/lgbt/ I think my boyfriend of two years might be gay.
We were talking a little bit ago about different sexual fetishes we have. Opening up, telling secrets, ect. But for the most part he was quiet throughout all of it. Said he didn't really have any fetishes or such, nothing that would interest me.
About 30 minutes of bugging and begging, " come on babe" and " you know you can tell me anything ", he comes out and says he likes anal. I'm like, well duh, all guys want to try that at least once. No, he means he likes things in his ass. Even owns a dildo.
I was really confused about this, and learned a few things, like the prostate exists, ect. But I have to admit, it did make me see him in a less masculine light, especially the way he described it. He talked about how it was the best thing ever, how he never cums as hard with just his dick alone, how it makes him melt, and he gets all giggly, and how he feels drunk off it afterwards. Apparently it makes him cum so hard his toes and fingers cramp.
The way he makes it sound, orgasms he gets through his ass are better than anything he gets with my vagina. I can't help but feel he's closeted. Normal straight guys don't feel this way. Normal straight guys don't like anything within a mile of their ass. Normal straight guys don't ask their girlfriend to use a strapon.
I was wondering your opinions, and if you guys know a way to definitively find out if a man is gay without being invasive or overly apparent about it. I'd also like to hear your experiences with anal from a man's perspective. Because I find it odd and biologically unlikely that the penis isn't the most pleasurable part of a man's body. It makes sense that prostate play would feel good. But better than pussy good? Better than blowjob good? Doesn't make sense at all.
Thanks ahead of time.
>He talked about how it was the best thing ever, how he never cums as hard with just his dick alone, how it makes him melt, and he gets all giggly, and how he feels drunk off it afterwards. Apparently it makes him cum so hard his toes and fingers cramp.
That's a very accurate description. It's certainly better than penis stimulation by itself.
Your boyfriend isn't gay, because he's dating you, obviously. You don't have to be solely attracted to men to like anal.
>like the taste of ice cream
IS MY BOYFRIEND A VEGETARIAN
>favorite color is red
IS MY BOYFRIEND A COMMUNIST
>likes having his body's most pleasurable sex nerves stimulated
DOES MY BOYFRIEND LIKE MUSCULAR MAN, HAIRY CHESTS AND DUDESWEAT
its like trying to choose a favorite child. you can't really do it. all sensations are good in their own way- he probably really loves the prostate orgasms atm because they're more taboo/ less frequent than normal ones.
he's not gay. you can like getting fucked and not be gay.
if you love him and are comfortable with it, involve anal play in your sex life. get matching buttplugs, fuck him with a strapon, have him fuck you with a vibrator in his ass, finger him while you blow him. he probably has a submissive streak too. doesn't mean he wants it ALL THE TIME, but maybe just a side of him he likes to indulge in once in awhile.
desu you indulge him on this he'll be yours forever. if you tell him its okay, tell him you think its sexy, its more than just you pleasing him. its like finally expressing this thing you're not supposed to like, that you should be ashamed to admit to your partner, that will blow up in your face and make you sound like a freak- And your partner not just accepts it, but embraces it?
>he probably has a submissive streak too.
This is the hardest thing to get my head around. You can't possibly like getting fucked in the ass and not have a submissive streak, but at the same time he's always so dominant. He's super decisive and straightforward and masculine, and then he comes out with this, which contradicts it in every way.
lol come on, man... Unless he starts avoiding doing stuff with your pussy or boobs completely I don't think he's gay. He hasn't mentioned liking dicks, either, has he? Dildos are hardly the same thing.
Would you call a girl a lesbian if she told you being fucked in the pussy wasn't her favorite sex act?
Besides, even if he DID like men, it hardly means he doesn't also like women.
I'm a gay power bottom and it's just that I like the sensation of things in my ass.
Sometimes things are just fun and feel good. We associate being fucked with being submissive but that's not necessarily true. That's why there's dominant women and power bottoms.
Just talk with him more. You might have just opened the door to a bunch of new fantasies and wild nights. The fact he shared this with you means he really loves and trusts you.
You can also be dominant 95% of the time and enjoy being submissive once in awhile. I'm that way, but only with people I trust.
>I find it odd and biologically unlikely that the penis isn't the most pleasurable part of a man's body. It makes sense that prostate play would feel good. But better than pussy good? Better than blowjob good? Doesn't make sense at all.
You already implied that you put his dick in your pussy but the most pleasurable part of a woman's body is her clitoris, so why is it that you don't only want him to touch your clit and nothing else? That's basically your logic here. The human sexual experience is a lot more complicated than just touching the place with the most nerve endings and hoping for the best.
some guys like da pussy, but also like getting buttfucked like a bitch.
if he were gay im pretty sure your sex life would be absolute shit and, there would have been possible sign that he was going behind your back to fuck other guys.
so no OP your bf is probly not gay, more likely hes a submissive bitch boy. talk with him more about it, you can possibly get into some fun kinky shit with him.
