>On bus >See this blonde chick that is seriously the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life >felt weird inside >was on the way to my gf's place anyway >gf is also extremely good looking but the tats bring her down slightly gf would be perfect without the ink
>laying down and reading >randomly remember her for no reason >soul crushing sadness and guilt >get flirted with/hit on fairly often when out >feel like a sperg for not being able to get over things from the past and move on with my life
God damnit I just want to go forward and learn how to be happy for my own sake again.
>>9050528 i forced myself to go even though i didn't want to. when you feel just as uncomfortable in social situations as you do thinking about not being social, there no reason not to be uncomfortable both places!
You're only seventeen, i can only say its gets easier. Girls get easier to get as they grow older. without thinking about about you will problaby get with some girls. you dont have to care. When you get laid you will probably just as before.
>>9050528 dude you should go to bars, even better when there's a dj or a band playing a genre you're interested in, i started going when i was 16 and met great people, i must've been to 5 high school parties max.
>>9050528 I'm a tad older than you are, and I just went to my first party. I recommend it.
The only cool thing about it is the tight knit atmosphere. Sure, maybe a few people showed up that you didn't know, but all you have to do is tell them your name and shake hands. You're all best friends for that one night. You're all at the same party on your own trip. You won't really understand until you go to one for yourself.
The good thing about it is that it's your night.
Really though, don't get yourself down about something so silly. You haven't been to a party. So what? Don't get sad about it. That's a daft idea. If you want to go to one so badly, then go,.
you are me last year but i'm still a virgin now i'm in college and everyone in my classes are 21+ while i've just turned 18 and can't really go anywhere for the next 3 years, but i'll have my aa and bs by then
>>9050612 are you actually good friends, or you did you just know her as like shallow friend and thought "i gonna hit that". Be honest, the answer might surprise you.
now when you have been rejected you probably feel like you were closer than you were. dont lie to yourself
>>9050639 there is no reason why shouldn't be able to talk to girls. just think about girls as regular humans. because that what they are! You don't have to give a shit, just talk. it mostly doesn't matter what you talk about, it only awkward if you find it awkward.
>see qt boi >feel sad when I see his gf is a pudgy basic bitch also >tfw go to a concert last night and flirt with a blonde 6'4" qt >ask him why he has his hood up when he has such nice hair >he giggles >tfw don't know if he's gay or not since his other 2 friends are obviously gay
I hate threads like these. Nobody wants advice, they just want to tell you why your advice is bad.
Everybody will say "but that's only your experience it's not like that for everyone!" seemingly oblivious that same mentality holds true to any advice they have to offer as well.
Or you say something about a generalization and get instantly labeled as a PUA.
or you say you do ok with get girls and have a lot of experience but the only possible way to prove it is to upload a pic that must meet /fa/s high standards because the only way you can be successful with girls is if /fa/ says you look good.
One hundred percent honesty: I read Book of Pook and it changed my life.
>>9050577 One key to a successful relationship is something i rarely see people talk about here: Never make a relationship a big part of your life. If you NEED a relationship, you are destined to end up miserable by the end of it. You need to get to a place where you have a life outside of a relationship, and let a girl become a PART of your life.
It is never easy to break up or be broken up with, but nothing hurts worse than when you had your entire life invested and attached to a girl. Keep your relationship a minor part of an already somewhat fulfilling life and you'll have lots of success with dating.
No matter what anybody says, the person who cares the most has the least power, and therefore the most to lose. You can cry about that concept all you want, but anybody with half a brain or shred of experience knows it is true.
>>9050740 Why don't you think about how she feels instead of being so absorbed by your own irrational fear of rejection? You said you noticed she wanted to kiss you. What the hell man?
She was brave enough to show her interest and you were the one who rejected her. What do you think she's thinking about you right now? "Why did Anon do this? Is he just toying with my emotions? Does he not like me?"
You'd better fucking kiss her next time you see her faggot.
>>9050708 i casualy asked her if she wants to join me for some sushi in the near town...her response was rather quick, she just saied no and when i asked why, she saied she didnt have time even tho i did not say on wat day :(
>>9050689 can you talk to cats? then talk like that >>9050713 I dont think so, maybe. its weird i know. when i see a perfect grill i usually think "why am i not with some like that" or "i could never get someone like that" etc. I think i am feeling jealousy, of not being with a pretty giril? or maybe its because i, myself is not a pretty girl. i dont know
>>9050753 you're right. lol @ virgin neets who think getting a gf will magically solve all of life's problems (lack of social skills, money, taste in fashion) >>9050778 don't worry about it. you're the prettiest and you know it :^)
>>9050799 >it does in a way tho, especially for that kind of people But the thing is, it isn't healthy or realistic. It is setting themselves up for failure because when she's gone, they have even less than they did before.
