I've been around, /b/ros. and I'm here to tell you what to avoid if you are looking for a girlfriend that won't make your life a waking nightmare.
1. girls who change their hair often or dye it unnatural colors. these women are going through emotional turmoil and compensate by trying to attract as much as possible.
2. girls with tattoos, for the same reason above. yes, all tattoos. even "small and tasteful" ones. believe me on this one.
3. girls who claim to be bisexual with nothing to back it up. this is the sure mark of a slut.
4. girls who live far away. long distance relationships don't work. ever.
5. girls who are overly concerned about their weight and appearance. it's great having a beautiful girl but the maintenance will suck the fun out of everything. aim for a hygienic girl with a mother who isn't overweight.
add more if you feel like and good luck
If she has a lot of guy friends as in the amount of guy friends out weighs her female friends she is bound to done stuff or had a past with at least one and you look like a jackass being with her and letting her stay in contact with all of these "friends".
Oh god yes. They may seem like the "good girl" type but they are the worst bitches under that friendly look. Will go to other guys for emotional support. Will keep depending on the attention of these other guys no matter what.
it's fair enough to say that women go through phases that sometimes leave permanent marks, just like the rest of us. I only meant to make a general guide and not a strict rulebook.
If they seem even then they may very well be safe, depends on the girl.
But for e.g, an ex of mine had three or four inseparably best friends, but the full scope of her group of friends included like a dozen or so guys. This is the kind I'm on about, you meet a girl like that, DO NOT get into a serious relationship with her.
In the reverse though, A guy with loads of female friends and next to no male friends and he's usually just gay.
Strange, isn't it?
if you won't say it then i will:
having a bunch of guy friends is almost a sure sign that the girl has a cluster b personality disorder. these girls are beyond fucked and should be avoided
I'm sort of seeing a girl now i'd like to turn into a relationship but her past relationship ended because she cheated. supposedly shes changed a lot since then since shes lost everything and the one she loved
so i;m a little weary about how it might end up.
also she's weary of me because i'm a guy who gets on better with girls but i'm not gay, though women have asked me that.
>supposedly shes changed a lot since then
Dude... seriously? They all say that.
Avoid the fuck out of bitches with a history of lying and cheating. They don't change, they only get better at hiding it.
Well everyone's different.
I cheated once, got caught and after some crippling regret, I'll say with confidence that I'm never going to cheat on a girl ever again.
I don;t see why it's impossible for your to have a mind set on not cheating if she really means it, but only you can make the call.
tell me something I don't know
>also: avoid girls who don't have a father or dont be in touch with their father(figure) on regular basis, these kind of girls are troublesome in so many ways
RUN.If they do it once they WILL do it again.Trust me,first time she gets overly emotional (depressed,angry) she will lose ALL sense of love and trust and cheat.Trust me.
Even if the guy was a dick, she is still a bitch for not breaking up with him before fucking another guy.
>7. if a girl doesn't want kids, run; she's probably nuts. or rather, if she brings up that she doesn't want kids for no particular reason, run.
haha, that one sends feminists into a killing frenzy
I have a girl that lives 2 countries next to me.
We're planning to visit each other as much as we can.
Other than traveling money I don't see the problem in long distance relationships.
Oh you're so funny OP
>Implying that you won't be with some bland, dull slut if you follow those 'rules'
Hey, I'm not saying he should just let it go, I;m just disagreeing with the "once a cheater, always a cheater" saying, based on personal xp.
Saying that all girls are raging whores, full stop is for butthurt losers that never got over their first gf.
This one is for OP
>girls without a penis
1. True for most girls but not all.
2. You just hate tats, depending on what tats she has this isn't really true.
3. True. Girls are only straight or lesbian, no in between. The ones who claim to be bi are definitely slutty.
4. True as fuck. Long distance extremely rarely work out. Less than 1% of the time imo.
5. Somewhat true. Then again guys like high maintenance ladies. Whatever floats your boat on this one.
>mfw my girlfriend has tattoos, colored hair and has slept with a woman
Just because you couldnt handle a girl with an actual personality doesnt mean nobody can
>4. girls who live far away. long distance relationships don't work. ever.
I'd never start a relationship knowing it would be long-distance, but if you're in a good relationship, it can survive as long-distance for awhile.
No,I'm saying you are an ass.Also, yes, those who had the guts (psychosis,impulse,whatever) to cheat once WILL do it again.Those are mostly histrionic and narcs who can't live without the thrill.They can also be depressed ones who become reckless,angry and impulsive when they get too much stress.
All of OPs reasons are subjective. Must've had a bad experience.
All of this describes my gf except 6. Thankfully, we're taking a break cause she's on the other side of the country, so I can sleep with other chicks, and she still sends me nudes nonstop. I also don't have to worry about her sleeping around; she is really introverted and has almost absolutely no game. She fluked into me, but I'm happy she did. Plus she's chubby.
I love her to death, and despite all of these things she's actually really down to earth. Too bad she's super immature; guess I'll move on soon.
Dude, it sounds like maybe she burned her old life by being a whore - and now she wants a beta to settle down with.
You fit the description - better with girls, asked if you are gay. She sees this, and she wants you to end up with the train wreck, and possibly another man's child.
She'll say anything to rope you in, and confuse you with sex. When she is sure she has you locked in - she'll do whatever the fuck she likes, because she'll know you will accept it and stay with her.
I am in Toronto. 90% of all girls here (or more) are #1-3, and basically every girl ever is #5. Every girl I've ever met thinks they're fat/ugly/whatever, even if they're gorgeous (actually, especially if they're gorgeous).