He probably would really like the chance to just let go and be dominated for a while. You spend your whole life being dominant and decisive, sometimes it's nice to let someone else take the reins. He's probably submissive.
>Normal straight guys don't feel this way. Normal straight guys don't like anything within a mile of their ass
It sholdn't really surprise me that you don't know anything about male anatomy because of the fact that even the fucking prostate was news to you.
He was probably hesitant because he was worried you'd react that way. That you would push him away for being unmanly or break up with him for being a faggot. If you embrace him after finding out, his relief and gratitude will know no bounds. He'll fall for you all over again.
It really does feel that good. The same bundle of nerves that develops into the clitoris in women will develop into the head of the penis in men, but the same bundle of nerves that forms your g-spot turned into his prostate. He likes having his g-spot stimulated, because so do you. Everyone who gets to feel that will like it.
Listen to >>5169331 and accept this part of him that he's had to keep hidden for so long. If you try indulging his kink you might even find that reducing you partner to a quivering puddle of pleasure is a super arousing position to be in. Doesn't mean you can't get yours anymore, just that he's confided in you how you can make your sex lives that much more intense.
This is lgbt so this will be an unpopular opinion
But the idea of my boyfriend liking anything up his butt, or getting all giggly about it like you said, really turns me off. And I would probably look at him in another light. That coupled with him saying it is the best thing ever and I don't really blame you if it made you uncomfortable or insecure in your ability to please him.
He is also sharing something really personal with you too, so that sucks, but I don't think you should go along with it if you are really uncomfortable with it, sure it might break his heart that he opened up to you and you didn't embrace it, but forcing yourself into a situation you aren't comfortable with will only hurt both of you and your relationship.
I'm not saying to break up with him or anything I am just giving another perspective to this thread
>Normal straight guys don't like anything within a mile of their ass.
Why is that? Because they're insecure about tarnishing their fragile masculinity? Any human, male or female, can experience prostate orgasms. It's not an acquired ability derived from one's sexuality.
I mean you're kind of an asshole. You pressured him into telling him a fetish. Then you come here and spout on about what "normal" straight men like apparently. The prostate in an amazing organ that makes the orgasm 10x more pleasurable. He's just someone with a lot more sexual maturity than you. Grow up.
> Normal straight guys don't like anything within a mile of their ass. Normal straight guys don't ask their girlfriend to use a strapon.
You sound really inexperienced, and kind of sexist desu. You're just making shit up based on your own preconceptions and you have no idea what sex is like for guys. The fact that your boyfriend might enjoy a submissive sexual experience doesn't make him gay. There are a ton of straight men who just want women to shove things up their ass. I'm not surprised that a straight woman would feel uncomfortable and insecure when a man doesn't cater to her every whim though.
>But I have to admit, it did make me see him in a less masculine light, especially the way he described it. He talked about how it was the best thing ever, how he never cums as hard with just his dick alone, how it makes him melt, and he gets all giggly, and how he feels drunk off it afterwards.
So what if he's less masculine? Your masculinity or femininity doesn't determine your sexual orientation. And desu that sounds cute as fuck. As a bi dude I'd be all over that and yet here you are squandering the opportunity to make your guy happy. If I were him I'd dump your ass.
And yet they always cheat on you and run off with a pair of ovaries
>The way he makes it sound, orgasms he gets through his ass are better than anything he gets with my vagina.
>But better than pussy good?
Are you talking about that he makes prostate orgams sound better than your orgasms?
Maybe you just haven't had good sex, but I'm pretty sure female orgasms are like 10x better than penis orgasm, and maybe twice as good as prostate orgasm.
>I can't help but feel he's closeted.
Then you're retarded.
>normal straight guys don't like anything within a mile of their ass. Normal straight guys don't ask their girlfriend to use a strapon.
Because cause society is really hard on guys, and they have practically no sexual freedom.
It's conisidered gay to want to have a prostate orgams, so no guy can even dare to have the thought, and even if they had the thought they'd never dare to admit it or do it, in fear of being gay.
It's partially a good thing though... It'd be horrible if all guys started to expect to get penetrated in return, it would maybe even make society collapse... Or at the very least, I don't think we'd have any "monogamous" relationships anymore (all guys would start being gay with each other because women wouldn't want to give them prostate orgasms).
Offer to "peg" him. He'll probably love you forever for me. After all, he was clearly reluctant to tell you because he thought you would consider him gay.
It is a physical enjoyment separate from sexuality Some straight guys experiment with their ass and enjoy it. It is called the male g-spot for a reason. It just shows he is comfortable with his own body. Does that turn you off?
