Question for you closeted bi brothers and sisters:
when asked about your sexuality, how bad do you feel in lying that you're straight? (considering you're being half honest, I'd imagine it wouldn't bug you that much or at all, but I'm not sure, hence the question)
>>5175349 It does bother me, I think just as much as it would bother a gay man who lies about his sexuality. I have a boyfriend now and he's a big part of my life, but I lie about him to my coworkers mostly because I don't want to be known as "that gay guy" in my office. I have no shame about it but I just hate the extra attention that comes with it. I live in the Midwest, not Boystown or San Francisco, and it would just be a huge deal that I'm attracted to men at all, and my also being attracted to women wouldn't possibly change that.
I honestly don't think there's any difference in being a closeted bi man or a closeted gay man
>>5175355 the thing that's shit about being bi is that it's rejected by both communities. Gay guys don't want to date bi men because of the stigma of bi people being sluts and eventually always falling back into heterosexuality, whilst the straight community rejects bi men for either wanting to feel "special" either being a 100% faggot material and won't stop making jokes about you sucking their dick in the parking lot.
And bi women are seen as novelties, straight girls who are simply a bit adventurous but would never actually consider dating another woman.
Especially if you're heteromantic or have a strong preference for girls, I don't mind being a little gay, I just don't want to deal with the bullshit that comes with the label, like guys hitting on me or girls losing interest.
>>5175349 I don't really feel the need to lie about it, but I don't advertise it either. All of my friends know, and at work it's come up and I didn't lie about it. That said, I've never really told my family, though they know anyway.
Bi transguy here. I'm about to be back in the dating world for the first time in years, and I'm not sure how to navigate it. I'm pretty sure of what I'm attracted to, tr tricky part seems to be figuring out the narrow niche that might be attracted to me.
>>5178287 General dating tips apply, just put yourself out there and encourage your type, have confidence and patience, etc etc. It's not rocket science finding a partner you're into that simultaneously likes you back, as long as you put the effort in.
>>5178380 Yeah, having more options makes things less intimidating. Also I always have that "easier gender", ie I'm more comfortable with intimacy around guys than girls, so I always have that in my favour.
I'm seriously considering name-fagging just for this thread, the people here are great. As for my favorite Disney princess, Tiana. Determination, self confidence, and the type of seriousness that makes it so much sweeter when she actually does let her guard down.
>>5178426 I'm not like that at all, I'm terrible with physical contact beyond handshakes with people I don't know very well, it makes me tense up when people I love poke me or just touch me playfully. I'd love to be that huggy person, but I have to *seriously* trust a person before I'll even get into cuddle territory, male or female.
How are you comfortable with physical intimacy with someone you're not like, super tight with? Asking because this is something I'd love toget over.
It took me awhile, I used to have a lot of anxiety over closeness. One day, something just changed. I realized it felt too good to be close to other people, and that it didn't have to be sexual.
Years of therapy might have helped with that. I had to break down some of my own walls, and accept that physical contact is a comfortable part of the bonding experience with other people. Of course, I have to get to the point that I consider them safe. I haven't had any mishaps yet, because I've gotten better at telling who will or won't take it as an opening to push boundaries.
>>5178475 Huh, thanks for your 2 cents, that gives me stuff to think about.
I guess it's been so long since I've experienced that intimacy/been in a relationship (like, easily 3 years for both) that I've forgotten what it feels like, so by proxy I've sort of let slip from my mind all the attached emotional charge that makes it worth it.
>I've gotten better at telling who will or won't take it as an opening to push boundaries.
Das good, defintely an uncomfortable sensation to always feel like you can't fully let your guard down around someone whose company you're supposed to be enjoying.
Also, this is the first non-shit post I've made here. Question for you faggots, how do you know if you're bisexual? Suck a dick? I'm a male virgin who has been attracted to females my entire life, up until this past year. Some uncomfortable thoughts have been sneaking in now and again.
>>5179819 whatever you feel special snowflake, but we all know the majority of you will be indistinguishable from the rest of normie, 2 kids and a dog with a white picket fence nuclear family of a man and a woman.
So again, there is no point to having a serious relationship with a bisexual unless you are of the opposite sex from them.
>>5179855 >Again, MAJORITY of them will marry to an opposite sex partner, so gays who date bisexuals are already taking a huge risk of being keked. By that logic any one who ever dates any one is taking a huge risk of being left by their lover since 95% of all relationships don't progress to marriage.
Stop fucking complaining and generalizing about entire groups of people. If you met the perfect guy and he just happened to be bisexual I guarantee you'd look past it.
>>5179882 And I guarantee you he'd end up with a woman in the end because statistics predict it.
Lol, I love how you fucks get mad when I said 80% of bisexuals end up in straight relationships and demanded proof. I gave you guys proof which BTFO of you dumb bisluts and now you're scrambling to defend yourselves from what research has shown. That you guys almost always end up as breeders. No point to having a relationship with a bisexual. It's too high of a risk.
Is it safe to say that most bisexuals are straight leaning anyway? When looking at sexuality as a spectrum with the knowledge that straights are more likely to be born than gay's by a very large percentage, then it only seems natural that straighter bisexuals are more common than gayer ones, creating all this heartbreaking drama.
>>5179911 >And I guarantee you he'd end up with a woman in the end because statistics predict it. Yes that might just happen. But that won't happen every single time you date a bisexual and there are plenty of bisexuals in committed homosexual relationships. I am. I don't know the precise numbers out there, but I don't have any plans to stop
Do you actually have a point other than to just yell and bitch on the internet?
>>5179911 You could only guarantee it if 100% of bisexuals ended up in straight relationships. And it seems pretty obvious that most bi's end up in straight relationships because there are a lot more straight people.
>>5181155 >Dude, Jane from Tarzan is a Disney "princess" - it just refers to a female protagonist. >tfw ran out of smug Hiro images to respond with
Nobody in the history of ever has referred to Jane as a Princess. Why the fuck you lying? It annoys people when Mulan is referred to as a princess because that's not what she is and forcing her into the princess position is dumb. At least with Belle and the girl from Princess and the Frog they married royalty but Mulan married a general if I remember correctly.
>>5179839 From self reported census data bisexuals already enter into marriages or partnerships with the same sex at twice the rate that would happen if they chose randomly from all the gay and straits that are compatible.
Nice pic. Also, yes. It's not like there aren't bi guys who look just like twinks and there are even straight guys who look that way. It's not a term really used outside of the gay community of course but if you're looking to date guys then it makes perfect sense to use it.
>>5179628 >>5183530 Disney was never able to instill the princess dream in me. I knew I needed as much independence from relying on others as I could get. I had seen how the world had been hard on the other transwomen I knew, and I knew I must transition to survive. So I knew I needed to be independently successful. When I was young, that wasn't a trait Disney princesses had.
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