/b/ am I a monster?
>Im 37 years old
>Had a child young with my high school sweet heart
>yeah I know I fucked up
>We were in love the first 5 years up until I decided I wanted to fuck other women but still maintain my fatherly duties
>Ex wasn't having it and put me on child support
>Wages would be garnished up the ass I literally lived on the poverty line
>I had to live with my brother and his family for a couple years in their addict just to hold my life together and not go homeless
>Got to the point where I contemplated on killing my ex
>never got to see my child or anything
>Feminist court says I pay and she decides whether I can have a relationship with my child
>Years go on and I give up fighting
>Nearly spent 100k fighting her in court only to be told "Denied custody"
>I stopped caring about my child and ignored every phone call form my ex
>Not like we had anything to talk about anyways
>End up working like 4 jobs just to keep myself afloat
>Skip to present day
>Heard my daughter turning 18 so I decide to lawyer up and end this child support bullshit once and for all
>Get a court date and ironically this judge feels sorry for me
>"Wow Mr.Anon all these judges denied you? Thats pretty hard to stomach"
>Judge says now that everything is in order the child support order has been cut but I need to deliver one more check to solidify its end
>Ok sure what better time than to give it to her on our daughters 18th bday
>2 weeks ago
>Arrive at door step with the last check
>Daughter answers door
>"Uh hi can I help you?"
>Shes gorgeous she grew up beautiful
>I need to talk to your mom
>Her last check
>Calls her mom
>Ex just grins and says "THANK YOU ANON"
>Look inside their house and see how nice it is in there
>can see where my money has been going to
>Before ex close door I just unleash my suppressed hate on her
>YOU VAMPIRIC BITCH I HOPE YOU ROTT IN HELL YOU FUCKING JEW SNAKE GOOD FUCKING RIDDANCE TO RUINING-
>MY ROLE AS A FATHER AND NEVER LETTING ME BE THERE FOR HER, AND THE FUCKED UP PART I DON'T EVEN KNOW HER FUCKING NAME!!
>Ex just laughs and says "Sounds like a personal issue" and slams the door
>As I walk away I can hear both of them yelling at each other
>Then the door suddenly opens and my daughter comes running to me in tears
>"WAIT SO YOU'RE MY REAL DAD!?!?! B-B-BUT N-N-NO THIS ISN'T RIGHT WHATS GOING ON????"
>At this point now I've become so disillusioned and tell my own daughter
>Get raped and die for all I care, far as I'm concerned you never existed to me you fucking wasted sperm cell that should of been aborted
>Ex comes back outside and says I can't talk to her like that and slaps me and says her husband will talk to me later
>Just end up screaming at both of them
>BOTH YOU DEGENERATE WHORES WASTED MY YOUTH YOU TOOK AWAY EVERYTHING FROM ME I LOST OUT EVERYTHING
>But then I turn my attention to my own daughter
>ESPECIALLY YOU I FUCKING HOPE YOU DIE I FUCKING HOPE YOU GET RAPED AND I ESPECIALLY HOPE YOU NEVER HAVE FUCKING KIDS
>Daughter is just a puddle of tears now at this point and nearly faints
>As I'm walking back to my beat up car daughter gets back up and run towards me
>"YOU CAN'T BLAME ME ITS NOT MY FAULT I NEVER EVEN KNEW YOU EXISTED DADDY!!!"
>Not my problem, I don't even know your name
>"ITS AMBER MY NAME IS AMBER! WHATS YOUR NAME??"
>Shes trying to hug me now
>DON'T FUCKING TOUCH ME
>shove her to the ground and now Police has arrived at this point
Youre sounding like a real shitface. You better 180 this story faggot. No dinosaur. No bel-air. I better get a happy ending....
OP must be in the US.
>be nearly 40
>have child who is 8 with ex
>pay child support
>regular contact with child
>meet hot 27 year old
>she's into me big time
>beautiful person inside and out
>ex goes ape
>not seeing your child anymore
>but I will keep taking your maintenance payments thank you
>not having this
>take it to court
>she gets lawyer
>court reinstates full contact and asks ex why she thought stopping contact was ever a good idea
>I collect the win
>cost me a grand total of £60 include fuel to and from court
>cost her hundreds to be in the same situation she was in before
In the UK we have something called joint parental responsibility, so the absent parent has a complete set of rights enshrined in law. Unless you're a nonce, obviously.
I don't have a mfw handy, if someone wants to post one on my behalf I'd appreciate it.
>Daughter gets back up trying to latch onto me
>Tell police to keep her away from me or I will punch her
>Ex is telling the officers that I came her and provoked a fight and what not and I should be arrested
>Tell Police I'm giving her the last of my child support since daughter turned 18
>Just arguing back and forth and Police tell me to go home and don't come back or I will be arrested
>Daughter is screaming saying she wants to go with me
>Tell her to stay away from me and I have nothing left to say to her and to have a nice life
>as I drive away I can see her screaming and waving her arms for me to come back
>Police is just holding her
>Inside I feel so much hate and passionate rage for her just looking at her makes me my blood boil because I see her mothers face
>2 days later
>as a freeman I start saving up some money in hopes of buying a new 2015 Tacoma
>Just living my life normally now
>Notice I have over 200 missed calls from my ex
>Voice-mail is full and I decide fuck it I'm going to change my number
>I don't have no facebook or twitter or snapchat whatever so realistically they have no way of tracking me except for my checks
>shit my checks.....