I know it might just make your worry worse but before I came out as trans my gf asked about kinks etc and I expressed a desire to be pegged. We did and it was amazing, this led to me opening up about my private crossdressing, which led to me openly admitting that I'd always wanted to be born female. Now I'm 7 months into hrt and living full time. So if you peg him without judgement and wait to see if anything else surfaces then you'll have something to worry about, but for now I wouldn't be too worried about it.
>I was wondering your opinions, and if you guys know a way to definitively find out if a man is gay without being invasive or overly apparent about it.
Just buy a strapon and fuck that BP.
Now after the deed, if he falls to his knees and eagerly starts sucking on the dildo like a lollypop it's time to donate him to your local gay bar because it's obvious he'll live the rest of his life as a cumdumpster for complete strangers.
>The way he makes it sound, orgasms he gets through his ass are better than anything he gets with my vagina. I can't help but feel he's closeted
>He gets more pleasure from a different sensation than fucking my weeping axe wound. He must be gay
Most straight dudes aren't actually that into vaginas. They look pretty nasty a lot of the time to be honest though there are rare exceptions. The female body and other bits are a lot more interesting than vaginas.
I want to tell that you are a fucking idiot, because you are, and no, he's probably not gay.
Dude, you're just being daft. You don't know what it's like to experience prostate stimulation, just like as a man I do not know what it is like be fucked fucked vaginally.
Anal stimulation is very different from being attracted to men, you daft lout. If he likes anal, it's not because he's a fag, it's because it feels fucking fresh. Yeah, there is a possibility that he could be gay, but there is a possibility anyone could be gay. Anal isn't really that big of a factor in being gay, because some gay guys really don't like anal (including myself).
tl;dr u fuckin stoopid senpai
A gay male could not consistently have sex with a woman for two years. That's absurd. Even excluding emotional reasons, good luck keeping it up. Being in the closet doesn't mean you can magically will yourself an erection.
if this OP, then you are an ignorant child who knows little about sexuality (other than laying on your back and getting fucked like a cheap melon). Go back to doing selfie snap chats with a fake jewel covered phone on your moms couch while celebrity news plays in the background.
>A gay male could not consistently have sex with a woman for two years.
Oh that's very easy.
Just make sure that woman is a lazy ad ugly landwhale.
You'll only have sex like once every year if at all, and everyone feels sorry for you.
If you're gonna fake shit, fake it right.
>>tfw have numb prostate
None of my erogenous zones are much more sensitive than normal skin.
So I get off on fucking guys bloody. If I can't have pleasure, then I'll take violence and adrenaline.
Stop being a stupid cunt, OP.
You have a good thing, don't fucking blow it.
OP here, back. After hearing you all talk about it I realized I was being ignorant.
Tomorrow I'm gonna be meeting with my boyfriend for some intimate time and I agreed to try using the dildo on him. ( I suggested it).
I feel kind of awkward. I don't know how to operate a penis.
I'm a gay male and I have nothing against vaginas. I have fucked 4 women many times, although I am not attracted to them in the same sense as I am to men and I don't identify as bi,
Just because you have vulvaphobia and say icky about pussy doesn't mean all gay men do.
I would not sleep with a woman, but I don't find vaginas disgusting. They're just simply about as sexually attractive to me as a chair. There's nothing I find appealing about them whatsoever but that doesn't mean I find them gross either.
and thats how you chose to live your life, me I personally like fucking, and sometimes if a woman wants to fuck I consider it. I can see how some women are attractive, but I'm not sexually attracted to them in that sense, fucking is still fun regardless.
Woman are attracted to masculinity, wanting to get fucked in the ass is like the least masculine thing a man can do. Shit woman are insane, but even I can see why it would be turn off for then.
>I have fucked 4 women many times
>I don't identify as bi
Well that your error, idiot. You chose to have sex with somebody of the opposite sex, presumably for the sex. Willingly. You're at least a little bit bi. I don't care what you self identify as.
If a 'homosexual' can happily have sex with somebody of the opposite gender then what does homosexual even mean? Why does being gay even matter? But you're right. I'm a lesbian. I love dicks and dudes but I'm obviously a massive lesbian. The definition of words doesn't matter. What matters is what you identify as. Um???? Daily reminder??? Nobody can invalidate your identity??? Use any word you want. Especially if it doesn't make sense. (◡‿◡)
I'm just looking at it rationally, maybe he did those things in the past but still isn't open to dating woman, so labeling himself bi would be counterproductive and misleading. Same reason why guys who fap to traps identify as straight, it's easier than having to explain how you're bi but don't wanna date any dudes ever.
Then it's irrelevant to the discussion and he shouldn't have brought it up as a point. I appreciate what you're saying though. That is rational but in this context this is not the case.
