>secretly know that I will never be able to find a mate and pass on my genes to my offspring
>Ask my mom if she wants to be a grandma
>"son, first and foremost I want you to be happy and do with your life whatever it is that you want. If you get a wife and you have kids, I'll be happy for you. If you decide to not have a wife and get kids, but are still happy, I'll be happy for you. All I want is for you to be happy and have the opportunities that I never did"
>mfw she's putting me through engineering at college even though she slaves away at a factory week after week
>mfw she's going to end up in debt if this goes on
>mfw she tells me to not worry about her and that money and everything else is her problem to deal with, she insists I just focus on school
>mfw she's a black single mom but she always taught me to never take shit from anyone
>mfw she actually encouraged me to kick my bully's ass in elementary and I did
>mfw she's disciplined me to the point where I follow a strict routine even if I'm completely miserable because it's a habit she ingrained into me ever since I was a kid
I am not a desirable person with no friends and no gf, never had one, and never even came close to, but I have such a wonderful mother. I truly feel upset for all of you robots out there that had a shitty upbringing at home. It's the one place I belong, and I couldn't imagine not having even that.
Aww, thanks anon. Life isn't all that bad though, even without a family.
that doesn't sound too shabby. I had to join the USMC to get the discipline in my life I needed to be able to go succeed in the rest of my future. I grew up in a dysfunctional household where my parents were never around and I moved every couple of years so I always lost whatever friends I had. after enough times of moving around, I just got to the point where I stopped bothering trying to make any human connections with others because I had come to learn it'd all be gone eventually anyway, so why bother?
I always envied the people who grew up in a stable environment and came to have lifelong friends that I just never really got to hold onto growing up.
You should do something to ease the burden of your mother though, I myself can't bear to be dependent on other people, though that's just what I've become accustomed to in having to do everything myself anyways.
I do little things like cook and clean when I'm home and buy her presents every now and then, but she insists that I don't need to. I call/text her everyday to let her know I'm ok (she gets worried about me easily). I feel like what I do is never going to be enough, because she gave me everything, but I can try right?
that really does sound nice
>katya will never be your gf
So what are you guys living for?
I just want to get rich and make money, then adopt a sweet child straight out of a shitty situation and give them a wonderful life full of opportunities and joy. I want to make them smile again. I want to save them. I know there'll be challenges, and it won't be easy, but we'll go through it together.
she looks weird in that picture
looks better in this one.
I have that one. I have a bunch, actually. I only have two folders for pics, and one of them is just for her.
That's pretty noble, but it wouldn't fill the same void for me
I disagree, you actually posted my least favorite picture of her
>it wouldn't fill the same void for me
oh, it's not going to fill mine either, but I'd like to save someone that doesn't deserve what happened to them even though I can't save myself and am past the point of saving.
W-we're all gonna make it bruh. Still waiting on that achne to fucking go away so I can stand a chance...
As I assume you're male, what is your plan for the stigma of a single man adopting? Especially if you're going to adopt a girl
>caring about the stigma
normies never really cared about me in the first place, so caring about who I adopt is just plain silly
I will honestly tell them to save their judgements because I just cannot take them seriously, especially after displaying such hypocrisy.
>tfw 5'5.5" bad teeth (i got braces when i was a kid though) manlet with family history of depression and anxiety
>tfw even if i find qt 3.14 it would be child abuse to bring my offspring into this world
I figured they may not even let you adopt as a single man
it certainly is harder, yes.
from what I heard, you have to be squeaky clean and they prefer it if you had a gf or wife or someone to take care of the kid when you're gone, but it's not impossible.
I see. Best of luck anon, I honestly think having such good intention would make you a better parent than most, especially those who create a child as a replica of themselves, selfishly
Thank you anon. I'm on the come-up, its just a while longer up the road
I'll be honest, I don't necessarily hate the modern woman but I don't respect them very much. I treat them like I treat anyone else, but most that I know of are completely devoid of anything like loyalty, discipline, or hard work and spend all of their time in college wasting so much time at parties and sleeping with so many people. It shows a lack of self-control, which is a huge turn off to me, but that's just my opinion.
Of course, but it's nice to observe such beauty. Taking an outsider's perspective like this in real life has really helped me with my emotional problems and dealing with loneliness. Try approaching everyone from that outsider's view and things might start making more sense.
Your mom is a good lady, anon. Let her know that you know that. My mom is a personality disordered nutjob with insufficient empathy to fill a fucking thimble. If we could all be as lucky as you. For what it's worth, I think you sound like a man who understands hard work and the value of family. That's 90% of what it takes to be a good father, I'd say. Good luck to you and your mother. Remember, we're all gonna make it.
i have 220 files of her.
Dunno, friend. I don't like dealing in absolutes. I guess you can still value family and be a hard worker but still be a dick. I know a lot of kids with Chinese and Indian parents who fit those criteria but make their kids miserable with a ton of pressure to succeed in a very specific way.
You guys think that if I were a multimillionare, i Could contact katya and ask her on a date?
When you're rich you can do anything so most likely yes
better yet you could just see her in person as you can afford to travel all around the world and hire PIs to get all kinds of info from her
I figured you had just started college and would be younger than me but eh, you seem like a cool guy
Also, if the OP is word for word or close to, judging by her reaction she probably thinks you're trying to hint that you're gay but can't bring yourself to say it. Don't outwardly tell her "OH BY THE WAY MOM I'M NOT GAY", but you know, check out women in front of her in a way that won't make her slap the shit out of you but will make it obvious you have a healthy desire for female genitals
Yeah, but at the same time, you have to provide your kids with enough structure that they don't end up like us. Don't let them stay in all weekend. Don't let them guilt you out of making them do volunteer work/get a part time job when they are in high school. Don't let them avoid interacting with other people. If they complain and say people at their school are wankers, help them find some activity or organization outside of school that is full of people that aren't wankers in their opinion. If they are real autists, get them diagnosed and make sure they get services. Basically, refuse to let them give up on themselves without getting angry at them for wanting to.
That is the last 10%, friend. You have to understand hard work, know the value of family, and refuse to let let your kids give up on themselves without getting angry at them for wanting to. That is the whole 100% of what it means to be a good parent.