>realize they have my address and daughter might come find me
>As I'm walking out the door I see this car pull up
>"THATS HIM SEE HE DOES LIVE HERE!"
>Out comes my daughter and her step dad
>"DADDY WE NEED TO-"
>STAY AWAY FROM ME!!
>Step dad steps in "HEY ASSHOLE I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW YOU EXISTED EITHER! SHE TOLD ME YOU WERE DEAD!"
>Bro comes running outside to the screaming with his gun
>"The fuck is going on out here and who the fuck are you people??"
>Tell my brother that these strangers have been stalking me
>Bro cocks his .45 and tells them not another step closer or hes calling the police
>Her step dad grabs her and says lets go its not worth it
>Daughter yelling saying its not her fault and mom is an evil bitch but I shouldn't pin it on her its not fair
>OP must be in the US.
Perhaps, but if he is, he is also lying. Of course American parents have the right to see their kids — unless they are known to have been abusive.
No mother can just deny her ex to see his kids simply on her say-so. It shouldn't come as a surprise that abusive dads CLAIM that this is different.
as a clerk workin in a california court i can tell you that the large majority of cases are not biased in one way or another.
one parent is always a shithead and its pretty fkn easy to sniff out whos who
That story isn't even done. But if this is real op. I beg you to reconsider and reconnect with your daughter. Please for the love of God, do it. You don't understand the pain of not having a father around. It would Ptobably making her estatic to have her father in her life.
waiting for an ending before i read to see if i am gonna be le trolled
>A week later I file for a restraining order against my daughter
>Make one last final phonecall with my ex and say keep her away or I can take this up a couple notches your choice
>ex says daughters want one conversation with me face to face
>We meet up at a park with a large group of her family standing by and me alone
>Daughter just weakly says "hi..."
>"My names Amber whats yours?"
>"Nice to meet you Johnny"
>Hey I try
>Just awkward silence and she sits down on the park bench
>"So Umm I'm graduating soon"
>"I got you these tickets.."
>Thats sweet but not interested
>Rip them in her face
>Cause I don't know you
>"I really don't want to yell I've been crying for so long I feel weak now"
>Not my fucking problem you can't control yourself
>"can you please calm down"
>I am calm you're wasting my fucking time
>"Why can't I get to know you?"
>Because you and your fucking mother destroyed my life
>Yeah I fucking thought so
>"Look I admit my mother is worse than satan but you please give me a chance to get to know my flesh and blood"
>What chance do you fucking want? there isn't much to learn about me
>Stop just fucking stop
>I grab her hands and look at her dead in the eyes /b/
>YOU ARE DEAD TO ME
>She just sits there starting straight ahead
>Goodbye amber have a nice life
And that was the last time I talked and saw my daughter now I will answer as much as I can. Whether she killed herself or not I dunno I don't keep in contact anymore nor has she tried to contact me recently.
I have a friend who had an ex that did this. She was gigantic hambeast, claimed that her ex and father of her child never gave her any child support. She also claimed she was going to the gym.
She would actually drive to the pub and spend all the child support money on the pokies.
It was one of the reasons why they broke up, the other being she fucked someone else and then while they were trying to work things out he fucked her step sister.
If the checks were about $500 or less, ok. Maybe.
If the checks were more than that, the stepdad is really dumb to not notice this.
> hoping story ends with stepdad and OP getting together.
yea thats how it always is when people go to court.
the othersides lawyers are godmode snakemen who lie and manipulate the system andyour lawyer is a perfect innocent flower who just wants whats best for everyone
That's some INTENSE displaced anger bro. You're probably going to kill yourself later when you can't stop thinking about it. She'd probably going to seek a resolution at the bottom of a bottle or at the base of some shit head's cock. Nice job you monster.
you fucked up op but it's understandable i was in the same boat up until 3 years ago luckily my wife a daughter both died in a car crash though woo now im taking classes in engineering at middlesex county college
false. when I Was growing up I never met my father, my mother claims he never wanted to see me.
I found out later she had placed a restraining order on him and his mother and father, and so while he could request to see me, he could not come close enough to even pick me up
He later tried to fight to see me and was shot down by the courts.. I did not meet him until i was 20, now he no longer cares.
I am 27 now.
You did what you felt like doing and I get where your resentment comes from. But I cant help but feel that you might just regret that when you are wasting away in some shit hole retirement home.
You're an idiot.
Impregnated and married an evil bitch, which is something that idiots do.
Let her win the divorce so utterly you lost wages.
Did not have the talent, intelligence, or ability to make a living wage.
You're a monster of the highest caliber OP. I doubt this story is true but you need to repent and find Jesus immediately
Unpopular opinion: you did the right thing.
Looking at your daughter must cause you so much pain. Fucking sucks, bro. Hope your ex gets it.
