ITT: Relationship red flags.
Here, I'll start.
You realize the girl you've been dating for the past 4 weeks only has male friends.
Red flag: she often stares into the abyss with an empty look on her face
Protip: she dumb yo
>she complaines about being bored all the time
she will expect you to entertaine her, she is a boreing person in general, if you get married she will find other men to entertain her while you work your ass off to pay for shit she demands
>"i would never have kids"- means, i want them now
>parents dine at hooters
>tells stories about being hit as a child
>parents are divorced
>300 pictures of herself in her bathroom on her phone
>instagram/facebook are >50% herself
>more than 300 friends on IG
This for sure.
>2 weeks into relationship
>"anon, do you think you could marry me?"
Oh man I wonder how many of these the chick I'm with has.
Started fucking her before she had backed out of her relationship
mom did not age well
I'm "the friend" from "online"
she was raped once
I hate all her friends
so far i wonder what else will pop up
She blurts out she loves you and YOU DONT LOVE HER BACK.
> How I knew my first relationship was at an end.
> Broke up a few days later and told her I don't love her back and that it was unfair of me to hold her back
> She tried to get me to come over or go out with her for months until I got another GF.
complains and is proud of being overweight simultaneously.
>"I know I'm not a 0, but god damn am I sexy."
she takes care of an ill person
hen pecking in a cute way, turns into demands
def agree with never date a girl thats already seeing someone or just broke up.
relationships tire me out
honestly, it can all be boiled down to just a few:
1. she doesn't seem excited about you, hanging out with you (insincere)
2. she gets angry, frustrated, sad, or extremely emotional with zero legitimate reason (i.e.; someone died)
3. she has no interests, or requires other people for entertainment (passionless)
4. she has no desire for clear relationship boundaries, and thus doesn't respect you as a person (i'll summarize that as "whore")
TL;DR - she's young.
sorry kids, you can have either the body of a teenager or the wisdom of an adult. just make your choice and adjust your little online dating profiles to match
Turns tv on while talking to you on the phone.
Addicted to drugs or alcohol.
Believes in Jesus
Doesn't like Vidya
Shopping all the time
Already has a baby
Starts conversations by complaining
Is mean to everyone.
I also think this would be a red flag.
weeks into relationship>"anon, do you think you could marry me?"
fuck this happens every time I have anything deeper than a Fwbs with a woman, it doesn't even make any sense to me I'm poor and have thinly covered emotional problems, I shouldn't be showing up at all on the marriage radar.
> tons of selfies
oh yeah. spot on on that one.
I was on my second date with a girl and she was taking selfies of her self while in the passenger seat of my car. Holy shit what a vapid cunt.
Need /b/ honest opinion
Gf of fifteen months will not stop going through phone. Keeps getting mad over dumb bs etc. etc.
>Solve problem with screen lock
>Gf bursts into treats cuz i'm tired of her going through my shit
Should I just dump this nosy insecure cunt and get on with my life ??
>she refers to her friends as just friends
>if they were her friend, she would call them a friend
>dated some bitch in the summer
>had the feminist fist tattooed on her foot
>was all for equal rights but liked sub and dom bedroom play.
>i brought up the fact that she was a walking contradiction every chance i got
>doesn't matter had sex
The instant you go through someones phone you might as well plaster, "I don't trust you." on your forehead.
Question for you: Will a relationship without trust work in the long term?
I have a list of rules about dating, all learned from experience.
- Never trust a girl who's fucked someone you don't trust.
- Never trust a girl who doesn't go by her real name.
- Never trust a ballerina
- Never trust a girl who won't make it facebook official
- Never trust a girl who uses the word casual at any point to describe your relationship
- Never trust a girl from Virginia
- Never trust a girl who prioritizes world travel
-Never trust a girl with more than 550 facebook friends
-Never trust a girl with more guy friends than girl friends
- Never trust a girl who offers anal the first sexual interaction or immediately following
And the most important:
- NEVER, EVER, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE trust a girl with a tattoo of a dagger...
