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>Would you date a virgin?
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>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Also piss off.
What's with women and politics? If me and a guy argue, we're generally over it within the hour. But for some reason all the women I know carry a grudge over that stuff for a week easily.
I dunno man, girl and I got into a heated exchange over who bears the fault for the fucking up of Europe. Then we banged and had Chinese food.
You can associate with cool chicks like that, or with simple chicks who can't even talk about politics. Your mistake is to hang with the girls who are only just smart enough to be stubborn.
If a guy you have class with for a few weeks but never spoke to you in class approached you and asked if you wanted to go out sometime would you be weirded out or indifferent as if it were just any other ol random guy?
Do people still randomly ask girls they don't know out?
I carry grudges over stuff that seems important to me, especially stuff that could potentially effect me very personally. From my perspective, lots of guys genuinely aren't interested in understanding my point of view, even when they're the ones who start the conversation. The second I start disagreeing they want to change the subject... that's just cheap.
inb4 you're not listening to their side of the argument either. Nah, if anyone had a compelling argument against abortion, gay marriage, or whatever it is we're talking about, I'd damn well listen to it, but all I get is the same tired and misguided argument every time.
The point is if girls continuously hold grudges against you for weeks after talking to them about politics, it's possible you're being a real asshole, have subtly sexist views, and/or are unintentionally dismissing their arguments without making them feel like you're really taking it into consideration (something which you may have been socially conditioned not to do to guys as much).
No, she's not destined to have a thing in college because she speeds from class to class like the fucking Roadrunner. You're perfectly capable of having pleasant conversation with people going at a much more reasonable pace.
Sounds like a nice setup. Just seems like a common thread, a friend got to the point she started telling me that my views are "whats killing America". I did my own thing for a bit and chatted her up a few days later, and first thing she does is to try to breach that topic again. It went about as well as the first time.
I'm pretty much done but it hasn't just been her. Either I have horrible taste in women or I'm particularly unlucky.
>The second I start disagreeing they want to change the subject... that's just cheap.
I'm kind of the opposite, I'll let the argument going indefinitely until they blow up at me and walk away. I'm sure I was a blast as a teenager.
>The point is if girls continuously hold grudges against you for weeks after talking to them about politics, it's possible you're being a real asshole, have subtly sexist views, and/or are unintentionally dismissing their arguments without making them feel like you're really taking it into consideration (something which you may have been socially conditioned not to do to guys as much).
Asshole maybe, I'm direct and come off that way at times. If I'm sexist it's news to me.
You have horrible taste, the taste being for "common." Most people are just smart enough to be arrogantly stupid. They can understand a topic only well enough to think their view must be the only right one. Too dumb to realize how dumb that is, though.
Aim higher or lower. There's absolutely zero shame in either.
> If I'm sexist it's news to me.
well, with that attitude you probably are a bit more sexist than average. The key to avoiding being sexist is being aware that sometimes we're all kind of sexist, and being willing to confront that and re-evaluate your actions.
If you let arguments go on indefinitely, it sounds like you're not having a conversation so much as... conversationally toying with them. Like holding a feather just out of a kitten's reach or something. Good debates shouldn't go on indefinitely, because if both sides are listening to the other and responding clearly you should eventually either come to an agreement or a disagreement so fundamental that you each just have to agree to disagree. The fact that you say you let these conversations go on indefinitely lead me to believe that you're really not interested in understanding their point of view when you get into these conversations. I'd get pissed and hold a grudge if I spent two hours trying to explain my point of view to someone and they refused to respond in any meaningful way that moves the conversation forward at all.
If anything, just be like "Hey, I'm really shy and you look too busy for me to strike a conversation with you during class, but I'd like to get to know you. Here's my cell. Maybe we can study together."
Ahah, gave me a giggle. Well you're right; I assume she's one of those girls who just wants to get classes over and fuck off home. Plenty of other girls I see loiter around on campus at a "reasonable pace". I'll try talking to her in class instead.
I like this, even if its astonishingly bold for someone as shy as me. Thanks for the replies.
Oh, you mean we're friends and she gets a boy friend?
Or I like her and find out she has a boyfriend?
1.) If I cared enough, I would have asked her out already. If i was rejected, and still friends, the boy friend wouldn't matter to me.
2.) Not sure what you consider friends... because if I just met you, and don't even know you well enough to know if you have a boyfriend or not, you're not a friend, you're just an acquaintance.
Me, I wouldn't like you 'til I actually knew you (those details included). but if it somehow happened that I was interested in you, and found out you had a boyfriend, I'd move on romantically, but I'd still talk and hangout (I can't say this last bit is true for every guy though)
>well, with that attitude you probably are a bit more sexist than average. The key to avoiding being sexist is being aware that sometimes we're all kind of sexist, and being willing to confront that and re-evaluate your actions.
If we're going to get nit picky, sure I have some minor beliefs. Like women tend to be better with children and babies generally speaking. I just don't think they're anything really worth noting, because they don't make up substantial differences.
>Like holding a feather just out of a kitten's reach or something
If they actively avoid specifics or answering questions, sure. But if you were explaining your point of view as you'd say, I'd probably ask a lot of questions on the specifics and try to flesh out the thought process behind that. Politics tend to be an extension of peoples ethics in my experience after all.
I prefer the general, polling opinions type questions. Those always seem more interesting and more people can answer.
I don't really like the super long, specific, personal dating problems questions.
What seems like a nit pick to you might in reality be some real live sexism. Since you're not constantly being faced with the consequences of sexism, you're also not forced to constantly think about it. It's really easy to dismiss something as "not sexist" when you're in that position.
Since I haven't seen your conversations, there are a lot of things that could be going on here.
Of course it's possible that you happen to have just been unlucky enough to talk politics with a bunch of cranky and easily upset women. In which case, the answer to your question, "what's with women and politics?" is: absolutely nothing. You just ended up talking to some terrible women.
On the other hand, it's also entirely possible that you value women's opinions on politics inherently less subconsciously because we're taught from a very young age that women are illogical and emotional. If this were the case (and if it was, it's something you'd probably have to dig deep to see) you'd probably write off their opinions much more often, causing them to become frustrated with you and hold a grudge.
Based on my personal experience with douchey guys, the fact that you probably haven't talked to a very large or diverse group of women compared to the general population of women in your area, and the fact that you are the only other common factor to these incidents that I know of, it seems a bit more likely to be the second.
That, and... well, asking "what's with women and politics" in the first place does ring of not valuing women's political views, doesn't it? That question in and of itself lumps women together as some hysterical uniform group who collectively have bad opinions and hold it against you. Of course, it's ridiculous to say that you genuinely think that all women are like this, however it does hint that you might deep down have an automatic bias that women are like this until they've shown you otherwise.
For me it's the opposite. I just happen to meet girls and end up talking with them about politics/other topics that people have strong opinions about for hours. I've lost count on the times I go to a party, meet a cool girl and end up talking politics all night. I just somehow seem to attract them whenever I go out. Doesn't even matter if I don't agree with them as it's the reason that makes the conversation interesting. Nothing wrong with agreeing to disagree about something as long as it's not a shit flinging show.
