I need advice /b/. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. I initially started dating him to get over someone else and didnt expect it to go on for very long... but here we are 4 years later with a one year old kid. I love him, but not the way he loves me. Ive been depressed for a long time, and I even tried to leave him but ended up casting my feelings aside because I couldnt bear the thought of breaking a good man/fathers heart and splitting our family up. Now here's the kicker; Im so deeply in love with my best friend and I have been for a long time. Nobody knows, not even him. I cant hold this secret in anymore, its making me sick. I need advice please.
Green text. Also your a fucking sult human like the rest only living to reproduce. I wont be surprise is you have your best friend's child and detch him for a even slightly better guy's genes
TIMESTAMP YOU SULT. ALSO KILL YOURSELF AND SAVE YOUR BEST FRIEND AND FARTHER. CANT BELIEVE U EVEN THINK ABOUT THAT.
Youre going to really hurt that kids life, dont make him go for split custody, having lived through that it can be really hard especially for someone that young, you shouldve dumped his father years ago you dumb bitch.
Let the kid live with his father, dont take everything from him unless you want him and that kid growing to resent you
You're a disgusting piece of human trash OP. You're one of the reasons why men don't like being tied down to marriage and honestly you'd be better off just leaving your best friend alone so you don't end up ruining his potential future.
Sleep on it for a week decide. Throughout that week think of every outcome you can. You have to decide do you want to go on not knowing what could have been. If it was me I would stay with the man until I knew that I had a stable life for me and my kid.
tell him how you feel, or just that you're in love with your friend
see what he does. more than likely he won't be able to bear the thought of your false love, he'll question the legitimacy of your child and your relationship will not survive either way unless he's a chuck
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What kind of advice do you need? It sounds like you know the situation. You know what you want. You know what you have to do to get it.
Are you looking for an easy way?
That's not how it works...
The ultimate question is, how long do you want to suffer? There isn't advice in the world that can answer that for you.
A human with feelings? DUDE SHE WANTS TO DITCH HER OFFSPRING AND HUSBAND TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER GUY AND HAVE ANOTHER OFFSPRING.
HOW THE FUCK IS THAT FEELINGS!
Give him full custody of the kid, then fuck right off to your parents house and rethink your life. Odds are if you arent happy with one man, you wont be happy with another, you need to sort yourself out before you waste another poor bastards time and compassion
If you stay in your current relationship it's going to get worse and worse and ruin your life and his life and the kid's life.
The right thing to do is usually the hardest. Tell your bf everything you just said here, then tell your best friend how you really feel about him. You and current bf can (hopefully agree to) raise the kid together, share custody, or whatever the fuck you want to do, but the kid will be better off with separated parents than parents in a shitty relationship.
Holy fucking hell!
Okay, not gonna berate you like the rest.... but you need to take all those feelings, write it in your dream-journal, lock it and throw away the key, put it under your pillow, and tell no one.
Then, you need to get with your FAMILY. and MOVE. Move at least 750 miles away. Go to a new town. You need to be isolated from people you know. You need a new start with your FAMILY. You need to end all contact with your "best friend" because your "best friend" should be your boyfriend.
Do NOT be a selfish fuck and go with the other guy, because once that relationship burns bright and with the flame of a thousand torches, your will destroy your family, and he will probs kill himself, who knows. But here's the kicker.... once the honeymoon phase of this new bullshit relationship ends, you will feel like shit. Don't be stupid. You are the reason, with how you think the world should work, that our society is in decay. If the kid was an accident, you could have aborted/adopted out.
okay, fuck all these people. shit happens. If that man was me, child or not, I would not want to be with a woman who was wishing she was with someone else.
though you're both fucking stupid ameicans for reproducing so early in your relationship and putting your kid through the situation of not being stable before having a child. Too late for that now though
They were pretty successful at both, just difficult for a young kid to get passed around like a cheap cigar every couple days. Also get off your high horse, youre on /b/ too loser
Only retards and autists are here browsing /b/
So there's no possible way that OP's a girl, you see.
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Sure it's feelings. But for selfish needs.
well if you feel that you can be happy at your best friends side you should go with it but you need to concider the possibility that your best friend will not be in love with you or he will not trust you since you left your man and splitted up your family. You should talk to him(your best friend) first about this or you will wind up with a broken family and a broken heart.
just so you know the biggest red flag there is for a guy is a woman who has a child with another man. your "best friend" will fuck you and leave you, and you'll have broken up a family for your own selfish desires. like it or now your child fucking comes before your slutty desires you piece of shit
Well in that cast. Let's make this a fapping theard. Fuck all this "im depress and want new dick pls" shit.