> wants to talk to you on the phone and do other shit at the same time.
nope. I had this last chick I dated want me to listen to her as she just went thru her day, like call me and be shopping and shit and I could just hear her in the background
try it in a sentence
You: So who was that on the phone?
>> Oh that was my friend john.
>> Oh that was john, we are just friends.
You honestly cant understand the different implications here?
>In a year long relationship with a girl that believes in "lying to avoid the other person being hurt" who only has male friends.
>her excuse is "do you know how hard it is to make female friends"
>haven't found any legit evidence to prove she's cheating
>have her tell me she doesn't trust me almost weekly
I actually agree with what he's saying.
"Who's that?" or "Who are you going out with?"
Answer: "Oh it's just [guys name], it's ok we're just friends."
That's the red flag.
If she normally answers with something like: "Oh I'm going out with [guys name]." it implies less because she's not instantly defending herself by saying, "JUST friends".
Once she starts instantly defending herself from a simple question like that, it somewhat implies she knows she's guilty and trying to hide it.
she probably is accustomed to stringing guys along for attention, and probably fucks around.
there are exceptions, there are a minority of tomboyish women who genuinely connect platonically better with males do to having more male interests, but even then they usually have a female friend they do girly shit with on the side. or an actual girlfriend.
Yeah, probably dude. Problems like this are only going to get worse down the line. If you're already having trouble with that shit now it's just going to intensify the longer you stay with her.
Several time actually. Do you doubt my wisdom? Trust me on this one. Avoid Ballerina's. All that perfectionist high maintenance bullshit they are trained to do makes them insane.
My girlfriend was a virgin when I met her. She likes me because I entertain her. She has more guy friends than girl friends. Hates it when I take too long to reply. Gets emotional very easily. She has a hot body though. I think I want to marry her. I would not mind tapping datass for the rest of my life.
I refuse to date a woman who has male friends.
Not because I think she'll cheat on me with them, but because they're going to hit on her all the time and I don't want to have to be kicking asses 24/7. I got shit to do.
Honestly the only reason you have a female friend is if you want to fuck her. Any single one of your girl friends you would fuck daily.
well basically all the male "friends" were men she was either considering dating, or had fucked in the past. This was a woman with a mind of a man. And just wanted to pit all the min against eachother. Like a bidding war at an auction.
she was just all around crazy. she was into rape-sex, which is very much a turn-off for me.
She just ended up being a crazy cunt, and then told everyone at work that I was some wierdo faggot after I stopped talking to her.
Mega game player.
just all around a weird incident. and I made the mistake of dipping the pen in company ink so it fucked my life up. Ultimately, the fact that all her friends were men should have been a massive red flag. I mean how fucking wierd is that? It'd be like a guy whose only friends are a flock of women. Something wrong there.
um yeah, this girl I'm seeing has forced me to watch some disney movies. Why is this red flag? Doesn't seem to be the worst thing. I watch a shitty movie like frozen then she fucks me for the next two weeks. Don't get the huge problem....
My girlfriend is starting to turn feminazi. I hate it and she always avoids the conversation when I start telling her what's wrong with the stupid shit she's saying. It usually goes "wow, these people are stupid" "no they're not they have a right to blah blah blah false justification" "if it really mattered they'd do logical decision rather than stupid shit they did" "I don't want to start with this, I'll just get mad" I don't think I can ever forgive my cool female friend for showing my girlfriend how to use tumblr.
you could easily make that connection without dating them which is why i dont believe you actually dated them. unless you have some connection to a ballerina (studio?) or are one yourself. either way you are a liar or a faggot but im just gonna kill two birds with one stone and say you are a lying faggot.
yeah, like lesbian life partner level stuff. big red flag.
What if I the booty is really really good?
Also I've been in love with her for 6 years and I had to go through a really elaborate plot to get her boyfriend fired from his job, addicted to meth, and into prison for domestic assault, in order to free her up.