A guy in that state shouldn't be in a relationship because he can't be in control of it. I know it's possible to be in a "good" relationship under those circumstances, but too much depends on HER. If she wants it, she gets it, if she moves, you move, if she says "no" you don't get it. You have nothing - you don't even have control over your life. You'll make so many compromises for a girl who couldn't and wouldn't ever do the same.
>start taking a greater interest in how I dress >regularly lurking /fa/ during summer >conscious of other peoples fits >school starts >notice v effay asian qt in a couple of my classes >constantly want to talk to her and compliment how she dresses >tfw no friends >it would just be me awkwardly trying to talk to her from the time she leaves class to when she sees her friends >still not effay cause no moneys >always want to cop shit so I can gain confidence and talk to her >know that that wouldn't solve my problems >always think that I'm uninteresting and ugly and constantly beating myself up because of it days consist of schoolwork, /fa/, and crying listening to slowcore >tfw deep down I know I could get her if I just tried I feel empty
>ex gf dumped me months ago >move to other side of the world >still not over her >still fall on my face when I try to get other girls >fast lane to dying alone >can't see myself loving anyone intimately ever again >can't get a dog
>>9050799 No, it doesn't. People like that are never happy with what they have, or who they are.
I think many of us experience the same thing, at least in a less emotional way, with clothing. You're not satisfied with your Levi's, so you go for raws, you're not satisfied with those either, and you blow hundreds on vintage Japanese selvedge, slubby shadow denim, persimmon hand-dyed cotton, yet you're still looking for more. Sure, you can gain temporarily satisfaction or fulfillment after you hit that "buy" button, but are you still going to be as happy the next day?
>>9050850 hm this is similar to me mine was slightly more than a year ago and I moved to other side of the world too funny how about 3-5 months after break up I was almost over her and then it returned and it's still here what do we do mate what do we do I cant get a dog in my position either and I considered it probably will try to cop another gf but its so hard cause I've gone to such level of autism in the last year.
>>9050860 It's daydreaming and escapism. Like I have daydreams where I am a rock star or a famous actor or a billionaire or that I am friends with movie stars and party on their yachts. I also have fantasies of having a gf and stuff where I do things with her etc
I think it might be unhealthy but it makes me happy for that brief moment like fapping does. I've had weird daydreams like you where I die and the gf mourns me or where she dies and I mourn her. Sometimes it's where she or I go missing and then afterwards we are reunited
I think it just comes down to wanting to be loved, which is why you have the daydream where you are dead and she is mourning you. You want to know that you are special to someone and that she will miss you when you're gone. I think we just want to feel loved and that we matter is all
>>9050862 it sucks because I've only met one girl who I thought could've really taken her place, and that girl totally fucked me over and ended up with some skinnyfat waste. it's really too bad. I'm just gonna keep trying to contribute actual good things to people around me and hope my luck turns and I find some contention with life again.
>>9050868 Damn, not the guy ur talking to but I do this a lot. Sometimes I've daydreamed about being in a bad accident and that girl I like coming to visit and everyone feeling sad. I think its a narcissisism thing.
>>9050880 Could be some narcissism but it could be that's the only scenario you can picture where the girl would come and give you attention. Then you might daydream of you getting together
I've had daydreams where the girl in in an accident and I come to her aid then visit her in hospital and then we get to spend time together. It's just an excuse for me to spend time with her rather than asking her out and possibly facing rejection
Am I the only one who truly doesn't give a shit about having a girlfriend but enjoy when girls pay attention and show interest on me? I rarely happens but when it does I always fuck it up on purpose by acting autistic as fuck (on purpose) or being an asshole, I fucking enjoy seeing how far I can take it before the girl realizes I'm a fucking weirdo and stops talking to me, I do this because I really could care less if she becomes my girlfriend or not, it's like a game and I enjoy it.
>learn beautiful qt blonde blue eyes girl >friend knows her brother, tells me she should never had a friend or has any right now >talk to her, she is shy >tfw know nothing about her >tfw met at the friend's Birthday, even danced like autists to this kinect game I don't know guys, I'm retarded.