This is why I don't even bother trying to date anymore. I go to Amsterdam and fuck hookers a few times a year. Women in this city are absolute bottom-of-the-barrell, below-shit tier, stuck-up, liberal, hipster cunts.
As a general. rule i generally distrust girls(and boys) who already know what they want but not who.
I wouldnt have kids with anyone, or have a serious relationship with anyone, or even with friends with anyone. You ofrm the bond according to the person, something else is desperation and its bound to end in suffering because its fake
>Like I said, subjective
>Met non-tattooed girls with no personality
>Met tattooed girls with no personality
>Some do, some don't
That's like me saying all blondes are stupid, including blonde males.
Also, are you 12? Who the fuck uses rofl?
ha see this is where people start to get stupid and think being nice is a beta trait.
as if I'm going to stay with her if she starts fucking me around, why would I, it's a big world and there's always someone better.
Yes. Most woman that claim to be bi are only seen dating other women. And if they're not dating anyone then they are constantly fucking guys left and right. That's not being bisexual. That's being a whore.
#5 is the only bit of good advice in your shit list. everything else on the list is superficial as fuck.
except #3. i've not met a woman over the age of 19 that still does that shit. seems like OP is only used to talking to high schoolers or retards
Think my current girlfriend fits in somewhere here.
When she is stressed she goes batshit - takes it out on me, goes out to bars and clubs with her friends drinking until the early hours, is reckless in that she has dumped me about 30 times (no joke) because of something insignificant or not even real - when the reality is she has something else going on in her head.
She is also a thrill seeker - and is in trouble every 2-3 months I would say.
idk i have a lot of female friends but all of em are fugly and id never have sex with em. any girl i ever met that had a lot of guy friends they were all extremely handsome and attractive and like 1 fatdude that was really funny.
Almost all the guys wanted the girl
Its not so much you cant trust the girl but you cant trust the guys. Usually the guys will feel like you are in the way.
>I was here first
>why didnt she pick me
and try to pull shit on the girl. And girls are always friends with attractive guys (idk its biology or some shit) and ugly girls (to make themselves feel better) and if a handsome guy trys to fuck her she will most likely let them with little to no resistance.
Nah, I have a good time in Amsterdam. If I were to move anywhere, it'd be there, and then I doubt I'd have the impetus to bother dating because I could get sex with gorgeous girls at will anyway.
Plus, I'm not exactly hurting for money.
>ITT: overly sensitive tattoo fags
these are rules. there are exceptions to every rule. you/your gf/you bf/ your friend/etc are probably an exception. this does not change the fact that this is a good rule to follow
Yep,narc.Seen one,had a "relationship".It's a dipshit thing to stay with her after all the breakups,man.Rule one with that breed - once the ship starts sinking,leave.You are not a rat to do so.
Also,if not a narc these kinds also tend to be the self-loathing ones who lose their sense of self and self-esteem,get the feeling they can trust noone and start taking revenge on everyone.
Dump the bitch next time she breaks up with you.It's common sense.
I feel bad for a friend of mine his gf dyes her hair a lot (had pink, blue, red, and green in Highschool) wants a lot of tatoos and all her friends are guy friends because "girls dont get me, i act more like a guy anyways"
He went into the army about a week ago so now shes alone and has all the time in the world to sleep around and no risk of getting caught. Really feel bad for him, but if I try to tell him he just gets mad at me. Also every one of her guy friends all wanted to/still wants to fuck her, including me
Must disagree with you anon. I wouldn't get involved with a girl who wants kids EVER. I have no intention of having any and would bail on any relationship the second i got the feeling she wanted them.
I've been in two long term relationships with girls who want kids and both times I couldn't trust them to be on the same page as me even though I have always been crystal clear with women about my feelings on the subject. They said they understood but I couldn't believe them. If they had got accidentally pregnant it would have ruined my life. I never touched them without a condom for fear of the possible disaster.
I married a bikini model dentist who doesn't want kids either. She I can trust to get an abortion if we accidentally got pregnant. She I can trust with my future.
Her desire to have kids or not only matters if it's different from yours.
ehehehehe, bikini model dentist, ahem, pics or it didn't happen
Early on in the relationship I thought she was BPD. I don't know if she was/is - but she would flip between personalities - sometimes it was like she didn't know me and had no emotions at all. A blank, empty stare - possibly twinned with rage, but not always.
It was like talking to a robot - but she was totally normal with everyone else, noone else noticed at all.
Freaked me the fuck out.
It was like the cartoon of the dead frog that stands up and dances, but only when noone is looking apart from the one guy - and he goes insane at the end.
I was questioning my perception and my own sanity.
She hasn't been like that in a long time - but she still isn't exactly normal.
I think I will do as you say man, I have been thinking about it lately. If she drops me again - I'm gone. I'll be sad, but I can't keep going through this forever, and making no progress.
Has it ever ocurred to you fucking 11 and a half year old retards that guys who want kids should be with girls who want kids and guys who don't should be with girls who don't????
what a way to turn something simple into a problem you fuckers
Not everyone on b is a neckbeard dude. I'm in my 30's and work as a warship designer for a defense consulting company. I, like my wife, take both fitness and profession seriously.
I can confirm this.
They are mentally fucked beyond repair. Not able to maintain a relationship under any circumstances. They will die alone. Not even exaggerating.
also THIS SO MUCH.
