>Be me, socially inept
>Get GF, date for three years
>Pretty rocky relationship but work through problems
>Feel alone and neglected
>Seek attention from other girl
>She's cool and seems real attracted to you
>Chat her up and girlfriend gets wind of this, even though you never did anything wrong
>Girlfriend reads all your messages and takes screenshots
>Accuses you of cheating
>Girlfriend threatens to break up with you unless you cut all contact with other girl
>GF is paranoid and loss of a friend
What the fuck do I even do at this point, what's an anon to do?
ask yourself do you love your gf? Can you be without her? If Yes to the first then do what she says there's no way you can have both now. If you feel like you can be without her then move on. If you say with her then talk to her about feeling neglected and alone so that she can work with you in trying to meet your needs as well as hers.
She's being controlling and doesn't trust you. That's going to put a ton of strain on the relationship down the line. I would try to make her understand the situation (that you didn't cheat) and if she stands by her "no talking to her" ultimatum, break up with her.
Ignore her and do what you want. Cutting contact with your friend will just show GF how beta you are and she would break up anyway. If she has feeling she could lose you she will be better gf.
I do love her, but if I can be without her is the toughy. I wanna say I'd be able to move on but after three years and her being my first real GF is the tough part. I get she was paranoid but she violated my privacy and then proceeded to basically guilt me with screenshots. She wanted to see my phone and who I was talking and I just got pissed and said fuck no, and that if she trusts me then she'll believe when I say I wasn't doing anything wrong and that I wouldn't be stupid enough to try. She seemed to get that but I worry she'll just do the same thing.
Why are you even talking to other girls when your in a relationship. Of course she is going to get jealous , how would you feel if she was constantly messaging some Chad that you knew was attracted to her ? its not fair on her
This. You need to admit to yourself and your GF that you did something wrong. You were seeking attention from another woman because you weren't satisfied with your relationship. If you're unsatisfied, the thing to do is communicate with your partner and work on fixing it, not to go off and find someone else like an animal.
Either admit your guilt, cut contact with the new chick, and work through it with your GF, or break up with your GF.