The guys I meet on the other hand often are the type that state their opinions and when you ask them why they think that way they say because that's how it's supposed to be and if I don't agree with them I'm stupid.
The first time it happened I waited it out for about a year, a few months after she broke up I asked her out. She gave me the "oh I just got out of a hard relationship." Saw her soon after with her new boyfriend. She was my first real crush and the only girl I've ever asked out.
The second time it happened I knew it wouldn't work out so I just moved on.
Girls, what do you think of guys who straight-out avoid certain topics? What's a good way to word you don't want to talk about something because it really brings up very bad experiences without sounding like an irritated pansy?
I might or might've not have had a brain surgery.
I guess so, but then he does the whole edging teasing thing saying he cums first (which is pretty hot to me tbh) but it's not even true?
idk sometimes I just want to suck a cock but it seems like he's uncomfortable with it. I'll talk to him about it but I'm trying to gauge how the conversation might go down.
Would you stake your life on the fact that no girls like shy guys? People might stereotypically have certain common preferences. MOST people are social, therefore MOST people also want someone social. That doesn't mean everyone wants one thing, it just means it's harder to find people who want something different.
Im am very hairy, I only shave my hands, feet and neckbeard
Depending on what shirt I wear some chest hair peers out the top
Is body hair on men gross?
Should I shave my chest and stomach?
i was dating this girl in the past. she was awkward, in a cute way, and from a very religious family so i tried to take things slow. went in for the kiss on the 4th date, she panicked. every time after i tried to arrange a 5th date, she'd back out so i figured she wasn't interested in a relationship, and i eventually stopped talking to her
like 5 months later, she starts talking to me again like nothing happened. a week into this reunion, she asked if im still interested in a relationship. i said yes, and got back a long list of why she's no good to date, why she wouldn't be a good gf, why relationships arent fun in the long run, and all that stuff
so, it seems like we want 2 different things. im not sure why she started talking to me again, but to me it seems like separating might be the only decent solution to this problem
/adv/ from girls or guys would be appreciated, tbh
No one knows exactly how much attention they're paying to clothing, a lot of it is subtle. The right clothing can turn a 6 to an 8 and people don't often think "wow that person would look way worse without those clothes!"
If the boyfriend is a friend of mine, then I kiss her and profess my love. This will create some fun drama that will let me trick myself into thinking I live in a TV show, or a world where things matter.
Otherwise I move on, plenty of frogs in the sea.
She asked me if I'm going to the party this weekend, said she wants to see me again. Also said some flirty things. I can't tell if she was just being nice though.
Should I bring condoms with me to the party?
Here's a psa from you all, Unless your condom says it is specifically wallet safe, chaffing inside of the wallet will create little holes in the condom, rendering it a lot less useful. Better to carry it in a small container.
I haven't ridden a bike in a while, but it's probably more or less the same as sitting stationary in a chair.
Sometimes if I angle myself correctly and press myself into the seat, I can feel the bloop pulsing in my clit and it feels good. I do this a lot in class.
I think I've only ever come across one, but it probably comes down to some outstanding genetic compatibility or something
Like I literally can tell when she's been somewhere because I can smell her scent lingering in the air, and it makes me almost slightly light-headed. Her taste was a lot like her scent, intoxicating. Bad or good tasting almost didn't factor in to it, it was more like that part of my brain was just completely over-written.
Good smelling and tasting, not overpowering, a little musty, sweet tasting. Kinda like natural body odor
Bad tasting/smelling just usually mean it's not well cleaned or they don't know how to wipe their ass.
sounds like her emotions towards you and her conservative upbringing/self esteem are conflicting.
Try and get her to be honest about what she wants from the relationship between you two (whether it be romantic or platonic).
It may be she likes you but wants to take the relationship REALLY fuckin' slowly. Her conservative upbringing is telling her that all men are horny devils and you'll ditch her if she doesn't put out quick enough, and her social awkwardness is preventing her from asking you about it. Idk, could be anything. I'm just hypothesizing with the info you provided.
Would greatly appreciate any thoughts on this story. This is a really slow board though, so linking it in this thread as well.
Any insights in what she might be thinking or reassurance are very welcome.
Girls this is for you.
So I moved into this place, it's student accommodation. I never knew my new housemates prior to moving in. 5 people in the house in total, 2 girls and me upstairs, 2 pleb guys downstairs. Most of the housemates moved in late, 1 of the girls (girl 1) moved in early. We hit it off immediately, we chat every chance we get, that kind of thing. So far so good. The other girl (2) is her friend and she moves in. This is mostly concerning Girl 1, since that time she started showing signs of being attracted to me. The usual stuff, full of smiles every time I see her, calling out my name, exagerated hellos and good byes, terms of endearment; playing with her hair, touching her lips, open body language etc etc. I've invited her out in group settings with others and she has always found the time to do so. There is no doubt in my mind she either likes me in romantic way, or sub consciously finds me attractive enough that her body just gives away these tells. I'd consider myself a 8/10 maybe more depending on who you ask, she is a definite 9/10. Because of all this I developed a crush on her, not sure if is obvious to her or not.
The problem I face is this, we live together and will do for the next 9 months or so. I would definitely go for her in a heart beat, but if I was wrong about us then everything can and will go wrong. It would make things very unpleasant for the both of us.
So I'm at a impasse, I'm at the point where I either deal with the crush and make a move or I continue on crushing and brooding over it till it consumes me. Every day is a brand new tell that she likes me, and I honestly have no idea what to do.
Do I tell her I have a crush on her? Do I ask her friend for advice? I cannot carry on like this, as it's driven me to smoking heavily (an old coping mechanism) which isn't good for me considering my lung condition. It either needs closure or opening of something more.
Your advice girls?
Don't worry about body language too much, especially if it's subtle. When a girl looks away it can simply mean too many things, most likely she's just shy.
If you're talking and she's looking really deep into your eyes it would mean more, but overthinking body language doesn't get you anywhere. Talk to her.
I'm not a grill, but trust me I'm right on this.
Only if you don't have a good backup plan for when things don't work out the way you hope.
Like you either need to be able to get back at will, or have enough money for accommodation, food, and another way to make your trip into a fun time.
If you were a Korean girl living in America and spoke no English, would you want to have a fling with an English only speaking American guy? Or just breed with your own imports?
I ask because I work in a place with a ton of Korean cuties who only know how to say "Goood murneng :3". Some of them look like they could be K-pop idols. Fuck.
Just a friendly notice to men concerned about your size.
Buy a dildo similar to your size and try and get yourself off.
Why are no girls asking question here?
I'm a guy and I want to help back.
Or is it possible that [spoiler]all girls here are just [spoiler]guys pretending to be girls[/spoiler][/spoiler]?
[spoiler]Pls don't be true[/spoiler]
I know it does.
How many times did you get off?
I got off 10 times, and 2 times the regular way.
Sorry, haven't posted on /adv/ in a while.
Anyway, on topic.
>Did I do the right thing in cutting my losses? Or could we have still been friends?
Are you going to meet each other again later in life? Like 4 to 7 years later. If so, then no. You could've built a friendly relationship(Just friends, mind you) so that you can help each other out in future troubles.
