>>5145282 >Why does gender matter if you don't want sex? Because you can still have a gender preference with regards to things like appearance and personality. Though keep in mind I'm talking about gender not sex - if you're not interacting with their genitals they shouldn't matter, but you can still be attracted on the basis of outward expression.
>>5145305 >Asexuals don't NEED to explain their "sexuality." Unless they want a non-sexual romantic relationship.
>Asexuals just make up a fake persecution when really no one cares that you are not having sex. Most asexuals don't claim to be persecuted. Maybe on Tumblr, but literally everyone on Tumblr claims to be persecuted.
>no asexual has ever been killed for being asexual. I seriously doubt that. About 1% of people are believed to be asexual, so that's 70,000,000 asexuals living today. And when you take into account all of human history, that's a lot of asexuals. It's very likely that at some point someone was killed for being asexual (even if "asexual" as an orientation wasn't a concept at the time). This sort of thing seems especially likely to happen to asexual women in very traditional societies, where reproduction was seen as the only point of a woman; a woman unwilling to have sex with men would be seen as defective and a waste of oxygen. Sure, it's far worse for gay men and trans people. But it's a stretch to claim that NO asexual has ever been killed for their sexual orientation.
No, but really, I dread having to deal with sex once I find a relationship. But I'll have to. I think you'll have to settle with that idea. Limiting yourself to 1% pop doesn't sound like a good idea, at least to me.
>>5145372 Your dating pool would be slightly more than 1% since it would also include allosexuals who don't desire sex (due to injury, low libido, or trauma). Of course it is still a limitation. It really depends on how you feel about sex and whether you'd be willing to have sex (and whether you could be happy in such a situation).
>>5145463 As a compromise, yeah I guess... but it'll never be great sex, cause you know... I lack the passion and I'm a bad faker. Add to that all the other issues for trans people. Blegh, probs gonna need aphrodisiacs or something.
>>5145207 I'm friends with an asexual man and woman who are engaged. They love each other and do cuddle a lot, they just aren't interested in sex. I don't know how common it is or how likely they are to have gender preferences, but there definitely do exist asexual guys who like girls.
>>5146039 They also met on a forum specifically for asexuals, if that helps. Thankfully, the internet has made it easier for minorities to find communities of people with similar needs, if you search for them.
>>5145207 I am. In my case its because during my circumcision the doctor fucked up. I have no feeling in my penis. I have no sex drive because of it. I only ever do it to make my partner happy but it does nothing for me.
OP, they exist, they do. In fact, I'm not sure why people claim that they're rarer, I'm beginning to believe that they're the most common of all aces. I've been to three ace events in my city now, and in all three they made up at least half of the people who showed.
Now... Finding a kinky asexual guy... That's a different story...
Have a boyfriend for two years and in the last year I think I may have had sex... twice?
Before that I had a girlfriend for 4 years and had sex maybe once every 4 months.
Never in the mood for sex.
I fucking love cuddles, have a stable above average wage job and am under 30. Also I am regularly told that I am attractive by the people I work with and occasionally the people I deal with in my job ( im a cop )
>>5162261 >kinky asexual What does that ... mean? I know asexuals might still occasionally have sex (but they don't have any particular drive for it.) But to me, kinky means someone who wants to do more adventurous sex stuff. How is that compatible with not wanting to do any sex stuff at all?
>>5165989 Don't mean to speak for all kinky asexuals, but me, I'm a lot into BDSM and wouldn't mind integrating it into every day of my life, but I don't want sex. It usually gets associated, and I guess it's okay as part of BDSM play, but whether sex actually happens or even gets enforced doesn't interest me. I'd be happy to do without.
>>5165989 I'm a kinky asexual, I like having my butt spanked. Sometimes, I notice how long people's fingers are. But I doubt it's anything sexual, it's more like the thrill and the punishment I think. It's a good way to relieve some guilt and feels rather liberating, so I self-spank regularly.
I'm a man who isn't into sex, I can't get hard for anybody. I wouldn't have a problem dating a guy though, so I'm not really completely straight. I'm actually planning to get castrated because I don't see the point in going bald or having any sexual urges whatsoever like this.
>>5166149 I don't think so. You might get that impression from Tumblr's asexual community since Tumblr is predominantly female, but the asexual communities on reddit and 4chan seem to be the opposite because those are predominantly male websites. Overall, the impression I get is male and female aces are about equal, but males are less willing to be open about it.
