Role-Reversal and Gentle Femdom General - Urethral Sounding Edition
>preferably recommendations that are on-topic
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>What is Role Reversal?
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/rr/ and /gfd/ megapastebins:
try going out to meet people instead of placing all of your hopes on a marker on a map in a hentai porn thread general on 4chan
You mean like through fetlife or something? I've done that once before, but that place is full of polyamory. Had a girl dominate me in her bedroom, but her boyfriend didn't like that lol
eat shit and die you autistic shitposter
>things I dont like go on /aco/
This new board is fantastic.
For fucks sake OP what are you doing? There are TWO. TWO. ONE TWO (2) other /gfd/ threads up right now. TWO. On one of the slowest fucking boards on the entire website. Stop being cancer, you're making the rest of the community look like cancer and it's only a matter of time before we start pissing off the mods and get the entire thing banned. Is that what you want, to get this entire community erased because you can't be bothered to post in a thread that's past its bump limit but nowhere near page 10? The TWO other threads still has at least a day or two left.
PLEASE wait until all other /gfd/ thread have at least reached page 10 before making a new one. For the sake of all of us.
DAILY REMINDER: DON'T DO THIS
I know that feeling man, I was in a Thailand market trying to get some souvenirs for my mum, and some female shopkeeper just slaps my ass twice while I was walking by. So I look behind me and I see the shopkeeper laughing and waving
/d/eviant here, that's more the fault of the people who made those 2 threads at the same time.
Personally I like having a thread that bumps. also, pretty sure /gd/ is the slowest board. or at least in the running to be.
So anything interesting happening with you guys?
Obviously, I was implying how that's what was most likely happening to him.
Slightly embarrassing story to share. Three years ago at Barnes & Noble
>be in the philosophy section looking for Plato
>bent over trying to read small print on a book's spine
>be aware that cracks exposed but don't care since it's Sunday
>freeze as I feel a pair of fingers push between my exposed crack
>look behind me to see a very nice 7/10 redhead grinning ear to ear at me
>remain frozen like deer in headlights
>plucks my phone out of my back pocket
>puts her number in it
>walks away swaying her hips
And that's how I met a dommy fuck buddy that lasted for the better part of a year.
How lewd! But I like it, pretty forward of her. Still, you shouldn't leave your crack hanging out like that.
>And that's how I met a dommy fuck buddy that lasted for the better part of a year.
I hate to ask, but how did you break up?
I think you two would make a great couple
But seriously I agree wear a belt or something...then again she may of never approached you in the first place, so look at it how you will
Dommes, how do you feel when your sub cries? How do you try to comfort him?
Subs, do you feel comfortable crying with your domme around? What upsets you and how do you want to be treated and cared for when you're crying?
No Dom, but i'm pretty sure just a long hug is the best thing for it
>hurr, filthy sluts, not pure virgin waifu material
Because those people exist.
Months ago I finally had an /rr/ girl show interest in me. Things were going well, we shared nudes and then I got clingy as all hell. I obsessed over the fact I finally had someone into me, I put her on a pedestal and fucked up the one chance I had in just over a week.
Since then I stopped working out, stopped eating healthy. The months of work I put into improving myself have gone. I didn't even come to the general anymore because I thought women into this stuff are so rare I'd blown the one chance I'll ever get.
My point is don't be like me. Don't make this shit so important that when you fuck it up (and you will the first few times) it'd hit you hard. Treat it as a fetish, not a lifestyle. Dedicate your time and energy to other things, other hobbies. And if a dominant woman shows up in your life don't try so hard to be the perfect sub that you scare her away completely.
If he's crying over something bad that happened in his life I'd let him lay his head on my chest and just cry as much as he likes until he feels better
I'd stroke his hair too and tell him it will all be okay and that I'm here to help him out in any way I can
Sometimes male dom here
Typicaly my sub being depressed or crying triggers the protective and nurturing part of my personality. So it usually leads to me spending the day talking and comforting my sub for the day/night
I'd feel the urge to hold and protect, hide him in my embrace from the outer world.
So yeah, probably just hug him to my chest, pat his back and head, as I kiss his forehead and whisper that it's going to be alright, how sweet he is and how much I love him.
He can cry as much as he wants, I won't let anyone see. I will just hold him until he calms down enough to raise his face.
Then I'll smile and kiss his tears away.
...I think about it a lot, actually. Something in the idea about comforting a crying man appeals to me.
motorboating is pretty good, I'd like her to press my head against her chest. If it were the other way round I would cuddle her and nuzzle against her side, and wipe her tears away.
>He can cry as much as he wants, I won't let anyone see
This, so hard. I get really embarrassed when I cry unless I'm alone with a loved one, and the thought of them "hiding" me while they comfort me just makes me melt.
would it be hot or pathetic to ask a girl to show me how to please her?
say for giving her oral?
The last and well rare few times I was with a girl she just complained even if i asked what she liked she wouldnt answer and be very vague with herself and it well put me off and ashamed to ask.
so I'm not sure if its a turn on or not, it might be pathetic if I think about it.
Are there any /gfd/ relationships or images with a reserved/tsundere male and a out going/energetic female
When my sub cries (outside of bed), and I suspect I am the cause, I leave them alone.
When my sub cries and I am not the cause, I hug them and remind them that I love them, play video games together, spend extra time with them, or anything to get their mind off of what's making them sad. In ether case I feel awful about it because they're precious to me.
I wouldn't really consider it hot, but its certainly not pathetic. Communication is just something you gotta do to get something done right. Everyone likes different things, and unless you're a mind reader you wont know what that is.
yeah well hot was the wrong word for me to use tbh, it's just I wanna know how to please someone, know what they like and enjoy.
just sucks when I'm expected to mindread at times. problem with starfish girls
Not at all. If someone asked me how to do it because they didn't know, I'd be thrilled. Because women don't always feel pleasure in the same way and you're willing to learn to how make the sex better.
Domme here, if it's about something I feel sympathetic about and the situation isn't sexual I'll hold and comfort him. If it's something I feel like he should suck it up about I'll just be quietly aroused, or if it's REALLY stupid, evil laughter and aroused.
>arousal at him being upset
Hehe, I wasn't expecting to see a response like this. Playful humiliation is really cute.
If it's the sissy I just ruffle his hair and bury his face in my chest and let him sob it out and tell me whats up. if it's the girl well that's the same treatment but she like the whole being full body smothered so it's a little uncomfortable. still hate to see them cry.
Anyone else going trough the hell of attracting submissive women only? I'm 6'5" so everyone expects me to act like some aggressive male power fantasy figure when in reality, I just wanna be told what to do and get rewarded for doing good.
I can handle the rough stuff brah. Its just not always appreciated here, which I can respect.
