>lifting for 3.5 years
>shit gains everywhere, twink ottermode mode
>people who have been lifting for 1 year look better and are stronger than me
>can barely tell I lift unless I'm shirtless or wearing a tight undershift
>probably 9-10" forearms
>max bench is 195
Fuck this shit. Maybe I just don't want it enough.
Dude, you have to take diet into account too. If you want more gain eat more protein. I use the shit from GNC and it works great. Other than that change up your routine, you won't see much gains if you do the same workout everyday.
If you want bigger maxes and muscles do bigger weights with less reps. With 195 bench you should be doing sets of 2 or 3 at 170 or higher. I'm assuming you must have pretty good muscular endurance so this shouldn't kill you. If you change up your workout and down protein like a glory hole cum slut you should be fine.
you're not eating enough or doing heavy enough weights. the fact that it took years for you to realise this means you should remove yourself from the gene pool as you obviously cannot into basic logic
Eat more. I was in your same situation. Trained for 6 months for barely any gains. Started eating a lot more, and I gained a lot. 160 -> 185 (tho now I have lots of fat, I will probably bulk until 200).