So I mean I should be fine right?
so much this.
3 years of her bs, getting all insecure and playing the victim when you even brush the subject of something as simple as "who is texting you right now?". crying, blaming ect. should have been more obvious, but they make YOU feel like you are being the bad guy by not trusting her, when its really just your instinct trying to get the bitch out.
Men/Man Going Their Own Way.
MGTOW is basically the statement of self-ownership and saying that only you have the right to decide what your goals in life should be.
It is saying that, as a man I will not surrender my will to the social expectations of women and society, because both have become hostile against masculinity.
You find out she has had fuck buddies "i didnt enjoy it and dont do it anymore" happened twice a few months before you start dating
If shes ever model'd amateur
Ever dated a non famous "musician"
Has had a "pay pig" ( someone who pays you to sexually humiliate or dom them)
Tells you if you broke up shed still try to stick out being friends if you moved on
Unfortunatly these were all from the same chick in one relationshit
I've been in a few before.
1. She talks about marriage or kids too much in the first year.
2. She "forgets" to take the pill on occasions. My tip is to get her the coil, and maybe go on the male pill too.
3. She acts too quickly as if she's moving herself into your apartment, like taking up clothes drawers for herself without asking.
4. She starts moving your own stuff around your apartment.
5. She starts to become less and less independent, and relies on you more for money. Any two people who can't stand on their own two feet will have a rocky relationship filled with future arguments.
6. She bans your "you time" with friends and consoles.
32 year oldfag here. I'll share a few
1) Multicolored or unnaturally colored hair. Sign of a personality disorder or extreme mental instability.
2) Has 'rebelled' against deeply religious parents or is otherwise estranged from them.
3) Majority of her friends are men. She has fucked or will fuck nearly all of them. They're waiting their turn.
3b) Other women cannot stand her but 'can't quite put their finger on why'. Especially women that you're friends with (Protip: Your buddies' girlfriends/wives are amazing litmus tests to use for potential new women)
4) Any time you point out shady behavior she goes immediately to accusing you of being 'controlling'. She's deflecting. Just outright say what you think she's doing, chances are you're right. That's why she's deflecting.
5) Any woman you can confirm has cheated before. Immediately proves she cannot ever be trusted.
5b) If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you. It's a matter of time and her convenience.
5c) Any time a woman claims she was 'raped' by one of her beta-orbiter men. She fucked him willingly. She'll do it again too if she thinks you won't find out.
6) Compulsive liars.
7) Women who can't hold a job.
8) Women that insist on going with no condom ridiculously early in the relationship (read <6 months). One of the times you try to pull out she's going to leglock you you and refuse to let you. Congratulations, you've just created an 18 year government-mandated stipend for her.
9) Women that were actually raped or molested at an early age. The amount of psychological damage this cause will never fully heal. They're complete emotional nightmares as a result.
10) The ones that say 'I love you' ridiculously early. Bitch you've known me 4 weeks and you love me?
10b) The ones that refuse to say they love you even after a year or more. You're being used. Soon as she finds someone else to fufill the purpose she's assigned to you, you're going to be out on your ass.
And that's just the big ones.
My gf's dad apparently gets upset if he has a day off work and she's not available to spend the day with him.
>mfw my gf's dad's probably getting it in with my girl more than I am
There's clearly a fundamental problem with the way both of you view what a relationship means and that's just as much your fault as hers. I personally wouldn't give a damn if my girlfriend of over a year wanted to looks at everything aside from asking for access to my bank account, passwords, and social security number. If she wants to ask me to look through my phone I take that as a good sign. I'd rather have a girl afraid that I'm too good for her than one that doesn't give a shit. But that's just me. I see relation ships as requiring complete transparency to work. Other people have different opinions. If you don't mesh on the nature of what a relationship fundamentally is then yes, you should leave her.
oh god, i used to have to explain that what was hapenning was foreshadowing and that they were building up to something that was gonna happen, like it doesn't make sense yet because the thing they are referring to hasn't even happened yet. be patient give it time.
i can't remember but that probably just started another argument because i pointed out... the truth.
