I'm in an, on paper, really good relationship with a black guy. He's nerdy, into all the same things I am and he's fun to be around and talk about things with. He's like a best friend in a way, which was why I decided I wanted to be in a relationship with him in the first place.
But on an instinctual level I feel uncomfortable. I know this will anger some people but seeing his skin next to mine just makes me feel weird inside, it feels uncomfortable and when we're intimate together I just feel totally turned off and fake everything.
Then I think about us having kids together and it only makes things worse.
You can accuse me of leading him on, but I honestly didn't think it would be an issue until we started dating. There are so many little things that make me feel just weird inside. The best word to describe it would be "abnormal".
What do I do? I feel like I've gotten myself stuck in this relationship.
ew, break up with him you haggard bitch. if you're both nerds then he's probably some stupid uncle tom. i'm sure your racism is easily detectable to anyone with a brain.
fuck you and stay single!
(im black and have a white girlfriend btw)
Oh and OP, you're going to get a lot of shit for saying this, but I understand where you're coming from.
I'm a white girl with an asian ex and I felt exactly the same way. I'm in my mid 20s and I just decided I wanted to spend my life with someone from my race and have kids with someone from my race later down the line. There's no shame in it, you learn from experience.
I've tried for the past year to deal with this. It's something very instinctual I feel, it's not going to go away.
Yeah alright, think what you want. I've always preferred white guys deep down.
You seem pretty angry for something that has nothing to do with you. And so what if he's an Uncle Tom? I'd never date a black guy who was into all that #blacklivesmatter stuff, gross.
>pasty is a pejorative for stupid whites like yourself
Pasty is a pejorative for people with white skin. Full stop.
Given how many non-white men and women prefer white men and women it's a bit odd how often it is used. It's almost like you prefer our pale skin to your own or something....
Yikes. This is honestly a mess.. Just do the guy a favour and dump him. The issues you're having with dating a black man are ridiculous and you clearly don't deserve anyone other than uncoooked chicken desu. You said it yourself, you prefer white guys
Dumb whore who thought "Hey, I know what I'll do that's pretty out there!" and dated a black guy to be interesting and rebellious and now wants a white guy because people see it as "normal"
Let him down gently whore.
>nerds then he's probably some stupid uncle tom.
>being a nerd makes you susceptible to being an uncle tom
here's your reply
He's a different race, you have no obligation to like his appearance. Many people are repulsed sexually by black people, if you realise you're incompatible then better bail out, sooner rather than later.
If you are not sexually repulsed, enjoy your black cock for as long as it lasts.
I've been in an interracial relationship before with a Korean guy and I felt similarly. I think there's some sort of inbuilt aversion to it, because before I dated him I liked the idea of having an asian boyfriend.
So even though you're dating and all you can see is a "black" huh
Gtfo the only way is to get rid of your racism and see people with brown skin a human, people
It shouldn't even be a "black" friend it should just be a fucking friend cus he's a person
Stop leading him on bitch
Just break up OP, it's not a big deal.
I'm black and I don't like white, black, and indian girls.
It's not a big deal.
Break it off sooner than later to be fair to your bf.
I waited for a while with these 2 white girls I was with, and had those same feelings you have now.
It ended really shittily.
Just don't be like me and make the mistake a second time unless you actually find them physically attractive.
nope, the greater the genetic diversity, the healthier the offspring.
I wouldn't have a clue of what goes on in your head but i've been in a similar situation with someone of my own race, it could honestly boil down to you're not sexually attracted to this man and in a relationship thats a red flag
Yeah, I don't know what to say, you're totally unattracted to him based on the melanin differences in your skin. You're literally skin cell deep shallow.
What can you do about it... try brainwashing yourself. I was in a relationship with a black woman for a while, and sometimes my inexperience with being around them made me uncomfortable. Just, unsure of myself. So I started jackin it to interracial porn, and verbally reminding myself how awesome and delicious and sexy she was.
It worked, I got over my crap.
You're pretty fucking stupid.
>lol I don't have a type I'll just date this nigga, I'm good.