Op if this story is really. I'm sorry to say but you're fucking scum and need a life evaluation. Yes your ex ruined your life. But you have a loving daughter that wants nothing more then a relationship with her father. I hope you'll realize one day the biggest mistake you ever made
Man you're a little shit. Like sure, I understand the connection between your ex's shit and your daughter; but she might not be the same.
Give her a fucking chance man, just tell her you'll talk/hang out with her for a week and if you don't like it, you're done.
>woman fucks up life
I honestly can't relate to OP's story, but instead of demonizing him for telling his daughter to fuck off, I tried to sympathize.
I'd rather be autistic than one of you miserable cunts.
The sad part? She would have vindicated everything you felt all those years. You would have been proven right yet you fucking blew it and proved you deserved all you got. Congratulations OP your failure is complete
Now where can we find this lonely girl with daddy issues?
18 years gone I will never get my youth back
as stated above 18 years gone
I know I regret it so much
I don't know her far as I'm cocnerned
Thanks I appreciate it
I refuse to look at some one who stole everything from me and never once bothered to question things that weren't adding up
Go for it
also apologizes for bad spelling stupid auto correct. heres some webm
Wow, I hope you remember this on your death-bed, look around you, and realize you're dying alone. You are a shit human being and you deserve every bit of suffering your ex gave you.
OP. What kind of monster are you?
... You should have fucked that girl. Think of how destroyed her mother would have been when you turned her daughter into your personal fucktoy.
On one hand, that bitch ruined your best years, but on the other all that kid wanted to do was know her Father. Even after all the yelling and shit you did to her, she STILL wanted to know you. IMO you're a giant douche and need to end your horrid life., that or you need to apologies to your daughter and try and get to know her. I really hope this story is fake, but if not, I hope you get thrown into a pit of hambeasts that haven't eaten in an hour.
you're truly a cunt... She was innocent and you were an asshole with her. Judging by your actions, I'd say you deserve everything that happened to you. And it's your own fault, as it could've been different.
If all is true you're no better then the cunt mother you hate so much. Honestly hope you die in a fire because you're a true piece of shit. Sounds like your daughter is better person without knowing her worthless father. No wgo fuck off and die for treating her like that.
op you dun goofed, do you realize how much you could destroy your ex?
with the details of your story given to the right people you could ruin her forever
but you had to be angry visibly at your daugther when you could have destroyed them both...
Nah nigga. You still gotta pay.
I got a buddy from work who's babby momma is like a CPA, and her husband is some big-time exect at some law firm. Very well off. He still pays about 1200 a month in child support. There was a time when he was new that he was litterally getting 50$ pay checks because they cut his hours for a bit.
>feels bad man
Well I wouldn't be surprised if she posts on her eventually with tits
Lost 18 years of my life I died the day my daughter was born
Because when I look at her I see her mother, I see my youth gone. I can't...
Oh well I'll stand by it and live with it even into the eternal blackness or next life.
I guess but still
If true you're going to live a terribly lonely life. Your ex wife won't die alone, your daughter won't die alone, your hick of a brother won't die alone, but you? Yeah you might as well just kill yourself right now.
I mean at this point you genuinely deserve to watch all your loved ones skinned alive in front of you.
Op this was probably the best course of action you could have taken. Life is not a happy ending. Your ex now has to deal with a psychologically unstable daughter and a confused faggot bf. This situation will no longer burden you, keep it in the past. It's her pain now, not yours.
Good for you OP. Today I applaud you.
just my 2 cents. if you only feel anger and hate your daughter, why should you pretend forgiving her and love her? if your anger fades away, go at her. if not, go your own way. you are a human being and you have legit feelings. all of these faggots calling you "an idiot" are brainwashed by happy ending movies.
at first forgive yourself for your emotions, they are legit, human and real. don't destroy yourself for other persons.
if you can forgive your daugther and love her, do it. but don't be any of these moralized fake faggots, trying to do "the right thing".
i doubt anybody, neither can i, feel your pain. so at the end nobody will understand you. therefore don't take advice of idiots claiming to know everything and "what is right". it's your unique experience and you have to find your own way to handle it. don't follow advice of those, who have no experience with your situation.
I get that she stole everything from you, but she didn't know it(to the extent of our knowledge) since she was told you were dead. The pain's embedded in your reptilian brain(fight or flight) man, if anything above all, go to a therapist a few times and just get a second/outside/educated and non-/b/ opinion.
At least try to email with her or something; I know shit like this sucks but give her a small chance.
>the day my daughter was born
Nigger, you were still with the ex, and raising the child at this point. If your life ended the DAY SHE WAS BORN, then you have stronger underlying issues that make you jusdt a load of shit.
You didn't lose shit because of your daughter or your ex, like you said you couldn't be bothered getting of your fat fuck ass to even see her within those 18 years, how could she have destroyed your life?
Your life was over the moment you decided to become a self entitled fat manchild while your peers actually grew up.
What the fuck so you blame your ex, the courts, feminism because of your infidelity? You are a fucking moron, no wonder your ex won't let you see the child cuz you can't even own up to your own actions you fuckin scrublord. I'm glad she's jewing you out of all your money
Does your hatred and resentment of your daughter stem more from the fact you find her sexually attractive and want to bonk her but will be forever denied this rather than the fact she "stole" the best years of your life and looks like your ex?
