>has broken trust to her but is picking back the pieces for her
>one day talking to a friend asking about my sex life with her
>answered truthfully, tells girlfriend about the story
>becomes whiny and cries and tells me that she's just a "trophy" girl
>i told her that she is not but still believes that she is one
i dunno what to do /adv/, i'm doing very hard to regain her trust for about 3 months now, but she still thinks that she's ugly and says that we will eventually break up. what do? help
Thread needs more info. It's a big fucking difference whether you said how often you have sex on average, or whether you ever tried handcuffing or something, or that you described the way she acts when she cums or something about her intimate stuff she is horribly embarrassed about.
Honestly you sound like a dick. You tried cheating on her (it's no accomplishment of yours she didn't want to fuck), shared intimate info with a friend and after that call her "whiny" when she's upset with you?
If you're serious about salvaging the relationship you're going to have to do more to show her you can be trusted. Shit like giving her passwords or letting her go through your phone, talking more (about personal things), voicing more what you like about her and keeping private things private.
Why do you need to share that with your friends? Your sex life is something that is between the two of you, and it's intimate, personal, private information. You don't share that shit with the world, especially not when you're in a relationship.
So that's more than "just that you make love". Come on. Maybe you can't understand because no one is going to look down upon you for having sex, but to your girlfriend others hearing about how she likes to get nailed from behind is more comparable to her telling her girlfriends that you adore when she fingers your ass. It's one thing with a partner in intimate setting, but taken out of context and possibly heard by someone who doesn't think much of you to begin with it can be taken negatively and humiliating.
Invest less in beating yourself up, which is of no use to either of you, and more in becoming more sensitive towards how you act in a relationship. And one of those things is that you have each other's back, look out for each other. You failed that twice now, once pretty fucking dramatically, you can't reasonably expect that some soothing words are going to convince her that you're an amazing boyfriend. She'd actually be pretty fucking stupid to just swallow some generic "it's all okay babe" line after that. It's time to show through actions that you acknowledge you were in the wrong, that you want to be with her and treat her right.
If you have no clue about that I just don't know where to start. Everyone makes mistakes and has lapses of judgement but the foundation of having a healthy bond with someone is that you by default treat them with respect and care. In case you realize you fucked up, you let that sink in and handle the situation differently in the future. Be someone she can trust, can fall back on if things are shit for her. If there's tension or "the right thing" towards her conflicts with something else you have going on, talk about it and involve her in your thoughts on it, hear what she has to say. That is partnership. You don't have to be a doormat but no sane quality girl is going to want to be with you long term if you cannot provide her love and some pleasant form of company, just like you wouldn't stay with a woman who didn't offer you that, so strike a healthy balance between your different interests. Question yourself about your motives and see if it's a legitimate thing or something dickish you feel is not like the kind of person you want to be. I don't really know how to be more in depth but apparently you're not completely worthless if you managed to get two girls in the first place, it also comes with practice and experience, it comes more naturally in time. If it doesn't come naturally, actively stop to wonder about how you would like to be treated if the situation was reversed.