>wait, maybe I do have a type and it's not black guys
This is a fact for a great number of people. I was with a Japanese girl, who was gorgeous, but somewhere inside me for some reason it felt wrong just because she was different and I told her I had to break up with her.
Don't just tell him you're doing it because he's black - come up with other reasons. say you thought he was great at first and became infatuated but as it progressed you realized you have an inherent incompatibility and that you would like to stay friends. Tell him you get uncomfortable when you are intimate with him and that you can't explain it but that you also can't get over it and you're ready to just move on
I assume you aren't like years into thsi relationship
it will break his heart but you have to just do it now
If you're not physically attracted to him, call it off.
I personally am pale as fuck and I find azns and indians disgusting but wouldn't mind dating a negro cutie.
To me, personally, body odour is by far the most important factor. If she doesn't smell nice (and fuck deodorants, cologne etc.) then I won't be able to get my dick hard, as simple as that. It's just one of these things where I know that it either fits or doesn't.
You're obviously in a situation in which it simply doesn't fit.
it helps sell "I liked you at first but I've struggled with the intimate part"
"i want to be friends" says "our initial relationship was genuine", which I feel she wants him to believe and believes herself.
>nope, the greater the genetic diversity, the healthier the offspring.
Wrong, according to the National Longditudinal Survey of Adolescent Health, mixed-race children have more mental health problems.
It's your racial difference you can't get past, I'm not gonna call you a racist or anything of the sort but with your actions your just hurting him in the long run, do what's best and end it, unless you wanna make it work.
You can see this by the way coloured (white or black) is dying out over the centuries and fading into a coffee coloured people by the score -
Except this is not happening - people trend toward their own shade for reasons not yet fully explored so tending to create polar coloured offspring. Chances are those reasons will not be explored in this social climate of SJW faggotry.
>hey anon, i dodnt lnow untill we started dating but, i hate black people and feel revulsed around you.
>Im ending the relationship.
Then when he calls you a racist peice of white trash like you are you can leave and find a nice white guy to be unhappy and shallow with.
>seeing his skin next to mine just makes me feel weird inside, it feels uncomfortable and when we're intimate together I just feel totally turned off and fake everything.
>Then I think about us having kids together and it only makes things worse.
mfw that's not racist.
She isn't attracted by dark color, and doesn't want a child with darker color because she won't find it good looking either.
That's as racist as saying you find dark skin attractive, because you find other skin tones less attractive.
What, "depression" and ADHD? Yeah, there were a lot of those when I went to high school in my country.
But then again, being diagnosed with those things is so easy. Then when you get on medication you're stuck.
i'm a very vain korean girl. ideally, i would date/marry a korean, japanese, or a pale white guy because they would preserve my super pale skin and small and tall nose.
but i ended up dating a really tan filipino and i even liked the idea of raising kids together. never mind that he was considered short and had the flat garlic bulb nose, i was genuinely in love with him to the point that i didn't give a shit. and that's when i realized, as long as i loved the person i marry, i would love my children even more. (we broke up because he cheated on me, but that's besides the point.)
i don't think you met the right guy op, otherwise this stuff wouldn't matter to you.
Stop leading him on then, asshole. Go out and get a white man if that shit bothers you. You sure love that black dick, so you're not entirely racist. Break up with him before he thinks that you love him or something.
You're just a racist OP. There's nothing inherently wrong with being your type of racism as you don't act upon it violently. I feel uncomfortable around hispanics, but that's because I got gutted like a fish by then when I walked down the wrong neighborhood.
Just dump him and find a white guy because it sounds like you're forcing this relationship. No need to lead him on, then break his heart when you do something like cheat on him down the road or he cheats on you because sooner or later he's gonna feel unloved. Guys are not stupid, they can tell when a girl fakes it, but sometimes we just delude ourselves for the time being because of love.
>You're just a racist OP
so because she doesn't like 1 black guy that makes her racist ?
I call b.s.
I don't like that piece of shite knee grow zerobama does that make me racist too ?
You don't like Obama because he's a mediocre to bad president who did nothing to fix this country.
