i need to share a story with you /b/
>be at subway
>eat there at least once a week
>order the same thing every time
>meet this cutie cashier
>6/10 face, but nice and funny
>see her often when i come in
>the second time i see her she recites my order to me
>she tells me that i was her first order on her first shift at that subway
>she remembers my order by heart
>always make friendly conversation and small talk when i go there
>she always starts the conversation since im too beta to do it
>go in today and see her
>went on a trip and haven't been in for 2 weeks
>she remembers me and my order
>we talk a bit and make jokes
>she's kinda clumsy but has an easy time talking to me
>i have an easy time talking to her too
>ive never had a girlfriend and the ones ive asked out said no
does she sound interested in me at all? should i ask her out/ get her number? if she says no then i cant go to that subway anymore and its the closest to my house. maybe i should get a job there first and get to know her more? help me out please?
i cant stop thinking about it
also my captcha said : pseen
Just one thing, don't ask her to go after her shift. I've worked at Subway for years and the smell really gets in your hair and clothes. She'll want to probably freshen up first. But yeah, just ask her if she wants to go for a drink. Be concrete, that way she has to directly say no if she doesn't want to. If you're vague, she will have more room to turn you down without actually specifically saying so.
You're asking whether you should try to get this girl or not. The answer is try. If she says no, it will only be as awkward as you make it. Judging from what you said, she seems interested. Pretend if the roles were switched, wouldn't you want someone to ask?
don't ask about a bf. just ask her out. on dates you just talk about shit you'd normally talk about. there's no particular shit, just ask her about herself, get her talking and feel like you're interested in knowing about her life.
>what do you talk about? how do you hold a conversation?
Read a newspaper, know what is going on in the world, talk about things that interest you, and listen to what she says and go from there.
1. Just ask her on a date. If she's single, she will accept. If not, then she probably isn't single
2. Make it up as you go along. Improvise, nigga.
3. Talk about what she likes. Don't make it much about you. If she asks you, try not to spaghetti all over the place.
4. Like I said in #2, improvise. Talk about things that are relevant to the situation.
Also, I'll help get the ball rolling. Use these words:
"So hey, you want to go grab a coffee sometime? Maybe this weekend?"
There. I did it. For you, OP.
Now quit being shy.
AS A SUBWAY WORKER, I CAN TELL YOU THAT I MEMORIZE A LOT OF ORDERS. AND WHEN YOU HAVE IT DOWN, YOU HAVE FREE TIME TO SMALL TALK. YOU HAVE TO GAUGE HOW SHE TALKS AND WHAT YOU GUYS TALK ABOUT. IF YOU WANT HER, THEN JUST MAN UP AND DO IT. SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS LOCK.
how do i contain my spaghetti when speaking to her? (once we go out)
My advice: be specific. Give her a day and activity, like you said going for coffee. If you don't give her a question with a clear yes or no question, she will be able to be vague about turning you down, which is a pain in the ass. Be clear.
Don't do it.
Us losers aren't supposed to date, so get it out of your head. She's just being friendly, as is normal for people in her line of work.
If you ask her out, you'll just gross her out and make her afraid of being stalked. Want confirmation? Go there a few times with a friend, and then have that friend ask her about you. You'll see she's not interested in you romantically.
Just ask her to make you a sandwich; she does it regularly anyway, why not? Then when she looks away in defeat and sorrow, talk about how you're glad she stays where she belongs.
this. try to be unassuming and light
not like- "hey I really like you and you're cute i'd be the happiest dude if you let me buy you dinner"
"hey you're really fun to talk to and you seem cool, how about we meet up after your shift for some coffee"
and if she tells you that she can't because she has a boyfriend than don't give a shit and she also won't.
Or, if she says anything besides yes, assume it's no for the time being and just let it go; see if she'd be willing to hang out with a group of friends, maybe each bring some. That way she's not obligated to be alone with you if she doesn't think of you romantically. Get to know her, maybe get her number (but if you do, I swear to fucking god, learn fucking text etiquette and don't fucking text her nonstop if she doesn't reply), and just naturally develop as friends. Then, at some point, ask her out on a date; if she likes you, she'll say yes. If she doesn't, she'll say no.