When she wants "eletro therapy"
When she hangs out with one guy, and he's just "a friend", or "like a brother".
Second one is the worst. You know she's fucking bullshiting, but she keeps saying it. I know he's not "just a friend'.
I've had all good relationships actually. The best one
>liked anime but kept it away from me
>was vegetarian but i didn't know about it for a while
>owned one cat and one dog
>didn't have a facebook
>didn't talk much
I still love her so much. I wonder where she went.
they just can't man. and won't. never will.
and really when you think about it, why should they? They can think however they want in whatever strange ways they want and men will still want to fuck them.
really they run shit when you think about it. We strive to meet their illogical perceptions.
This happened to me recently.
>bitch clocks me in face drunk, breaking $400 prescription glasses
>fuck it, we're on lease together - forgive it
>3 weeks later claws at my face, scraping glasses off durr 'open hands'
>50% power into fist into torso
>bitch flies 5ft back
"This is your equality. Fuck you. Next time it will be 100% power."
Hate this cunt so much. Can't wait til lease is up. Sucks I'll have to be a master carpenter to repair all the damage I've done here.... (punched a hole in about everything solid b/c typically I don't EVER hit people unless provoked)
weird how it works that way. Ive never cheated on someone. If you dont want to be with someone then fucking leave. I aint keeping you here. I get around when Im single and have broken up with girls when there is another girl i really wanna fuck. Its not hard. I guess some bitches are just crazy.
>1) Multicolored or unnaturally colored hair. Sign of a personality disorder or extreme mental instability.
So you're saying this is a no?
fucking A bro. went out with a girl 3 times in my hometown before she started asking me if i was fucking girls at my college. when i said no, she said its not a big deal if i am. i realized she already had it in her head that i was and i wasnt getting through to her so i ended it right there. didnt realize until you said it anon, but she originally said she had trust issues and i brushed it off
i think i just realized my first relationship of nearly 4 years i was getting cheated on left and right. well shit
When the girl you've been dating is part of a clique of female friends who spend a lot of their time discussing you and trying to convince her to break up with you so they can all be "single gurlzz" together
Trial and error.
I dated two ballerinas by chance. How is that so unbelievable? You must be a ballerina getting so easily rustled.
I'm surprised you didn't call me out on Virginians. I approve. This must mean you're from West Virginia, the one true Virginia.
I hate it when a girl can't duck my dick.
I have like 60 max, I don't add family or people I'm not close enough that I would hang out with 1v1
>her bestfriend is a guy who was her Ex/someone that she had feelings for at one point/He had feelings for her.
Fuck this is the girl I am just starting to date. She was a part of our guy friend group for a long time though so maybe it is a bit different? I t's awesome right now though because she is fucking hot, and yes albiet a little crazy in a good way, and she does all the 'manly' things I like to do, like climbing backpacking, drinking, smoking
fuckkkkkkk am I getting myself into some shit?
OH hell I'll throw in a few more.
11) Has no father/absentee father. This woman will crave male attention and approval. How do adult women get this? By fucking as many men as they can. These are the women that end up working graveyard at the C-string stripjoint in their 40s.
12) Has two kids or more that are extremely close in age, and look absolutely nothing alike. They have separate fathers, and she fucked both of their fathers within a very short timeframe. This is a whore. You are her next mark.
13) Women who seem too good to be true. They are. She's used what you've said to her to shape herself into what you see as the ideal woman. These women are DANGEROUS. They will DESTORY you emotionally and give not one single fuck about the fallout. They'll consider it your fault. DO NOT GET INVOLVED HERE.
14) any woman that constantly brings up multiple ex-boyfriends in casual conversation. This should tell you her deep-down opinion of men. They're conversation pieces. A means to an end. That's exactly what you'll end up being.
