >person ends up playing games with me most of the time or hanging around when im playing with others >tries to sit near to me all the time >always joins me when i step out to smoke >trying to make small talk constantly
wtf is going on and how do i stop them, it's weird as fuck
>>15516377 teetotaler pls go >>15516462 why are you kissing a guy if you dont know him well/are uncomfortable around him?
>>15516982 a lot of women, a LOT are willing to cheat/fuck at the drop of a hat with a qt guy. They are just trying to break through your anti slut defense without realizing a sizable minority of women aren't like that.
It seems ridiculous to you, but their strategy works.
>>15517478 if you're a fedora tipper she'll just not date you seriously, or she'll abandon her faith
>>15518929 If he is a virgin at 25, there is something deeply, deeply wrong with him. I would not have sex with him unless he was 9-10/10 and he compensated me in some way.
As for what I find personally attractive. I like big men with beards who like to smile. We're talking 6'2" or taller, built like a bear. Being fat, even really fat is fine as long as he has the frame to pull it off. A beard I can bury my hands in and smells good. Makes me laugh and isn't afraid to be masculine and tease me.
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