You really have to watch out for these! They are the most dangerous of all! Women use children to "glue" themselves to you. They know you won't divorce or abandon them ever if they're the mother of your child, which means they have achieved their goal in life to be fully supported by some gullible fool who was stupid enough to fall for her mask and right into her trap.
Never be too nice to a girl. Be good to her, comfort her, give her love. But NEVER step over the line. Every woman will test you at some point. They will test how far they can push you until you lose temper, and then they will make that threshold state the new standard through a long going process of indoctrination techniques. You MUST remain cool and at the same time show a woman where her place is, which should never be above you.
Eh, been there. Honestly, I just don't really trust most women anymore. I've been really, really good to every girl I've ever been with. Not beta, not a pushover, but always kind and supportive, I took care of her, made her feel nice, I did what a man is supposed to do. Every time, I got fucked over. Every time, it damn near killed me.
I don't know if I'm willing to do that to myself again. The damage it does to me to lose someone I truly care about just doesn't seem worth it anymore.
you and your wife are in the minority. not saying that's a bad thing though.
the reason i said you should run is because:
a) they probably secretly do want kids and will trap you
b) they can't handle the idea of anything being more important then they are. this includes you.
just my two cents. there are exceptions to every rule and it seems like you're two of them
8. Do not under any circumstance, including the tip of a 12 gauge giving you a rim job with a trigger happy red neck on the other end, date someone who self identifies as a feminist or sjw
Shit man,I've had the EXACT SAME ex.Only lost 2 months of time,even 5 weeks given the fact she was out of town for 3 weeks...with like 15 guy friends of course because fucking rule 6.
She doesn't care one little bit about you.She deserves,no , WANTS to be treated like shit so she can justify the self-loathing.If you give her attention she treats you like trash,if you whip her around you are.I hate myself for saying such horrible and misogynistic words, but people like that DO exist and there is nothing you can do about it. (unless you're a psychotherapist).
The one I used to date,Nadya,had lost her brother at an early age and then had a friend commit suicide a bit later on.Histrionic/narc.
I'll have to disagree with #1, 2 and 3 and I will sound biased saying this. Best friend of mine is all of those, and for lack of a better term she's actually smarter than I am, and I'm a fucking egoist.
Current gf is #1 and sometimes I do find it stressful to be able to know what to do, since I've very little experience in helping those who are emotionally distressed but I'm known throughout all of my friends and others for being a loyal fucker, so I won't ditch her.
Besides, I literally see myself in my gf in terms of personality and interests.
>I've been really, really good to every girl I've ever been with. Not beta, not a pushover, but always kind and supportive, I took care of her, made her feel nice, I did what a man is supposed to do
Maybe this part isn't quite like you thought it was.
>They know you won't divorce or abandon them ever if they're the mother of your child, which means they have achieved their goal in life to be fully supported by some gullible fool who was stupid enough to fall for her mask and right into her trap
>girls who live far away. long distance relationships don't work. ever.
Yeah my parents are this, together for 22 years. I am also this for 2 years strong.
OP is insecure and untrustful.
>never be too nice to a girl
Wish I had been told this 3 years ago.
What you described happened with me exactly.
She tested me, I kept tolerating it - so it increased - and I became sick of it all - almost left. Became cold and distant and was ready to leave without regrets - THEN she became more affectionate and more like a woman.
But by that time, I already didn't give a fuck and was just biding my time. 10 months later - I told her I had had doubts for all that time, she dumped me a month later - we've been sort of back together for 4 months but it really isn't the same anymore.
If I had trained her since the beginning, like you said - then things would have gone really well.
Why don't they teach this in school?
bye faggot keep being butthurt, also quit 4chan
Merely a word to justify femishitism now. Are there true misogynists out there? Yes, myself included now. Everyone is entitled to their own views though. Don't let anyone shame you for not being a typical cattle *tips fedora*
just be prepared for her to be an attention whoring uncaring POS that expects you to do everything for her because her happiness her happiness her happiness
or worse, that she's lying and she's actually a cocktrapper
Confirming. Borderline femanon with narcissistic diagnosis and almost only guy friends. You crave the attention you can't get from female friends.
Since a break up I've tried to sort things out. I now have female friends and cut off all the guy friends since I realized their objective.
Also changed hair and hair color. Pink, purple, extensions.
And I've got tattoos.
I'm a universe designer, I design entire galaxies and form them out of my cum. I'm married to a nude model who competes in intergalactic nude model contests + she works part time as the commander of a star fleet.
Just gonna take a shot in the dark here, but it sounds like you're too pathetic to clear your woman's insecurities, which is probably why you find this sort of behavior as "tell-tale" signs of a bad mate.
Not saying that these are true or false, just that they cannot imply a bad mate. Everyone does things that puts off other people... perhaps instead of looking for things that will keep you away, you should look for things that seem promising. In general, you should try to find a woman that appreciates the time and energy you put in to your relationship, and does not take your money or resources in to account.
I've actually failed at this one and fell in love with that type of a girl. She has female friends too but she also has many ex-boyfriends and shes still talking with some of them. Luckily they are far away but its still pissing me and I've told her many times (we've been together like half a year) but she always says that she still values them as friends even though even I can see that at least one of these guys wants to fuck her really bad (he's a faggot though, might dump a story if anyone's interested). What can I do guys? I really like her and she seems happy with me and does all cute stuff for me.
Oh I got one, its more about teens and early 20s girls though for all you underage b&s out there.
If you ever ask a girl a question and she responds like "Whaaaaaat?" to seem all cute or some shit even though she clearly heard what you asked, then she is a fucking whore and stupid.