She feels uncomfortable around her BOYFRIEND solely because of his ethnic background and skin color. Those are two completely different circumstances anon.
It also doesn't help the fact that she's worried about having children with the man because she's afraid of them being seen as inferior.
>She feels uncomfortable around her BOYFRIEND solely because of his ethnic background and skin color. Those are two completely different circumstances anon.
so what ?
because a white girl who doesn't want to date a black guy that makes her racist ?
she has literally dozens of black friends who all like her
but because she doesn't want to date and procreate with a black guy she is racist
a big GFY to you 2
she chose to be in the relationship in the first place. she came up to him and asked him out.
This isn't about "oh I refuse to date black guys" she's ALREADY IN THE RELATIONSHIP!
Like I said previously, THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING RACIST, I'm stating that her views isn't healthy for this kind of relationship and she's forcing herself to continue this relationship as it's not good for her and it's not good for the guy.
I never once said that she was the headmaster of the KKK, kidnapping blacks and hanging them from trees as her night job. it still doesn't change the fact that she's racist, a very mild form of racism though.
This is soooooooooooooo stupid that I actually like reading it.
Yes, biodiversity IS a good thing and essential to any living population. Remember what happened to the Native Americans when the Europeans came over? Remember those small pox blankets they handed out? Yeah, that homgeneous population wasn't such a good thing then was it?
Same shit for the Black Plague, same thing for AIDS (yes, there are people who are immune to AIDS), same thing for any disease/virus/condition.
As for the mental health issues, many, many of those have societal causes from conversations like this. People look down on mixed race from both sides. He's not white because he has nigger blood/tinted skin, or he's not black enough because he has a white mom/dad. What kind of effect would you expect that to have on a child? You feel like you have no where that you belong. I'd say if you get out of that just a bit depressed then you're doing pretty well.
What you're describing is self-respect and common sense conflicting with libtard agenda pushing and social indoctrination amongst young adults.
The good news is you came to your senses.
The bad news is now that you have the black mark no self-respecting white man with a shred of social value will touch you. Hope you like uneducated losers covered in shitty tattoos, anonette.
Dump Tyrone before you become a single mom. You're never "stuck" in a relationship, and you don't owe him, or anyone, anything.
Well I mean you owe your dad an apology but odds are you're dead to him already.
S O C I E T Y
That's all it is. That's all it ever is. You think it's instinct, but it's not. Dogs are a pure instinct animal. They have minimal intelligence, but do not possess reflective abilities, logic, or reasoning. So what do dogs do when they see a different dog? They sniff some ass and either fight, play or fuck. That response doesn't change if it's a Great Dame or a Chihuahua. They are different, but they don't care. That Chihuahua would fuck the shit out of a Great Dame if it could.
So what makes you or humans different? We have society, and in that society we have relegated people to groups, stereotypes or classes. Those views influence us daily, and even if we wouldn't consider ourselves racist, there is no denying that those things have an effect on all of us.
It's not instinct that's telling you it's wrong, it's society, and it's in your head.
That's definitely not what I'm describing. The population bottleneck is what happened after those events (small pox, plague) happened, thus leaving people who were either immune or survived to pass on their genes.
What I'm talking about is that if the Europeans (who could survive small pox) had been mating with the Native Americans, then the population wouldn't have be decimated in the way it was. That's how biodiversity works.
>then the population wouldn't have be decimated in the way it was.
You don't understand how mendelian inheritance works lol. If they would have mixed then they would have been left with a population group less resilient to smallpox that the original Europeans themselves.
"Genetic diversity" means nothing. It's a meme word used by people who spread the hybrid vigor myth but don't understand human evolution is based on the exact opposite of the idea that "diversity" per se is good.
Bullshit, if it were purely environment it would be telling her that black men are strong, super-masculine men who are just as intelligent as white men. American society is ridiculously negrophilic.
>took high school biology
>thinks he understands genetics
Yeah, nice try though. Did you have fun putting letters in those boxes on your worksheet? If you did even just a little research you'd know how dumb you sound. Small pox immunity/resistance is a dominant trait passed on by the survivors of of that pathogen. That's what happens after a population bottleneck. Those who survived pass on their genes so that future generations can continue the immunity.
