Why is it so hard to make friends when you are older?
>tfw used to play hide and seek with loads of friends when i was 10
>tfw no friends at 20
But when we hide, nobody is going to want to seek us ever.
I really don't know. I think there's just not the same community support for it. I mean, what kids did you play with at 10? Just whoever was around mostly, right? But nobody keeps that kind of openness into old age. You may feel lonely but you still look askance at strangers.
I'm not looking forward to this tbh, it's hard enough right now.
well yeah, but when you're kids you have a shit ton of downtime and (it used to be assumed) that you'd go out and play...
When you're in your 20-30s it's about having a job and making money and all the normal "having a life bullshit"
No one has the downtime to hang around and get to know the people around you...it's more like work, make money, spend money, work, make money, spend money, work, make money, spend mo----
okay I think you get the point
I don't totally agree. We could all make time for hanging out if we just made the effort. Any jackass working an 8-5 M-F has every lunch hour, evening and weekend to hang out with others. But many people choose not to.
One of the big things, I think, is that there's just nowhere to go. Kids have schools to slam them together haphazardly, but what do you do as an adult? Wander around outside? You can't make friends randomly outside like that, the social barriers are impenetrable. So you basically have bars, clubs and hobbies to go for, and then whatever friends you have left over from school.
>We could all make time for hanging out if we just made the effort.
A-fucking-men dude...a lot of people (myself included) don't know whether to wander around outside or go to somewhere new..
So I personally always hang out at the same bar/club/social setting because I (can admit) that I'm somewhat afraid to try new experiences because it's unbeknownst to me...
So fuck it, i'll go to the same bars, and maybe see the same people I've seen for weeks, an (maybe) try and start some sort of conversation, because you're right...
There's really no cut and dry way to socialize and meet new potential friends as an adult, and it sucks :/