>went out with a girl from February to end of April >had anorexia >things were hard >looking back, I was a Shithead, I complained and got angry because something wouldn't fit her(too big), when she was already so bad about her size >we broke up in a weird way >she still reads my snapchat stories >don't follow each other on Instagram >still she likes my photos occasionally >I think I love her still >we lost our virginities to each other >i feel like she still feels something for me >her little sister sent a snapchat from her phone to me once, she was a beautiful little girl (no /b) always used to say me and her sister would get married
Maybe because it's late and I'm listening to Yiruma im just sad and shit, but is it worth just maybe saying hello again? Just trying once, one afternoon? Idk, I've never felt this feel towards anyone.
>>9050949 I don't think you should message her. I fully understand the desire and rationale that makes you consider it, and i've been there numerous times myself. But you know that she is in a different place, and you are in a different place. Even if she still had feelings for you, you would NEVER be able to get back the original spark when things were fresh and fun between the two of you. There will ALWAYS be the memories of the fucked up and bad aspects of the relationship, which neither of you will be able to forget or truly forgive. You've seen how it ended up once already. Plus, there is the underlying problem that YOU can't get anyone else and will always fall back to her, which will subconsciously always make her think of you in a bit of a pathetic light, to simplify things.
Saying "hi" opens the door, but it will only confuse and make things worse. It's better to just let her fade gradually. You may have good memories of playing with Pokemon toys when you were a kid, but playing with them now would only be out of nostalgia, or failure to adjust to adulthood.
You may regret not doing it, but you may also regret doing it. I think the BEST option is to not do it, and feel confident you are acting in your best interest. There will always be a "what if" no matter what option you choose, which is why your best option is always what's in your best interest and in this case it's finding the strength to move on into the future. Let the past be the past.
>>9051004 But when you move back out again, I bet you will get your mojo back. That's how it happened for me. I moved out after high school, life was good moved back in with parents, life sucked moved into apartment, life was great and better than ever moved to college, things were ok moved back in with parents, life turned to shit moved into my own place, life is good again
I've been with a few girls since, Im meeting another tomorrow, but I've always had this feeling for her since we broke up, and i think she does too. When I meet these other girls, nobody seems interesting enough, not nice enough, tbh im a complete twat to most people, without wanting to sound too edgy I honestly care about nobody, but she's different, I don't want to seem desperate, but she's always trying to get my attention, I feel by saying hi I'm just giving an answer to her attempts, because she also knows I've seen other girls.
>>9051031 >you don't just go 0 to 100 A lot of us are too nervous so we have no idea how to ask a girl out. You're meant to talk to them first and shit but I think we're so nervous we just want to get it over and done with so we ask them out before we say or do something really awkward. Often this won't work because the girl doesn't feel comfortable yet to go out with us, but we're just trying to get through the conversation as quickly as possible
>>9051023 I'm in the same situation as you, except with minor differences of course. I know exactly what you mean. What we had with our girl was something strong, and special, and no matter what girl I hook up with now I can't get that spark back. But what I realized is that it's actually for the better. I learned a lot in the aftermath of that relationship, and went through numerous changes in emotion over how I felt about it. I always want to go back to when her and I were at our happiest (or at least when I was happiest), but it could never happen. Plus, I'm a different, and better person now. I'm smarter, and I see things clearer. When she texted me after months of no contact saying "I miss you" I knew she was lying. She didn't miss ME, she missed the way she felt around me. She missed the attention I gave her and the strong bond we had. She wanted exactly what I wanted, which is something neither of us could have - a time machine.
I always wonder how she feels about me still, and I want to know what her life is like now, but at the same time, I don't. I really, really don't. I've seen the bad parts of her, and she's seen the bad parts of me. God knows I was a real dick at times in the relationships. She was great to me, but I fucked it up, and then she fucked up and we just can't go back. Relationships end, and the hardest part of life is accepting that. All that I've learned from my relationship with her has helped me to have better relationships now.
Ultimately, if she does look back at me I want her to look back at me and see someone who has gone out and lived life. I wasn't stuck in the past, trying to rebuild something. I was able to move on, and let her be, and she did the same. To try to insert myself in her life NOW, after all this time apart, all the experiences i've had, and personal gains / losses i've taken would be a huge failure, and set back. I would hope there is no place for me in her life these days, because she was able to move on.