I'm not quite so tall, 6,3 but I know that feel more than I'd like to admit.
It's funny because I do therapy work, yet find a lot of people's problems ridiculously stupid. I must restrain my laughter/arousal a lot on the job.
I wish I could work at one of those dominatrix houses making hundreds of dollar a session just to whip and insult fat businessmen, but I wouldn't even know where to begin making those sort of connections. I'm not active in any BDSM "scenes" or what-have-you.
6'2" guy here, I very much want a short domme girl. Petite, tiny girls are the best. I especially like the dynamic because she could never actually physically dominate me, it's totally about loyalty, trust, and surrender.
I wish my friends understood this kind of thing. I dont resent them but i still wish they could get a clue. I've been having a pretty rough year and ive definitely spent lots more time crying than I'd like to. Like... many hours per day sometimes.
All of my friends are compassionate and are generally nonjudgmental, but they just don't seem to get this part of it. Sometimes you need to BE HELD. Not just so that you feel better, but so that you can be stronger in the future too.
I can't unilaterally make demands of people to do that. And I dont. But it's frustrating to not get what you need when it seems so simple to you. Like, when I'm the one in the position of strength, it never seems like a hard puzzle to figure out how to support crying people.
But that's humans for you. Totally not psychics.
Well, you're asking someone to relate personal fantasies so that you can be better at pleasuring them. But many people want to leave that unsaid because they are embarassed, as if you can magically figure out what they want.
It's not pathetic to ask for feedback about how to please your partners. But you have to remember that they are probably just as shy about sharing their desires as you are.
No dom here.
But in my opinion why should I need to care about that? She's someone that I should need to be trust worthy to and she should be the same. If I need to cry and she's there to comfort me then yes. And generally for someon as emotionally untouchable as me when I break, I'd like some hugs... maybe run her fingers through my hair.
I know not all of you are into crossdressing, but for those who are there's a manga called Usotsuki Lily (Liar Lily) about a girl dating a boy who is a crossdresser (trap, actually).
I can't say it's great story or anything, it's pretty much just a fluffy shoujo affair, but it's kind of cute and it's hard to find good content about straight crossdressers so it made me smile a bit.
as a reference for what i'm looking for is CROSSxDRESS Part 6 from Ikuya Daikokudou
If a guy I'm attracted to starts crying in front of me and lets me comfort him, that's it, I will fall in love with him instantly, unlucky fucker is never, ever getting rid of me. I will SOON through his bedroom window every night and watch him sleep. I will shank any other girl who gets within five meters of him. Men crying does terrible, terrible things to me.
I think that's exactly the kind of thing a sub should ask about. Wanting to be instructed like that and being eager to please, that mindset is one of the things I look for to figure out if a guy might be submissive. I wouldn't call it a turn on, sometimes these things are a bit awkward, but it's definitely a symptom of the right mindset for being a good sub.
Same. I wish I could conjure up a cute guy who would let me tie him up and beat him with a belt, then fuck me while I bite, slap, and scratch him like an animal. Afterwards I'd cuddle with him lovingly and give him aftercare, of course.
Going to munches and all that seems like too much hassle, though. Plus I can't help but think it might be healthier if I don't get the chance to live out these fantasies.
Here is a "gentle" image so don't get mad.
>Going to munches and all that seems like too much hassle
It is. They are elitist as fuck and wont tolerate anything outside of their "norms." You think people who go to these things would be way more open but I found them worse than normal people. If you dont conform to what the munch wants they start talking bad about you and throw you out.
/a/nimu experts, can you give me some info?
Going solely by fanart I've found, Gekkan Shoujo Nozaki-kun seems like it has a reverse-trap perving on a guy. Is this accurate, and if so is the anime worth watching for them?
>my fucking face when i just got a 'Happy birthday, Miss ;)' from my crush on Facebook
it's all gonna be okay lads
>Subs, do you feel comfortable crying with your domme around?
I've never found a domme but I dont see why not. I dont see the point in trying to hide that stuff. Other problem is I'm a low end sociopath. Shit just does not phase me. I've seen others emotionally break down over something and I'm just completely unphased even when I really shouldn't be since what happened threatened my future. I would be amazed if a girl made me cry.
>What upsets you and how do you want to be treated and cared for when you're crying?
As above nothing really upsets me. The most I feel is a vague sense of annoyance and that's only when I'm being bugged when I'm trying to get work done. I have no idea how I would want to be cared for as its never happened.
I know your pain. I look manly as fuck and it sets this image in peoples mind about who I am and how I act I hate it. I've had girls get creeped out because they assumed I was this thugy guy and couldn't handle that I am the total opposite.
One girl flipped shit at me because after she spent the night she woke up to me making her breakfast and cleaning. She actually screamed "Why the fuck are you cleaning! That's not a mans job!"
Shits fucked yo. I cant even use dating sites now because they always want a pic and everyone just assumes shit without readying the damn bio.
>i asked what she liked she wouldnt answer and be very vague
I FUCKING HATE THIS SHIT.
You either tell me whats wrong or you shut the fuck up. You dont get to complain if you dont want to help get it fixed. I'm not a fucking mind reader. If you dont like the way I'm doing it slap me and tell me how to do it right.
>try going out to meet people
You know its not as easy as you make it sound. Domme women dont exactly walk around with a sign. I've dated girls that were complete aggressive control freaks in public but once the doors were shut they turned into supper submissive house wives. You cant even trust how they act to be a good indicator of how they are.
After that you can only take so many failed relationships before growing cynical.
depression makes it really easy to overloaded and break down
That's true. I act really chill and deferent to elders when dealing with strangers, but behind closed doors I'm a tigress. I've known guys who were completely submissive in the bedroom but totally outspoken and confident outside. You never know what's below the surface.
I would hold back as best I could, and try not to let her see.
Part of me would still want her to see, and to come over and hold me and tell me that things were okay and that I should let it all out...
But I'd hide that if at all possible.
Different people deal with feels differently. my younger brother does exactly what you describe. When I was young I'd cry it all out and be done with it, these days I bottle my feelings up and brood on them for days.
I realize it isn't healthy, but I also don't get upset often. I've taken a "I'm going to pursue what I want, come what may." attitude. And even if I don't get what I want, If I'm still breathing at the end of the day I don't see much reason to be upset.
The same can be said for me. I am actually extremely sensitive to slights and attempts to take away my agency in public but once I'm with a girl II like and trust I'm a complete and total submissive. If a girl was actively looking for a submissive guy she would likely look right over me.
That's why online is the best place to look for relationships like this. You dont see the cover of the book. If they want you get to see the whole book first.