Otherwise, cutting your ties with her would work best since it avoids awkward situations in the future in which you accidentally meet again. Just forget about her existence for now if you cut your losses.
Hooking up with a girl who doesn't understand a word you say is a pretty big feat, anon.
I'd research some basic Korean (from what I've seen it's not too hard) and try and get to know them. You'll impress them with your sexy intellectual bilingual charm, and "You teach me Korean, I'll teach you English" is a pretty good conversation starter. If it works out, you've got that k-pop pussy you so desire AND potentially learned a second language.
I keep hearing from girls that women hate dominant, strong men.
However all I see and hear indicates otherwise. All my female friends drool over whatever fitness model they see on TV/Commercials. There is a lumberjack looking dude that works construction near our campus and the man is jacked like a hammer and he has banged at least 3 of my friends. The same ones that say women hate strong men.
On TV, the confident, dominant strong actors are the most pussy magnet guys. Even when I watched Mad Max with a somewhat feminist friend she was all over Max because "he was wild and a badguy"
So what the hell is up with that? I never complain about this shit like those dudes that keep ranting about "friendzone", I just wanna know why girls are so contradictory.
This expands into other subjects besides their taste in men (chocolate for instance)
What's up with that?
Questions for you, femanons.
Is it true that most of you have height requirements to date someone?
Everywhere I fucking go, I see girls willing to date only really tall people while immediately trashing all others.
Is it me just cheery picking?
May I make a friendly addendum to this?
I'm a male. I measure 21cm/8 inches. Pretty thick too.
For y'all that are worried about your size. Don't. Having a dick is big is SERIOUSLY an issue. I was never able to 100% penetrate a woman without causing her pain. I don't get pleasure from blowjobs, and women have a hard time giving me even HJ's. And the most humiliting thing that can happen to you, and this happened to me, is your lady giving up on you because it's too big.
Underwear your size will feel tight no matter what. You'll get chafing if you try to freeball, and besides, that shit will be visible on nearly every clothing you wear. Think it's awesome? It's embarasing.
Also if I did what >>16322507 said
> Buy a dildo similar to your size and try and get yourself off.
I'd rip my own rectum. So I can't even do that test.
Just learn to use your thing y'all. Don't wish for more size where technique will do.
Be thankfull for what you have.
theres something you all need to learn
and women, search your souls and back me up on this.
Women's subconscious and conscious desires Completely conflict.
mens conscious and subconscious desires line up.
Never ask a woman for advice in romance.
women subconsciously HATE a man who tells them they love them constantly, buys them shit, is always around when they need them.
even aren't consistent nor clear on physical attraction.
men are completely physical in attraction and stubborn in what they want
I don't back you up on that. The subconscious and conscious line up just fine. The conflict is in social expectations, how it's inappropriate to voice wants and needs.
When you ask for advice, what you're getting told is what you're supposed to hear. It's rarely the truth.
Girls, if I ask you out and you agree but the next day ask who else is coming, how should I take that? We meet in a group setting normally so I'm thinking that might explain it but I'm still being paranoid about it.
gonna have to call bull shit.
"women want a guy who will build her up and tell her how much he loves her every day"
"be super romantic, buy flowers, open the door, always text first, tell her shes beautiful every day"
"my friend is really pretty"
"that guy is so hot"
these are all incredibly inaccurate
Girls are not a hivemind.
No, not really. I'm short, so I prefer shorter guys. It is pretty inconvenient to go out with guys that are 6 foot or taller.
Then you didn't ask her on a date.
>I keep hearing from girls that women hate dominant, strong men.
This is a typical pleasant lie women tell weak men to preserve the sense of false hope and lead them on.
It's the same as the whole "nice guys" vs "chads" meme.
Girls like back up plans and it's good to have few beta providers around in case you can't find anyone better, in the meantime they can be good company to unravel emotional stress to and get you gift.
The fact that you can list them comes from those being social lessons. You're proving the point. Those are the things that are supposed to be said, even when they aren't true. It's not about the actual subconscious or conscious desires. It's about being told what to say, which is why it's always the exact same trite lines.
Girls, what's the best thing a guy could do for you if you were pretty ill to the point you're bedridden? You've only gone on a few dates, but the two of you are still continuously texting.
I kind of want to cheer her up, but I have no idea how. A fruit basket seems too corny and at this stage probably creepy too.
She's trying to figure out if it's a date. Group settings do that.
This a phone call would be super nice.
Where does she live? Parents, roommates, alone? Bring her some fucking soup. If it's any but parents. Don't try to hook up. And def gauge interest. Don't just show up. She might not want you seeing her all gross.
The smaller a girls tits are, the more perverted she is. True or false?
>However all I see and hear indicates otherwise.
Trust what you see. People are terrible at evaluating themselves, this isn't specific to women or dating, people just don't understand themselves the same way they do everyone else because they're inside looking out instead of the other way around.
"I want a nice guy" is exactly is reliable as "I'm a nice guy."
So yeah, pay attention to what people do, not what they say about themselves.
Correlation doesn't imply causation, big boobs means more likely to be fat which means more likely to be into whatever fucked up shit that will give you attention from neckbeards.
>>Would you date a virgin?
>As long as they aren't insecure about it
So does that mean being a virgin is just a never ending cycle of not getting a girlfriend because you are a virgin and not losing your virginity because you don't have a girlfriend? Because that's what it sounds like.
That means that nobody gives a shit that you┬┤re a virgin unless you spent every single moment of the day going
>BOOHOO I AM A VIRGIN YOU DON'T WANT ME YOU'RE LYING
Nobody gives a shit that you're a virgin as long as you don't flaunt it
And your post sounds like you're just baiting pity replies, so here. Have one.
That only changes his whining from
>BOOHOO NOBODY WANTS ME
>BOOHOO ONLY A PROSTITUTE WANTED ME
and we'll still never hear the end of it
No real connection in my experience. I used to see a girl with E cups, and made me seem vanilla. On the flipside I remember another busty friend whos idea of a fetish practically boiled down to holding hands in missionary. Similar story with some of my less endowed friends.
>So does that mean being a virgin is just a never ending cycle of not getting a girlfriend because you are a virgin and not losing your virginity because you don't have a girlfriend? Because that's what it sounds like.
It sounds like you're an idiot. If you're constantly freaking out about some trait of yourself, its going to get in the way. This applies to virginity, being short, or any other trait you can really think of. You're generally the one who cares the most about this crap.
>used to sit inside and play vidya all day
>tried going after more shut-in girls who were into anime and stuff
>didn't really work out
>lose weight, get /fit/, stop playing vidya and spend my time doing mostly physical and outdoor activities
>become physically attractive, girls notice me a lot more
>try going after an aforementioned girl into anime and stuff
>goes for some shut-in nerd instead of me
Femanons, if your guy told you that you didn't have to shave anymore since he liked body hair (legs, arms, armpits, crotch), would you think of that as strange or wrong? If you agreed to his request, how far would you go?
I'd be a little bit sad honestly, because I like the look and feeling of being smooth more and I'd rather my efforts also make him appreciative and happy.
But maybe I'd grow to like not worrying about hair. And I wouldn't think it's weird.
I'd grow out whatever wouldn't be seen in public.
