>out with my best friend at a park >he's a straight guy I'd known for years >I'm an MTF 2 years on hormones still in boymode due to transphobic parents >we talk about passing and transpeople >I ask him jokingly what he thinks, how I'm progressing >he laughs awkwardly >then literally tells me with a gentle voice that "Oh anon, I like... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>5283358 As >>5283381 said, he's known you for quite some time, so of course he's gonna see the little things here and there that "show" your original maleness; it doesn't mean you're a hon, it means he just has a more attentive eye than the average passerby, rewarding you of course. Also, you're saying you're still in boymode, so maybe that's also why he said it
When I was 11 a boy from school saved my life and I fell in love with him. Five years later they dropped out of school and disappeared suddenly. I finally tracked them down 6 years after that, it turns out that they're now living as a woman. I also suspect that they're a prostitute... I still love them very much but I don't know what to think.
Would someone be kind enough to give me a crash course on transsexualism? I feel incredibly confused and conflicted about this.
/lgbt/, FtM here. I was wondering if some of the males around here could help me out.
I've recently gotten my hormones, about a month ago to be exact. I've come out to everyone, and I even present as male 24/7, though people still think I'm prepubescent, that'll change soon enough. I've wanted to be a man for as long as I can remember, but recently I've been having some issues figuring out the type of man I want to be.
Quite often people will tell me to man up, or act more like a man. This always confuses me. I mean, I feel like a man, so isn't this how a man acts? Thing is, changes in my behavior don't seem to really fix whatever problems people tell me to address. Being too emotional? Man up. Too quiet? Quit the tough guy act. Act brash and loud? You're an asshole. Just how exactly does everyone expect a man to act? A person cannot be silent, stoic, passionate, reserved, strong, and weak all at the same time.
And note, this isn't me complaining about male social roles. It's me being confused because society doesn't seem to know how it wants me to act. It's as though no behavior is actually acceptable.
I asked one of my close friends, a man 26 years old, what being a man is to him, and how he thinks a man should act. His answer:
> I don't know really. I'm still figuring it out. > My dad told me when I was 13 that being a man is so much that one is only so by being so. > Not really an answer but it's all I got. > No one can really tell you. That's the thing, no matter how surrounded by people you are, you're still alone.
I don't get it /lgbt/. Help?
> How do you "act like a man" ? > What do you feel a man's social role is? > What are things men mustn't do? > What are things men are obligated to do? > Describe how you view masculinity.
>>5282999 Everyone has their own idea of what a man should be.
Base your masculine ideals on physical male traits.
Men are stronger than women, which means they exert more physical control of their environment. Take that further, be confident, be assertive. Remember that ultimately, you are in control.
Most people believe that men are less emotional than women but that isn't true. Men and women are just as emotional. Hormones make it harder for women to hide their emotion, and men tend to respond to... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
This is the Trans Help General thread. We'll try to help you here with everything related to being transgender. This includes questioning, appearance, daily trans problems, medical info, general info and other interesting stuff to name a few.
MTF, FTM and questioning people are all welcome here to help eachother and discuss possible solutions.
You can also share your transgender related stories here. Just came out? Or you just need to get something off your chest? Maybe something wonderful happened today! We'll be glad to hear it, it's always... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>5279395 Yep, desu I was pretty clear I don't want anything to do with that transgender shit, just want my meds and get a female body, don't care about all the social implications, cause I'm transsexual, my problem is my body, not my social life. I couldn't care less how people percieve and treat me, I just wanna be happy with the shell I'm stuck in. But he wasn't happy with that so I had several appointments where I just told about what I've been doing cause I didn't know wtf he wanted from me,... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Sounds like it will be a schizophrenic collection of tattoos.
Not me. I got a referral to an endocrinologist from a psychiatrist on my first meeting with him. My face was pretty masculinely shaped, but I was shaven. I also don't think my behavior was masculine. I've yet to see an endocrinologist because the one at the hospital he works in is booked up to March. I'm trying to get in contact with some others.
The... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Do people honestly feel this way if their friends and family don't give them money for their meds? I was confronted with something similar to this today, but I barely make enough to pay for my rent. I feel like my friend was attempting to take advantage of me, but I wouldn't dare to accuse her of doing that.
>>5282865 I think shes right in the sense that society needs to help us, but shes wrong that she expects people to give her money in that way. What needs to happen is better and cheaper healthcare for transsexual individuals and the way this happens is through the government and awareness of the general public accepting us because we have a medical condition that needs treatment.
>>5282689 FtM here. I've had dreams of myself as a chick, had dreams of myself as a trans guy, had dreams of myself as a cis dude. I haven't started transitioning yet. It all depends on the tone of the dream as well. Like, if it's one that's more nightmarish or just trying to deliberately fuck with me, I'm more than likely a chick in them. Dreams that lean on the more realistic side, I'm a trans guy, binder and shit just like day to day life. Idealized dreams? I'm a cis guy in there... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>5282260 >how long until breasts change from being quite firm to being soft on average? Depends on the person. I'm 20 months on HRT and mine are firm enough they don't bounce. My radiologist, at about 17 months, described than as being some of the densest breasts he's ever seen, but he wasn't used to seeing very young breasts.
I gotta admit one of the more appealing aspects of being gay (besides it being an innate biological characteristic) is all the dough I'll be saving with my future partner compared to straight couples.
No having to support a female and pay for massive wastes of money like makeup and abortions and whatever else. Things like toiletries and clothes can be shared. Also all the time and money that can be saved by not having kids can go towards traveling and other interests.
And there's also the possibility of marrying rich, not that I'd marry someone... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>5282046 >be 27yo postgrad faggot >make 90k out of college >i don't even have any student debt from scholarships >date 30yo faggot making 60k >we bring home like 100k >no mortgage debt >no college debt >no cc debt >we collectively have more... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>5281952 The pool of dudes willing to fuck a tgirl is purdy big. The pool of legit LTR material is a pond. But no, there's hope. Just like any other girl a lot depends on you. Attractiveness somewhat. Personality a lot more. Don't be awful.
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