I don't know what happened with this girl.
I read a lot about BPD and the thing that turns up as a cause for it at a very early age - is their mother not loving them.
She told me her mother had even said to her that she was an accident/mistake - and that she has never felt close to her mother, that her mother is selfish and like a child.
Yeah, my girl has a lot of guy friends too - really really wish I had a list of these fucking rules years ago. I thought I was savvy and knew what to avoid - but I didn't know a fucking thing.
Been with her for 2.5 years and I still am trying my best to stay with her. Lately I have a feeling that she has been flirting (and what else??) with other guys at bars while I am away for a few weeks.
It isn't misogynistic - it is these particular kinds of females that are seriously fucked up.
Rational sense tells me I shouldn't even be trying to be with her - my friend told me almost 2 years ago (when I told him the stories of what had been happening for the first few months of the relationship) that I should give it 1 month to change - or I will be still with her a year or two down the line and nothing will have changed.
Well, his prediction came true - and I'm still (barely) with her.
Never expected to fall into this trap, I had always avoided psycho girls. Now I'm so emotionally tied with her that I keep sticking with her and hoping for a clean future.
Rationally, I think that can't happen.
oh shit are you me? My girlfriend is out travelling and is everything exept 6 and the bi part. Also thinking of moving on. How long have you been together?
>captcha: Drops amessi
>Why don't they teach this in school?
Don't worry. Every man goes through your scenario. Women always do this.
The key is: communication, realistic expectations, respect and trust.
A man has to be strong. Period. This doesn't mean being a bulky muscle dude, being loud or dominant whatsoever. A real man has to be strong MENTALLY. Never be dependent on a woman in any way. Always keep the relationship in a state that allows you to show her the door at any point. Once you give the woman the upper hand in a relationship, she WILL take charge and push you.
What you need to bring across to a women is: I love you. I will always take care of you, no matter what happens. But you will never have control over any aspect of my life whatsoever. If you can't accept this, you're free to leave.
You don't understand.Point is, when in a "bright" period (no depression,reason dominates) I am never predisposed to being a misogynist.Still,as reason dictates at the moment I need to say this,even though it makes me feel uncomfortable.I feel for that one but I realise I can be of no help.
Good for you anon, Pretty much the opposite of my life.
I'm a designer designer, I design gods and demi gods so they can design all the rest of the shit for me. I'm married to every female in existence, especially the nuns, who drive model-T fords and also work part time as 7 of 9.
that's why it's tough.
she's great, but pretty much a reverse loli
5 year old trapped in a nearly 20 year old body
she fulfills my weird sex niches though, she can squirt, we have sex on her period, she recently started peeing her pants for me, etc, but the relationship is really one sided as i make way more money than she does, and she puts way less effort into the relationship than i do
doesn't help that we were each other's first everything; kiss, sex, relationship...fucking everything
that's why it's so hard for me, but i really need to move on. shitty thing is that girls are really attracted to me...but are either 5+ years older, or my friends' girlfriends. this truly is hell
I'll make it short. He's a faggot and she's been dating him like year ago. He lives far away and so she had to travel to him or he had to travel to her. Then she dumped him but they stayed friends. Then she started dating me. She told him but probably not all of that. Because one day we were out and she got a text message. It was unknown number but she thought its one of her other friends from past. So she started talking with him... Few months later, that friend (from texts) contacted her and didnt know shit about this. Turned out that her faggot ex lied to get info from her about us. She flipped shit but eventually shes okay again and talking to him again. I was so fuckin furious about it but she commented it like: Im forgiving...
So yeah, tell me that Im a faggot too but its probably too late for me and I'll be real sad when she dumps me because of some other guy...
Never. She'd be cheating on you and getting wasted as fuck making out with other dudes while she/you're away.
Ever been to a party without your gf? Ever wanted to fuck one of those chicks or make out with them?
She feels the same way, but she's in a different country and is drunker than you cause girls in general handles less alcohol and gets alot more free.
Eh, some people just want to have more or less kids mate. Discuss with it her, tell her you don't want four. Make a compromise. If she doesn't budge then you need to start analyzing and figuring out what you want to do along with maybe she wants four or whatever. Some chicks just want to have a nice big family like the good old days
Because all 3.5 billion women in the world are the same. Oh wait they're not you're just a maggot generalizing an entire gender. Go eat a dick you 19 year old neck beard fuck and stop pretending like you know anything about anything.
Also, I like my emotionally damaged, tatted up pink hair sluts. They're easy to manipulate, mind control and turn into my personal fuck doll.
we have been together for 2 years too and in that time ive grown so accustomed to her that i get serious doubts about leaving her because of fear of the future.
also i cheated on her last weekend with my friends long time girlfriend, i don't know if i should tell her.
damn relationships, im too sober for this shit
It's a bit tiring to be like that, and less fulfilling.
But I have very slowly come to that conclusion too - that I must concentrate on my own life and be my own man again.
Money is a problem currently - but all these 4chan billionaires are keeping their wallets to themselves.
You just totally disproved your point, validated mine, and is now trying to be a typical teen faggot. Have you considered getting a GED seeing how retards don't generally graduate High School?
Might be near the end now anyway.
I lost the idea that I could change her a long time ago. Didn't know people like this existed before I met her, that's why I had no defences up.
>My girl wants to have 4 kids, she's always talking about "those 4 kids" (even tho I've told her that I only want 2)... I'm getting worried
I don't know how old you are or your circumstances, but I want to give you general advice on this matter.