No, but make sure you test the water first.
Don't just up and move on a whim when you have never seen her in real life at all.
Averting eye contact is generally something you do when you (a) don't want the other person noticing your gaze, or (b) that they want to avoid a conversation. B is probably the most likely case.
I guess everyone has their thing, even though I find it a bit strange. I like feeling smooth, but I hate shaving. If it wasn't summer, I'd leave everything except armpits. But in summer, everything goes.
Can a guy and a girl be just friends?
A girl has been getting lunch, and wants to go out drinking sometime, all without her boyfriend around, and I feel like going out drinking is just asking for trouble.
I feel conflicted about it because accepting the offer seems would follow the typical advice of getting out more and out of my comfort zone.
Yo, what's this? Had a fight with a guy, messaged him casually some time later and he replied but ignored my next message (as didn't reply and marked as unread) but now he sends me snapchats. So he wanna talk with me or not?
Sometimes. It depends on the individual though. I think if the guy is feeling particularly lonely and is going out of his way to find a woman, it's going to spell trouble.
As far as this girl goes though, it screams sketchy to me. If you take her up on her offer, I'd put up some good distance until you know her better.
Sounds like he's trying to pass over the argument because he felt it wasnt a big deal. I behave somewhat similar, because I rarely get emotionally invested unless it's over something that matters.
Okay,so this situation is quite...weird.
I have a female friend who is in a city not far from me,met her online a year ago,and since then we have chatted a loooot,commonly joking about being 'soulmates' 'practically the same' 'i feel like i know you my whole life' but indirectly stating that it isnt romantically related
She didnt put me in the 'friendzone' because i honestly never made a move, but I feel like there is something between us deeper than friendship.
She's coming to my town this month so we can hang out in person.
Im afraid if I make a move and destroy our friendship, and im also afraid that maybe she has feelings for me and we both end up like idiots
Whatever you want, honestly. You can't make it into a rational decision, there's no right or wrong option. You either go for it, because you're more interested in her romantically then as her friend, or stay her friend because you're more interested in her as a friend then romantically.
Just be pure of heart and do whatever you want to do more, assume she'll say yes when making your decision, since you can't base your decisions around threat. If you ask her out and she's not interested, so be it, but you're not living a lie, etc.
I'm not really sure what the common expectations are. As it is I'm in my 2nd year of college, age 23, and I still live with my parents. Between the lack of my own place and the late start, I'm wondering if it's a big deal for the average woman or not.
Can people who once viewed each other romantically really ever be just friends if the rejection wasn't mutual?
Every time I've been rejected, and they want to stay friends, I always wind up salty when they move on to the next romance.
And it never helps that the rejection comes with comments like 'you're so awesome, but I'm just not looking for a relationship right now'. Then like weeks later, bam, they're in a relationship
I don't think so. My ex wanted to stay friends, and I tried, but it just hurt too much. I ended up giving up and quit talking to her. I haven't felt this good in a long time.
I guess I have a question for you all. My ex is with a new bf and I'm still single. II have been indifferent about her and do not by any means want to see her again, but now I think about her sometimes. I know it will go away with time, but its because I'm kinda jealous right? I'm just feeling this way since I'm still alone?
Depends. If they're suited to your face, they could enhance your attractiveness. If they're not, it doesn't really matter to me. I wouldn't decide against dating someone because they wear glasses.
Honestly I'm not surprised you live with your parents at 23. Most college kids do, if they're not dishing out $ for on campus housing. I think you're being too hard on yourself, as I wouldn't expect a guy in your situation to have everything figured out and be on your own already. I also don't think you should worry so much about the age gap between you and your female peers as long as a connection is able to be made.
Absolutely. However, they are not always super sensitive... but when they are, I love them being played with. When they aren't, it doesn't really feel like anything. Might have something to do with arousal level or something idk
Don't bite too hard. Sucking/tongue stuff is the best, imo.
Some girls might be into it. Others won't be. I like having my boyfriend wear my panties occasionally, but if he had his own and wore them normally, it would probably be a turnoff for me.
There's a girl I think is adorable. We talked while exploring campus the first week of campus, with a friend of mine and a friend of hers. At the end, I mentioned I made mixed drinks. Since then, I've only bumped into her a few times on our co-ed dorm floor, smiled and said hi. (once bumped into her in the bathroom after I pooped, so I thought any chance I had was gone).
Today, bumped into her again and she said she was still waiting on her drink; told her I'd have to make it in her room (because of the rules regarding drinking on campus), she said ok, she'd let me know when, and right as I was walking away she asked for my number and said she never sees me.
Does she just want the drink or is she interested in me?
This rarely happens so I'm oblivious but was really happy.
He doesn't want you unsatisfied. Readjust your sessions to make sure you finish first or with him. Good lad, btw
If you legit want to get him off without getting off yourself, you need to have a talk, as that is out of the realm of what is normal.
Keep yourself clean and have a good diet/healthy lifestyle. That's all there is to it. If she has a bad diet/lifestyle, it tastes acrid; if it's good, she tastes sort of alkaline and like stronger version of her BO. Examine how you smell.
I sort of have to do that because I live in California
I've done it, but it's not my standard protocol.
You're asking for trouble, m8
He wants to keep talking to you, but he wants to ignore the argument.
Yep. And the general taboo of it. It's also hot as fuck to see the tiny panties not be able to contain his massive cock. I like watching him cum through the fabric, or masturbate with them/while smelling them.
I do the same with his boxers.
I guess so? I don't especially like it, but I don't hate it either
If they suit you, then more attractive. And I promise you that there will be a pair out there that suit you
Not at all a problem if you're studying. I think it's stupid to move out just for the sake of moving out while you're studying
Weird. I'd keep doing it, I don't do it for him, I like my skin smooth
It means that if you're asking that question, then yes, you're stuck in a cycle of not getting laid.
Where in the world did that come from?
My height requirement is: at least two inches taller than me. That's not unreasonable or unrealistic considering I'm 5'0"
I don't hate them. I'm not particularly attracted to them over other types either. I'm not sure where you're hearing this sort of thing and what women you're talking to
Sure there is, if you're okay with her rejecting you
I don't know why you'd do that
I care if they're clean, fit well, and aren't hideous
Guys, why would you still remain friends with your ex on Facebook if you had no intention of interacting with her ever? To the point where you don't even 'like' her happy birthday post on your timeline? You know she still has feelings for you and wants you back, but you don't acknowledge her presence, online or off.
(I'm not either of the people in that relationship, nor am I interested in either of the people, I just want to know why he'd stay friends with her if he didn't want anything to do with her anymore)
They had a bitter break up that was a long time coming, and she's pregnant with another guy's kid now. They have a lot of mutual friends (they were coworkers at one point). He really doesn't want to have anything to do with her anymore, he's ignored her when he's run into her
in that case we didn't remove her so she can see how awesome i'm doing and we just couldn't care any fucking less about the happy birthday.
or we just don't give a shit about facebook nor with the dumbass friendlist
Asked out a girl on a date and she said yes. I tried contacting her the next day. Didn't get any reply. Tried again a few days later with the same result.
Am I right to assume she lost interest?
