>invite 40 people over to my house tonight after work today
>BBQ, pool, hot tub
>the whole shebang
>let people know last week
>10 days in advance
>33 yes, 5 no, 2 will try (no)
>plan for 6 pm, but be there whenever
>buy all supplies night before
>steak, chicken, beer etc
>Friday comes around
>"Hey man you excited for tonight?"
>"Yeah should be fun. See you there."
>Leave work a little early to get home to prep
>Steaks rubbed, chicken sauced, beers cold and in coolers
>6 pm comes
>Get a few random texts that say they can't make it
>Most of them live within 20 min of me
>Sitting here drinking beer and eating BBQ alone
>33 said yes
How's your Friday going, /b/?
but im also curious, how well did you know these people? and how will you react to them? im curious because ive dealt with this recently. it seems when im nice about it people are quick to blow me off, knowing that i wont be upset towards them. but if i let them know that i was pissed that my effort was wasted, they never try to talk to me again. honestly i live in a shitty town but shit id like company once in a while.
No stress /b/tard... happens to all of us at some time. Best thing to do is LIE YOUR ASS OFF AND MAKE THEM THINK THEY MISSED A GODDAMN BANGER
There's you're problem: being nice. Shitty people don't like nice people.
You're better off being a polite asshole to them, never initiate, make small talk and then leave people hanging.. basically be a withholding tool. People will low self esteem love that shit, you'll have friends for life (that you can manipulate).
Of course, if at any stage you start to show them respect (i.e. be nice) they will lose respect for you and think there's something wrong with you.
damn.....you sound like a loser..
if you have that cool of a place and so many people RSVP'd and didn't show up you must be one hell of a fucking autist.
This message has been brought to you from a shitter, I'm taking a dump bruh
PS: Cool party wanna bring it to the white house?
/b/ro not OP. but last year I tried to setup a grand BBQ meet/motorcycle-car meet. with a big ass projector screen and projector and was showing some old classic slasher movies. in a field with a road on 1 side, and treeline on the rest of the 3 sides.
all my "Friends" from facebook that said YEAH im coming sounds cool. never fucking did. and some everyday friends of mine blew it off. but a few weeks before I had it planned. I went /out/ and made a bunch of business cards and went to public meeting places [cafes/bars/parks/places stoners hang out.] and basically hit random chicks/dudes up [tried a lot more chicks just so it wouldn't be a cuck fest] and a FUCKTON of random people showed up in huge numbers. we ran out of fucking parking. I pretty much didn't actually "know" anyone that was there. shit was cool. no free booze tho because was 20 at the time. and was a large area, didn't want cops to show up. but still Got a big ass grill and made so much food. and lots of friends. even got some cougar poon that night.
I've found great results with just doing things that I want to do, and inviting other people along.
Instead of "hey who wants to go to a comedy club" just "hey, I'm going to see XXYYZZ on Saturday"
Instead of "I'm having XYZ at my place" just "hey I'm doing XYZ"
Fuck other people. Go to movies by yourself. They're missing out if they don't show up
if you really knew they'd come, they'd come. good luck bro. sorry if you actually were offended
i was an asshole and i was well liked, and i manipulated people. thats not the way to happiness, and it is not the right means to attain goals. i refuse to be an asshole anymore, for the sake of not hurting those who turn out to be like myself. i cannot take the chance. i have however cut most shitty people off, but that means being alone. ill find a shithead to fill that spot till i get tired of em, but im still using that one person, and i dont like that. most people have a high esteem with no real reason to, because theyre either dumb, snobby, or both.
im too nice, i wish to see humanity be humans. i guess its why i come to /b/, to expell my negativity so i dont keep it around the people in my life.
it sucks, that random people treat you better than friends would. are people today really that boring? are our friends just wanting instant gratification and get bored with relationships too fast?
