What's up with people shamelessly hugboxing you in real life? I know well I need FFS to pass and users on 4chan said the exact same thing but my therapist and even one transdude are all "you are going to look great, hon" or "puberty didn't hit you at all, hon" but the mirror tells a different story. Is it because they just want to placate this freak like "let's just be nice to him and go along with his delusion so he won't chimpout (manout?) or something"?
They are more than likely just trying to be nice or possibly have something against FFS itself. Though that is a presumption (on the latter) and I could be very wrong. None the less, if you don't pass, then get FFS. That's really the best solution for you. Don't listen to anyone regarding that except for yourself and a few select people whom you can trust can be brutally honest with you.
Could be that you see yourself differently then others see you.
What made me realize this was when I was at work and a transgirl walked upto us and asked us a question. I could tell right away being trans and spotting all the signs. My coworker had no clue when I mentioned it afterward. Like legitimately unknowing. Then asked me which way ftm or mtf and I told her. She had no idea.
You and other trans people are far more likely to notice the little things then others.
Or you know, you could legit be ugly and they're hugboxing you. I'm just throwing my 2 cents in.
its the same type of idea like friends telling them they look pretty and are not fat
it could also be that you look fine, pictures are a terrible way of determining how a person looks. i know i pass fine in real life but on photos i reach total hon mode for most of my photos.
so if for example pic related guy went to a therapist, the therapist would say the same shit he said to OP?
I hate it when people do that to me too, though I'm not trans.
Here's the thing: It's normal. Would you rather them tell you the harsh truth? You think you might want it because you already know, but you don't. You're going to feel bad either way.
Bear in mind that the vast majority of anons mistake 'honesty' with 'freedom to be a dick'.
Part of dysphoria is that you don't have a fucking clue what you look like. Years of being socialised in a fucked up sexualised culture coupled with crippling self image mean that you're always going to be your own worst critic. Even if you are like, not a total hottie, fuck it, you're probably still cute. And if not, fuck it, welcome to being one of the 95% of women who aren't total babes.
Your friends are being friends.