NEVER have kids without establishing a stable foundation first, which allows you to offer them a secure, quality life. Let's be realistic. This takes a long time, unless you happen to be born filthy rich. Also you will probably not end up in a position to maintain this level for a family with 4 kids. Think: each of them has to be fed well, clothed and then there's these things like toys etc. + that thing called school/university education, depending on the path your child will decide for late in life.
Also keep in mind: You will get older too. This might not occur to you yet, but you will see a time when simple things become harder. You won't have as much energy. Your body will get small dings and scratches along the road etc. You won't be able to withstand such pressure forever.
This is why you need to put your gf in the right place. First is your career. Period. Then, once you feel financially and rationally comfortable with the idea of having a child you can consider it. Women have a biological clock that hinders them from rational thought in regards to children.
Again, you're the man. You have to be mentally strong. Never forget this.
Thanks for taking the time to reply anon, I'm currently 22, working as a programmer to pay college.. She's also 22 and she was a neet for like 1 and 1/2 year, she just started college again, she "hated Computer Science" so that's why she's starting over again...
I will think about what you said, I'm fucking poor that's why I work and pay for college, I really find a bit offensive when she starts talking about "our four kids" and I just say to her "I want 2, if we are financially stable maybe we can consider 4", shes like "yeah you are right" but the next day shes again talking about "our 4 kids :D", shit is annoying.
>not saying that's a bad thing though.
He's lying, not wanting kids is a very very bad thing.
It means they didn't grow up in a sane nuclear family. It means that they had trouble as kids. It means they probably hate themselves and usually people that hate kids are insane and depressive as fuck.
I have met several old people that didn't have kids.
All of them are completely nuts. or are a total failure in life. Me with an age of 21, have done/accomplish more things than this kind of people.
Most of them don't have a house a car or a stable job. Just a bunch of complete losers that rent everything they have. My father has 6 brothers and 4 of them have no kids. My uncles always see me as a leech. They even tell me I'm just a waste of space. Meanwhile those same assholes owe my family around 10K each.
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hope it turns out well for you, have a fun night/day.
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>mfw OP described my last ex
+she was fat
>meet her through a mutual friend, start talking to her as a friend not thinking about anything else (6/10)
>my friend took my phone from my hands and said "I love you"
>mfw she thought I said it
>that's how we started dating. literally the dumbest fucking shit.
>date for 3 months, her hair changed 5 times
>her mom was the most weird mom-daughter relationship I ever saw
>talks about pur sex with her
>she wanted to meet literally every day, it's a 2 hour drive in every direction
>only rain I kept this up is that I was a virgin beta faggot and her fat pussy was tight
>one day decide "that's it. I wanna play wow.I can't because of her"
>break up with her over some bullshit reason
>tells all our mutual friends I broke up with her to play wow (she met them through me not the other way around)
>they tell me she said that
>top fucking kek I ain't denying it we all laughing
>a year later, she sent messages 3 different times and I said no
>found about about a fuck buddy I had and went full land whale rage on him (yeah bifag here)
>mfw she still thinka there's a chance we'll date again
seriously this kind of experience teaches you a lesson in life
don't compromise on chicks. don't do it.
Thanks man, that qt has some great tits.
>She's getting her MRS degree, dude.
Kek, probably. I'll probably dump her when I find another girl that is ambitious like me.
This is true. It pains me though, there's this qt country girl at my university with a 10/10 body and an 8/10 face, and even though she likes a lot of things that I like, she posts stupid shit on social media about all the "liberal" causes. I'm glad that I'm smart enough to not pursue that.
Now let's make a reverse list - things women should avoid in men. So we can see if we fit the category and an hero.
1. empty wallet
2. doesn't own a car/house/suit
3. wears shoes that aren't polished (e.g. trainers)
4. listens to anything you say
5. isn't a doctor/lawyer/pilot/rich
don't know her, probably from a boxxy nudes thread.
If she had a SE W850i in 2008 then it might be her, taken from the EXIF:
Make - Sony Ericsson
Model - W850i
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In that case, if a woman isn't a model, university educated, comes from a prestigious family, doesn't groom and pamper herself properly, and doesn't wear designer dresses then get rid of the filthy tramp
1 - got some money + shitload of cards
2 - don't have a car and a house, still studying
3 - i don't wear shoes, i polish my combat boots tho (would get shit from higher ups otherwise + would look silly as fuck)
4 - nope
5 - check, not me
As a man who hits all five criteria, you don't really meet women who are otherwise. I really wanna meet a tattoo'd, dyed haired, poor girl but I wouldn't even know where to look. Oh and she needs to be skinny, but I'd imagine a lot of poor girls are fat.
I can help you out with that.
Ever heard of the prince and the pauper?
Just give me all of your riches - and I'll give you my worn out clothes, and introduce you to some tattooed, dyed haired, poor girl - a skinny one if you want.
Haha see that's the thing - I like who I am and have no desire to give up my lifestyle.
I just want someone without the drive and stress. A lot of girls who seek guys in my position are very demanding. I remember what dating was like in high school - I want that again. It wasn't about status, or cars, or money (okay it was a bit about status), but just about enjoying your time. I miss that.
Aight, /b/, gonna tell my situation and I wanna hear your advice
Found this girl, we talked on the internet at first, met her in person, she was really cool and all, at first it was more like friends, then we got together. And so far I am enjoying this, she's cute, fun to be around, and, you know, in general a pretty cool person.