I'm kind of a dacryphiliac, so seeing a guy cry draws me to him immediately. I somehow think people are incredibly beautiful and provocative when crying. With that said, I would of course comfort him in the hope his tears would alleviate. Not comforting someone vulnerable enough to cry openly is unbelievably callous.
There's just something incredibly erotic about light bondage. You're so helpless, unable to defend or even orient yourself, and you simply need to have faith that the other party isn't willing to abuse this situation or hurt you. I don't think I could ever trust a woman enough to allow that, but if it were possible it'd be nice.
Its tough, guy. I've been through something similar. Friends are still very different people, and unfortunately it can be hard for them to relate with what you're going through. As much as I like mine to care for me enough to do things for me and reciprocate the friendship, I cant expect them not to see things but from their own perspective, and have come to accept that to worry too much over it is a waste of time and a waste on the mind. You will find someone, just let it happen on its own time like >>6486238 suggests in a way.
Well my weekend date was a bust. She was a great gal but after extensive talking we both agreed it wouldn't work out for us. While she a hardcore dom in bed that's it. She didn't want to take control outside of the bed room.
While is it so hard to find a girl that is happy with me taking care of the house and cooking. Man I would completely forgo fetishes just to have a girl that actively wanted me to clean and cook for her.
Oh well on to the next one I suppose.
The only time I cried in these past few years was when a girl broke up with me, otherwise I'm pretty much like you..
But I wish I could cry more often. Being able to just completely let go and collapse into uncontrollable sobs seems like such a liberating thing. Even more so if you have a girl to comfort you.
Those seem like pretty fun fantasies, why would it be healthier to not have the chance to live them out ?
And munches can be both good and bad depending on your area mostly. I had some fun and some pretty boring experiences, it's still definitely worth a try.
Clean and cook instead of working, or in addition to?
Having a guy who can clean and cook is awesome, but it's hard to get by with just one salary these days, and that's a lot of pressure on your girl. If you're working as well, however, I fail to see an issue.
That's sweet and adorable as hell.
I don't really cry when I'm upset either. The stuff that upsets me are usually things I can't do anything about, so I resign myself to dealing with them and keep feeling bad. A lot of the reasons why I'm upset have to do with gaslighting, so in a way it's really validating to feel really unhappy and have emotional issues. I'm not in crisis either.
>seems like such a liberating thing
As someone who cries a lot; it is. It feels awesome. I watch sad stuff alone specifically so I can ride the wave and cry openly without feeling self-conscious.
I'm going to try a munch in my local area for the first time this friday. The group is specifically listed as 35 and under only, so I'm at least glad I won't have the same experience I've heard of from some anons that it's all super-old people.
That said, I'm super nervous. Since RSVPing I've revived a friend request from one girl who's got to weigh at least twice my body weight, and one sub guy, and creeping on some of the profiles of people there, I'm worried about being called out on being such a wuss.
I realize my worry is probably for nothing, but It's a bit unsettling nonetheless.
I agree, post more.
Not him, but I work the prep line in one of my areas upscale resteraunts. I wouldn't reccomend it as a career however, and plan on finding new work once I finish my degree, if I can.
Reports on career opportunities for Helo pilots are incredibly mixed.
Personally I would like to not work but I'm sure that's everyone. I am going to college to get a Phd so its not like I expect to not work I just have very well divergent views.
I only want to work exactly enough to facilitate my life. No more no less. If I do the math and find out I only have to work 20 hours a week to live happily that's all I am going to work. That's why I'm getting a job as a professor teaching at some random college. I get to set my hours and I get to keep the school life schedule. This rubs all the girls I try to get with the wrong way. I dont know why but maybe its because they expect to be stay at home mothers. For whatever reason the idea of a man not breaking his back to bring in the big bucks is just miasma to relationships.
It just makes no sense to me. Your job should facilitate your life. You life should not facilitate your job. I would rather be happy and "poor" than unhappy and "rich." Outside of a safety net money in the bank is useless.
What kind of sad stuff do you watch ? I don't think I've cried to a movie once in my adult life so it's probably not gonna help but it might be worth a try
I doubt anyone is going to be cunt enough to call a new person out on not being 'hardcore' enough or something.
gl and try to enjoy yourself
There are probably more dommes in the USA, I'd imagine they just don't wanna be on the map because American guys are the absolute worst for thirst and lack of self-awareness. Yuros are generally a bit more sensible.
I honestly wouldn't know since I'm not on the receiving end but you cant blame a guy. That's the whole point of dating. If you dont like him break it off.
Probably doesn't help almost no girls ask guys out and most expect guys to make the first move.
As someone who's played non-romatic guy friend to drag along so marines will stop hitting on someone, yeah you can. You have no idea how unbelievably tactless and brain dead some of the approaches can be, even when there's clearly a guy present.
>no initial set of pics
That sounds pretty shitty man
>She actually screamed "Why the fuck are you cleaning! That's not a mans job!"
Well best of luck, I hope you find that special someone
It is easy to tell you why. It is because they think that a life like that with you will probably be boring. That you are but a minimalist person that does not want to achieve anything in your life, but work the absolute minimum and and spend the rest of the time doing "nothing useful". Which in your mind is probably not the case you probably do wish to be active in a hobby or do countless interesting things. However unless you specifically voice this an outside listener will just think that you will be a boring and lazy person.
The problem is that this implies many other things
>You do not have a safety net of money for any unexpected occurrences, like loosing your job or an economic crisis. You are completely unprepared for any bad things to happen, life is unpredictable and sudden crises do happen no matter what and one must be prepared for them in advance.
>You do not consider having children, which is of course a great deal of investment both in money and work, they think they will be left with both bring bread home AND taking care of children while you do nothing.
>You do not plan to set aside money for your old age
>You basically do not wish to achieve at all, you are not pushing yourself to be at your best.
>You only wish to"Facilitate your life" and that is all meaning you are selfish and self centered not someone dependable and empathic.
Most of these are probably untrue but these are thing people might assume about you.
I can see where your coming from. But why wouldn't they voice those opinions if they thought them?
I have 24,000 USD in the bank specifically for emergency's. I have it set up so I cant even use it without calling the bank and giving a password and exactly how much I will be using. I also have quite a few hobby's I'm heavily into /tg/ shenanigans and that shit ain't cheep. No I dont want kids. I hate kids. But I will have one if we talk about it and we both agree to it. Old age is a thought but its a thought for when I actually have a well paying job. But I expect to calculate out how much I make and how much I would like to spend a year and save up enough so I wont have to worry. Again I have 24,000 in the bank for emergency's. I'm serious about stuff like that. I cant handle not planing. I hate sper of the moment things. Every dollar I make has a home. I know exactly how it will be spent the second it his my bank. I do not consider work anything to be proud of so no I will never try my "best" at it. Work is a necessary evil to live in a modern world. I will put as little as I can into it while maximizing my return. Dependable? I'm the only one of my friends who has any kind of plan at all. See above. But yes I am very self centered. I do not believe in charity or anything. I will also not share my money and take care of my SO unless they are working as well. I will not suffer a stay at home wife.
