Hello legbutts. I've finally admitted to myself that I want the d. Here's the problem: I have absolutely zero interest in becoming one of the stereotypical flamboyant guys, act pretty straight/nerdy, and am too damn introverted to even try clubs. How do I put myself out there as someone who can be approached?
>Becoming gay means you have to join this new club
dude just be your fucking self. do what you are interests are, look for fuck or dating apps if you are super anti social, or maybe try local gay districts depending on where you live.
I'm not OP, but I do what you just suggested. I go to clubs/events/etc. that I will enjoy. My hobbies tend to attract more introverted, reserved people who aren't fagging the place up. I've met so few openly gay people this way, and its incredibly frustrating. Nobody realises that I'm gay, because I behave like a normal fucking person. Can't say I'm happy with the result though.
Gay districts are a pretty rare thing in the UK, so that isn't an option. I can't say that I want to use dating apps/websites either (and that very much falls outside of 'just be your fucking self'.) I suppose this is the only option left though.
honestly i dont know how the UK works with that, it can be hard but their is really not much, you could try more gay hang ours, maybe buy yourself something in the that the classy gays are wearing or just something simple like a rainbow bracelet might help
Damn son, I feel like we are in the same boat, except I'm bi. I'm "straight acting", nerdy hobbies, into playing but not watching sport, hunting, fish, etc. I work in the Fisheries & Wildlife field, & being lgbt is not an option. My state allows discrimination based on jayness, so i can never come out at work. Ffs they have seen me turn mighty oaks into firewood with a chainsaw, but if i say i like dudes im a mincing boy hungry faggot all of a sudden. Fuck, sorry for the rant
First you need to stretch out your bum. Get a few dildos of different thicknesses and work up to something bigger than you plan on taking. Trust me, I learned the hard way and I was in a lot of pain. You should spend a week preparing for your first time.
If you're larger and have a lot of body hair, pic is totally relevant.