I don't understand how girls think so can you femanons help me understand my ex
>ex cheats on me, says relationships are bullshit and becomes massive whore
>6 months later she's still whoring but I started talking to her again (I'm tired of hate so I just wanted to clear things up and not be enemies, but not friends either)
>she says she is suicidal and feels really lonely and needs a close friend (she's slept with well over 50 different guys in those 6 months) yet still thinks all relationships are bullshit and are never good for anyone
Wouldn't a relationship be exactly what she needs? Like I don't understand her logic at all
Her dad lives and works abroad in Saudi for like 11 months a year, reckon this could be a contributing factor?
not a girl but I used to play airsoft during the week end, subsequently I used to keep my guns at home, girls found my hobby unusual but not weird, I just told them that I do it because it's fun and I like it, it has never been a turn off for them, although I never bragged about it just like I would never brag about the fact that I like videogames.
Just use legacy captchas.
Abort mission mate. Not only are you being used but also actively taking shit on top of yourself but even worse you will waste time which you could have spend finding a good girlfriend instead.
Just make it clear you don't want to associate yourself with her.
Oh I forgot to mention she owed me over 500 quid since we were together but since I started talking to her after those 6 months she started paying it back, 50 a week, our mutual friends confirm she's poor as fuck still a long time though, also yeah I 100% was used before but not anymore, we are just briefly talking on facebook
Ah yeah that's the plan, I told her that I could have been a close friend if she didn't cheat on me, even if we broke up, but that she wronged me too much for us to ever be friends again, she's never welcome in my house anyone, my housemates hate her more than I do
>She slept with 50 guys in 6 months
30 days a month have * 6 months = 180 total days / 50 guys she fucked = 3.6 days between each different guy.
are you serious? go kill that with fire, she's got aids already.
>go find source on aids/hiv and std ratio in your country and have fun with statistics.
enjoy your week.
Same anon posting.
>now that Ive read more
Why dont you kill ALL the odds of running into a prostitute by simply taking a young girl? (like 18-22 max) are you even THAT old that girls aged 18-22 reject you on sight by walking to the opposite sidewalk?
I'm enjoying myself using bitches but when I get tired I sure know what are my master plans. just lower the odds so you know you have higher change of having a decent future lady, dont be stupid to hit on a slut by mistake.
Doom doesn't always ask for advice, but when he does he gets ignored.
girls cant give you advice on this so I will.
you have more to gain than to lose here.
stop making excuses and make a move instead.
she might just be flirty tho but I guess you are about to find out!
Just like said >>16325824 make a move and ask her out. As long as you don't do it in a creepy way and don't start doing creepy shit if she says no it's gonna be fine. You've got nothing to lose.
So I asked out a classmate to come to a show with me tonight with some other classmates. She said yes and asked for my number. We aren't really close, but since the start of the semester she decided to sit next to me and we've slowly started to become closer to each other. I was told to not make any advances because she has a "boyfriend", but she has never once brought him up in conversation with me. I'm not sure what to do, I've definitely developed a crush for her. I treat her differently compared to the other women in our classes, I'm a flirt but I just can't with her, she makes me nervous haha. I can tell that she also treats me differently compared to other guys, she sometimes gives a cold shoulder to people, but she has never once to me. Should I assume she doesn't have a boyfriend and make a move on her anyways tonight? Or just go with whatever happens.
I am well aware that that's a different guy every few days, my friends quoted a different guy every single day, and she also became a prostitute so there's that, and she's 21 so within 18-22, I'm also 21
then find another one.
I have found thousands of 18-22 year old prostitutes (not to mention that I worked in that industry) but keep searching. the younger they are the less chances for sluttiness. (know this for experience)
would love to show off my long list of prostitutes (which I photographed myself)
and at the age of 25 they are very likely to be a whore.
there are barely any prostitutes aged 18-22 when compared to the 25-30 range which looks massive in comparison.
(spanish man here, maybe your culture is different)
whats your opinions on facesitting your bf making him eat your pussy & ass?
i really enjoy it but my gf is always so insecure about it even tho she likes it.
this kills the mood so often.
any ideas on how to make her feel more comfy and maybe even go for it herself?
>nice smelling/tasting vagina?
cant describe that one. everyone is different
>a bad one?
it stinks. if you are insecure put a finger in, smell and lick it. if ist gross wash yourself and visit a doctor if this does not help. also maybe check your diet
Sorry I have very little social experience but I've gotta ask this.
If a girl is on her phone all the time whenever she's with me does that mean she's bored and she wants me to talk more or that she wants to be left alone? Context is : we know each other vaguely, we were in the same class before.
Thing is they used some of those photographs for self publizicing themselves in the net you know. (some are in my own webpage)
If i had to upload i would have to blur their faces and then search for reverse lookup and see if there are matches.
dont want to get fucked up lol
If her attention is not on you then it's pretty likely she is bored of your company. It really depends on the setting, if you are having a date then it's a big sign she is bored with you or the event. If it's casually in a group setting or class it means either she'd rather look at her phone than you or she is just simply checking messages.
Doom thanks your service to Latveria, advice from other sources suggest the same thing so a consensus is reached. I will talk to her.
Ok anon, im doing the work.
pay attention in the next 30 mins. im blurring faces.
(you know out of the 30+ photographs they use like 10 maximum)
>blurring faces, reverse image search, removing exif.
seeing the pics and im getting my dick hard with this milf, holy fuck. its been 3 years since I photograped this one.
and-> http://prntscr.com/8p34nb. im thinking of just dumping better, and fuck my life if anything happens
here is 1 my friend. she was from serbia i think cant remember.
she doesn't look good, but i do ugly moms too and make them regret, np with that lol.
I have too many, I will just do a couple from each and thats it. my laptop is dying
her cellulite legs give me instant boners. I see a mother with these type of legs and my balls go up and down trying to make my dick explode lol
I ll just gonna show how much of them I have in thumbnails and request.
I think thats a better idea, how ever I hope if you find any in reverse image search dont let them know lol
Holy fuck, even found one who today as far as I know she's been 6 years in. Shes russian. not gonna risk it with the thumbnails, i will reverse search or nothing on these ones (will post the ones you cant find, because I had seen her in one page recently) and then stop it. I have too many and this laptop is a pain. transfering the pics from my comp to here to edit with photoshop is a pain in the ass.
>tip i learned all these years: women want to be treated like objects (barbie, princess, queen, doll, etc) sex is a product or a commodity (what ever name you want to label sex with)
>you treat your phone with love? its an object and you dont use your feelings on it do you? why would you do that to a person who wants to be an object? treat objects like they want to be treated and treat people as long as they want to be treated as people. with feelings and empathy to understand them.
if they are sluts and want to be treated (used) like an object, the answer is simple: dont waste your time with that person.
>behave like an object be treated like an object. they are expendable, so why wouldnt women or men who give themselves to others to be used for in exchange of currency or for their own satisfaction for being used (which is most girls like)
will post some thumbnails soon.
To me it kinda seems petty to defriend. Even after a bad break up.
I just let them do it, some won't because they want to stalk you're new SO.
I've never even looked at an exs profile, nonetheless like or comment on their stuff after a break up. But that's just me.