They would know all of that if they just asked. Now if they didn't want to continue after asking? That's their choice I wont stop them. I want someone that is ok with who I am. While it sucks being alone sometimes I am quite happy and I wont risk that happiness trying to keep a bad relationship going. This is why people are so difficult to work with. No one asks for clarification anymore. They just go with their assumptions and it ruins everything.
I'm a very sensitive man and it's easy for me to break down and start crying if something really upsets me. Even a really sad song, or a scene in a video game/movie can get me going. My girlfriend (who is not a domme and is strongly opposed to the idea, RIP) will still comfort me if I start crying, but I can pretty easily tell that she thinks I'm being ridiculous.
You really do not have to tell all that to me bro, I am just an anon on the Internet. I'm merely theorizing about your situation by having the perspective of an outside viewer, which I assume other people have as well. I however assume that you have got everything covered since you are probably not what others might imagine and because of the environment we are talking about these things. But people that do not know these will form a completely different opinion.
>They would know all of that if they just asked. Now if they didn't want to continue after asking? That's their choice I wont stop them. I want someone that is ok with who I am. While it sucks being alone sometimes I am quite happy and I wont risk that happiness trying to keep a bad relationship going. This is why people are so difficult to work with. No one asks for clarification anymore. They just go with their assumptions and it ruins everything.
As for this part, sadly this is nothing new, most people work on assumptions all the time instead of actually being curious because it is that much easier. One has to actively challenge a person's assumptions in order to make him/her drop it, otherwise they just won't.
>What kind of sad stuff do you watch ?
Not the same anon, but usually a movie where a character has to sacrifice themselves to save the people he cares about does the trick. First one that comes to mind is during the opening to Star Trek (2009) when Kirk's father rams his ship into the Narada while he's still onboard so his wife and newborn son and all of his crewmen can escape in the escape pods.
The soundtrack during that sequence didn't hurt either. In fact, it probably enhanced the moment.
Oh hello, was wondering when you would show up
i never left and never will
So /d/, this one girl at work approached me and is kinda going after me. She talks to me when she can at work, but is usually somewhat mellow and gentle. I generally am quite easy going, know many people at work by name and converse with many regularly. She wants to teach and is going to school for it. Whats do?
then lurk or don't post at all. it's that easy
I don't really like crying in front of my dom, just because it makes me feel like I'm bringing down the general mood regardless, but sometimes it's unavoidable. When it happens just holding and sweet words is nice. Been alone too long, can't even remember being cared for by my dom
Here take some of mine, Ill make a conscious effort to not post them in the next thread
Eh that's it, I gotta save some for an other post or response
It occurred to me that I didn't drop the full set last thread.
Not "gentle", but for completion's sake...
Yeah, but I figured some anons might enjoy having the 3rd of the set.
Personally I'm up for some of the rougher Femdom that doesn't necessarily qualify as /gfd/, though waterboarding might be pushing it a bit for me as well.
Good /k/ related femdom material is pretty hard to come by.
I would not mind a girl into that stuff at all. Well so long as she warned me before hand. Rough stuff is nice but not always when its a surprise. I do actually want to feel what its like to be water boarded though.
Service sub? Cheep?
Well to be honest I want a girl that wants to be in complete control. I feel best when she has the final say. I'll gladly say what I want and give my opinion but I like it when she makes the final choice. I also like cleaning and taking care of the house. I'm happy in doing small chores like that.
Fetish wise? Thats up to her. I like doing what ever gets her off. I'm not very experienced in the more hardcore stuff but I will try anything once.
Another thing if I find a girl I know I will be with forever and I know I can trust her my body is hers. Piercings, tats, even hormones. I dont know if I will ever trust a girl enough for that but I know I would totally give myself over to her if I did.
I guess to put it simply she takes as much control as she wants. I enjoy being totally submissive and my biggest kink is taking orders.
Why do you ask?
Not him, but could you define "service sub"?
I'm more /rr/ than the other one, I like hearing about what other people here are into. I also found it interesting that other people aren't all neets but actively trying to improve themselves. Can I get a throwaway email to talk to you on?
Interesting. I always figured that was just a natural part of any healthy /gfd/ or /rr/ dynamic.
Then again there do seem to be a number of couples here that enjoy a more mother-child style relationship.
I really enjoy feeling helpful both in and out of my relationships, and sometimes I worry that people take advantage of that. Do other subs feel the same way? would you also self describe as service subs?
As I already replied yeah I do now that I know the term. As for being taken advantage of I actually like that. Unless I was ordered not to let others take advantage of me I'll gladly help out even if I was being "used." The only exception is money. Money is to valuable to just give out because I was asked.
I could also do a mother son thing. But it would have t be clear she really wants it. I've never done anything like that so its uncharted territory for me.
Im never comfortable crying around anyone ( I find it embarrassing) but if I do cry around my dom, only knowing that me being sad is directly a problem to her, which would probably drive my sapy state further.
All of the normal cuddling,headpats and such is great for comforting, but holding from behind is GOAT.
>sub who takes care of the Dom like cooking cleaning, back rubs ect instead of the other way around.
So the dream? Lol
In all seriousness, those qualities would stick around even if I wasn't into rr
I don't feel comfortable crying around anybody. I grew up being taught that, basically, showing any emotion other than confidence was an extreme weakness and something to be shunned. Bits of that still bleed through.
I'm don't feel very comfortable crying around people. If I had a domme I may feel more comfortable though. I get all blubbery and can't speak, and it makes me feel sorta defenseless. I don't cry all that much anyways. I suppose if I was crying then hugs and sweet nothings would be the best fix.
>I somehow think people are incredibly beautiful and provocative when crying.
I think that is true sometimes when it's just tearing up a little, but when it's completely raw and undisguised, my face will be agonisingly contorted in a horrible fashion, most of the time it's not that bad for me. I've never cried in public, 99% of the time no one is there at all if I can help it. In front of my parents I still felt the need to hide my face.
I would prefer a bigger girl, but if the girl is cute it makes no difference to me what her size is.
This thread sure has been going places lately.
Obviously the interest in femdom arises from poor childhood nutrition.
Most people (in here, I hope) know they shouldn't do this.
What is the point of reminding all subs that they're held to a high, often impossibly high standards? Or that, on their first message, they'll be perceived as one of "these guys", often no matter how complex of a message they'll write? Or that they shouldn't write at all, if they don't want to be seen as desperate? We all know that. We already feel the immense pressure.