Maybe he is, but take that as a compliment - you can make even gay guys fall in love with you. And ultimately, that's what matters - he's not out chasing cock, he's with you. And by the sound of it, he's happy with it, so it's not like he's going to leave you for a guy.
Prostate orgasms are infinitely better than penile orgasms. It's a totally different experience. They do make you feel high or drunk for a time and can be addictive.
That being said, I wouldn't go and label him as a full blown homo, just a guy that's comfortable with his body.
Can you into fucking him? Do you play with his butt ever?
He sounds like a classical uke.
No need to worry unless there is a seme near by.
Don't be so fucking insecure pls
Most females push and push but when they find out he likes it in the pooper sometimes they think he's gay.
Anal orgasmas feel good.
Probably better than dick ones,
It's just biology, sorry.
Now that you got what you wanted (I.e. getting your bf to spill his guts to the girl he likes and probably the most trusted person in his life) the least you could do is humor him a lil
Look up how to finger a butt, do it while giving him a beej. Who knows you might Like making him squirm.
An identical situation happened with me an my gf.
She doesn't like to play w/ me like dat tho, so I have to do it in private, which makes me feel some shame.
How about you be there for him
And this is why you don't ask 4chan for dating advice.
fucking god, you asked him, he answered honestly, and now you're victimizing yourself because of it? just get a fucking strapon and start pegging like a motherfucking, dick orgasms are shit, ofc guys will like feeling a decent orgasm. From his g-spot, which is located in his ass.
That's not how definitions work m8, just because you call your motorcycle a bicycle it doesn't mean it's not a motorcycle. It has a fucking motor on it, it uses fuel, it's a fucking motorcycle.
You got hard to vagoos, you can call yourself whatever you want, but you ain't a 6 on the Kinsey scale, you ain't gay.
is bulge nsfw? its basically fully censored dick
Daily reminder that bisexuals have always been the ones to fuck up gay people.
Which group is capable of saying "Oh you can just choose to not be gay"? That's right, bisexuals, they can choose to ignore their homosexual urges because they also have heterosexual urges.
Which group would be make a corrective rape on a guy while also having a family? That's right, bisexuals again.
Which group would respond better to "conversion therapies"? Bisexuals again, fuelling fake "success" stories for those shitty organizations.
Which group went to the bathhouses fucked a lot without a condom spread a bunch of STDs to both gays and their wives? Bisexuals again.
That's not even talking about how every single gay guy at one point got his heart broken by a bislut that just wanted gay sex without the weight or responsibility of a relationship.
> Normal straight guys don't feel this way. Normal straight guys don't like anything within a mile of their ass.
Do gay guys just like to shove things up their asses all day? can you tell a straight girl from a lesbian based on how much stuff they enjoy shoving in their vaginas?
the reason straight guys dont like doing those things is because they think it will make them gay, we need to stray away from this and find no shame in shoving things in our assholes and vags, we need to use them like the personal pockets they are as god intended
He isn't gay, but who knows he might like guys, could be a dream come true if you ever wanted a MMF 3 some. If you don't want to peg him, tell him and then make it up to him by buying him a plug. Make sure it is one that will really sick in there and not fall out, he will cum so hard it will make your grand kids pregnant
Gay is defined as 5-6 on the Kinsey scale.
Bi is 2-4, straight is 0-1.
bugging begging you can tell me anything. Then go running to LGBT wahhhhhh is my boyfriend a fag? Normal straight guys don't like anything within a mile of their ass. Girlfriend are you 12 or do you just NOT know men very well? there are a LOT of straight guys that would beat the shit out of a gay guy for hitting on them but still LOVE anal play. Have you ever had a g spot orgasm? and yes folks they are real was married once, you just need to know where to find it. If so, the difference between a g spot orgasm and a regular orgasm for a woman is about the same as the difference between a regular male orgasm and a prostate orgasm.
Your boyfriend doesn't strike me as a pure heterosexual, neither a homosexual. He falls more into the yaoi demographic, you should educate yourself, try watching love stage or oregairu so you know what it is all about. Since he likes stuff up his butt you should watch love stage, because he is probably the uke.
Is he still cute? Does he still have the uke look? If he hasn't hit the wall yet you should let him go so he can have his good yaoi phase, it is almost like a rite of passage you know. Stop being selfish, if you love him you'll let him go.
God made it that way, he wanted the ones who were capable of loving all his humans to be rewarded for their gift. In gods eyes bisexuals are worth all the broken hearts and STD that could be wasted on it. The real question is, why aren't you bi yet? It's 2015. Just watch black tranny porn and work your way down to asian trannies with really small dicks, you'll be fapping to vaginas in no time.
Your boyfriend might not be a homo, but he's probably a submissive bisexual. If he's cute you should let him go and have his gay phase before he hits gay death and wonders why he squandered his youth fucking pussy instead of getting railed by a handsome stud.