My bf regularly says he had given up on sex and just comes for cuddles. He doesn't seem the type to sleep around beind my back but I have told him to go out and fuck if he needs it, as long as he tells me about it (for sake of diseases) idgaf. He says he's slept with 323 people which from looking at his Facebook I can believe. He's on 1500 odd friends and most of them are gays he's slept with.
It's ldr so I see him one every week or so and we cuddle and play WoW all day together and go get takeaway and cuddle.
I think my ex broke up with me because she wasn't getting enough. She was like a sack of potatoes in bed so I used to place most of the blame on her but now I realise after getting some good sex in the last 5 years or so, I'm just not interested in sex and never was.
I want a cute guy to put a collar on me and pet my head and tell me I'm a good little kitty, nyoro~n
(And then I'd do the same to him when I'm feeling dominant)
Like >>5166071 said, sex may or may not be in the mix, but for me personally, it's just not something that I can promise. When I ask non-aces to explain how important sex is to them in a relationship, they usually state that it's "something that has to happen, eventually", and even though I may want to try it at some point, it's not something I'd want to incorporate into the relationship in a way that would make them happy.
daww you need someone like me. Taking care of straight guys is my specialty. I consider it the highest form of faggotry, to serve and support a man, and only really relate to others who feel the same way.
Im not web-flirting, I am just explaining how I function:
What I ask for:
A normal man who pursues a normal life for a man and has no interest in a relationship or romance with a male, but is smart enough not to turn down assistance in living. It doesnt even have to be sexual.
He should not expect me to live in regularly, but to keep me on call for whatever he needs, and not rely on me totally for sex or regard me as anything special aside from his property. By property, I dont mean I have some bdsm fetish, its just what it is.
He should not feel hesitant about stating what he wants and when, and being clear if something is not satisfactory. He can use any level of physical discipline that doesnt involve a weapon or cause serious injury.
What I give:
Cleaning, meals, general chores and house work, personal assistance (mail, phone, schedule etc) in house snack and drink service, grocery shopping and laundry and of course whatever else is instructed.
He can be confident that I will leave him to his space and not bother him, that I can be dismissed at any time without explanation, and that I will remain removed from his social life and circles with complete discretion. Basically I appear when I am told, and disappear the second he wishes it.
Any problems I might be having, I would only raise once, his decision is final without appeal, and it is from that we decide if the arrangement works.
I feel every good man who makes the effort to advance in life and contribute to society in a traditional male way should have home service, with a female or just a fag to use between pussy droughts.
Humility before the glory of manhood, adoration for the man. This should be the motto for the guild that we serve.
I never understood modern gay identity. If you give men what they want from faggots, you can be valued. Demand they change their natural behavior, and you will find you are hated by the majority as both groups and individuals.
Its so odd that in an age where females make it so clear that insisting men change makes females less attractive, gay males try to imitate the constant outrage and make ourselves less appealing at the exact time we should be at a premium.
Imagine what would become of feminism if men finally decided they had enough of shaming and letting females decide what manhood should be, and simply started using fags en masse. The feminists would lose their lockdown of the domestic service monopoly and all the leverage.
Experience teaches most that while men can be brutal, there is no more vicious homophobe than the insecure hetero female.
Perhaps I'll make a thread later as demonstration, asking for stories about how our 'female straight allies' show their fangs when a gay friend threatens their primacy for attention in the company of a man she likes.
I'm kind of indifferent about it. I prefer dudes because most women are fucking boring, then again it's rare to find a guy who likes intimacy but no sex. Or even just very low sex drive who also doesn't mind guys. It's weird because I guess I could just talk about shit and play videogames with a friend but in friendship you can never get same kind of connection and emotional intimacy as in relationship.
>>5169167 That really applies only to people who get into relationships. People who aren't interested in that sort of stuff still need friends as much as ever. That's becoming kind of a problem for me because people are more interested in relationships at this age and don't seem to consider friendships a priority. There's also the fact that I'm a guy and tend to get along better with girls so I have to worry about insecure boyfriends telling them they can't hang out with me even though I have no interest in relationship stuff.
>>5169139 On point. For this to really take off there needs to be more mixed socialising, but women have roundly split and skewed social venues to be about worship of them. Marginalizing healthy straight men and keeping fags in ghettos. It's women shaming which stops men from topping, but I think they've overplayed the shaming tactics while gorging on casual sex undermining their value. Men will rationalize their domestic relationships if women continue to screw them socially and legally and they'll find more immediate ways of releasing their sexual energy then investing all their social capital on mind games. Gays like you just have to step up, stick your asses out and stop conforming to the fag stereotypes women have trapped you in, in return for their dubious social protection.
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