That isn't loving nor gentle at all.
>We all know that. We already feel the immense pressure.
I agree that posting that image over and over again is kinda obnoxious but what 'impossibly high standards' are you even talking about ?
If anything the fact that there are so many twats bothering dommes with baseless wankery means it's far easier to stand out if you just talk to them like a normal person - which really shouldn't hard at all if you genuinely find their profile interesting beyond the F and D parts.
> that's it, I will fall in love with him instantly, unlucky fucker is never, ever getting rid of me. I will SOON through his bedroom window every night and watch him sleep. I will shank any other girl who gets within five meters of him
I want to be wanted like this. If a girl wanted me this bad I would do anything for her.
>what 'impossibly high standards' are you even talking about ?
The ones that define you as a creep before even the first word is read.
>If anything the fact that there are so many twats bothering dommes with baseless wankery means it's far easier to stand out if you just talk to them like a normal person
Haven't really experienced that. I've met a couple of amazing Dommes - amazing as regular people, especially - but they wrote to me first.
You can see that as your message standing out, which can certainly happen, but also as being drowned in a sea of crap.
>which really shouldn't hard at all if you genuinely find their profile interesting beyond the F and D parts
That's a different issue entirely, that Dommes often don't say anything about themselves other than their sex and BDSM status. Even if they're actively trying to attract people. It's not like they're often held to a high standard by many of these subs.
Good thread here. Lot's of neat conversation.
IME, if you are really desperate for a female dom, and are having 0 luck in finding one (location, no game, none available, not the right attractiveness, whatever) don't feel bad about hiring a pro. It's worth it if you're going through a lull.
My current GF sometimes takes control in the bedroom, and when she does it's glorious. She's 15 years older and in solid cougar land, and has perfect smothering-tits. But more often than not, she's submissive. Which is fine for me, for now.
Hes talking about supply and demand. The disparity is real. Domme girls can pick and chose at their convenience. I've actually experienced it. I was semi dating a girl online. Nothing to serious but past the agreeing to be bf/gf. She straight up dumped me because she found another sub that "fulfilled everything you do while being cuter and younger than you are."
These high standards he is talking about is the fact that with so few female dommes the cream of the crop get them first while the rest of us have to wait and hope which only hurts us because we age and grow older and uglier while there is always fresh new young subs.
Its no reason to act like a dick bag like in that photo but it is real and I've known people who attempted suicide over it because they were to manly and couldn't even find a girl to give them the light of day.
>Hiring a pro
No. I have an intense hatred for "professional dominatrix's." So fucking many have lead me on and then when they felt they "had me" attempted to take my money. On top of that it only makes all this shit worse. Now instead of a sub living happily with a Dom that dom now charges him and he will never get to have his happy life.
I would break up with my soul mate if she told me she was a professional dom.
> So fucking many have lead me on and then when they felt they "had me" attempted to take my money.
You mean the people who charge money for sex tried to charge you money for sex? Fucked up
>don't feel bad about hiring a pro
Well, I'm definitely more comfortable with an existence of Pro Dommes over god-damn FinDommes.
That said, given that we're in the "gentle and loving" category, I don't believe the world should force some to pay to be loved. Even without that, BDSM is very much about the connection and understanding between two people. Think about how sad that is. Not to mention the possible mental issues of falling in love with someone you pay for it.
Sell your skills, like amazing bondage or sessions for couples. Don't sell the mere fact of giving attention.
Ah that's too bad. Anecdotally, I've had nothing but great experiences with them when I've used them. Where I live it runs $100 - $200/hr.
You lucky mother fucker. Mind if I ask how you two met
No they go into it acting like they like you. That they want a relationship with you. Then when they think your addicted to them and too spineless to stand up to them they start extorting you for money.
Then if you do stand up to them they act all coy and say shit like "Its my job what did you think I wanted to date you? You owe me for my time."
No dom is going to charge someone they have feelings for- pros have non-pro relationships too. If you can't get a dom's attention without paying for it, whose fault is that, really?
Never understood at all why some guys resent sex workers so much. You either work on being an attractive potential partner or you go 'nah fuck that' and pay for the convenience of not doing so. It's pretty damn simple.
>Never understood at all why some guys resent sex workers so much.
Because, unless you're a super-successful guy who has no time and has to get hookers on his dick, sex workers can be seen as abusing your sex drive for money, very much like advertisements often do.
>You either work on being an attractive potential partner or you go 'nah fuck that' and pay for the convenience of not doing so.
A "potential partner" would give you much more than a fuck in the back of your car.
I started working at a new firm in Manhattan, about five years ago. Little did I know she liked younger guys. She had planned from the start to chase me, thinking I was very cute and seeing how my office was 75% women, 20% gay men, and 5% hetero men, she didn't have a lot of options.
We hung out a few times, sometimes with friends, sometimes alone. She would text me, and I'm a sucker for teasing/flirting, and it got to the point where I really, really wanted her.
The next time we hung out, I made the first move. Overall, it's been a great relationship. We've been on/off/on/off/on again for the last five years. She's very stable and an amazing person. Our life goals are different. I want to get married and have kids, she's content in her Upper West Side condo with her two cats.
The sex is very good, she prefers vanilla, but I do dominate her, tie her up, spank her. She'll smother me, facesit, peg me, tie me up, collar and leash play on occasion.
>Go jerk off dude, that's literally how easy it is to manage your sex drive.
Yeah, tell someone who deals with marketing daily, that sex drive is so easily manageable, that it can't be abused for money.
It was in real life both of the times it happened. I met one Jessica at a munch and the other Rebeca at a sex toy convention. Neither one said anything about money and responded as any normal girl would when asked out.
>So fucking many have lead me on and then when they felt they "had me" attempted to take my money.
Shit, sorry to hear that. You must hang around some shitty people (or make a ton of money.)
Anything which involves me giving them money ruins it, though I'm sure they could satisfy me sexually. My motivation for getting a dominant gf is for intimacy and for someone to genuinely care for me and for me to lovingly serve her, it has nothing to do with sexual frustration. I'm fairly good at satisfying myself anyway.
>Because, unless you're a super-successful guy who has no time and has to get hookers on his dick, sex workers can be seen as abusing your sex drive for money, very much like advertisements often do.
Goddamn this is funny shit, 10/10.
I think you're projecting too far out. It's true you're facing a disparity issue, which sucks, but don't assume that automatically means women are going to have crazy standards or be super judgmental. I will admit, because we're dealing with BDSM-related activities, I do review men vary carefully before reaching out to them in order to protect myself. There are a LOT of creeps in the fetish community and men and women both need to try to screen them as best as they can as early as they can.