BUT WHY? just because everyone wants to fuck their aux input on their phone doesnt mean i have to. how do you survive in this world without having to meet people and be in social situations? i guess when it comes to your down time it doesnt matter but holy fuck nuts why would you want to be alone all the time? i tried it for a few years, not fun and extremely boring.
>it sucks, that random people treat you better than friends would. are people today really that boring? are our friends just wanting instant gratification and get bored with relationships too fast?
The way I fucking see it. after that day, I pretty much did a mass friend wipe on facebook and had like 34 friends left... cause Phone numbers and skype addresses was all I was gonna continue to use on all but a select few.
whats worse is I have a problem with IBS. and any form of anxiety can cause a flare up and it just destroys my day. but I stucked it up and still hosted that shit. I tried being sociable. but it just gets blown in my face.
randoms are good I guess because they don't know what to expect from you. fuck if some fucker came up to me, and was like "BRAH COME TO MY PARTY THIS DAY" i'd totally go to check it out.
I'd stay too if that Dick to Tit ratio was equal or better then 3:1
Did you say you would have weed and or cool ifg they brought weed? everyone just wants to get stoned and chill man.
Sounds like facebook "friends"
99% of your facebook friends are merely acquaintances. They don't really care about you. They only added you as a friend because they know who you are (an acquaintance).
Inviting your coworkers puts them in an awkward situation. They work with you every day, but they aren't your friend. Everybody acts friendly at work but it's mostly just a facade.
After a full day of work I just want to go home and be with my family.
I did the same, but made a new facebook and added the few close friends i have. now i think i need to do another wipe.
i know the feel mane, putting yourself out there and being the person you want to be only to get shit on. i like the opportunity of chatting up strangers but i like complex conversations with people i know. i want to stimulate their minds, i like to see my friends be intelligent and do well. i have much love and i refuse to just give it away randomly.
LMAO. I knew someone who tried to throw a big ass stoner party for everyone to smoke dope and get high, im talking like 40+ people.
Of course you get a bunch of retarded stoners into one place. and its only a matter of time until porky shows up and throws them into the pokey.
there are a TON of people who go out. young, old, dumb, smart, poor, rich, ugly, sexy, drinkers, sober people. it's either your city or the places you frequent. keep trying new things...
It's okay... OP. At least you had people respond. I wouldn't have gotten any replies in the first place.
nigga dats all i do. well not all i do, i do a lot of fun stuff. but i burn and do all kinds of shit. ill drink too. all my friends are over 21 anyway except for like one.
im a cool stoner and an awesome drinker. i can have fun doing anything, maybe i put too much responsibility in their hands by letting them pick an activity.
sorry mate, know how it feels. just gotta say fuckem and drink more. Thats all i do anymore. People only use you or look up to you. Thats all
live for yoself m8
>pretty fucking drunk, ignore me
yeah shits gay. you post a picture of something stupid. 60+ likes.
you say hey lets meet up and chill, I got a big bottle of makersmark and a few glasses. 2 likes and 1 comment saying "lol when?" to get replied too but never again replied back.
I swear the autism is real on facebook. its worse when those cool friends you use to hang out with gets cucked by some girl and you never hear or see from them for months on end.
Well, the fault there is that it's maker's mark. Buy something better that doesn't cause a 2 day hangover and maybe people will show up and not just be cordial.
>me sitting alone bottomless with a large bottle of maker's mark nearby.
i guess i was that cuck recently, but not in that way. some bitch fucked me over and i just stopped talking to people. i get good action on my facebook here and there but like you said, its dumb fucking pictures and people liking it and saying lol.
as a society we are pumping social media into our veins and its not helping us in terms of being a cohesive society.
naw, south florida. and fuck toledo, never been there but ive heard negativity.
love you too niggerfaggot
As much as I agree with this, my enjoyment of a free all-you-can-eat meal would have trumped my desire to jack off on /b/ for awhile.
I would've hung out with OP and ate his food and shit in his toilet and watched fucked up shit on his tv streamed through the internet. Maybe some good flicks. Would have been a good time for all, yo.