Tell us honestly, in this great Anonymous vacuum: Do you want to fuck your daughter?
looks like she was really interested into knowing you and didn't liked her mother. who knows, if you weren't such a faggot to tell her she's dead for you and gave her some warm fatherly words instead, maybe this would be a nice story and you two would eventually become lovers, but you had to ruin everything faggot
Do you get that you lost? Imagine how phased mommy would have been at a tearful reunion. Imagine how powerless you would have made that birch when she asks daddy to come over and you look around and realize everyone hated her as much as you do. Or did stepdaddy driving her over not clue you in? You probably could have ducked her and mommy wouldn't have been able to do shot. Your pathetic
You keep saying "lost 18 years of my life" like it's your daughters fault. You brought her into this world with your mistakes. The rest of your life this is going to be a thing and exist. No matter how hard you try not to see it.
I only hope it ultimately consumes you and you realize just how badly you've fucked up.
I'm pretty sure you just take out your anger on your daughter because she's more vulnerable than your ex wife. Your ex wife won't care about the things you say to her but your daughter will, so even though she isn't to blame you direct your anger at her because you like the feeling of making someone cry.
OK my turn:
>meet beautiful woman, fall in love and get married
>have two amazing kids
>everything going really well, like one big happy family
Flash forward to today
>i post on /b/ about how awesome my family life is
>I'm the new king of /b/
>OP kills self
Yeah you are. If you still want to see a part of your daughters life, and make sure she doesnt go the same path as your ex you will contact her and make up with her.
She deserves it and it will make you happier than ever in the end.
so Bro I'm going to level with you. Not from your perspective, but from the grill perspective. I was a child with a evil mother on child support, on my side she told me he was dead but rich, so we where fine. She got married again to some weaksauce (Always hated the dude, he was more hipster womanly then a gay taco). For the most part of my life, the rich part did make sense since the house was always nice. But the day he came in the picture, the scene was a bit different. In short, he WAS violent, but we kept in touch. I know you're hating inside, but keep in touch with her man. Start with email, letters, let her ask some question, to know you. You're free now dude. You've managed to survive through hell, you can do it
>I refuse to look at some one who stole everything from me and never once bothered to question things that weren't adding up
>implying you was raped
>implying you spent a single minute raising that precious life
You're a horrible horrible person and you deserve every single bad thing that happens to you. I have more respect for child molesters than you.
You're the fucking dip shit that made your daughter it isn't her fault you asshole. She didn't take anything away from you so quit blaming her for your mistakes. If you would have had your shit together and not been a loser that felt you needed to get other ass then her mother you probably would have had a good life so in the end this is all on you, and you got what you deserve. Now please go and kill yourself you attention seeing whore.
Well, i kinda see why you did what you did and in a way it's understandable. Your last conversation with your daughter did not sound that bad. But don't you think you were being a little rough on her in you're other discussions with her? I mean that is a lot of aggression towards someone who is to all intents and purposes a stranger. Though who am i to blame you.
You are a pitty excuse for a man.. its your own fault by fucking bitches..
don't blame it on your daughter for fucking up. Let her know what happens because is didnt even know you would be alive...
Give her her dad back you shithead...
For blaming your daughter for this, you sure are one retarded fuck man. You should have ended up in cops hands by beating your ex to death not because you pushed your daughter. Just fucking shoot yourself.
Even if this is fake, you're a real fucking sack of shit. Oh boo fucking hoo you fucked up and ruined your own fucking life. Don't take it out on an innocent little girl. Telling her you hope she dies? I don't care how pissed off I am over 4chan right now I would fucking stab you if I was in that park seeing you act like a little fucking turd. I hope you fucking kill yourself. Fake or not fake post I hope you fucking die you fucking pleb.
Don't blame other people for your stupid fucking mistakes. You are a monster and I would enjoy beating the fuck out of you. All fucking 4chan jokes, memes fucking whatever aside... I wish death upon you.
I don't think anyone is pissed that OP doesn't instantly have love for daughter, I have no problem with the fact that he feels anger and hatred for the kid, who knows what the ex put him through.
To me that's not the issue. The issue is the fact that OP took all the anger and hatred out on her the way he did. He didn't need to pretend to be happy and instant family, but she didn't deserve what OP did to her.
If he did that to the ex, no problem, she deserves it. The kid didn't do anything but be born, and even then OP is to blame, not the daughter.
I definitely am, feels like my neck finally cracked and I released all my repressed anger I've held for what feels like eons.
well I lost my youth so what point do I have in giving a fuck anymore?
If my father said he wanted nothing to do with me I'd let him be. Hes a grown man he can make his own choice.
I never really thought of it like that, the look on the dudes face finally seeing me he really looked completely shocked and stricken with just that
>No fucking way....
Thank you for your insight sir I will value you
Its funny because before my mother died she asked
>"Whatever happened to that girl?"