If she says no, guess what? You have an awesome friend still, one you've been hanging out with for a while. Don't go all dudebro fedora on her and complain about being friendzoned because then you'll lose a fucking friend and really, who the fuck on this goddamned site needs to lose MORE friends?
ask her if she wants to go out for coffee after her shift
if she says no you can still go there you giant fucking pussy
but since she's talking to you all the time she's probably at least somewhat interested. she doesn't talk to you solely because you were her first subway customer you giant fucking moron. if her first subway customer had been lawrence bittaker do you think she would still be talking to him?
1. ask her that when on a date
2. the same as you order your shit at subways, go somewhere and do something.
3. small talk > interests > dreams and ambitions > feelings (bitches love feelings)
4. by being all natural nd shit. Don't try to force anything, if you think and feel that everythings alright, that's what will happen. If you get nervous, don't hide it because everyone can notice a nervous fuck. Just call it out and clear the air. then talk about that and tell stories, etc.
Get buzzed before your date. It's an art...You gotta get just drunk enough that you're loose and confident and charming while at the same time keeping the fact of your alcohol consumption undetectable.
Talking to girls is easy. Most of the time, it's perfectly fine to talk to them like you would another guy. That said, try to not go full autist and definitely try to gauge her reactions to things; if she doesn't laugh and it's supposed to be funny, stop talking about it. Trying to explain it is just gonna sound patronizing and that'll get the second date cancelled. Same if it's a serious story and she laughs. Just take it. Maybe laugh along, if only pretend.
Just take, like, a shot of whisky or scotch before going. Anything else and you're a fucking pussy.
Anything more and you'll risk being too loose. Nobody wants to go on a date with someone who smells like booze, especially if it's the first date.
op here. thanks for all the replies.
im only 18 so i cant drink yet. i dont really do coffee either. i will still probably ask her to coffee and ill guess ill just have to acquire a taste for it? should i just plain ask her out or should i ask for her number first?
I'm gonna add on to this: if your "talking to the guys" is like it is on here, MAYBE just, um... ask questions. Answer questions. Be interested; if you actually like her, being interested in what she has to say is easy and it'll make you look like good boyfriend material.
TLDR: GO FOR IT
met my wife of 6 years when we both had gf/bf's. Flirted hard for about 3 months until finally the moments lined up.
and we both agree that at any time the other couldve just asked and we wouldve left our three year relationships for this totally random person.
married and still going strong
Jesus Christ, you big girl's blouse. just fucking walk in their like a man, look her in the eye and say "You wanna go to Red Lobsta, bitch? I'll get you some cheddah bay biscuits if you let me put my finger in your ass."
She works at Subway. She'll probably be thrilled that anyone's willing to give her the time of day, even if you are an ugly beta.
Decide beforehand what parts of your life and yourself you're willing to expose. Not talking is often better than too much talking. Just keep your first date casual and simple. This works well if you know yourself... You don't even have to think about it beforehand, it's more like an attitude you set yourself up with. Has to be real tho.
Listen here you cum guzzling faggot you walk in that subway on your normal tuesday because you're a fucking autist and have a routine you have to strictly follow and say this to her
"ayo bitch we goin to the olive garden 2nite for dem unlimited breadsticks and salad, ya dig? and if you suck on my piece on the way there you can get desert too. how bout that shit
By the way, all these faggots recommending coffee are way off base. If you really enjoy talking to this bitch enough that you'd want to make her your gf, it'd be better to just go for it instead of taking her for coffee like some indecisive pussy. When I really want to date a girl, I ask her to dinner and take her somewhere very nice (not crazy nice. you have to save the super fancy places for special occasions otherwise she'll think she's got it like that)... Take her somewhere decent and burn some cash. Don't be too eager to fuck the first date. If she's ready, she'll make that clear.