>>9051041 No matter where I go, no matter how bad or how good my life gets, I still end up on the Chan. But yes, it is so relieving to move out of your parents place. I know you'll bounce back. The comforts of home are nice, but there is also all of the bad shit that comes with it. My parents aren't easy to live with, but I think it's pretty much universally accepted that, even under the best circumstances, moving out of your parents house is freeing in an unbelievable way.
My lifestyle isn't even different, but almost every single element of my life has improved for the better.
I'm going to use your game analogy again, but I guess it's akin to when you remember all the old grand theft auto games, finding the Easter eggs, being that age again, only to play it now, and be faced with a generally disappointing time.
The thing is, she was my first with a lot of things, first genuine girlfriend, first girl I travelled places with, first girl who we went to nice places to eat, first girl who genuinely accepted me for who I am, and didn't judge. The times we shared I'll never get back, she was my first love, still, right now I hope to see her one day and we just go from there, because my parents did the same thing, and they've been together 25 years. I'm changed now, though. Some of the times we shared were beautiful, and to dwell on them would only make me feel worse.
Although, it's a classic case of Rose tinted classes, because there were bad aspects, she was overbearing, only cared about herself and you couldn't say a thing without her going bat shit crazy. I do believe there is someone else out there for the both of us, who will help us forget the girl we're both thinking of, I need to stop seeing a girl as a goal, it never works out.
Right now, I'm off to play some old Grand Theft Auto. Thank you, anon.
>>9050453 >sister notices I'm getting into fashion >we're talking about clothes >I tell her how common projects are my grail >she doesn't know them, asks how much they are >don't have heart to tell her full price >"they're about 200" >show her a picture of them >"omg anon why would you spend that much for shoes that are the same as white vans" >later show her a Rodina watch I'm interested in getting >"why would you even get that anon? it looks exactly the same as your one" >pic related is my watch now
>>9051170 First off, i'm not really that young. I'm 25. I also had already experienced living on my own, barely able to make rent each month, and all that, before I ended up moving back. If you have a good relationship with your parents, maybe there is no reason to move out, but that isn't the case for me. I was always living under fear of my parents snapping and kicking me out as they did before, for no reason, and with no warning. One thing I felt I never had living at home: control. Or privacy.
I can't explain why I feel so much better, and I don't really like that i'm essentially wasting money by having to pay rent each month, but I think it may be as simple as knowing that I have control. Nobody can tell me what to do, and I don't need to answer to anybody. I think it's just something subconscious, like a huge weight being lifted off my back. Living with my parents just suppresses something inside.
Every thing is easier on my own, and it also makes me see more opportunity, potential and desire to see positive changes in myself.
>>9051211 Probably because you had parents that you didn't want to live with. It would be scary to live with them and fear they would kick you out
I am over 30 and still live with my parents. They treat me well so I wanted to save money by staying at home. The problem with this is that I should have moved out sooner and gained some independence. I moved out before for a year and didn't like it all that much so moved back home because it was convenient
Now I am about to move out because I don't think I can get a gf if I am still living at home
>qt girl talks to me >images flash in my head of going on a date with her, kissing her, getting married, who we would invite to our wedding, what our children would look like and how many we would have, growing old together >meanwhile irl spilling spaghetti everywhere like an autist
>tfw mom died when I was young >tfw best friends mom died last year >He turns to me for help >I mishandle things >He slips back into drug use, then his gf breaks up with him, then his dog dies >I wasn't there for him and didn't even try to reach out to him
>be me, be shy >start dating girl >dont hit it off, split apart >stop talking, dont think of her >don't see her around >time goes on >i change >suddenly she reappears >she changed >start lusting after her >see her everyday occasionally making eye contact >don't know what to do >its lost
even if he doesn't care (which he will, if he is a friend of yours, it won't matter, it really sounds like he needs the help) then you know that he doesn't and you have done you duty and gotten it off your head
>>9051540 said i was High for Major Depression... I don't want to believe that me, of all people is depressed though.. Like i used to be always the super popular happy smiley guy.. Now i'm depressed? wtf nothing even happened to me...
I only use it when I can't find a party to go to or to get invites for car meets.
Using facebook as a social platform is laughably uneffay.
If you're that same guy, here's a forewarning. I don't date bitches who are all over Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and all that shit. It's a mess. Have you ever tried being friends with someone who's constantly on his phone? Imagine that, all the time, with a girlfriend.
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