To my married /b/ros:
Were you happier in life before or after you got married? I'm seeking guidance on marriage
im pretty happy in my marriage but my wife is cool as hell...
i miss being single sometimes, but thats usually when we are at a bar or something and there is so much sweet easy ass around.
How old are you? Don't get married before 25, live a little, after that if you find a good girl that you click with, or fall head over heels in love with (Fag!) then marry her!
My marriage just ended, I was miserable the whole 7 years. Bitch didn't put out, was lazy and got fat. I'm dating a girl 5 years younger than my ex with a smokin' body and is waaay better for me in every way. She and I don't really believe in marriage. Also, for those of you who are reading this: NEVER EVER make a joint bank account. Never give a woman all of your love, your trust, or your money.
Not married but I've been in a relationship for like 6 years.
I live with my g/f now. But I might be soon single because I've been a loner growing up all my life and it made me super introverted. I choose to be alone, and I have enough friends to meet girls if I ever get 'too alone'
If things are good, getting married makes them better.
If things are bad, getting married makes them worse.
My girlfriend was an awesome girlfriend, so now she's a fucking awesome wife. Happier now.
What do you want to know?
Why do you hate her anon? She stopping you from hanging out or is she just annoying? If it's the latter then just be happy it's not the former. There's nothing quite as shitty as one of your bros being stolen away by some bitch.
That's how I imagine things are. If you manage to get married, stick with it for ever because getting a divorce will fuck your shit up and you won't get back on the horse unless you're super attractive or something.
I hated all of my friend's fiancees, women are total bitches before marriage for some reason, maybe because of the uncertainty and shit. After the marriage they are cool though, you'll like her eventually.
Pretty much both.
Not really stopping us from hanging out in particular, but at parties or when we hang out together, in the middle of the party, wehn all of us have fun, she just stands up and says "I'm tired lets go home" At 10 pm. They then argue with each other for 30 minutes but since she gave him a ride he has to go...Every fucking time.
Also speaks bad about all the friends, and uses every situation to argue with someone about shit. But apparently he loves her. So I wish them the best...
I hope so
Hey anon, i am not married yet but i have been in relationship for a few years so if you want my 5 cents.
I am a fairly attractive guy i have never approached girls they have always made moves on me (including now gf) i have only slept with a couple of girls probably not as many to be 'content' but at the end of the day i wouldnt want to do it cause i wouldnt be able to bare it if i lost my now gf. She has been brought up with similar culture to myself, we agree with most things, disagree on certain stuff like 'politics' but at the end of the day i hate that shit so i zone out and just say 'yeh' but she really is the perfect girl for me.
What is the point of all this?
In my OP, if you find a girl you truly love being with and you dont have to change an ounce of yourself to make her happy and be together KEEP HER, do not let temptation rock your boat, even now i have girls that didnt pay me the attention when i was single, basically dropping on their knee's now cause they know they cant have me, the saying is TRUE OP GIRLS WANT WHAT THEY CANT HAVE, to a similar extent boys are the same too i guess.
I hope you grabbed something outta this comment. Peace.
I've been in 1 long relationship and I was miserable the whole time, then I joined the military and got fat and didn't get laid for like 4 years. I've been out for 2 years now, I lost 50lbs and now I get laid pretty often by hot girls. I wish I would have done this sooner but you should enjoy your youth while you can. Try to get as much pussy as you can while you can. Wait until you are older to get married. That shit's overrated. I have friends who's wives cheated on them or were complete bitches and they got divorced. tl;d fuck marriage get it in while you fit in.
only thing I have is this of the girl on the left, I have a bunch of other pics but no nudes.
General question for you guys:
I'm in a relationship with my gf of 1 year and a few months. She's cool and can make me laugh and she's accepting of changing herself, but she's just overly emotional. She was in a car accident last year that fucked her head a bit before we met.
She's just getting to be a little too much to handle, despite sex on the casual with her and having fun being with her. The problem is that we're arguing constantly over shit that doesn't matter and I'm just tired of it.
>tl;dr is she worth staying with
>One of my best friends is about to get married in June. I hate his fiancee...
you're just jealous of her and that you won't be able to act out on your manlove for your friend anymore.
I seem to be getting on worse and worse with my gf, we've been together seven years and seem to argue more now.
Once you've been with someone a while and stuck in the same routine you tend to be blind to the fact that life might be better off without them.
I don't understand the urge to get married. My gf and I just moved in together. It's be about a year and so far I'm a lot happier than when we were just dating or I was single. Neither of us really want to get married though
Yeah, it's true, it's just hard to do because I'm usually a nice guy and told her i'd be there for her. I mean we do have fun most of the time but we just get to arguing too much over dumb shit
I almost left her last night over a dumb argument, same with tonight. We started to have sex but her mom (yes she lives with parents, same as me) barges in whenever the fuck she wants, so we finish eachother off.
Lately i've been noticing she's been wanting to use her vibroator to stimulate her clit and I just wanted to get her off on my own, so I told her. Then she just gets all upset and offended, so we got in an argument and I just left and didn't make her cum.
It has its ups and downs.
I'm happy to come home to somebody after a long day at work. The homemade lunchboxes and dinners are great. It's good to know that I can get laid almost any night I want to. My wife and I are both musicians and gamers, so it's fun to share our hobbies together, etc.