Sounds like she, said yes instead of just turning you down because she knew she could just ignore you. Sorry anon, some people are just pathetic shits.
She's actually crazy, not "bitches be cray." Like this girl need help. Abort.
There's no way she's going to be happy with anything or anyone. Until she gets help, distance yourself from that ho.
Just go with what happens. Personally, I wouldn't make a move unless she's obvious about it. I never want to be a cheatee. Wait for a break up.
Or if you're ok with hooking up with a nonsingle person, make a move. It's more about what you're ok with.
Not a girl, but same situation.
She loves it, just is self-conscious. I just wait until she's in the dominant mood vs. me being the aggressive one.
Or work her up a lot and say that's the only way she's gonna get more, turns them on more. In my experience.
Probably bored. The thing is so many people are rude faggots with their phones nowadays, you can't really know. Personally, acting like that would cause me to lose interest. If she's rude and inconsiderate like that, you can bet it's in other aspects of her personality. Drop.
Unless something changed, and I seriously doubt it has, you can see a decent amount of it.
How would you feel if your girlfriend of two and a half years started calling your mother 'the mother-in-law'? I'm super close to my boyfriend's mother and I've let it slip a few times for the sake of convenience. Does it look sinister or even passive aggressive hinting for marriage?
ok thanks. anyways not that I care much for the exif.
nor for the face of this one (cant remember who this was)
but there are some pics that fuck I just cant post them they are in the inet here in spain
seriously. how old are you? even if you are 18 you should know girls play it that way. thats a way to call for attention, playing it hard to get etc.
I'd like it if its after 2+ years :) to me it shows how serious you are about the relationship. 2 years is enough to know each other like 50% atleast and to have that type of confidence to call his mother "mother-in-law" (and if he ever reacts, tell him you asked some guys about it first and they said it was cool, and you asked because you care about the relationship and thats how you feel about it and thats why you want to call your future mother in law that way)
(if its earlier than 2+ looks like you are some sort of gold digger, trying it hard for take something from him, marriage or w.e)
my wifi net, sessions expired etc this is a pain.
be patient. most people deliberately wait longer so they dont seem too desperate.
that's why I said dont be clingy. even if they are interested, it's still a game. text too soon, and the other person thinks you are desperate/clingy. so they wait.
I mean, if you clicked, theres no reason to assume there is no interest.
btwanother thing I learned taking photographs: some sluts play it like "my husband left for work" in their ad, with wedding rings.
Most of these are not married or will ever be. they are very easy to spot for any man with experience. (I had asked some said they actually had a husband, but it was a lie that I later found out, like how unexpected from a prostitute huh? all prostitutes lie, lol)
woah, I dont understand guys like you then. I like lovely girls. what do you like careless cold hearted girls? seriously, no wonder why you broke up.
If a girl starts to show consideration to her bf's family after 2 years, thats fucking awesome(considering the vast amount of soulless sluts out there are that dont give a fuck about you or your mother... get real dude that chick is above who posted is nice)
tip from a man with experience with women:
some will say its wrong, but do it anyway, and if they tell you to stop touching her ass, persevere (with smile and fun/happy ways, dont take it too serious, show a face that you dont care of what she said, dont frown, she is testing your attitude and how much of a pussy you are), dont let them MASTER you. they will do anything with you later after every single and each time that you allow the girl to master you. (and you will end up in break up)
girls love to be teached, they want masters. if you are not a master, after she is done with the exam she will evaluate it and leave if you didnt get A+ (they all want A+, if they know they can get an A+ they will go for it, they wont settle for less, so dont be dominated and let her give you an evaulation of a B-eta)
Cultural differences, I concur.
I live in spain and public affection is ok. I know in russia per example people dont show how happy they are in public and they all look like they are frowning in public regardless of how happy they are.
soo I wanna clear something out, Girls in any part of cali or nyc/chicago:
If I grab your ass, or kiss at a traffic light waiting for it to go green for us to cross the road, is it bad?
I'll leave it here if that anon want some of these thumbnails, you tell me.
pic: destroyed this bitch few times for 0тВм while getting paid for the photo session.
>the perks of a photographer of living in a country where prostitution is not prosecuted. you dont hunt, the prey comes to you LOL
>we text very seldom, only to set up dates
And you expect her to set up the next one the second she wakes up in the morning?
Have you texted her about the date this morning?
I've never heard of it being standard for a woman to text exactly the morning after. But I've often seen issues where neither person texts because they assume the other person not texting first means they don't care.
so this girl in college has been eyeing me now and then, i've never talked to her, and she doesn't go in my class or even program, she reads psychology, and i read medicine, but i want her, i really do, i know my thoughts aren't rational, but she really makes me feel like my heart's 200 pounds heavier
what should i do?
Are you dating them? Then I'd be uncomfortable with ass grabbing, but a kiss would be fine.
If you're a stranger and haven't even talked to them, that could go very badly. In general it'd be looked down on, but it'd be pretty offensive if she had a boyfriend/husband.
Talk to her. Don't go with the over-the-top stuff about really wanting her, when you obviously don't know much about her.
"Hey I've seen you around college, and wanted to get to know you"
Are you interested in psychology at all or was that just to compare your different interests?
I'm sort of into this guy (he likes me) and he keeps fluctuating between being normal and being incredibly weird.
He's pretty nerdy, which, seeing as /tg/ is one of my main boards, I have no issue with. But then suddenly he'll drop a comment that just seems odd, like how the special editions of Star Wars made him cry because he felt so sad for all the people that worked on the original version. Things like that. Or he can get into in-depth discussions about Spongebob and idk. Is it going to be like pic related if we got together?
He keeps spaghetti-dropping fairly hard, too. Is that like a passing phase until you get to know a person or would he be like that always?
i'm interested in psychology actually, but i rarely see her anymore because of different schedules, there's gonna be a large dinner/party for the med students next week, and i do hope she's there,since it's one of the biggest parties of the semester, i think that's my chance
Great, then you can add that in.
"I've seen you around and know you're in psychology. I haven't taken it yet (I think from your post?) but I might at some point/but I am interested in it. You seem like a neat person to get to know"
Only reason I asked if you were actually interested in it was because it's a bad icebreaker if you don't really care, and I wouldn't want to recommend it.
the thumbnail i said >>16326274
if your resolution is low you ll have to zoom in anon. even some of those i still bet they are reverse image searchable but meh.
I live in spain and I'm not dating any girl from the USA but I plan to.
Need to learn the cultural differences. As I feel more to be an USA citizen than spanish
(for my mindset, the way of thinking overall it matches with the USA more than the spanish i feel, except now seems for the little I didn't know for showing affection in public is what I'm missing)
I thought it would more or less be ok to just have placed my hand on your back pocket.
>what about my future US gf sitting on of me, would that be "gross"? do girls there sit on top of their bf or husband (some times, not always ofc lol, chairs exist for a reason. and probably somewhere not too crowded) do you see girls sitting on top of their bf lap/legs on some chair at the bar etc?
also now that im here any advice for photographers there? how easy it is for softcore pics of girls? been taking naked pics of girls and teach them how to pose etc.im experienced with 10+ years, will it be easy to find a work?