>What girl ma?
and just like that fadded away
I dunno I keep going back in my mind trying to find the exact moment I became broken
Not really I just want to punch her face in
>18 years gone I will never get my youth back
Never get your youth back? Sounds like you never grew the fuck up in the first place. "Hurr, derr, now that I don't havta pay child support ima get that pickup truck I always wanted" - lol!
wait a year to get your life back together and let the anger subside, then give her a chance man, come on. go on a hike or something. might be the only daughter you ever have, you'll regret not knowing her on your deathbed.
I get that OP is pissed at his mother and his daughter, but OP, you could have used her in court to get back all that child support cash back from your ex.
Also, if your ex's husband thought you were dead, how the fuck did he not see the child support cash flowing in?
You don't have to reconnect with your daughter, but you also didn't have to be such a cunt to her. Nothing that happened is her fault at all. Your ex and you caused all the problems you had. This is just another bad decision on top of a lifetime of bad decisions. You will never amount to anything because you have a shitty attitude in all of your endeavors. No matter how good things seem now, you will fall back into the patterns of behavior that got you in this mess in the first place. Good luck living the rest of your life like a teenager and never accomplishing anything.
>his perspective on life
He fucked a girl 18 years ago and deserted her with a child, the girl became a woman and raised her child while OP sat at home playing video games eating cheetos fapping and browsing 4chan.
Tell me why I'm supposed to give him sympathy? He's a pathetic excuse for my Gender and should be castrated.
>AAH BUT SHE REMINDS ME OF MY EX
Man the fuck up you whiny little pussy. She's just a kid. You fucked up because you couldn't keep your dick protected while fucking like an autistic bitch. It's all on you, not your own daughter. Now that you've payed the consequences (literally, you fucking moron) you have to man up and live with them.
If I could find you, I would have no qualms about murdering you. You're one of the lowest quality people I've ever heard of. You are more of a nigger than any black person I've ever met.
You seem to be too hung up on your lost youth. I mean it is a terrible thing to lose. But at the very least you could have turned your daughter against her mother and tried to "steal" her away from her. Also your youth might not have been the fantasy that you envisioned, though that can't be proven one way or the other.
The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood.
Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact.
I have never not once hoped that that statement applies to a story more than I am right now
Not into incest I just want to be at peace with myself
Like it would of made a difference, all that money and my youth my prime everything I ever wanted to do in life is gone.
Now that I think about it yeah I do take a large blame but I dunno I can never look at her the way you all want me to look at her
>Excluding incest and other weird shit
What good life?!??! what the fuck are you talking about!?!??! NOTHING GOOD WOULD OF CAME OUT OF THIS
a relationship with a child I don't know?? One I refuse to acknowledge even exists? PLEASE
Far as I'm concerned her mother has been laughing with that money for so long
I never received contact or any time of info from ex only wages being garnished and deliver checks every once in a while near police stations
Don't care anymore my chains are broken and I'm free
doubt it because once I get my truck I'm up and leaving to Oregon
WAIT..... I COULD GET ALL THAT MONEY BACK?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Apparently she had been hiding checks away from him in some secret account. Or at least thats what I'm assuming.
I just want to add on that at least you had a fucking house to live in too. You weren't on the streets. Your youth wasn't taken from you, you cunt. You went to school you fucked a girl then you made the mistake of getting her pregnant. It is all your fault, not your daughters. You make me sick.
>whinge about how hard my life is
>beat on innocent girl because I have 1st word issues
>cry on 4chan that my life sucks
>what girl, ma?
Jesus christ, You're so damaged. You poor poor man. This is the soul-crushing shit this place knows. Wow.
Nigger what the fuck is wrong with you?
So you cheated on your wife and got the bad end of the deal. Should've kept that animal in the pants. Sucks that she turned into such a nazi about it though.
What's even worse, is that you could have salvaged that girls life somehow, become a father that she's been missing all this time, seems that she would have taken on your side. Now she's probably just going to turn into yet another broken slut and put some other guy on child support, provided she doesn't kill herself.
Ya dun goofed.
I lost my fucking youth too OP. My life was fucked up for years and it still kind of is but at least I'm not a little bitch about it, at least I have the balls to look it in the face and accept it. Fuck your youth. It's overrated and you're dumb as shit.
OP you did what you had to do, there's nothing more to it. Don't listen to these moral preaching faggots, because at the end of the day, it's not your fuckin' problem. Let your daughter build that rage you just instilled in her mind, she'll be venting it on that bitch ex of yours. In all seriousness, you should reconnect with her AFTER she builds some character from this pain. She has to know what her daddy went through, and fight her own battles just as you did.
i feel ya OP. 36 years old here. had a girlfriend when i was 15. we would fuck all the time. somehow she gets pregnant (use condoms all the time so confused as fuck) right around the time my grandfather dies and leaves me 50k. baby daughter is born, because both of us were from very christian families we felt we should marry. 6 months after daughter is born (and after marriage) she decides to divorce me, her reason being i cant support her and her child (im fucking 17 at the time, i've dropped out to find work and am working 3 jobs just to feed her and my daughter). divorce goes through and she gets half of my assets+income (meaning 25k of my 50k inheritance from grandparents). my half of the 25k has already gone towards a down payment on a home and a car for getting us around in so at this point i have a house loan and fuck all money to pay it with. went broke and have been fucked over time and time since with child support payments, even though the mother ended up fucking some doctor who was rich as fuck and didnt even need my support for the daughter i never saw
didnt see fuck all of my daughter till she was 18 and she tracked me down, she told me that her mother got drunk one night and admitted to her that she stuck a pin through the condom to get her pregnant and cash in on my grandfathers inheritance after we got married. found out soon after that that the majority of that money had gone towards drugs and alcohol and not towards my daughter.
got to know my daughter and she hated her mother for what she did and doesnt talk to her anymore because of it. daughter calls me once in a while to hang out. i still dont feel like a dad but its good to know shes on my side and that we are working on our relationship. just give your daughter a chance OP. i have felt the same pain as you, but if you talk to your daughter you might be able to explain to her your grievances.