Therefore, if the mating had occurred as I pointed out, then there would have been parts of the native population that acquired that immunity/resistance too.
This is genetics 101 brah. Stop trying to pretend you're smart.
>I'm in a relationship with a black guy
>But his skin makes me uncomfortable
A "dominant gene" doesn't mean: "You mate with X person who has it and any resulting offspring will inherit said gene 100% of the time", you stupid fucking liberal. The fact is that a population group with said immunity does itself no favors by intermarrying with a population group that doesn't have it because any resulting offspring, as a group, will be less immune on average than a group born from two parents from the initially immune group. Do you understand now, you stupid fucking idiot?
And no, immunity to pathogens can be a polygenic thing too. It's not always the result of a single dominant gene or allele.
>American society is ridiculously negrophilic
LOL I don't know what America you think you're talking about, but it should be pretty obvious that's not true. The whole world knows about Ferguson. How would that happen if America was how you claim?
Good point. The whole world received a Hollywood tier narrative about the shooting of an armed and dangerous negro from the American media spun in such a way as to present him as a victim.
If American culture and media were this hardcore, right-wing thing, the world would never have even heard about it.
Just get the fuck off 4chan, you piece of shit. Nobody cares about this #blacklivesmatter crap here, and if you believe in these black racial nationalist movements, why do you care about a white woman on the internet not being attracted to a black man?
Black men sure are weird, they'll never shut up about how proud they are of their race, but they'll also stop at nothing to avoid dating women of their race...
Once again you're missing the point kid. First, I never said that the trait was passed on 100% of the time. I said it would be passed down. Second, you're speaking about the population of the Europeans becoming less immune from gene dilution, I'm talking about the population of the natives gaining the trait. That obviously would increase the amount of people who had the immunity and the average level of resistance for the natives would increase.
The funny thing though is that I don't even need to correct your misconception of my stance to disprove your narrative.
So we know from history that there were far less Europeans than natives, so if you took the entire population of both groups and estimates it's resistance then it would be very low. If populations started to mix that dominant trait would be passed on more often than not such that THE MAJORITY (no one said 100%) of offspring would gain that said resistance. Even if that number is 51% that means that each new generation would have a higher level of resistance than the one before it.
So now lets add in the environmental circumstances. We also know that the Europeans brought small pox on accident, and then after they saw it's effects intentionally spread the disease. So we can assume that even without the mass bio-warfare that occurred there would be large numbers of natives dying from the disease - that's the population bottle neck. So what do you have now? You have some of the offspring who didn't acquire the trait dying, and the ones who did once again passing on their genes. If we assumed that the percent who acquired it was only 51% then of the 49% that didn't get it, we know most if not all would have died. So once again we have a large majority passing on the immunity with less people to dilute it. After a very short time, perhaps even one generation the overall immunity would have been far higher than the average was before when speaking of the Americas as a whole.
>I'm talking about the population of the natives gaining the trait. That obviously would increase the amount of people who had the immunity and the average level of resistance for the natives would increase.
Groups/Races compete dumbass, why would Europeans want to diminish their own average level of resistance for the sake of being charitable to a racial enemy?
if your concern is absolute, numerical numbers then the most logical course of action isn't to water down any adaptive trait one race evolves, but to sterilize those who don't display said trait.
You're making a whole lot of assumptions in that post anon, and I don't really understand what you're getting at in those first two lines.
I wasn't referring to the narrative, I was referring to the riots. If America loved black people, then why are they so angry that they feel the need to riot? And yes, I'm sure you could make some argument about race here if you wanted to - chimp out or something, but we both know that claim is just a diversion from the topic, or a way to discredit their grievances.
The riots took place because those people did not trust the police, regardless of if the officer was justified or not - and we all know the reports say he was - the people felt like they were being lied to and they felt like the police were their enemy. That doesn't happen in an America that loves black people. You wouldn't make enemies with people who's job it is to protect you unless you felt that they weren't doing their job, or worse, trying to hurt you.