All I'm looking for it a guy who I share a mutual attraction with who is an awesome friend first and then also sexually compatible. Most women here are the same. You're dealing with a tiny dating pool versus the general population so it's less likely to be a deficiency on your part and more likely that you simply haven't run into a compatible girl yet. It doesn't mean we're hating on you.
The number one thing that will help you is putting yourself out there. Add a face picture to your profiles, and talk about your interests, lifestyle, and the things that matter to you in addition to your kinks. I see so many sub profiles with no pictures in which the guy talks only about his fetishes and sexual tastes. Maybe that's okay if you're only looking for hookups, but for the many guys here who seem to want girlfriends, it's not the best way to go. I want a sense of who you are outside of the bedroom too.
Even with the gender ratio being in my favor, I have yet to find any guys reasonable near me who I feel I'd be compatible with. All we can do is keep looking.
Just casual anon browsing through the thread here. I don't really use services like that, I just started reading this thread due to the pics! : D
Anyway.. That seems like a solid load of info. I appreciate you going through the trouble to tell this. I also kinda projected and thought that I'd never try these dating things if the community was mean and punished for trying. But yeah you kinda put it in context. Still not sure how the etiquette for making contact works.
Completely forgot. Have some ara ara for compensation
What we really need is a dating site focused on kinks. Fetlife is fucking horrible because the creators built it to prevent hookups like that.
Someplace we can put a bio like that while still being able to narrow down to what you want.
There's collarme. It's full of creeps and 50 year old morbidly obese women. Moreso than fetlife, I mean. Any site like that is doomed from the start because there is a huge contingent of obsessed weirdos who will sperg at anyone who's into the same sex stuff as them.
If you just want a woman to cuddle you and be on top during sex you really don't need a fetish site.
Any Anons or Femanons have things that they would love to try with their so, or if they had one?
I like the idea of being under a desk as I'm pleasing a girl, shes at the computer either playing games or just on the internet, maybe on skype making me have to be extra quiet as I work.
Bonus points for rubbing my head/hair every so often but effectively ignoring me the rest of the time.
Hopefully this doesnt seem creepy, It just seems like something I'd like to enjoy with someone.
even something stupid like we bake cookies together and eat them all , while watching netflix.
Well regular dating sites have gotten me no where. Its just as bad as in real life. domme girls dont normally wear a sign so its constant swing and misses.
All I want is a simple I am a ____ ______ looking for a ______ _______.
One spot for gender one spot for preferred position. A nice little filter to filter out everyone you know you will be incompatible with. and while some may say its "shallow" or "you dont not for sure." Sex is a HUGE part of the relationship. If one person is not satisfied it will fall apart. I am not dominate in any way shape or form. I actually have panic attacks if I'm ever in control of another person or even think I am. I had to turn down a management position because of it. Getting swamped with submissive girls just ruins the mood and makes everything look bleaker.
>Any Anons or Femanons have things that they would love to try with their so, or if they had one?
Everything. I know that sounds ambitious or whatever but its true. I have very very little experience with this kind of stuff and I want to try it all once to find myself. Sure porn is an indicator but porn is not real life. I want to discover my self and I want to do it with someone I love and am devoted to.
Did not know you could reverse image search a webm
Got around to listening to this, the tags aren't usually my thing but I thought why not. Now I gotta say rusfemanon = best mum
That you can. But here's how I got to it.
>Reverse Image Searched the webm with the arrow obviously.
>Found a thread in the google search to which the topic was the anime that was in the webm.
I basically want to live this green text. Other than that I want her to coerce me into doing lewder and lewder things.
thats not too ambitious at all anon, its really good that you want to try as much as you can. i do the same thing, to the point of reaching extremes my two pets arent really comfortable with and i had to find another dom who had a similar mindset. theres so much to try in life.
>Any Anons or Femanons have things that they would love to try with their so, or if they had one?
This isn't really sexual but I think I would find it intimate... I would like to do her makeup/pedicures/manicures for her, wash/comb her hair. Also I'd like it if she uses a mimikaki to clean my ears while I lay on her lap.
There's lots of other stuff I'd like to do that's already been talked about in previous threads.
My girlfriend and I dislike most of each others' fetishes for varying reasons (not appealing, makes one or the other uncomfortable, health issues, etc.) and I still have to keep many of mine a secret because I know if I asked her to try any of them, she'd shoot it down and say it's too weird.
Also forgot to mention there's quite a double-standard here too. She still expects me to satisfy her needs when she refuses to try any of mine.
I'm not comfortable being a dom but that's exactly what she wants me to do and she gets incredibly pissy when I don't.
post fucking pictures, nobody cares about your sperg shit
then go fucking lurk. nobody cares about some blog crap
Nothing wrong with occasional blog posting. Without it these threads would just be dumps of the same images
>Nothing wrong with occasional blog posting
and still without pics
>Without it these threads would just be dumps of the same images
literally couldn't be better
that's the problem with generals which are cancer on their own. but the same set of pics is still better for anyone to see than some shit that doesn;t belong on image board
>have no confidence
>make boyfriend wear a blindfold so he can't see me having no confidence
>terrible at dirty talk
>have no idea if I'm doing anything right but he always says it's good
I enjoy it, and the way it makes him look/feel, but I don't feel like I'm taking on the role well. I guess it's just a 'have more confidence' issue, but I wish there was a shortcut. He's super cute and exactly what I like, and I guess it makes me nervous.
I come here for blog posts, hence it being a general. Considering most posts here are just people wanting to talk, the majority apparently agrees.
99% of the images being posted are just the same 200 or so pics being posted forever. Don't pretend you're contributing more by reposting the same same shit off gelbooru.
said fucker who doesn't care to post a single pic on an IMAGE board
>implying i care
if you weren't a shithead and actually lurked, you would know that:
>Replying to a thread stating that you've reported or "saged" it, or another post, is also not allowed
but that's obviously too hard for you to do
Have any of you ever have a catheter? Just because it might seem hot to you inna cartoon, doesn't mean it actually feels good.
sorry for shitposting but this just makes me cringe, I hope nobody does it
Depends on what you're going for and what kind of relationship you have.
If he loves you and you're doing this for him, I don't doubt that he appreciates it.
If it's just a sex thing, it might not be okay. Still, A for effort, and it's probably cute as fuck.
i masturbate via my urethra quite often
As stupid as it may sound, I'd like to just be able to rest my head in a girl's lap while she watches TV/reads/etc. Or spoon with her while sleeping, running her fingers through my hair, scratching my chin. Just something simple like that.