>Even if your still an autistic faggot....WE WOULD HAVE COME DAMN IT
This is true. It's not like we all aren't autistic, so we wouldn't hold that against you
I enjoy being among my own kind, but I don't blame anybody for trying to be a normie
>i come to /b/, to expell my negativity so i dont keep it around the people in my life.
No. You come to /b/ because there's a lot of people here who you can relate to, and who understand you and care. <3
?? all my retarded friends drink their shit on ice, and I always end up pouring them a fingers lick or two high and that's it..
me personal. I drink it straight and warm. yummy.
brah dropping friends you use to see like 4 times a week for some bitch isn't cool. and I never did that, I either brought the bitch along to hang out with friends. or told her I we weren't gonna hangout that day.
cause in the end, even after being together for 3 years. that bitch will decide just to up and move on out of the blue. and its best to still have those bro-tier friends to spend your even more extra time with now.
I think I'm becoming a born again wizard.
nigguh how you from south florida and having a hard time finding a party.. or friends?.. I got grandparents and aunts and uncles who live in miami/dade my parents grew up there. but I grew up in kissimmee mostly..
but srsly, theres shit to do out there.
Stayed in my house all day so sounds like it would've been rad
why not both? i know we all like to act like were spergs and shit, but most of us are normal as fuck. in the sense that we keep our /b/ contained while we are in public.
<3's for all
naw this girl i would have around with friends and shit. its just when she fucked around on me, i didnt let myself go cry to my friends about it. i know they wouldve helped me out and give me support but i hate to put that on other people, so i suffer by myself.
Free beer, rubbed steaks and sauced chickens? A pool and a hot tub? Bro, don't feel too bad about this, they sound like morons to miss out on that. Still, 33 yeses and not 1 shows up is weird. Fuck apathetic people these days and not wanting to have a good old fashioned BBQ.
nigga its called saint lucie county. SAINT LOUSY NIGGA.
my town is 80% young people.
>60% swagfag stoners
>40% sluts who never even fucked
dude seriously people here are boring, uneducated, and love to smoke and do nothing. i smoke but i do shit while im high. plus theres nothing to do in my city other than go clothes shopping or going out to eat. theres just pot and a bunch of drugs and lots of cops, so lots of trouble. oh dont forget the wannabe gangster whiteboys. fucknigga town is my town, and goddammit i hate it. i lived in the ghetto, id much rather go back there.
Feel of the night if OP story is true. Pics to prove it?
fuckin love you op. Thanks for bein that cool guy i never got to hang around at the office
Basically just put like the name of your party. like for example
>josh's car meet.
>sunday October, 25.
>Movies showing from 8PM to 4AM.
>3282 nigger lane road.
and that's it.. don't put too much details and sound stupid autistic.
and when you come up to them, be like "sup guys. you all want to come to a party this weekend? I'm gonna have a projector and showing some classic movies you just drive out to this location [hand them the card] and park. ill be there making food handing out drinks. tell your friends and bring them along. the more people the better it will get."
SELL Them the party anon, like you're trying to make a million dollar deal.
I love you bastards so god damn much. I got 2 kids, a decent job, a grillfriend thats out of my league, but GOD FUCKING DAMN IT you faggots are my family. dont an hero /b/ros...i NEED you!
No he is not a loser. He is at least trying to socialize with others. He is initiating and approaching people. He is spending money to organize an event to bring people together at his own expense . People are boring nowadays. They dont want to lift their finger to have fun.
LMAO. brah, you gotta invite me some time and show me around, I've only ever passed through saint luice. Bonus points if you've got a motorcycle. or moped. idc.
Hit me up on kik if you wanna. I aint gay tho, so none of that shit. squirrelzz
Every time I see a post like this I think of what happened with totalbiscuit and it gives me a chuckle
sorry, other bottles in the trash in the other room already....
Still love you fuckers though
That fucking sucks man. I planned a breakfast party for people, and told everyone they can come. I let people know for weeks, and the day of I slaved over the oven and cooked a good 20 pancakes expecting people.