This is my feelings exactly. Except the moving part.
You need to focus on your family.
We'd be taking a fucking man to task for this, you're getting off light with sound advice.
I wound literally punch my best friend in the face if he said he was leaving his kids mother for some crush.
You shouldn't have had a kid with him whore.
You have no other choice but to leave him a fuck up your family. Don't stay with him and let him think u love him that's horrible. Pick the lesser of the evils and leave him so he can find a nice woman.
Ok first things first. Let me tell you what marriage means. Nothing in this life is eternal or easy so get that out of your head right now.
A marriage is hard. Very hard. People who make marriages last force them to last. They have to will themselves to love that person unconditionally. They both have to undeniably be committed to one another and force threatening things out of their environment. They are a team. A selfless team for a higher cost. Your child.
Look here: this is what's not important anymore: "fascinating" guys, dreamy guys, guys that make your heart flutter, expecting excitement every day, being able to predict what your dream guy does for you and get it
This is what DOES matter: he knows how to keep a household, he knows how to raise a child, he knows how to not escape his problems, he knows how to take and give healthy criticism, he has morals and values that you BOTH can agree on, he has a healthy amount of sexual desire much like yourself (because that is a PHYSICAL and UNDENIABLE bodily human need), he knows how to focus on YOU and only YOU until you have a child.
This stage of your life where you want "something more" is over because you don't know what "more" you really NEED. Just keep WANTING like when you were younger but I promise you'll have to settle down with whatever new man you have and it WILL GET BORING AGAIN. One day you will wake up next to a man you DO NOT LOVE ANYMORE and you HAVE TO BE OK WITH THAT, move on and will yourself to love him again.
Because he's NOT doing anything wrong.
He's healthy for you
He truly cares
He'll never STOP caring
Because ever day he looks at you and DECIDES he will love you
And if you made that agreement with him you need to equally do the same
Make sacrifices. This will NOT be the first time
And above all take this into consideration if it were happening to you (if you were in your husbands place)
MEN. ARE. NOT. TOYS.
You are not dumb or a slut at all.
ever stayed away from a woman because she's already got a kid with someone else? women stay away from men with kids too. sure he might find a woman that loves him but that child will never grow up in a household where he eats dinner with his parents and talks about how school was. it'll always be mum and mums new boyfriend, or dad and dads new girlfriend. dont ruin this kids happiness and cause them to think that parents split up because of them
YOU HAVE A CHILD WITH A MAN YOU DONT OWE YOURSELF SHIT LITERALLY ALL YOU DID IS LET A MAN CUM INSIDE YOU LIKE A WHORE AND NOW YOURE GONNA GO OFF AND LET SOMEONE ELSE DO IT AND RUIN A KIDS CHILDHOOD BRAVO YOU CUNT
found the nigger
this guy is right
Come on guysss
Not what I meant. But yeah, sure. Whatever floats your boat man. No judge here.
Your the fucking bitch that cheated on this guy this morning? Do your texts say sorry about your knees last night from drinking and getting fuck all night? Fucking slut. Your boyfriend made a post this morning about how he knew you cheated on him and we told him what to do but he must not have listened.
OP here. Thank you for actually giving me advice and making total sense.
And for all of you other FUCKS, Ive never cheated..not everything is about sex goddamn. I cook/ clean everyday and I make sure my family is provided for. But I guess Im a raging whore for having feelings that ive never acted upon.
^^^ Listen to my post. Do NOT make desicions under shitty expectations. This is a good opportunity for you to buckle down with a good man and a good household. Someone who you do love, you just have to face the facts of life that marriage and children will NOT spoon feed love to you.
>tampon and time stamp. Wo-man.
You are the reason why men disrespect women. And the funny thing is you're the type to say "damn I wish I had a good man in my life." Might as well leave because all you're going to do is end up giving that man headaches with constant arguments for no reason other to to give yourself an excuse to either leave or cheat. How about you figure what the fuck is wrong with you and get over this grass is greener on the other side syndrome that you're clearly suffering from. And oh yeah let him keep the kid because you are obviously not mentally strong in any way shape or form and all you'll end up doing is passing that dumb shit on to your kid and god knows we don't need anymore retards.
>But I guess Im a raging whore for having feelings that ive never acted upon.
Yes, you are. Wanting to leave your SO with whom you have a child because you're "in love" with your best friend is an objectively whoreish thing to do or even think.