>well I lost my youth so what point do I have in giving a fuck anymore?
How did you lose your youth? If you did it was through no fault of your daughter or ex, you said yourself you had 0 involvement in her life other than chucking her mom some money for groceries.
If you felt your youth was wasted that's nobodies fault but your own.
How long did it take you to come up with this story?
Welcome to /b/ newfag. We are an internet hate machine and we pry on whatever the fuck we want, whenever the fuck we want. We don't follow "rules", you follow us. Either get in line or get the fuck out.
>ITT: tl;dr bunch of crying weak fagknights trying to save damsel "amber"
>The butt hurt is fucking real
Good ol' quality entertainment times
If I ever recognized you on street motherfucker, I wouldn't hesitate to grab the nearest object and pound the shit out of your head because you motherfucker, are so fucked up in the head you make MY blood boil. I hope you die alone and I will encourage your daughter to take a shit and piss on your shitty corpse OP.
What is up with all these newfags?
>fucking moralistic retards,
>hurr hurr hurr the nigg nogg
>don't want to meet his daughter, killurself
Seriously newfags, kill yourselves, this faggot is nearly 40 fucking years old, let him do what he wants you pieces of shit, you don't like it, bleed yourself to death and make a river you fuckwads.
You go OP, you are a fucking man, don't let no bitch think she can be your daughter. Fuk 'em
>Had a child young with my high school sweet heart
>>yeah I know I fucked up
>>We were in love the first 5 years up until I decided I wanted to fuck other women but still maintain my fatherly duties
>>Ex wasn't having it and put me on child support
quite sure you are straight up full of shit how did you not know your daughters name. This shit is getting deep im done with this faggot.
>being this autistic
Ayy how goes that social rejection
Easy to say such things and never live what I've been though
What steal? she won in the end, she got her money she has her fancy house and full family.
Well probably cut family now since I'm probably guessing her husband and other kids are now questioning her as we speak.
It hit me harder when my dad asked me about it when I was 24
>"Johnny, what ever happened to Natalie?"
>Shes out there somewhere pops
>"Wasn't she pregnant at one point?"
>"WAIT... na fucking bitch probably a whore anyways probably wasn't even loyal to you"
>"Probably a bastard child right Johnny?"
He died a year later
Tell you what if in 5 years if she still wants to get to know me I'll open up but no promises I'll build a relationship with her. I doubt it though, the look her eyes was completely destroyed beyond any human emotion. I doubt she wants anything to do with me.
Like I said I do agree yeah it is my fault but eh
Still looking I want to be near the coast
I hope you can polish this up in community college, son; they should teach you some writing lessons, of which "logical consistency" and "suspension of disbelief" will be key. As it is, I'm highly tempted to report for underage b&.
Yeah, I do. And considering OP's ex wasn't described as trailer trash I imagine she worked, coupled with the fact she remarried, OP would have been paying coppers in child support.
It takes a special kind of piece of shit to do what you did to his own daughter. You need to apologize for displacing your anger on her and HOPE that she forgives you. She probably won't because you're a huge faggot though
This... you're 37 yet you still act like a child, time to grow up you can still have some amazing times with your daughter. You're really lucky that she doesn't completely rescent you like most children that get put through something like this don't ruin her life and make her feel like shit because she has a bitch of a mother, you really need to work in your attitude towards life op it's very skewed and negative. If you haven't missed her graduation already I wouled consider going and having an open mind, just stop and think that is my daughter and I missed most of her life but I'm going to be there for theven rest as she grabs her diploma be happy that you are there for such a big milestone.
>OP concerns about "losing his youth"
>i'm at this moment losing my youth while playing vidya and watching anime and not going around fucking women
> and i don't care about it
remember OP, your youth started to fade when you settled to that one bitch
I hardly was around cause I was always working, never home for the most part. And when I would go home she was at her folks house. So I never really got to talk or see her walk or anything what soever.
>says the guy who posted rules.jpg.jpg
You had your reasons hell if you did talk to her she'd feel like shit because you had nothing in my eyes you did the right thing better that than have your wife try to have some bs legal thing start up again
Lel at your dad condoning that shit.
My dad would beat me black and blue if I got a girl preggo and tried to skip out.
I understand why you are how you are now, it's the way you was raised, clearly.