No one showed
Try being femanon next time. Other bitches come to snoop. Men come to get frisky.
>You cun't lose if you have a vagoo.
>He is at least trying to socialize with others.
OP went to significant effort. I've seen normies throw parties where you brought your own meat.
>at least OP has food for a few weeks
i got a soccer-mom-ass car, and dont worry, i aint no queer. but i am in queer territory so be glad i got a car and not a moped. ive met people from 4chan before, and have had many friends who come here, not just for /b/. you seem pretty cool brah, and i got friends in orlando and st pete.
IM UGLY AND I AM PROUD
I'm about 30 now and I stopped hanging out consistently with strangers a long time ago. Tried to hang out with some people down in Tempe (neighbors) when I was dating my ex. Unfortunately they were typical college kids, entitled millennials. One dude was a typical hipster with the tight pants, flannel shirt, and goth/emo/apathetic drawl to his voice.
I can't stand most people, I have a few computer nerd/gaming friends that I see maybe once a year anymore, those are my only true friends.
Your /b/ros have your back. Tonight you may request revenge from the 4chan army.
I've had a similar experience buddy, My parents went to mexico for a week and I planned a big party.
Only 3 of my friends showed up and drank all my booze and ate food and then left.
Many people said they were coming, I figured I was getting laid that night for sure...blah
And because some friends showed up I couldn't even lie about it
Family makes me feel like shit when I don't meet their expectations, did shitty in community college for the last few year but recently I finally started to get my grades up enough to maybe apply someplace. Wasn't good enough. I feel like a failure.
family aint shit m8. my whole family outcasted me because my dream was to be a rockstar and not some fucking ricxh ass douchebag
now i make good money, and i lost sight of my dream trying to make my family happy
dont loose sight of who you are mate. i threw my dreams away for my family and now im fucked and i sob to myself everynight about it
Fuck you, you fucking fuck-headed fuck-fuck fuckity-fuck.
goddammit OP this isn't a proper feels thread but im having them. i would have eaten all of your steak and drink all your beer and thank you profusely for being such a gracious host and an all around nice guy. you don't eat alone tonight OP I'm right here with you buddy
this. dont let family hold you back if you feel like you could be doing better elsewhere.
naw dude my parties used to have the following rules
>bring your own fucking beer
>share beer so everyone gets different stuff
>bring snacks, because were making the main course
>bring games, vidyas, board games, movies, whatever
>if you want to smoke the ganj, come to my room
stir-fridays/vidya game nights were a blast yo.
so many people used to come to me to avoid some of the party just to chill with me and smoke and talk.
The one guy pulled the "I can only drink liquor I can't drink beer" bullshit out of his ass and basically took the opposite position of everything I tried to talk about. It almost seemed as though he wanted to purposefully debate. The other kids were just kinda meh. I tried to talk about science, the universe, simulation theory, nerd shit and they were only interested in talking about retarded stuff. Just didn't mesh well at all, I like to talk about interesting shit with educated people but most of the time they don't have anything to offer.
That's not how you throw a party.
That's how you feed a party.
You need to have a REASON to go to the party. NOT just an "come on over, I gots food"
FUCK THAT, its Friday night (2AM over here, just got home, gotta work tomorrow morning).
A party need a REASON!
SuperBowl, for instance. Or even bullshit like MTV, Grammys, Oscars. It needs a theme and a REASON
DJ, Bitches, Bitches, and more Bitches gotta definitely show, that brings other people.
The unpolular weird guy can't just say, "come over for food" or whatever: Unless he was a big time weed dealer, who had lots of bitches also coming over...
but just some dood with food and beer.
That's my place, mon tues wed thurs fri sat sun..
6PM party? what is this, a study group?
9PM or 10PM, and people shwo up at midnite for dj, bitches and drugs/booze.
Co-workders are NOT your friends.