No problem. You have a right to your own destiny. Nothing you do can label you any kind of way because people will never really know the other side. However, you have to live with whatever decision you make for the rest of your memory carrying existence. And so will your child. So I guess all I'm saying is be careful and completely take into account what you have before you decided to let it go.
I will tell you what will happen. It will all go to shit. Your kid will hate you. Your boyfriend will hate you. Your best friend will either blow you off or he'll fuck you for awhile, but he'll never trust you and that will.utterly destroy any chance you will have at long term happiness.
Time to put your big girl panties on and fucking deal with the choices you've made without hurting everyone else.>>647740106
>I think I still think I owe it to myself
This right here shows how fucking immature you are, and that you never should have had a kid. When you have a child, you dedicate your life completely to them, you think only of their well being, not your own.
Seriously, fuck you for creating a human life when you aren't fit to raise it. I sincerely mean that. Fuck you.
You've already had a kid.
This come down to if you will screw him or will you screw yourself.
If you leave him, his life is ruined and it could be YEARS before he gets better, if that happens.
If you stay, well being with him can't be that bad if you already had a kid.
Adding on to this anon: You have a kid, and quite frankly, you're supposed to willingly take a bullet and die for him.
If you are willing to do that, then you're willing to be a goddamn parent and make the marriage work.
I'll give you the only real answer you've had all thread.
Stay with the faggot beta boyfriend because he's probably a little bitch anyways.
Fuck who you want and don't feel bad about it because yolo is for real.
You may love more than 1 person. Nobody has a monopoly on that shit.
Idiots see only 2 options. Are you an idiot? Then look at option 3 or 4 or 5. Life's not hard if you stop sucking society's dick.
You can't be emotional your entire life. Sometimes your brain has to do some serious work. There's a difference between "loving someone unconditionally who would do anything for you" and "continuously being emotionally stimulated because it's exciting and I want that all the time instead of occasionally"
It wouldn't make sense for her to leave a man who's being a team player. Like really? You bet your ass the resources matter. Especially if they agree with your morals and values
As the son of a mother who abandoned his husband i will tell you this, until today my mother tries every day to get me to forgive her for how things turned out for me her son after all this years, dont get me wrong i am an normal functional person, what went truly wrong was that since my family got broken i naturally got abandoned as a kid, no child deserves the misery i went through in my lifetime, long story short i am a young person but since i had to live long time starving and under stress i completely lost interest in living, my body has been ceasing its functions systematicly lately, sad thing is that my mother as of now has no home or family to come back to, i am the only person that she could had relied for her future but she will be left alone, i tell you this not for ur sake, but ur childs
Why do you think the "kid comes first"?
What the fuck is this fucked up logic, and why is it so fucking wide spread!?
Fuck you single moms that expect me to pay for your shit because "KID COMES FIRST". GTFO MY PLANET!
Unfortunatly, you are probably right.
However, in the end, we are the only masters of our life. We can't control anything other than our own choices. The consequences and reactions to those choices are not ours to influence. If we fall in love, we fall in love. I agree, that a mother must look for the needs of her children first (like the father must too), but she is still a human being. However, i will not proceed to give ANY advice, since its most likely a fake story.
And my reason for claiming FAKE; No tits+timestamp, from OP.
bring a life into existence, it fucking comes first, otherwise have a fucking abortion dont pollute the planet with another fucked up kid who never fits in at school because his parents split
you're a cunt and you should be disgusted with yourself for even considering breaking up a family because you couldnt make up your slut mind you fucking waste of skin
>owe it to myself
>being this entitled
you'll be a woman who has a kid with another man that she left for a crush, who will not stay with her because how could you trust a woman that wont even stay with a man who she has a child with? especially if that man has literally done nothing wrong as you've outlined. your entitled state of mind is the problem. you are the problem. get your mind right. see a psych, do it for YOURself and YOUR family
i seriously hope you're not OP. that's such a fucking immature deposition. why don't you be responsible and keep your family stable, you know the one you and your BF are responsible for? be a fucking adult idiot.
the same fucking shit is gonna happen when you leave your BF for your best friend, you're gonna get tired of your best friend after x years and find yourself liking someone else.
grow the fuck up and take care of your kid. growing up in a broken home is the fastest way to stunt a person's mental and physical growth.
Spin it however you want but life isn't some fairy tale bullshit.