Man OP, at first let me thank you for such a good story. Dont let anyone get at your shit and fuck all these whiteknight faggots. If your asking yourself if what you did was right or wrong, it was definetly right. All these moralfags are just deluded and dont even try to understand your point of view. I fully understand how you acted, all these years, almost two decades spent bulding up this anger without a valve to let it out. This rage that just goes though every fiber of yours truly, while breaking all the carefully selected pillars of logic and morality when after all these years it was just too much for your mind to handle.
Honestly, I fucking applaud to you with my whole heart.
Just take into consideration how drained and destroyed you felt all 18 of those years and imagine doing that to someone else you're daughter nine the less you need to go to her graduation and grow up op you have a big chance to be part of her life so grow up op don't put her through the mental anguish that you went through just because you are immature...
Some of you will probably rage at me, but here goes.
>in abusive marriage - she's going off the rails
>1 daughter, another kid on the way.
>I stay just long enough for her to drop the kid and get back on her feet
>I get on my feet, financially. Relations are really strained.
>I come to her apartment and watch the kids while she works.
>After a year of being nice to her and taking all her barbs
>We agree to a gentlemans agreement.
>$500/ month child support and I get to see them both as much as I want.
>then she starts with some feminist bullshit.
>starts neglecting our son - abusing him.
>undermines my authority as a father; sabotages everything I do.
>she threatens me with lawyers when I object
her mom is rich and will buy her anything.
>State still gives kids to woman
>Has even awarded kids to a woman in prison
>So, I bear it; start to drift away from them.
>no control == no responsibility
>she quits her job;
>starts collecting welfare and food stamps
>years pass, I take a job that requires lots of time away.
>She immediately starts blaming everything that
>goes wrong in her life on my absence.
>11 years has passed since we broke up.
>State welfare office wants a court order for child support.
>They want to cut her welfare off is she does not get it.
>State refers it to prosecutors office - which files the petition.
>It's settled within days - I get a court order to pay $500/month child support.
>no friend of the court involved since we're not divorced.
>She gets wild idea - thinks she can get more out of me.
>She files for divorce - asks friend of the court to determine child support.
>Friend of the court slams me with $1100/month child support.
>Welfare office notified of her new income.
>Cuts her off completely, food stamps cut to nearly zero.
>Now she's bitching because state cut $900/month.
So by filing for divorce, she lost $400/month. Now I got to work a lot more, so the kids see me far less often.
The only winner was the state.
Kek, you're much, much worse then your ex. Your daughter didn't even know you existed and now instead of making her, and possibly you happy with forming a healthy relationship you cut her out for almost no reason. It isn't her fault she was practically brainwashed by her mother.
Fuck you OP kill yourself.
yeah he placed all his anger on the one person who had absolutely fucking nothing with it
if he wasnt a little bitch he wouldnt yell like an edgy cunt to a fucking girl he would man up, get a gun, and go after all those judges and his whore wife who actually ruined his life
but that would require some balls
No you're not. You just googled "rules of /b/" and got one of the first fucking results. You never knew these rules existed long ago, you're just a newfag trying to fit in. Just fucking stop man.
is fight club also your favorite movie?
>OP knocks up a girl in his teenage years
>decides it isn't for him and drops the girl
>forced to pay child support (poor him)
>his ex then finds a real man who proceeds to raise OP's child
>OP gets butthurt one day when visiting the family home because he realizes how happy he could have been had he manned up
>loses his shit but doesn't touch wife because husbando would beat the shit out his fat ass
>hits his long lost child instead while she's having a breakdown over seeing her dad for the first time ever
ayy lamo OP, you know you're the lowest of the low, right?
You're a pathetic excuse for a man and it's easy to see why you blame others for your own failings.
It sounds like you vented your anger onto the wrong person, you should have been pissed with your ex more than with your daughter. Either way though you have all the rights in the world to be pissed
Funny how that divorce worked out. I lost a lot of money, she lost a lot of money and the kids all but lost their father.
Meanwhile, the state saved $900/month.
And somehow this was all supposed to be in the best interest of the kids.
>I had to live with my brother and his family for a couple years in their addict just to hold my life together and not go homeless
>End up working like 4 jobs just to keep myself afloat
OP never went to college and his story sucks.
LITTLE BITCH GOT WHAT WAS COMING TO ER.
IM SURE THE STEP MOM ISNT SO SARCASTIC NOW IS SHE? FUCKING CUNT GOT PUT INTO HER PLACE - GET ER WHERE IT REALLY HURTS, HER KID
GOOD SHIT, OP.
The whole system for custody for children and child support is fucked.
I don't see them doing anything to make it better though, who knows what's going to happen with this new breed of feminazis coming along.
So many boys are going to be abused and neglected and states will still side with feminazis simply because they have a vag.
Jesus OP you're stupid as shit. Your anger goes towards your ex right? So why not use daughter and step dad to destroy her life just like she destroyed yours? Explain to daughter how shit the ex was and cry a bit to emphasise how she destroyed you. Make it so all her friends and family hear and bash on her. She will have her pretty house but nobody will give a shit about her anymore. You don't even have to involve yourself with the daughter anymore, just see her once in a few months and bear with it. It'll be worth it.
dude its been a looooooong time I may have known her name at one point but just looking at her and her mother. its almost impossible to describe what I felt
No he was the way he was when his little sister died. She was only 13 when she died and he raised her from when she was baby. Their parents died in a wreck along with their baby brother and they lived aunts and uncles but wasn't long they wandered from family to family.