Physical intamacy is one of the big "must haves," for a relationship. To make a very long story short(ish) I met my first girl friend on an MMO. We lived only half an hour away from each other but she shot down all my attempts to see her except for twice in a half decade on again off again relationship.
To twist the knife even further we got to talking after parting ways a while afterwards. Turns out she moved in with some poor bastard on the other side of the country, and bragged about giving and getting oral.
I want more than anything to say "I'm not mad," but holy fuck if you could distill my spite into a liquid form you could power the entire first world with it.
yeah. i wouldn't call it uncomfortable. it's a matter of getting used to it
i also did an experiment to see if having a tube stuck there for too long makes you leak. it does
I didn't think it was necessary to say it, but apparently I was wrong. If you're under 18 don't put yourself on the map. I will delete your marker. What are you even doing here? Go to school and hook up with one of the many crazy girls your own age.
there's no post cap. only image
Highly reciprocal, at least I think/hope so. He does stuff I like (I am easy to please) and I try to pay him back in kind. Most of the things he likes require me to be dominant/assertive, which is why I worry about my 'performance'.
Thanks! I'll go back to lurking and looking at advice. I feel more confident now, at least!
This is just what I was gonna say. I feel I'd be willing to try anything once, even if its not something I have much interest in. I'm also pretty inexperienced, so I feel it would be fun to try a smorgasbord of activities.
I just want to feel like I belong to someone again.
Nigga, what you are doing right now is like comparing a colonoscopy to anal sex. One is a medical procedure whose primary goal is to help deal with a health issue, the other is an intimate sexual act whose primary goal is to induce sensations in the participant. They are different processes with different tools for different goals, and only superficially similar.
>buy my cutie a handful of videogames
>he gets all blushy and cute about it
>"oh wow SQ, how can I ever repay you"
"with your body"
can't wait to close the gap in this LDR
>The number one thing that will help you is putting yourself out there. Add a face picture to your profiles, and talk about your interests, lifestyle, and the things that matter to you in addition to your kinks. I see so many sub profiles with no pictures in which the guy talks only about his fetishes and sexual tastes.
Which basically also happens on Domme profiles, or sometimes they have no informations at all.
Why would they? They get 10 messages daily, there's no incentive to improve.
>Even with the gender ratio being in my favor, I have yet to find any guys reasonable near me who I feel I'd be compatible with
Doesn't that tell something about standards, or even simply fear/disgust from subs?
Sure, most of these profiles are probably barren, but I don't think it would be an issue the other way around.
put myself on the new map in vegas again...
has anyone had luck with the new map?
how many people in the kink scene are /fit/?
like i would imagine being fit to be almost a given since you show off your skin so many times. and bondage looks better on fit people.
i started lifting 4 months ago so i am not actually that fit yet, but i was wondering how much it helps you in the bondage community. though socially awkward silent as well.
Everything looks better on fit people, not only bondage.
From what I have seen most of the people(both male and female) range from average to bad with a few actually attractive people thrown in around, just like in the general population.
That's basically accurate, though she dresses in the girl's uniform when she's not playing a prince in the play. They're a side couple, but they're pretty entertaining.
Men are totally allowed to have them. Doms are often saying they wish men would be more discerning and not carpet-bomb the inbox of everything with a vagina.
You that same dude sperging out in the Fetlife group right now? You've got that same attitude of thinking every instance of a woman not being sweet and loving to you means you're living through the Subocaust.
Seems like you're the same Domme that got all autistic, because someone pointed out that saying "I hate all sub men" and acting like a spoiled princess is probably too violent of a response.
Seriously, wanting to NOT get hate isn't much to ask for. But hey, supposedly we should have standards. Wanting to be treated respectfully may be too much.
Nope, just an observer. You're making yourself look like a real idiot. I'm enjoying it personally, but you might wanna drop it for your own sake.
I can't believe it's actually the same dude. That's hilarious. How many other websites do you go to to whine about how all women are oppressing you?
>Which basically also happens on Domme profiles, or sometimes they have no informations at all.
tbh those are retards that deserve every PLS GIB ARMPITS message they get.
The ones that don't, on the other hand, are more likely to be picky, I'll grant that. But don't think of it as having high standards, rather as having very specific ones. Don't feel bad for falling outside them.
remember when /d/ wasn't shit?
nah, of course you don't
>Your ass. Out. Now.
So is the appeal more towards the prone position and submisiveness than the actual man-ass? Or is man-ass itself actually okay too?
No, I'm definitely not, but believe what you want broseph.
You're totally allowed to have standards. Go have those standards. But you realise 'your standards' only relates to people interacting with you, not people making a statement that has nothing to do with you personally, right? Like I can say my standard is that I won't date fat girls. That doesn't mean I get to go and whine everywhere all day that fat girls exist. It just means I have the right to not date them because that's not meeting my standards. I don't think you actually understand the concept of standards and how they're applied.
That is completely unrelated to everything, so you fail to make a point.
Being fat is arguably bad, but it still isn't harmful to others. Being hateful and self-obsessed can possibly be.
You may also fail to understand the point of having a discussion, which was about this hateful attitude and how to get rid of it - yes, possibly even through trying to change males.
But that would be implying that a Domme can do something wrong. And some people's self-obsessed fee-fees can't take that.
>So is the appeal more towards the prone position and submisiveness than the actual man-ass?
That, and the obedience. Just being presented with a butt doesn't do much except perhaps inspire some friskiness.
In that bit there? No, he's not. I'm not fucking with you or anything here, she fucks him because she's pissed.
They have a relationship before this event occurs, and it's very dom/sub, but in this instance there's very little predication.
That's up to my GF. I used to be skinny and toned as fuck since I was on the school swim team but my last major GF liked "bara" and "bears" so she made me grow out my body hair and get fat. I'm willing to go /fit/ again if a girl ever wanted me to.
>women are allowed to have standards
Yes they are. Men are allowed to have standards as well. The problem comes from when those standards are way to high. Modern society is not kind to "averages" "average" looks bad in a world of communication.
An average looking person will be uglier than 50% of the population and better looking than the other 50%. But in today's world people think that the people 75% and up are "average" this thinking ruins everything because they assume 75% of the population is "below average."
The other set of thinking that kills it is using a different group as your reference. Most kink community's are not way up there on the hot or not scale. But people in those community's want the hot people from outside of that community. If you are part of a population you must work whiten that population. If you refuse you give up all rights to complaining about that community since you wont even give it a shot.
Man this thread was going so well for so long.
>Been here less than a month, spoken with 2 doms from here, and a reverse trap and a girl who thinks it's cute that I cook both of whom I found elsewhere. still in contact with 3 of the 4.
Treat them like regular god dammed human beings. Jesus fucking Christ. She's not some internet goddess she's a slightly sexier version of a friendly co-worker. treat her as such. This shit ain't difficult.