For me personally, not at all okay. I have a boyfriend, so that kind of attention would be completely unwelcome. I've never seen people who aren't in a relationship put their hand on a random person's pocket. Best case, the person will feel awkward and walk away quickly, worse case you get slapped and/or yelled at. If it's night time, there's also those extreme people who might pepper spray you thinking you have malicious intentions.
Sitting on your partners lap is okay, but some people are very against any sort of public displays of affection. It's not "wrong" but people have different standards on what is appropriate in public. Some people don't even like kissing. Pay attention to setting and ask your future girlfriend how she feels about PDA's.
ok you misunderstood. i suppose because my english grammar is worse than poor.
I mean placing my hand on my (future) gf's butt. not like spanking her butt etc in public and be a douche. just as we walk you know.
not to an stranger. lol. that doesnt happen anywhere i guess? lol
I mean a girl sitting on her bf's lap, should I be expecting that to happen? (maybe when we are comfortable at the sofa at home, or maybe even at a bar. beach etc)
what is PDA?
I'd think it was just for convenience.
I do this to my girl. Nothing gross or obvious. But a sneak grab, or a quick slap when near a walk or when no ones behind you.
PDA, public displays of affection.
Some people are okay with it, some aren't. That means some girls will be okay with it, some will be uncomfortable.
Already covered the sitting on laps thing. It's not a "given" but yes it is a thing people do.
When you have a girlfriend, talk to HER about what she likes and is okay with.
>talk to HER
GAYYYY. Just smack the ass, in a semi private way, if she gets actually mad, don't. Anything else you're in the clear, just don't be an idiot and over do it.
The fact that you're asking makes me think you'd like to do it in front of people to look cool. This is a terrible idea.
>girl I like breaks down over text about how nobody likes her and nobody has for all her life in a few paragraphs
How are you even supposed to respond to this? We've been dating for a few weeks, by the way.
A bit uncomfortable probably, and it would come off as pressuring towards marriage.
>she has strong feelings for him
>pregnant with another guy, presumably single or in a relationship that's falling apart
>no interest on his part
I'm more willing to bet he's just enjoying the train wreck.
>Guys, why would you still remain friends with your ex on Facebook if you had no intention of interacting with her ever?
Because who gives a fuck about Facebook? The effort to remove out-weighs the fucks given.
>How would you feel if your girlfriend of two and a half years started calling your mother 'the mother-in-law'?
Kind of weird, and hinting tbh... but that's just me i guess, and I'm not really at all ready to get marred. If he is, maybe he wouldn't mind at all.
>Is it going to be like pic related if we got together?
>He keeps spaghetti-dropping fairly hard, too. Is that like a passing phase until you get to know a person or would he be like that always?
If he's quirky, that might not change. If he's "spaghetti-dropping" (I'm guessing that means he's just nervously blurting shit out?), that will probably go away after a while as he gets more comfortable and learns to calm down.
Does sleeping with a guy increase your self esteem? If so if a guy you found physically attractive strait up asked if you wanted to starting having meaningless sex on a regular basis what woul you say?(preferably like an answer from girls with low self esteem)
>Does sleeping with a guy increase your self esteem?
>what woul you say?
I don't have low self-esteem, and girls who do probably are more likely to say yes, but it will most likely make them worse.
Why? How could someone thinking something positive about someone else make them worse. If someones attracted enough to you to sleep with you why would you feel bad about it. It seems illogical.
It's not about logic. It's about emotions stemming from unconscious psychological and biological drives. The act of sex and orgasm releases oxytocin, the same hormone that bonds mothers to their children.
Nope. Gays and lesbians are both technically "high risk" groups as they are more prone than the average to have mental illnesses like depression and commit acts of self harm and suicide. That's why even in the most progressive countries, they still have suicide hotlines and foundations specifically for LGBT people.
That still doesnt make any sense. If sex made women feel worse they wouldnt do it. It sounds like its just a highly emotional activity that is a scapegoat for their other personal problema(i mean if it does make them feel worse not when it doesnt)
>not understanding instant gratification and regret
People do shit all the time that makes them unhappy. But anyways, there are plenty of girls out there into casual sex. It shouldn't be hard for you to find them.
Nails are one of those things that girls care about WAAAAAAAAAAAAAY more than guys do, just like shoes.
I'd say maybe 1 out of 1000 guys gives even a single fuck about what your nails or shoes look like. We're looking at your face, breasts, ass, legs and eyes, and not necessarily in that order.
>How should I approach it?
Go out to have fun. Don't go there to get laid, or find a soul mate, or whatever the fuck. Just go there, get to know someone new and interesting, and if things click, go where they naturally lead, if they don't, too bad, that's just the case most of the time.
>Guys: what would you want your gf to do to her nails?
*shrug* Designs and stuff can be cool, but just nothing so insane it gives me a seizure.
I also like it when girls have their nails done, specifically with the whole French manicure treatment. But this is purely in the category of irrelevant nitpicks. I could go my whole life without seeing another girl whose nails were "did" and it wouldn't matter in the slightest.
hes heavy into fashion and for him its basically a requirement for a girl to have their nails done. he cares about my nails even more than i do.
he likes french manicures but i wouldn't do it, i dont think its that cute and its a lot of maintenance.
and acrylics would probably fuck up my ability to do winged eyeliner.
>hes heavy into fashion and for him its basically a requirement for a girl to have their nails done.
Wow. No offence, but that's really really gay, and not in the "gay as a synonym for shitty" kind of gay, but the gay as in "I wish I were a woman" kind of gay.
I got rejected. Is it a bad idea to keep speaking to her? She wants to stay friends, despite us barely knowing each other. Probably said that just to be nice. But anyway, I was thinking of still asking her out to hang out and such, like getting lunch between classes. Not implying any dates, it's just what friends do.
Tl;dr, should I try to get closer to her through this friendship to get to know each other better?
Broke up with ex-girlfriend a few months ago over something we mutually agreed was not going to work in the long run. Met this amazing new girl, things have been going well.
A few days ago I found my ex is dating some super rich lawyer 7 years older than her whose already booked her a trip with him to Barbados while I could hardly afford to pay for dinner half the time. And I feel like shit. How does one get over this without simply just "getting over it." Methods of moving on? Maybe
ladies, gents. In a relationship who is it often thats initiating contact. I'm starting to see this girl but she never tries to contact me. But she shows interest and affection when we meet or when I try messaging her. Shes not too upfront with how she feels or what she wants and its getting hard to read it all. Maybe I haven't made my intent clear, any advice?
I've done that already. Years ago. It didn't really help that much even though I did get compliments on my body. Lifting was never a stress reliever. Just something I did to not hate myself as much and it failed in that regard.
Talked to a girl once, then bumped into her a few times in the hallways of our dorm. I think she's cute and like seeing her; yesterday, weeks after meeting, she asked for my number, the context being that I'd make her a smoothie in her room sometime (I'd mentioned my blender weeks ago).
I'm interested in her but didn't get her number when she got mine; do I wait for her to text me or ask her out next time we see each other? Is she definitely interested in me?
As an okay looking friendless woman, how can I know the men that approach me aren't just doing so because they want a relationship? It happens often, and leaves me wondering if I really have nothing else to offer.