But on the other hand, I miss certain aspects of single life. It's difficult to find some quality alone time. I meet many women through my job, and it happens fairly often where I'll meet a cute girl and there's "chemistry" between us but I can't pursue it. I miss drinking with the guys all night (it's not that my wife forbids it, but I just know that I shouldn't be doing that shit anymore).
You've just got to weigh the options. If you think you'll be happier with her, then go for it. The fun single life will end at some point as you age and everybody around you gets married.
I've been married for about a year and a half & I can say that I'm happier than I was when I was single. My wife has encouraged me to become a better man and to have higher ambitions than just sitting around playing video games and drinking. Now I'm a lead operator at work, I quit taking Lexapro and I have a 4 month old daughter. But it is hard work and you get out of it what you put into it, so don't get married just because you think that you should or because you think that it'll solve all your problems. Make sure that you know what you're getting into and that you know who you're marrying.
I'm 30, I've been in 3 serious relationships and haven't even proposed to a woman, partly cos I never have a spare grand to buy the fucking ring but mostly cos it's just not that important to me. Marriages last 7 years on average these days. If that doesn't tell you that getting married kills relationships then I don't know what else will.
Don't do it. Think of how much you like to come and go as you please. It's like being a kid who has to tell his parents where he's going, with who, and when he'll be back...all while being a grown fucking man and in all likelihood the breadwinner. Just think, when you pissed your parents off, they took your toys away...temporarily. She'll take them forever.
Altough I am married for only a year now, but I can tell you already that you should not do it.
You can maintain a long relationship without getting married, and it will be much more enjoyable.
Well, I guess you could say I'm a sex addict. I used to troll for strange pussy on singles websites, I had a guy I met on squirt I'd fool around with a couple times a month, I went through a period of 4 years where I was banging escorts and strippers.
Anyway, I just got tired of it all and the loneliness of not having a meaningful relationship. Started dating again, met my wife and things have been great. She's pretty much all I could have asked for in a partner. Intelligent, beautiful, submissive in bed, etc....but I still think about the rush I got from fucking strange or getting my ass fucked and creampied by my fuck buddy.
The truth of the matter is that is really my addiction talking to me because nothing is worth losing my wife over.
>I almost left her last night over a dumb argument, same with tonight. We started to have sex but her mom (yes she lives with parents, same as me) barges in whenever the fuck she wants, so we finish eachother off.
>Lately i've been noticing she's been wanting to use her vibroator to stimulate her clit and I just wanted to get her off on my own, so I told her. Then she just gets all upset and offended, so we got in an argument and I just left and didn't make her cum.
Perhaps living with the mom is a source of stress. Sex issues in a relationship are usually symptoms of something else...really need to sit down and talk outside the bedroom.
If that doesn't work, try romancing the hell out of her.
I was happier after I got married. I thought I was happy while I was married, but it turns out I wasn't truly happy until I divorced that bitch and started fucking my students.
no, the trouble isnt just her mom. I mean, she's a part of it because her mom stresses her out (she only yells, she doesnt know how to talk) about bills and shit.
but the real problem is that she gets stressed out with life (bills, job) and it affects how she acts with me. I've told her this quite a few times but she doesnt change despite saying she will
I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything. I think fucking random girls is fun but it isn't deeply satisfying or rewarding. A relationship has meaning and a shared past and future. If you look at marriage as a legal or financial issue it is a losing proposition for a man. But, living in reality, a woman won't stick with you for very long without a ring. Maybe we should bite the bullet for the benefits of a long relationship?
>but the real problem is that she gets stressed out with life (bills, job) and it affects how she acts with me. I've told her this quite a few times but she doesnt change despite saying she will
Maybe she's not the right one for you or you both need to sit down and be completely honest with each other. Talk about wants, desires and expectations.
My wife and I had some nasty fights (no real yelling, just a lot of passive-aggressive behavior on both sides). After 3 years, we broke up for about 6 weeks...it was good for both of us. We started exchanging e-mails where we were both completely honest with each other (probably for the first time). Cleared the air of a lot of bullshit. We started dating again and less than a year after we broke up we got married and we bought a house together. We still maintain that level of honesty and openness...and we'll call each other out when we sense the other is NOT being completely open and honest.
I have been with my bf for 6 years now. But, we started arguing alot lately. It's mostly about sex. He wants more sex, but I don't need to make love more than 1-2 a week.
But, he always overreacts and tells me that it happens more rarely.
For me it's a big turn off to be told that I'm not lusty enough. And even after sex he can ask in a "pessimistic" way about when we can have sex next time.
I started to feel uncomfortable about it because of that. I really want him more often now, but when he acts this stupid I end up dissappointed and sad instead.
He even had a sex protest some months ago. He to not make love to me at all.... And for 2 months I tried to approach him and always got shoved aside. I ended up crying like a baby and forced him to tell me whats wrong.
It's so fucked up. I don't understand his obsession. Perhaps this is a sign that it's over?
Speaking as a guy that got married for the first time in his 40's, I waited a long time to find the right one.
But the truth of the issue is that my failures in relationships really fell on me. Either I chose the wrong women or I was not a good partner.
maybe we aren't supposed to have long relationships?
i'm not hating though, i know guys who feel lost when not in a relationship, some prefer flings, some prefer one night stands and some prefer being single