They already see you 40 hours a week,
Why hang out with you more on Friday nite? for food?
Live and learn.
And lots of leftovers
You obviously have no social skills, and this was not the way to "build" social skills
you ever wonder if every post in a thread like this is some crazy fast typing person who is so fucking schizo and lonely they spar up like 40-50 conversations at once with themselves and we all think it's some actual anon thread?
Delete every single one of them. They ask why just say "No one showed, you clearly are not my friend" They'll make an excuse you just half agree and walk away. They were never your friend.
Bullshit. Cause my friend threw parties all the time for the fuck of it. We simply smoked weed, drank, and had music and a fire. I never even brought my own shit, spare for a few rare occasions when I had money. Some times it's about togetherness, and he wasn't even popular in high school
If true that's pretty shitty, I'm also surprised people turned down free food and booze.
But wait, if your house has a pool, hot tub and all that shit sounds like you live in a nice place.
>"FUCK YOU, YOU FUCK-HEADED FUCK-FUCK FUCKITY-FUCK!!!"
probably werent very into education. community or uni students? sounds like fun conversation to me. and as a college student i liked to play devils advocate, but i wouldnt just sit there and pick the opposite side like a douchebag. id state my position but then throw some hypotheticals.
Nah, but in the thread I was 5 different people responding to both myself and others guiding topic of interest as I saw fit. A bit of a power-trip if youre able to pull it off.
Don't sweat it. op. I once invited like 7 people from work to come over to my house on a friday night to chill. Even sent texts out earlier that day to remind them and got responses saying they'll be there. Not one showed up. It's bullshit, but it happens. Just DON'T EVER invite coworkers to hang out. They will almost always puss out at the last minute and leave your ass hanging and feeling like a total loser. Fuck them.
well after all you are on /b/. soooo...heh. let's be honest. (pic related)
This is the individualist capitalist social maxist country all the cuckservative know nothings wanted.
The final form of extreme individualism is a sociopathic population and that's just an escalating survival strategy.
Everyone told you a white lie thinking its an OPTION for them, not a commitment.
YOU, the OP are an autist, thinking that because people told you in passing they were going to show up, that they were actually going to show up.
America is a country full of liars.
It rose to power through lies and deception, and its population is full of some of the most habitual liars on the planet.
"Get yours." "Out for mine." "Not my problem."
You better learn to lie on a regular basis and join the rest of society or you'll be socially isolated for a long long time.
Throw away all the bullshit grade school taught you about the golden rule and being fair. That was all a smoke screen to make you the easily controlled and manipulated person you are today.
youre that jock who gets attention for his skills, and everyone wants to use the fuck outta you. i know because i was you.
a party doesnt need drugs or women, if you think that then you are a lame ass nigga. if pussy and weed is all that makes you happy, you lead one hell of an empty shell of a life.
Spiderman would have come OP. Spiderman never turns down free steak and beer from law-abiding citizens.
well i guess i have the same problem. i can meet awesome people, i just dont follow up, or they dont. cant be mad because i sometimes am the lazy one. but when it comes to get togethers it sucks when friends dont wanna come.
Dude I've been to at least 15 parties+ all "with bitches" and only ONE time did I experience someone getting laid (don't know how to word it) AND they were already in a relationship
im not old, its just about wanting more outta life than instant gratification. pussy is a dime a dozen, and weed almost is too. building relationships and helping each other succeed and cope with everyday life is where its at. people arent like that anymore.
theres different kinds of parties. just because theres a sausagefest doesnt mean you have to start sucking all the cocks, stop projecting.
Long story short there's this week at my high school for testing, and anyone that isn't a sophomore gets to skip the first 3 hours of school "to not disturb the test takers" and I told everyone to come
If I was actually invited to this, I would have loved to come. It seems like nine of is actually know each other unfortunately. Spent my whIle night just playing Destiny a-fucking-gain
It's the return of christ and he's damning an anon.
respond to both, screenshot, then post. Come on now.