Whenever I have an argument with someone, should I just be the bigger person and just tell them what they want to hear so that the situation can be resolved? I usually hate conflicts but bc I do everyone just treats me like a bitch
There are no hard & fast rules when it comes to people
Sometimes being the bigger person means backing off & getting perspective, sometimes it means standing up to someone & showing them how little they are
When it comes down to it, phrases like "be the bigger person" are useless metaphors in the same vein as motivational slogans and the like.
The solution of the man who is, in fact, the bigger person, is usually to chokeslam his opponent through a plywood table: this is the wisdom of pay-per-view wrestling.
OP, achieving "moral victories" by backing down won't make people like you more, they'll just think you're weak, in addition to being a bitch.
Assert your points in arguments as best you can, and when a person is hell-bent on doggedly sticking to their guns, despite you knowing them to be wrong, simply make peace with the fact that you will never agree, and be comfortable with that.
If the situation isn't one where differing opinions can coexist, for instance, what to do in an emergency, or how to construct some apparatus correctly, simply use brute force, it's the only method dumb animals understand.
What I want isn't really for people to like me more per se, just I would rather there be no conflict. It just makes my life more hectic for no reason. I see no need for conflict or I usually just try my best to avoid them
The only way to live a lie free of conflict is to avoid people entirely and live in a cave.
You must become accustomed to, and adept at actively engaging in conflict, if you are to live a satisfying and successful life as a meat creature.
People will attempt to begin conflict with you as nothing more than a show of dominance: you've probably been scarred by this in the past.
My advice is, either learn the joy of overcoming your enemy, or else so totally reject conventional notions of success and prosperity, that you will never have to compete with another person for anything - money, space, other people's time, affection and esteem, ever again.
The world is not a kind place, particularly not to those who cannot defend themselves.
>Whenever I have an argument with someone, should I just be the bigger person and just tell them what they want to hear so that the situation can be resolved?
If you're right you're right, if they're right they're right. Arguments are supposed to be productive, if not they're just fights. You don't do anyone any favors by agreeing with them when they're wrong.
This robot speaks the truth. Confidence is such a huge part of integrating into normie society, and true, 100% self confidence will pretty much guarantee you success at any people-related activities as long as you're not a fucking autist. Knowing how to fight - both physically and verbally - is really important. You CANNOT back down (unless it's just some trivial shit). Don't be an asshole, but don't ever let someone else feel like they've won unless it's in a workplace or some shit where conflict isn't encouraged. This is also true of fights - even if you're getting the shit beaten out of you, just keep trying to get back up and continue attacking. People will respect your hardness, if not your actual skill.
DON'T do this in the street tho, or to criminals/people with knives/guns. You will get your ass killed/seriously injured. Temper aggression with common sense.