After reading this thread, I am having doubts. First of all, of the mentioned things - #2, #3 (however, she has backed it up) and #6 fit her
She flat out told me she'd fuck a girl, despite us being together, no regrets. Not a guy, though. (If I can believe her)
At first I thought it's a joke, but it might be true
She has mostly guy friends, one of them is my best friend, which isn't good, since he's kind of on the verge of being pretty desperate
So, what should I do?
I am enjoying our time together so far, the sex is good and she's nice to be around, but these warnings made me rethink.
>Never be too nice to a girl. Be good to her, comfort her, give her love. But NEVER step over the line. Every woman will test you at some point. They will test how far they can push you until you lose temper, and then they will make that threshold state the new standard through a long going process of indoctrination techniques. You MUST remain cool and at the same time show a woman where her place is, which should never be above you.
you've obviously just poured into what the faggots on /b/ always try and push
don't put your woman below you if you want the relationship to legitimately workout in the long run. this doesn't mean have her above you either. relationships that actually fucking work are when you and the girl are pretty much mutual. if you're constantly trying to be a dick and make sure she feels "below" you, she'll eventually get sick of it and go to the "sensitive" guys for emotional support and shit. if she's above you, it obviously gives issues too because then she'll just be a bitch and push you around. your advice is shitty. you need to establish a sense of mutual power between eachother. i've been with my partner for 8 years and neither of us is struggling for this retarded power shit and we honestly don't fight at all. you faggots think is so important but it's only important to be mutual.
> Fuck girl with more guy friends than girl friends
> get promptly friend zoned
> go to her party, dining with her guy friends
> mention we banged
> funny smiles around the table
> "hands up who has banged her and been friend zoned"
> every one of them
> mass high five, we all get stoned
Got some new bros, not even mad
1. Emotional Turmoil? Maybe. For sure they're purposefully trying to nab attention though. A attention whore usually doesn't make for a very good girlfriend/wife because after you 'settle in' and stop giving them so much attention (OR when you two break out of the 'Infatuation Stage') they will leave you. Usually for someone else.
Attention whores are also typically liars to some degree. So they will probably do it behind your back. Most likely to try and not hurt your feelings, but if they cared enough about your feelings they would get over themselves anyway. Which is doubtful.
2. Same thing as above, but a little less so.
If the tattoo is kind of hidden and it actually seems somewhat complex, it's probably fine.
Some people like using their body as a canvas to express themselves and what's important to them. Like art. This is okay.
Having a tattoo just to have a tattoo on the other hand..
3. The whole bisexuality thing is bullshit for the most part anyway. There are ALOT less 'real' bisexual people than gays, in both genders.
However, women in general are more attracted to something emotionally more than physically. Opposite of men. So they can usually swing from one gender attraction to another easier than men would. That said, real bisexuality is extremely rare. If a women says that, it's probably for attention. Which in itself is a red flag due to 1.
4. Eeeh.. Most of the time they don't. They can though. If you meet a women or man on a dating site, be careful- it takes a specific subset of people to go to those places in the first place and they usually have some kind of issues.
If just 'casually met' online and managed to just get together, it can work out rather well.
Although not very often.
Have a threesome, can't go wrong with that!
All jokes aside, do what the fuck makes you happy, if you'd see some warnings on the series of tubes about the dangers of pissing while sitting up would you really concider pissing while sitting down? No, i think. Because in the end the only person in the universe who knows whats best for himself, is in fact he himself.
dont get any more emotionally invested
keep her around for casual sex
fuck bitches on the side
dont get caught
if you do get caught, say that you thought the whole fucking girls thing applied to you as well
relationship will probably end, but nothing of value would have been lost
Go travelling as a backpacker.
Find a girl who shares your deeper interests and philosophies of life.
Tell her about the riches after a while - don't lie about anything though, just don't make an issue out of it when it isn't relevant.
OP's post is like basic knowledge, for real. I can imagine exception to those rules, but it's quite a good start, specially 1, 2, 5 and 6 (but in this case it depends on how she is as a person - if she's needy and egocentric, it's a recipe for a disaster).
And don't get me wrong, tumblr-friendly guys with your "personality" talk, I do love girls with personality, but it has nothing to do with tattoos and the color of their hair, fucking retards.
You're the kind of persons who think "personality" is being 25 year old and still post "cool" pictures of yourself giving the finger to the camera on facebook as if you were a vulgar 13 year-old piece of shit.
You'll be fine, i've got the same problem and its actually pretty shit. If you get hurt then just have a beer and shoot a deer, yeehaaw, because no bloody amount of sobbing is going to change anything (maybe other peoples perception of you)
5. Yes and no. Everyone has 'self esteem issues'. If you don't, than you have a outward superiority complex, which I think is much worse.
However, if it starts getting in the way of life then you either have someone who has been abused growing up, or someone who is a attention whore, or both. Avoid that.
Something else to note though.
You can judge a book by it's cover.
However, life has exceptions. People can also have exceptions.
Never block anyone out 'just' because of little shit like this.
Instead, dip your toes into them. Get a feel for the person.
THEN decide if you like the person or not.
Sometimes, you will get those little shiny gems of people who will end up being a great friend or lover.
Your'll never find lifes exceptions if you don't give people at least a small chance.
A real tip of my own;
Keep in mind that it takes specific people to do specific things.
Going to a bar? Don't expect to meet anyone for a long term relationship.
Going to a social event? People who go there are usually- go figure- social. Which, good chance they also like attention and are attention whores. See 1.
The best people I know almost never leave their houses because they hate other people.
So, my suggestion on the best way to meet someone truly unique and intelligent?