15) Any woman that asks you for any amount of money above $50 within the first 5 months. You know what she's using you for now.
16) If she's a student when you meet her and suddenly isn't after about 6 months of dating.. you're being primed to be her retirement fund.
17) If she insists on going somewhere and when you say you'd like to come along, she actually gets mad while insisting you can't. You're interfering with her ability to wrangle a side-dick. Insist and if she still refuses, tell her to take her shit with her when she leaves.
This. I hang out with men because we have things in common.
I hang out with women cause i want to get inside them.
This just seems like the normal way of things. Why do some women seem to deny this is true?
1.She's always sick or hurt. Either she's really fucking whiny or she's poor breeding stock, either way you don't want that.
2.You always have to explain movies to her. Explaining inception is one thing. I had to explain the fucking Princess Bride to a bitch. It's a fucking kids movie dumb cunt, a 3rd grader could follow the plot...
>13) Women who seem too good to be true. They are. She's used what you've said to her to shape herself into what you see as the ideal woman. These women are DANGEROUS. They will DESTORY you emotionally and give not one single fuck about the fallout. They'll consider it your fault. DO NOT GET INVOLVED HERE.
holy,fucking, shit..... this is actually pretty close to what my ex was.... damn it.
all that love talk n shit ...why.
Girls who have all male friends are usually oblivious to the fact that they all just want to fuck her but don't know how to make a move. Dating a girl like that is a nightmare, because all of her friends see you as a rival and all they do is put you down and talk shit about you when your not there.
Or worse, she knows they all want to fuck her and she gets a kick out of being desired by so many men and she uses their attention to compensate for the fact that her father left when she was five.
Good advice so far.
If she cries first time or regularly during or after sex. Had 2 gfs like this, both crazy. The one was hot as fuck though so you know...held on to her a little longer than I should have
>not knowing what the fuck white knighting is
>getting double dubs
>8) Women that insist on going with no condom ridiculously early in the relationship (read <6 months)
This doesn't always have anything to do with:
>Congratulations, you've just created an 18 year government-mandated stipend for her.
Mostly it means theyre on the pill and want to have sex without a condom.
>a little crazy in a good way
you can stick your dick in her but don't do anything serious.
I don't like to hurt anything. Objects can't feel pain.
>was brought up by old school parents where 'beating' meant 'fixing'
All I ever feel is hate, resentment, regret, and pain. Job is pure stress, no friends b/c of long-term bitchcunt, the only thing keeping me alive is my prodigy of a child.
>bitchcunt 'fiance/gf' thinks we're still going strong
>fuck you cunt, installed packet sniffers on network 4 months ago I know everything
>she will never, ever, ever win a custody battle
I play for keeps.
mx ex had a best male guy friend.
always told me he was "only a friend" and " nothing will happen".
yeah fuck me, after 2 years of relationship she breaks up under blameshifting and stupid reasons and gets together with him. wow....just fuckin wow..
she was beautiful, the right mixture of humor, looks,character...and then fucks me over like that
>You realize the girl you've been dating for the past 4 weeks only has male friends.
Implying that a girl can't be anything other than straight when dating your swampass
Implying that by having all male friends means she's a slut
Implying that if she had all female friends she could be just as slutty if bi
fucking christ niggertits
They think they're actually interesting. I guess you can have a good time with them, but it will never be beyond a real flirty time.
Like, you can't wait to go bowling with your friend. You'll joke and drink and it's good. If you went bowling with her, you'd constantly think about not fucking up because you still want to get your dick in her. It's just not as comfortable, even if you don't like her.
/b/ro i'm feeling the hardship of a GF who keeps begging to travel. To be honest i'm piss poor and a student and it just is not feasible currently. But she goes on like it is her destiny or that her current life is fulfilling. Although she unintentionally is shitting on the relationship the implications are sufficient for me to prepare for the incoming breakup.
Also life experience, if she is catholic and wishes to argue with you about the moral nature of sex related topics, it is not worth it.