>be bi (don't shoot me)
>hanging with bestfriend at other friend's house
>It's quite chilly, mention "wow, I'm really cold".
>He says "Do you wanna hug? I heard that's a good way to warm up
>He embraces me tightly, I return such.
>We hug closely for like 15 seconds
>Other friend walks out of house and we awkwardly detach from one another
Is it just me or was that extremely fucking gay?
(repost fro gaygen because they are faggots)
To be clear this wasn't a pat-on-the-back bro hug. I hug my male friends all the fucking time and it's literally one arm slung around the back and a pat and that's it, y'know? And also, it's a way of greeting/parting, not just done because I'm cold.
Idk I'm still confused as to whether what happened was homo or not. I've seen people on the internet post "cute" shit about boys being gay together and all they do is touch arms or legs or hands.
Idk I still feel like it was homosexual as fuck
Newfound bisexual here op
I overthink all the gay shit now, I think it's normal. Had a few beers with a gay dude at a dive bar and it dawned on me its basically a date now that I'm out. I miss when I was straight drinking with gay guys.
maybe I am overthinking everything, but I can't help it. I have like an internal journal of all the shit we've done together that could be considered gay, or stuff he's said to me...I mean, it gets pretty gay IMO.
I like to think about how, when I told him I finally caught up with him on an anime, he said
"now we can watch together like a real couple :)", because it just sort of gives me peace. That was a few years ago, now, though.
There's way more stuff
if it's coming from a bi / gay guy the action itself doesn't necessarily have to be gay. could just be he's gotten out of the "no gays is good gays" mentality straight guys subconsciously spread and now he's just more used to the idea of touching another man in a friendly manner.
girls do shit like this all the time and it doesn't mean anything. bi girl here, and, if i cuddle with another girl while talking or watching a movie, nobody thinks anything of it. it's just something friends do.
guess it could be that he's trying to initiate something too, though, if it's seemed all pointed and things
I think it's very different with girls. Guys, well, we don't cuddle.
Like I said, I've had plenty of close, platonic-as-fuck male relationships and some of them even know I'm bi...it just doesn't feel the same.
>lol. I do care, a lot actually, because if it was gay... that's a good thing. I'm just new at this still :/
, ok then well in that event you have to make the determination on how you really feel and if you find emotional or sexual connection out of it. or, is it more you are looking for validation that this is an indication of HIM being gay, because not knowing him, I can not answer. as to the question does this mean YOU are gay, i still can not say, just because you have strong feelings for him ( I am assuming of course) you may still be bi hard to say. That is really a determination that YOU alone will have to make. I wish you luck either way.
well, I'm pretty secure in my bisexuality. I have no idea how he feels...he's told me he's thought about me sexually, being my boyfriend, and that he is straight in almost the same sentence. I've confronted him about this and he never really said anything other than he's too busy figuring out his life for any sort of romantic relationship.
okay, so let me get this straight. He tells you he has had gay thoughts about you, and later he hugs you to keep you warm in the cold. Dude obviously has some form of sexual attraction. Sounds alot like my predicament, so he might want to try another guy out (you) but he needs it to happen in a way that no one else could ever figure out and that if he ended up being straight it wouldn't change your friendship.