Get a job at some low end place that people go to frequently for food or items. Fast Food, Juice Bars, Grocery Stores, etc. Keep a open mind and treat everyone like maybe you two will be friends sometime.
Almost everyone goes out to fast food occasionally, even if they normally don't go to, say, social events.
As some older fucks would say, the best way to find someone is to not actively look. This remains true.
Again though, there are ALWAYS exceptions. So you never know..
That's not a bad idea, man. Thanks! I traveled around South East Asia for a bit and definitely met some cool people. Never tried backpacking though.
Just need to man up and leave my professional life behind for a while.
This dude already gave decent advice >>556998069
The "I'd sleep with a girl without regret" sounds harmless - but if you are emotionally involved with her it will crush your heart all the same. You just won't feel the same 'competition' that you would feel from it being another dude.
If she gives you any more warnings about her twisted personality - don't brush them off as jokes, listen - then think about what might happen in the future - worst case scenario.
Telling you this from experience. Wish I had had this thread 3-4 years ago.
It's also a good way to be killed or imprisoned for rape. Unfortunately with the progression of society now, soon you'll need to have anyone you wish to fuck sign a legal contract stating consent. I actually remember Dave Chappelle doing a bit on his show about exactly that
well it ain't that bad in where im from, i havent even heard anyone talking about feminism, if a tumblr activist could hear my one sentance while im drunk then zir/hir/whatever would be triggered instantly and buttblasted into uranus.
I agree with the "If a girl has guy friends" or around those lines.
My ex had numerous "guy friends" a few she has fucked etc..
She claimed they were friends and gave me the trust bullshit talk when I called her out about it.
I explained to her a friend doesn't want to fuck you, be with you, or is in love with you. Those people will always have an ulterior motive and will do whatever they can to get what they want (In other words, they turn into yes men and praise her and agree with her no matter what). She didn't understand this concept and claimed she just saw them as friends. I attempted the relationship for couple of months and just couldn't do it anymore (hope is a dangerous thing) so i dropped the bitch and ran and never looked back.
I backpacked around SEA for about 9 months.
Stay in hostels - it will be weird and uncomfortable at first, but treat that as part of the safari.
Dorm rooms - shared with strangers.
You'll meet a lot of people like that.
Travel aimlessly - don't plan much in advance.
I'd like to add one more tip of advice.
Honesty is huge.
You might think "Duh?", but I don't think many of us really put any thought into it.
Don't just expect honesty out of others, expect it out of yourself as well.
Alot of women arn't honest because they learned growing up they can manipulate their way into getting what they want VERY easily.
For example, I knew alot of women that would go "Ohhhh my back hurts~" and bitch and complain until you give them a back message. Even if their back doesn't actually hurt.
If you want a message, or if you want anything, straight up ask. Sometimes it might be weird to ask specific questions or say specific things, but think of it as a 'natural barrior' for people to work though. Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.
As in, if someone actually is honest themselves and/or they like you, they will see past the superficial 'weirdness' of whatever you say.
Unless of course you purposefully make yourself weird. Knock that off, you attention whore.
If you want something. Ask. If they say no, get mad if you want. If it's worth lying about, it's worth also getting mad about if they say no, right?
Express that you really want that back message without going out of your way to get it with dishonesty.
Alot of you might think you're honest. But you're most likely not. Why do I say that? Because pretty much everyone I've met thoughout my life so far is dishonest.
If you leave everything in the open, someone else who is honest will appreciate it.
And guess what? There is less chances of someone dishonest cheating on you.
If someone cheats, it's because they are not getting something out of the relationship they want. If they are honest, they will tell you this ahead of time and give you a obvious warning before they go off and get what they want elsewhere.
my ex gf was #1, #2 ( she got one right before broke up), and part of #5 - her mom was fat and a two face. super nice to guests and crappy to family.
she was insecure in our relationship. she kept on thinking that i was disappointed with her for stupid made up crap. when we went to college, she started getting attention from other guys. so we broke up, and she quickly found out that i was actually a really good bf compared to the other guys who just wanted to bang her. 3 years later shes married to a russian guy and maybe 15 to 20 pounds heavier... with more tatoos.
A for sure way to tell if you have a very honest relationship with someone is if you can tell eachother you find someone else sexy or attractive. No joke. People will find other people attractive. It's if they act on it or not that should be the deal breaker. Plus, depending on how honest everyone is with eachother, they might not put any thought to you finding someone else attractive. Because that kinda just happens, but we learned in our society to keep our mouth shut about it, which, go figure, limits honesty.
If you find someone honest, you have found possibly the best friend or lover you could possibly find.
On 1, 2 and 3 : They're called Suicide Girls for a reason.
"What?! they're perfectly healthy, full of personality, fun and they'll never commit suicide!"
"No, YOU'LL commit suicide."
Would post if i had any, her facebook doesn't have face pics either. But here is a crude depiction of her.
Implying autists arnt the master race, you'd all be bashing each other heads in with rocks still if there werent autists around to invent tools and fire and everything else thats ever been of any use to human kind
You are a cheap social justice warrior, go to bed and think about your life. We're sharing some 150 years of mystical wisdom here, mah boy. Wisdom that can spare you countless headaches and mental breakdowns.
Besides you don't know what reversing means, do you? We are talking about things that girls have / are that may be signs of a potential ride to hell in a roller-coaster relationship and you're talking about things that men DON'T and could make LESS OF GOOD PARTNER but not a door the worst of what this life has to offer.