Also, realize most of the doms who actually post already have subs and aren't looking for a new one.
The people who deify potential mates ruin it before they start. While that is the case I dont blame them for it. The mind gets screwy after being denied so long. A person can only take so much before rationality and logic fade away and they immediately jump on any opportunity they see.
This is true as well. I haven't been here long but from what I have seen its been mostly male subs with a few female doms that are already in a thing with one or two female doms lurking and making few posts.
Fuck, posted in the old thread.
You really want to make sure the OP contains 'rr' and/or 'gfd'; those are common search terms.
>Think headpats and headpets are the cutest thing ever
>Every time I see a picture of them, I want them to happen to me
>Already have a gfd-gf
>Turns out headpats are just kind of awkward, gentle, blunt hits to the top of my head, and headpets are just her hand awkwardly (softly) tugging on all of the hairs on the top of my head as it drags across my head
>Not pleasurable or soothing or embarrassing at all, just awkward and dull
I desperately wanted it to be awesome, and maybe that jinxed it. At least pets/scratches going down my back are really soothing, and getting my face caressed is pretty great. Still, though, every time I see a picture of headpetting I yearn for it, and then I remember that I don't like it at all, and I get disappointed. Every. Time.
>headpets are just her hand awkwardly tugging on all of the hairs
She's doing it wrong, dude. Think of it as petting a cat. No grabbing or tugging, no roughness, just a gentle gliding of the fingers and palm along the animal's back.
I can assure you that even though there are more subs than dommes, that still doesn't mean a compatible sub is going to be _near where you live_. I see some subs who seem cool, but they all live hours away from me and I don't want a long distance relationship.
And being a sub isn't enough. This is what you don't seem to get. Just because you're a sub doesn't necessarily mean you're a potential SO. Just as, I would hope, just because I'm dominant you wouldn't automatically assume I'm good for you. I don't want a BDSM "lifestyle", so the guy I'm with will only be a sub in the bedroom and in some private interactions. The rest of the day he needs to be, plainly, a guy a like who is a good friend and a good life partner. Someone with whom we can share is some of one another's interests and passions, and who shares a similar vision for our future. Most people stuggle to find this in the whole dating population, and I'm in a way smaller population just because I have some kinks. Speaking of which, I have specific kinks that most subs aren't into that are important for me. Just as I may NOT be into things that a sub really, really wants in a partner.
We're not swimming in subs, bro. There are a fair number of you but you're spread out and you're all very different people just as we are. Is it hard? Yes. Is it even harder for you? Yes. But if you don't like it, give up and date vanilla. That's what we're all dealing with.
You're coming off as kind of an asshole right now, so I doubt you're doing yourself favors to attract a nice woman with that attitude. Especially considering a lot of the guys here do seem like nice, cool guys. Take a note from them are try not to be consumed by bitterness.
>One is a medical procedure whose primary goal is to help deal with a health issue, the other is an intimate sexual act whose primary goal is to induce sensations in the participant
Didnt stop my prostrate exam from feeling great.
Weirdest doctors visit ever.
>Speaking of which, I have specific kinks that most subs aren't into that are important for me. Just as I may NOT be into things that a sub really, really wants in a partner.
This right here is the truth and is what most people dont understand. People have things they really want out of a relationship and things they want nothing to do with.
Sometimes its big things other times its small but with a topic as broad is RR or BDSM or any kink community it can come up often.
>so the guy I'm with will only be a sub in the bedroom and in some private interactions
Unfortunately this seems to be the majority from what I hear. Which really sucks since I only care about outside the bedroom stuff. Sure getting kinky in bed is fuck but its such a minor part it might as well be a "regular" relationship. I kinda expected RR to be more about outside the bedroom stuff where the female takes the more traditional male roles and the male takes the more traditionally female roles.
I tired fetlife twice on two different occasions. Each time I cam to the same conclusion. Fetlife is a place to keep in touch with people you already know not to meat new people.
I got frustrated with it both times and gave up. Maybe if I ever get involved in a kink community I will use it but right now is ehh.
How? I've been here for a year and haven't met anyone male or female
There is a girl on both the maps in the netherlands, it's a small country, why didn't you bother contacting them?
how's the internet in Netherlands? should i prepare a remote proxy?
My main thing is I don't want to be confined by gender roles. Outside the bedroom I do act tomboyish and chivalrous towards guys - opening doors for them, acting protective, putting my hands on their hips when initiating a kiss, etc - but I don't consider myself a dominant in this context. I see it more as we're equals and can act however is most natural for us. If the guy wants to act girlishly in response that's fine with me, but I won't hold him to act in such a way. In the bedroom though I crave power.
Ahh that's what you mean. I view that more as just personality type. I was talking more along the lines of just generally being in control of the situation. You know making the big choices. While I do more of the day to day stuff. Cooking, cleaning, shopping.
Its hard to describe it without evoking gender roles because that is basically what im talking about.
Personality is personality. Honestly I would be fine with any personality. Though being more on the predatory and controlling side is a huge plus. I am who I am and will respond and act how I always do. I dont expect others to change for me and I dont want to change for them. Well unless they got a training fetish.
>Its hard to describe it without evoking gender roles
But that's the whole point of /rr/, isn't it? The abolishing of standard gender roles and/or flipping them around entirely. There's no shame in talking about it.
Oh I'm not saying that its bad I'm just pointing out the difference. Every relationship has expectations for all members. This is true no mater what. Even if you go into it as equals life will force you in to a pastern of expectations.
Does your partner get off work a 3PM and you at 9PM? More likely than not he will probably be the one cooking dinner. Roles are created via habits and preconceptions.
I view what you were talking about as more personality quirks. I submissive girl that's a house wife can still be grabby and open doors for her man. and the dominate bread winner man can do the laundry.
Going into it I want the more traditional female roles because thats what makes me happy. I have a dominate streak to me but that doesn't change the fact that love to cook and clean and take care of my partner.
I know you like to use buzzwords and all, but tumblr is nothing but an imagehost plus livejournal 2.0. It's not a neofeminist ground zero. In fact it's mostly porn, then image collections, then mundane blogs, with SJWs making up just a tiny percentage. I've been on tumblr for years because of the porn and I've never once seen any SJW stuff in my feed.
Just because we're not redpillers doesn't mean we're SJWs. Don't try so hard to sound like a neckbeard.
tumblr is actually amazing for niche porn. No matter how specific your interest there seem to be multiple blogs devoted to just that. I've never seen any sjws when I've been on there either so I don't see the big deal. I think you have to go in looking for them.
Could be you, could be her. The scalp is pretty sensitive in some people. Sometimes it's petting technique. When I'm petting my b