>That's all it is. That's all it ever is. You think it's instinct, but it's not.
Garbage. All society ever does is tell you your instincts are silly, wrong, primitive, obsolete. When in reality, we're still the same old monkeys doing the same old shit, just with shinier tools.
>then why are they so angry that they feel the need to riot?
Because they're fed a false narrative through the same media you claim is oppressing them.
Are you implying riots have never been based on false premises?
>the people felt like they were being lied to and they felt like the police were their enemy
Again, false narratives. The majority of victims of fatal police shootings were white in 2014, that's a fact. It's also a fact that blacks were overwhelmingly more likely to fire back on officers when officers attempted arrest, another fact.
>As for the mental health issues, many, many of those have societal causes from conversations like this. People look down on mixed race from both sides.
Who gives a shit what the cause is? Even if you were right and it's all just in our heads, it would still be something that would afflict the kid.
You're both forgetting that this works both ways. There are beneficial genetic traits that the Europeans gained from the natives. Although they had better immune systems overall, there was one they weren't able to combat well. Spyhillis spread to Europe on ships that went back and became an epidemic that killed millions.
The natives weren't immune to it, but they had developed a higher resistance due to exposure.
Again, biodiversity is always a good thing. It's literally an insurance policy against pathogens. The natives were the best possible example of what happens when populations remain homogeneous.
>media you claim is oppressing them.
>Are you implying riots have never been based on false premises?
I never made that claim, I just refuted that America loves black people.
And I'm sure that there are riots that have happened for poor reasons. Actually, I'd say there is almost never a good reason to riot, it rarely does anyone any good.
But in regards to riots and false narratives, what about Rodney King? There was video of that beating, and I don't know a single person who would say that was not excessive. The narrative in that story was that the officers were justified and as we know, they were found not guilty. So who was given the false narrative there? Why is that case any different?
As for your last point, I don't refute any facts, but those facts don't just fit one narrative. First, I should hope that there were less blacks than whites killed. Black people are ~11% of the population, whites are something like 40% or more. So if there were more blacks being killed that would be insanely disproportional. The question now is, what is the ratio? Is it that 60% killed were white, and 40% were black? well that still means on average more blacks are killed in relation to the population.
For you second stat, I point again to perception. If you're confronted by someone you think is going to kill you, you either fight or flight. I stress that I'm not claiming it's ok to fire at police, but be honest, if you saw someone as you enemy, and as someone who might try to kill you, wouldn't you fire back? If you carry a gun and a black guy stopped you on the street I bet your hand is already reaching just in case. Well, how you view blacks is how some blacks view cops.
It's not right, but it's where we've come as a nation.
do you even biology m8?
diversity is not always useful. for instance an inuit would usually not procreate (considering they live in their original environment) with a black person. it is only natural to be turned off by it if procreating with that person means that the offspring might be less fitt (less adapted) than the offspring with a partner from the same race. (this also may have cultural reasons)
>Black people are ~11% of the population, whites are something like 40% or more. So if there were more blacks being killed that would be insanely disproportional. The question now is, what is the ratio? Is it that 60% killed were white, and 40% were black? well that still means on average more blacks are killed in relation to the population.
Because blacks are 1) More likely to commit crimes and be arrested and 2) More likely to resist arrest. Simple as that.
Black Male / White Female marriages:
- Highest probability of divorce.
- Highest probability of spousal homicide.
- Highest probability of domestic violence.
Inherently broken relationships.
Rather than black men actually admit their faults, they just do what they've been doing in this thread and blame everything on other people though. This isn't even a joke anymore, is there a single thing where black people are prepared to admit "yeah, that's our fault"?
I had same thing with black girl (Imma white guy) I broke up with her simply because that's what you should do when you feel uncomfortable with someone, and don't feel racist you don't hate the color you just don't like that's it...
I used to date a bunch of ghetto black guys in college. You know daddy issues and all. What i learn is that there is something wrong with most black guys. They are just incapable of having a normal relationship.