He had a death wish ever since and he managed to live so long to father kids and get married but not a day went by where he had a death wish. He said the day his little sister died he tried to kill himself so many times. He felt he failed his parents
>Aunt I never knew was killed by drunk driver
Honestly, I feel a little better releasing it on /b/ too just cause I can't tell my brothers or my sisters or neices and nephews for that matter.
No I was more angry at the fact all the money I ever made was wasted on material things and god knows what else that woman spent. As stated not even her husband was aware I was even alive.
Like that would of mattered she doesn't give two fucks
I'm actually really curious to whats being said in that house right now
> in 5 years if she still wants to get to know me I'll open up
Why would she want to get to know you?
I'm sure she understands you not wanting to see her because her mom put you through a roller coaster of shit but you had a HUGE 'sperg rage
Why didn't you just tell off the mother and avoid talking to the daughter altogether instead of tarding out?
Now I know you're going to say "Muh Youth!" but your daughter didn't know shit about it so you only really have reason to hate your ex
Furthermore I'd just like to point out that nobody is trying to white knight for Amber
She seems a little slow considering her father tells her to get raped and die but she stil thinks there's a relationship to be had
What we're losing our shit over is how retarded OP acted anytime he saw his daughter instead of just telling her to leave him alone
>Mfw I just wrote this much for a story that is most likely fiction
First post, you retarded nigger. You said you want to fuck other chicks but maintain your fatherly duties. Yet you don't know your daughter's name? For fuck sake, at least try to keep your bullshit lie straight. You had all the time in the world to go over it.
I get it OP.. I get it. And you're the better man.
>working through divorce, 60-70 hr weeks
>barely making it because support payments
>ex wife voluntarily underemployed
>hook up with this bitch a few times
omg anon its a baby and we're a family
>demand paternity test
>wild bitch escapes
anon, you were violent abuser, no help for you
>still paying support for a kid that probably isnt even mine
>mfw the state supports her hiding dna evidence of paternity
>mfw she got the ear of half my family and split the family up
>mfw they try to get me to facetime the kid
Fuck em anon. fuck em.
Believe it or not but I'm actually just no tumblresque fag
Nigga I understand your point but you need to try to get in his shoes, when he sees his daughter he also sees his ex, and combined with this zealotic rage there is just one thing he could express. There are many things where logic just isnt enough, and emotions are one of them
While I agree with you, "now" is relative. there were always whiteknights.
>broken damaged boy grows up, raising a broken damaged child, who grows up to be a broken damaged man who in one day, breaks and damages his child.
The cycle continues. It will only get worse.
I don't know OP. I don't think you're a monster, but you probably could have kept a lid on the anger during that first meeting.
I get it though. Your ex is a harpy and your daughter has lived her whole life unknowingly benefiting from said harpy picking at the bones of your life. She probably looks enough like your ex that you can't help but see the bitch when you look at your daughter, that can't be good.
Your ex essentially made you a sperm donor rather than a father. You have no real connection to your daughter, so yeah, it makes sense that you just don't want to deal with her. But think on this OP. If you do start having a relationship with your daughter you can basically expose your ex as a evil bitch to her whole family. It won't get your money or your youth back, but having everyone recognize that she is a horrible person is something she probably deserves and it just might help you deal with all that anger. And who knows, maybe your daughter has some hot friends you could bang.
I don't get it, OP. I can completely understand the anger toward your piece of shit excuse for an ex. But the daughter; it feels to me like she got more shit than your ex, who got away unscathed. Why exactly did you not want to get to know your daughter? Because she looked like your ex?
You are a monster. You are literally the worst piece of shit ever and you deserved all of this. You go through all this shit with your douche bag ex and then as soon as your daughter WANTS TO GIVE YOU NOTHING BUT LOVE you fucking tell her shes dead to you.
Look i realise your ex is a horrible bitch and theres nothing you can do about that. But you are such an asshole for taking it out on your poor little flesh and blood.
There's a special place in hell for you.
I really really hope you wisen up and go catch your little girl and love her before it's too late
OK, probably the only legit advice you're ever going to get ITT.
Quit trying to burn your bridges. You might get your life back together. You might forgive what happened to you. You might get a handle on those obvious anger issues.
And then, after years have passed, you might start to wonder about that daughter you once had.
Man up and deal with your problems without trying to hurt others. Yeah, I know. You were hurt. Man up and don't be a dick.
Now you can get your life back together - just tell them it's too soon and you need time to get over the hurt.
Even if you never come around, at least don't fuck over your options.
So let me get this straight... you were stupid enough to have a baby, then you were shocked that you had to pay child support for that baby, and when the baby grows up you blame it for your inability to wear a condom, and you act like a douche to it because >muh youth
Ya, no, I have no sympathy for you at all.
/b/ is full of sjw, you did it fine bro, those fuckin bitches wasted your youth, but instead you keep sending your checks like a man, these idiots dont know shit about how you felt, keep those bitches out of your life, buy that truck, do what you love and stay away from alcohol