How can I tell if a girl is gonna blow me off on a date? I just have a weird feeling about this one I have coming up.
To make a long story short this girl followed me on multiple forms of social media within a short period of time, so I started talking to her and got her number. We talked and she was really flirty with me ("Wow you're really good looking, You're literally a 10/10, etc). I asked her on a date for this weekend. We just set up the time and that I would be picking her up at her house (I told her to text me her address whenever). But I'm just getting a weird vibe that she is gonna bail, I don't know if I'm just overthinking it. My friends keep joking/saying that she will and it's making me paranoid maybe? I've been trying to talk to her a less so we actually have stuff to talk about on the date/so I don't come off as clingy. What would I look for that she isn't interested/is gonna bail? Help?
Hope you don't mind me asking: what is stopping you from moving already? You should begin looking for a job and a place in the new area before you leave and start saving a bit so it won't be as bad if you find yourself in a rough spot. Check out all the trouble moving would involve. Then you can take a better informed decision.
And I know this sounds a bit weird, but do you know for sure she could move too? Not liking one's city does not mean you can just leave. She could have other responsibilities there.
I know most men aren't like that, but it really happens too often to me and it's a bit discouraging. Sometimes I think I got an ok conversation going on and then an acquaintance of them arrives and they just turn away and begin talking to them without even saying bye. This week I asked someone if they wanted to be in my team for a class project (I'm not a lazy colleague or anything like that), and they agreed. Five minutes later they tell me "oh, I got another team, sorry". Hard blow.
a lot of the time guys and girls will develop romantic feelings, but platonic relationships are still possible. just know that not every guy is motivated by his dick. it might seem that way but that isnt always true.
I haven't moved yet because I can't decide where I want to go. I've already done the research, moving is a big deal, I know. And that's not a weird question, its something I'd discuss before making any rash decisions.
Shit varies. I mean yeah, most guys approaching you are going to be after dating, but if you actually have an interesting life people will be interested in just being a part of that too.
Most of the girls I know are pretty basic in their interests, generic girl shit. I'm not really interested in being friends with them. Some others however, are actually interesting, I want to actually have their company. One hunts, one is a fellow engineering major, the other works with some animal shelters, you get the idea.
Since you know what the decision entails then I think you should give it a go. But maybe treat it a tad more seriously than a normal relationship. I went into a LDR thinking "We're probably gonna get tired of each other after a couple of months" (it was my first) and now I'm in love with a person that lives halfway across the world, and that I can only see twice a year. Then again, I was extra dumb, so maybe I needn't have typed this.
Another note: be aware people can hide their character more easily in a LDR. I'm not even talking about being a manipulative douche or a psychotic bitch. There are tons flaws that can be unnoticed and, even if they're small, they might end up being a deal-breaker for you.
Guys, how do blowjobs compare to sex?
I'd assume they would be more pleasurable than handjobs but not as great as "the real thing", however, there's always that response of "give him lots of blow jobs" when talking about gifts or making your man extra happy.
To some extent it's apples and oranges. I can't really compare them except to say that they're just pleasurable in their own ways. I think it's because they can be more spontaneous and focused on his pleasure that they're recommended for "keeping your man extra happy."
Frankly, what keeps me happy in that department is simple willingness. I like a woman who's comfortable and expressive around me with her libido. If a blowjob is the most convenient way to do that, so be it. But I will say that once I've got a nice eyeful of a pretty face working my dick, I'm going to want to start keeping my hands and mouth occupied on her body. Then the clothes start coming off, and at that point you might as well just have sex.
Hard to compare really... How does a penis, differ to a dildo, to fingers, to a tongue?
Depends on a bunch of stuff, and it's different from guy to guy. I'll say the only time I've had a full body orgasm, it was from a blowjob, but overall I tend to enjoy penetrative sex more just because there's more of a connection.
At the same time, sometimes being able to sit back and relax while my girlfriend pleasures me is pretty awesome.
Variety is what makes life enjoyable.
>meet crazy hot girl out of my league
>express desire to be fuckbuddies
>she's actually down
>have half a dozen or so sterile fucks, she seems chill
>invite her to study in the library, we actually just study for some hours
>she invites me over to watch american horror story last night
>cuddle and watch it, then fuck and I sleep over
>have pillow talk before sleep, in the morning she's all cuddly and acts like she doesn't want me to leave
Is this normal for friends with benefits? I've never had one before. Like is it possible that she's just affectionate with her fuckbuddies but it doesn't actually mean anything?
Might be doing this to counter-act some embarrassment? It's a pretty good fallback for people like us when we get a little embarrassed. The more you get to know him the less frequent this should be, so no I don't think you'll end up with pic related.
Yeah, that's normal. I'm a female and have done that with my FWBs before.
Some people just want sex and that's it with FWBs, and some want sex and companionship, but without the strings attached, of course.
Just don't get emotionally involved with her unless it's certain she wants to move forward from being just a fuck buddy.
I went out with a girl on Tuesday, we had a few drinks, made out and I walked her home and there was tons of cutesy shit going on until I postponed to meet her on wednesday, she said she was busy thursday but we can see each other today. I haven't contacted her from that point, would be okay to just call/text and suggest a place to go?
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
First time in this thread but I can tell you now that's wrong, were these questions polled or are these answered based solely on the personal experiences of one?
>tl:dr you're wrong change it to a yes and just accept it.
The girl I'm with now flat out rejected me and so did my first girlfriend (who also took my khv status) so many times and often in front of friends, the current was easy but the first took 6 months, I worked my way into the "friend zone" into the "best friend zone" into the "gay friend zone" and one nice night when we were both drunk I went in for a kiss. Relationship lasted 14 months.
It's literally that easy, the friendzone is a joke, I'm ugly af like a 4/10 max, the only thing I have going is a bizarre personality.
My boyfriend has said before that blowjobs are more stimulating. He likes sex because he's in control of the way his dick is getting stimulated though.
Honestly if he could throat fuck me without me vomiting that would probably be his favorite.
Don't know what to think about this situation.
>Asked girl out
>She said yes
>Tell her we sould go for a drink on wednesday or tuesday
>She says she's busy this entire week
>But she insists and tells me we should do something just some other day
I'm new to this shit, /fit/ didn't prepare me for this
Say okay and that you'll keep in touch or something then wait a bit and suggest something. Or move on without contact.
They are very pleasurable if you start with a blowjob, but I guess sex is better if you just count the pleasure and stimulation, blowjobs are pleasurable because of the situation.
I don't care.
That being said I to like it more when they're done, but not a crazy amount. It's just nicer.
Stop all communication.
BJ are fun and feel different than sex. For me they are relaxing or a built up to sex. But also just improve your mood over all.
Very much so. But if I pop a boner, so if that happen sex is a must. Otherwise I'd rather not snuggle.
Nope, they're real. Rare though.
I regularly do favours for the girl I'm dating, and she does a few for me in return. At first she politely asked for the help with a 'please', but now she doesn't even thank me for it anymore. When she asks it sounds like a reminder, though that's just my interpretation.
Am I in the wrong for being bothered by this? I feel like she's taking me and my help for granted.