My ex was 1 and 4. I was in a relationship with her for 3 years. Bitch was crazy as fuck and ended up burning me really bad...can confirm.
5 is a fucking nightmare, they literally do not listen to anyone and for some reason have to run themselves down and throw your compliments back in your face. Becomes so annoying and vain it makes you angry
Holy shit is this an actual thread? Some guy has had bad experiences with some slags and now objectively criticizes ones with the criteria of said sluts. This is why /b/ is a beta-fest.
"Oh yes praise OP for having a few girlfriends and telling us of the promised lands".
>never be too nice to a girl
I don't know if I'd ever position a girl directly 'below' myself in a relationship, but you deserve a medal for that post. I wish I knew this earlier. I was fucking stupid for letting a girl think it's okay to talk shit about me in front of others, even if only for her to have fun, not telling her anything about it. I always thought that it's my fault and that I should try to become a better person, but instead she just made me listen to her.
Fuck it I'm opening a bottle, this thread brought back thoughts of the past to me.
Oh you think that was just to make you laugh? I bet you can't appreciate the difference between tongue-in-cheek criticism and humor.
"Humor and timing"... stop watching stand up masterclasses man.
I've been posting for awhile faggot. Seen and lived enough of the things discussed in this thread to know this kind of advice isn't bullshit.
Also you say "The thread is dead" and then you post on the thread?!
But it's sociology if women are maing observations about men, right? But when men make observations about women it's all just insecure losers being insecure, right? There's nothing wrong with you, right? You said the right things, so now you'll be respected, right?
Go outside and live a little, maybe you'll be less of a bitch next time you shit on the internet.
Man, you have no idea of who you're talking to, but it's ok. I guess that's what you expect from a thread like this, right?
"winning twice at beer pong", it's funny how your simplification of your adversary shows how limited you are, but let's not get of the point anymore.
You want to say something, and I'm ready to listen.
Let me just say that your idea of reversing the game here is not bad, yet you don't realize that some of the advice here is just useful; I ain't talking about that slut-shaming shit.
1000000% percent. Dumb psycho bitch fucked up my life for 3 years and we didnt even go out for one full one. They dont let go and it takes a while before you realize they're mentally fugged
if there was someone truly unique and intelligent going to that grocey store, wouldn't he/she just treat you like a regular person, or someone below themselves, since you're working at a grocery store?
You are the only one on this thread with a me me me false sense of importance - apart from the warship designer faggot, and he left.
You missed the point entirely, and you'll probably never grasp it. It doesn't matter, forget it.
I live 6 hours from my girl. It has worked for over a year just fine.
Someone said something about having more guy friends than girl friends. My gf has all guy friends - I know them all, she has fucked none of them and she adores me. Some women just don't get along with other women.
Femanon here, do guys really see this as a really terrible thing? I have mostly guy friends and I didn't know it was such a big deal?
jesus christ this
a few of my friend groups in uni included mostly guys and a girl or two and all went to shit when one of them hooked up with one of the girls or a guy was brought into the picture
If they had any intelligence they would realize a job is a job and not really care.
If a person goes to a place over and over again over time (Say, the same grocery store) and you helped her at the cashier a bunch over time, you'd figure you two would feel kind of 'normal' with eachother because you see eachother so much and say hi to eachother enough that you could perhaps start a normal conversation without it seeming weird and possibly begin to hit it off. So that helps as well.
depends if you're a psycho yourself. Honestly do you crave guys attention? like more than one or two (be honest, we have no idea who you are)
Also your snapchat bestfriends. are they all male?
Yeah, I'll stop replying to your shit.
Pushing the "2deep4you" button every time instead of joining the discussion, that's not "me me me false sense of importance" at all.
You say I missed the point entirely, yet you can't even say what the point is.
Having a "deep" life crisis much? "Those faggots can't even understand my shit, they'll never get the point..."
Ok, post something when you become an interesting person.
Chances are she has done something with several of them.
Chances are that all of them want to do something more with her.
If you fuck up - or if she's in a fix while you are 6 hours away and her 'friends' are 5 minutes away.
She'll call them, they'll come and comfort her or help her out - or be drunk with her.
That's when the trouble starts.
You should worry more about them than your girl. They are just waiting for the opportunity.
Time makes opportunities.
Its a mark of a mental wreck and the moment a guy gets you he has to deal with all the other guys around you who you seek for attention and comfort. If its just the guy friends that your boyfriend gets you to meet its not that much of a problem
Yes it is a big deal.
Have you done anything with your male friends before?
Kissed, touched, let them touch you, fucked?
Honestly - are any of them attracted to you, would they fuck you given the chance?
Think about it.
standard for women is they aren't mentally unstable
standard for men, they have to be billionaires
She has done nothing with any of them. I know them all and they all respect me. She's just the kinda girl that doesn't get along with other girls. The guys she hangs out with aren't guys she would be attracted to. Plus - she adores me.
Oh get it now! You think I am the guy who was talking to you before! Actually I just saw your post on reversing the situation. It makes more sense now.
Anonymity sure is the best web for missing bullets.
my gf really changed tho, it can happen, when we first met (she was on exctasy) but I didn't know that, she was really honest, and told me that she's kinda a slut but really wanted me. We started dating later and I seriously wanted it to last... anway,.. she had sex with other guys too,
that was from oct - jan, when I came back we kinda started a better relationship and she told me she didn't want to sleep with anyone else beside me, I was like lol k. but she was serious and we were together for 7 month and I didn't even have to worry about her. And that's like her first relationship that she didn't cheat, so dispite everything change can happen.