Maybe let her know you're a little bit awkward with stuff, but don't do the last part. Or, say you're nervous. Nervous tends to work.
"I get a bit nervous talking to pretty girls"
My best friend took his gf (they've been dating for 3 years) out for pho. I took mine (we've been together for 1) out to a shitty diner; I asked what she wanted after I'd asked her to go to dinner with me and she said "I really like this diner".
I'd recommend asking if she has any preference so you don't spend a fuckton to go somewhere she doesn't even like.
Its pretty much this simple, she will say no, or yes.
All you have to do is just talk to her. You never
know what could happen, it sounds like shes
into you, all you have to do is seal the deal so
to speak. DON'T be afraid to do it. women LOVE
confidence. You need to initiate the conversation
I've turned stupid about women cause im used to
being in long term relationships, been in this
one for about 4 years now. I was with her sister
for 5. Just man up and have a simple
conversation, and yes having coffee is a good
As a certified love doctor i highly suggest you write your feelings down a piece of paper like a sticky note or something, than you roll it up and shove it up your butt!
and how often does that work for you besides getting burned for a free meal by some slut?
If its a girl I've known for a long time but never really hung out with or had a conversation with outside of very limited small talk I'll invite her out to dinner since we already have an established knowledge of each other.
If its some random bitch like in OP's case I ain't wasting my cash on her if she ends up not being into me, and in this situation OP will prolly spill enough spaghetti to restock a barilla supply house.
I used to be super shy.. so shy I was afraid to answer the phone if I didn't know who it was.. and when I started coming out of my shell I would always let they know I was shy.. it gives you a little extra grace when you flounder in conversation.. You don't need to be cool / indifferent to get the girl..
It works pretty much every time, but unlike OP I'm endowed with this magical ability to tell whether or not a girl wants to fuck me before I invest time and effort. Considering the fact that OP felt it necessary to even start this thread, you're comment is probably pretty spot on.
Letting her know you're shy is one thing. Telling her you feel more comfortable around her is another; that could easily make her uncomfortable.
I'd advise against telling her that specifically until you get another date.
yeah I used to be pretty good judge on that, but ever since the last serious relationship I was in fucked me over pretty good, my vision is off kilter when it comes to that sometimes. I end up being more jaded about the whole hunt lately. I'm kinda ready to settle down but not tryna put the effort in with someone at the same time.
>she falls to the ground in tears of joy, right in front of OPs disco stick
>OP is out under the counter
>OPs love salami falls into her face breading
>OP gives her his light mayo
>drop on her little sandwhich knees
Damn nigga what the FUCK!! This motherfucker going Subway ayy?? So why yo bitch ass talking all about spaghetti and Starbucks and shit y'all??
Bitch wanna decent lobster meal from this weak ass faggot, make her think he's a rich motherfucka
I agree. OP is having trouble even deciding if this chick even likes him so going to 'you are special' might be too far.. these days though if things are feeling magical I let her know it and every time they have been feeling magical for her too.. maybe I just have a better read on things now.
op here. thanks again for all your posts.
as a recap, i should:
>ask to her coffee first (ask for number after date)
>give a specific date and time of date
>act natural when we go out
tell her that im shy/nervous, but dont say that she makes me feel comfortable (not until later)
>read a newspaper/ know the current going ons
>eye contact and head nodding
>decide beforehand what parts of my life im willing to share
>dreams and ambitions
>maybe feels? (maybe not first date idk)
>ask about her
>get her talking about herself
>since she just works at subway i shouldnt be so nervous
Anything else I'm missing? I do plan to ask her out and I will update if anything happens. just dont expect an update too soon.
/b/, i hope you guys can get me a date
JUST DO IT MY MAN I BELIEVE IN YOU. THINK OF HOW HAPPY YOU WILL BE WHEN SHE SAYS YES.
Approach with caution if you don't normally drink coffee
Post update after you ask her please. Don't get all sweaty like Pardo here.