Your morals match mine. Your values match mine = we can teach our kid thugs with common ground
You can handle bills and keep a job and can have an accurate metal handle on your money? = we can build a household together and survive
You know how to get a promotion? = together we can make enough to save for retirement
Everything has a realistic price. We live in the physical. We have a concept of time that won't stop for anyone.
Not even for your "feelings"
Feeling are wonderful motivation. They help you get the ball rolling in the first place. The mind keeps it going when those feelings die out, whither, or fade but they will eventually return.
Why should I care that your kid is fucked up? I don't, and you can't blame me. I've never met the little shit and I don't want to.
Simply because a kid has more adversity to overcome because their parents split up doesn't mean you have cause to shame people into fucking up the only life you can prove they get by sticking it out with someone they would rather not be with.
You're fucked OP. No matter what you decide from now on, you'll lose something.
There isn't a good choice here ! And that's all because you talk about LOVE. If it was just sex, then you could just cheat, not with your best friend ofc, who cares about you cheating on your boyfriend if he doesn't know. At least that'll save your kid a divorce.
But if it's love, you'll end up in regret no matter what you'll do :
>break up now, go with your best friend, regret you broke and and fucked up your family
>don't break up now, you'll do it some day anyway, because without love your couple won't last.
The choice is yours. All you can do is confirm it's really love you lack and not just sex. Because sex is easy to fix, love isn't.
Let's face it, they'll break up in a few years over some other bullshit reason if she suppresses this reason. The root of this evil is not the crush, it's the faggot beta she's with. If she were satisfied, she wouldn't stray.
>life is so valuable and precious that you must make the most of it at any cost
>life is so insignificant that it's okay to create it then abandon it in favor of your own selfishness
you're not even close to sounding smart
You are a cunt. You will probably cheat, destroy the lives of both your own fucking child and the man who is trying to be a father. To make shit worse you will probably ask for child support. Fuck you.
Let me connect the dots for you, faggot.
Property. Child is property to dispose of as other property. If property suffers extra wear and tear due to decisions you've made, so be it.
Not property? watch it burn down your neighbor's house and see who gets fit with the bill, faggot.
Ok, here is what she DIDN'T say: "He didn't marry me, so I can't take all his money, his children, his income, his retirement, etc. etc." So Wat do I do, since I cannot steal everything from him like every other cunt evil woman-bitch in the US does???
I'm going to be honest (this is probably a troll anyway)
There's nothing wrong with your husband/kid situation, it's all fine and dandy, there's something wrong with you. How can you go on to say that you love your husband, but he doesn't love you as much as you love him, but you're also in love with someone else.
You also claimed that he was a rebound fuck, which means you only got with him out of spite/sadness. Look, to me you sound like someone who gives in to passion or desire with every oppurtunity that arises, love isn't meant to be some fairytale bullshit where you fall in love and are forever in a honeymoon stage, cause that doesn't exist. It'll suck, there'll be ups and downs and times where you want to leave/cheat but you don't because you love that person.
Even if you decide to leave your current man for your friend, and if for some reason he's secretley in love with you too then how long would you expect that relationship to last? At one point you were probably "deeply in love" with your current boyfriend, but look where that got you.
tl;dr whore who will never be happy, no loyalty tryna climb her way up the penis ladder one dick at a time. You need to sort out some deep rooted emotional issues.
I used to wish every birthday that my mum and dad were together like my friends until I got old enough to ask dad why mum left. turns out she cheated on him with a rich american, shes been living it up while dad and I lived pretty rough for most of what I can remember about my childhood. I havent spoken to my mother since I was 16. I'm 22 now. I advise you to not be a selfish bitch and get help for your depression so you can have the family unit I would have given anything to have as a child
WHO LIVES IN A PINEAPPLE UNDER THE SEA?!
Poor people are poor because they choose to be. She got tired of that broke ass nigga and went with a guy with money. CAN YOU BLAME HER!? I FUCKING CAN'T! Get off your high horse, nigger. You sound like a little bitch.
People need to quit being bitches. God, /b/'s got so many beta fags these days.
So basically you're teetering on the verge of destroying a 4 year long relationship thats been well established with a kid, and a HUSBAND whom you had a kid with, not because he's a scumbag or because its a bad relationship
but because of your feelings.
And the entire reason you got with ol dude was not because he was someone you sought after (like your bestfriend who youre implying you've been in love with the entire time so i've no idea why the fuck you didnt just go to him)
again, because of your feelings
I wanna call you a dumb bitch who thought things through with her pussy and not her brain
but your situation is pretty pitiful
but then again its not because its a bad situation. Its again
because of your feelings
Either a you realize the man you're with is a good dude and the situation you have is stable and accept and embrace the fact he's the one you've kindled a flame with
or you follow your feelings, destroy a relationship, segregate a child's father from his mother, just to pursue a relationship that might be better or might not work at all
if this isn't just bait.
You're a worthless piece of shit. I think you need a guy like me who'll fuck you and and treat you like shit. Then maybe you'd appreciate what you have. Or....you can just an hero slut.
Your third and last 4 sentences make me rage. When I've only read a fragment in the catalog I expected to come here, see a lot of trolls, was in the SJW mood, and intended to give decent advice, but now the only thing I can think of is pic related.
You get what you deserve, and if you leave your "boyfriend" who should be your fucking husband by now since you have a kid, you're a piece of shit!
ABSORBANT AND YELLOW AND POROUS IS HE!
Yes my father chose to start again from square one after she took everything in the divorce. sick post bruh you earnt yourself some internet tough guy points, you called me a little bitch, guess ill go kill myself now
IF NAUTICAL NONSENSE IS SOMETHING YOU WISH!
THEN DROP ON THE DECK AND FLOP LIKE A FISH!
>Only 12 yearold virgins believe if you have a kid your main responsibility should be his or her best interest and not getting reamed out by every guy who smiles at you
Found the muhricunt family values!
WE'VE GOT SOME WORK TO DO NOW
What on Earth makes you think that the guy you leave you're boyfriend for would want a dishonest, untrustworthy person such as yourself. If he has any kind of brain he'll figure out that if you ditched the Father of your CHILD, it'll only be a matter of time before you ditch him. I don't mean to sound to cruel, but it's time to grow up, honey and start thinking about someone other than yourself. You are in an adult situation here. Perhaps talking to everyone involved and lying your cards of the table,so to speak, will give you a clearer idea of where your priorities should be. The truth will eventually come out, why not take control of the situation and see where everyone stands her. Maybe your boyfriend won't want you after all. Maybe your crush isn't into you. Maybe they want a WOMAN and not a CHILD.
ALRIGHT I CAN SLEEP AT NIGHT NOW.
YOU KNOW WE'VE GOT A MYSTERY TO SOLVE
You've got a kid. That's all that matters. Your feelings don't anymore. Sorry but you shit out a kid. Keep the family stable. Especially if the guy loves you and is good to you. You stupid slut
AND SCOOBY DOO IF YOU COME THROUGH
Can your friend support the kid?
If yes, fucking get with that guy and enjoy your fucking life.
Fuck you'll be dead soon enough, whats the point of spending it unhappy if you can change it?
YOU'RE GONNA HAVE YOURSELF A SCOOBY SNACK
quick question:in a world where pretty much, at least in the beginning, knew who these people were, why are there brand named dog treats called scooby snacks?
YOU'RE READY AND YOU'RE WILLING
Ok, I'm bored. Good thread, op.
OH SHIT CHECK MY FUCKING QUADS
>G-Guys I only THOUGHT about leaving my child and destroying our family to run away with a guy who doesn't have the slightest interest in me, I-I'm not a whore or anything, I promise!
You should have done the right thing from the start and not make a kid with a man you dont love, you are a bitch because of that.
Never the less, this isn't a situation that is healthy for anyone involved. Follow your feelings, tell you best friend how you feel, see how it ends up and then tell your bf.
You can't bear the thought of breaking his heart but you can bear lying to him that you actually love him and making his entire life and love be based on a lie? That's fucked up, anon.
>I trade my holes for all my needs being provided for off the back of another
>I took loads until a child popped out
>now I want to take loads from someone else altogether
But-but I'm a slut yoi guise!
im in the same situation only SHE has the new kid from the long time abusive boyfriend that she wont cut the kid off from even thou she fuckin hates the guy and loves me ....but i cant cross the line and niether can she till they are officially done.......but he dont deserve her. Maybe i dont either?but i know she and i would be better off together then they are now FOR SO MANY REASONS i already have 2near adult well groomed and worldly capable and talented children .i have been a single father for the last 9 years of 17 they have been alive and these babies of mine have thrived and enjoyed life and are extremly popular. im sure i would enjoy fatherhood again.this time with a little boy instead of the two incredible young ladies i have put so much of myself into their entire lives. I LOVE HER AND I ALREADY LOVE HER CHILD....HE IS AN ADDICT. THIEF, VIOLENT FUCKER. JUST GOT OUT MENTAL HOSPITAL SHOULD GO BACK IN