New tinder General: the other one is old. I just got my account going and I'm really confused about how to not come of like a shithead. What's the bf/gf conversation everyone uses?
This is what I have so far, suggestions or comments?
Don't say "trying", say working towards. That top right pic also makes you look like stephen hawking, but in the retarded way unfortunately...sorry if that sounds harsh but we're trying to replicate the minds of females with a lot of options to sort through
>Message girl about her interest
>She posts "moment of food and I liked
>I post "moment" of food and she likes
Should I try to message her one more time? I really wanna talk to her, but dont wanna seem lame or desperate.
Hit 300 matches today what you guys think?
They all just want your netflix broooo
"I don't even care about the pants being off your face is enough for me." - disclaimer, probably won't work, do it for lols though
Never used a bio, but now 3 people have asked why i don't have one soooo i put:
|Tv expert - Casino dealer - Traveler| I love political satire, swimming, animals... and bacon ;) The best quality to look for in a person is benevolence.
Is it worth having a bio?
If she hasn't responded in a day I would personally go for it. If they aren't interested then it doesn't hurt, if she is she might have forgotten or been busy?
Someone else probably has better advice.
I'm chatting to one girl who seems cool, but I cant tell if she's a stealth fatty. I hate to sound really nasty by saying that, but I don't want to meet this girl and find she's massively overweight.
Is there a way to ask for more pictures without straight up saying 'Are you hiding the fact that you're fat?'
(Do guys ever do this?)
Pretty sure I need something better in my description
So what do you think guys? I uploaded these new pics all yesterday and got an explosion of matches. Managed to rake in about 14 which is a lot for me. Anything else I should change or add?
i'm a 20 year old in nyc for spring break just looking for some quick hookups, and i make the brevity part pretty clear in my bio
i'm thinking of putting my age at 24 so it makes me more accessible to ladies over 21, good or bad idea?
>pic with kids
>pic with family
Can confirm for positive effects, my brother uses this tactic. First picture of him is of him holding a an adorable girl he knew doing community theater, then one of him and a fuck ton of friends. Nigga is rolling in them likes, also explore the description box, apparently bitches read those.
Just had two matches, opened up one with a comment about her display pic.
Got a reply saying "in ur opinion is this a hookup app or a dating app". Before I could even respond she was gone.
Then within about a minute the other match also disappeared (I made a comment about her smile being nice).
Are these cases where I should have just opened with 'Hey, let's fuck'?
Just seems odd.
Question regarding topless selfies, should I have this pic on tinder? currently its my second picture?
It sounds dumb but "hello, I hope you are having a nice day :)" works well as an opening line, its non threatening and they can make no assumptions about you on it, its got the highest reply rate of any opening message I've used, even more than ones where I analyzed their pics and bio's and specifically tailored the message for them
Ha, not NYC, in Toronto.
I think it's probably a standard question. Just surprised she didn't even wait for the response.
Interesting, I might try that next time someone has no profile or nothing particularly noteworthy to mention.
It's a mixed bag really. It's possible some girls I matched with were just doing the 'tinder run' of swiping everyone right, then decided they didn't like me after all.
I asked her the same question back to her. She said she was here for hookups. Then I replied to her with "yeah sure lets hook up". Then she unmatched me. Lmao. I guess she wanted dating.
Ireland fag? Im from Clare, currently in college in Limerick, well Im working in the Netherlands now on a work placement lol. Limerick girls are not like that they are so much easier, one tinder session in limerick I had matched with 6 people in 1 day of being there (first time using tinder in ireland) here in the Netherlands I have 6 after 3 months (and the Irish girls I matched with were all hotter)
What're the odds of that! Haha. I've no shortage of matches but getting a response can be a pain
It seems like a lot of the girls here are ridiculously stuck up, they post moments of the amount of matches they have with the caption "all these matches and no one decent"
That sort of shit is what I'm dealing with
A "Hey" won't get you a response, a witty line about something in their bio (if they have one) still probably won't get a response, and if they respond it's probably "hahaha omg lol"
Minuscule odds I must say and they sound just like the Dutch girls here haha, they are the same on nights out too, they'd shift the face off you and grind there ass against your dick, let you feel them up anywhere and ask for your number and facebook, but sex? oh no they'd never do that, I have no idea what's wrong with them, it's as if they wont accept anything less than a 9/10 guy
You could say just that? Maybe say, you're not good with online conversations, would you like to meet up?
Maybe that's too forward.
>and if they respond it's probably "hahaha omg lol"
Ugh, that's the worst. Ask them a question or give them a really open ended question to start the ball rolling.
>Yeah, it's great!
Funnily enough the only girl I've actually got a number for and am meeting is one that I was just messaging with stupid ass stuff out of boredom. I thought for sure she was just tooling around with me so I did the same back, now I've got her number and she wants to meet for coffee.
Your picture looks boring, make the one with shades your main.
No one cares where you work unless you offer free burritos, say where you go to school and what your major is
Your main is awful, get s better picture where you look more put together.
Actually put something witty. Some deep quote or something that's obscure or mysterious, girls love that shit.
Add a picture that doesn't look like a mug shot, smile or something, it's more pleasant.
Take out the "amazing I know"
Strangely enough, I met up with a Dutch girl on Tinder who was in Ireland for two weeks before Christmas!
We literally did everything you said, the date lasted around 10 hours no joke it was so fun, shifted the face off her, went to a pub and club, the night ended around 5am and we went back to my hotel where I had a private room, we get to the door and she's like "I gotta go, goodnight!" whaaaat, she said she'd she'd come back to my room next time she's in Ireland...yeah right!
I tried to set mine up today but for some reason it won't send the SMS verification. I tried just about everything imaginable but no luck yet. Has anyone ever had this problem or know of a solution?
I'm in the US and it requires that I link my facebook and phone number but when I click to send the verification, immediately it says "Verification could not be sent, try again later." I
Pretty successful at tinder, but there's always room for improvement. I'm currently sitting at 256 matches and however many I deleted because of landwhales, fakes, and crazy. I've had about 45 or so dates and hookups.
Here to take advice and give it where I can.
I've been off and on tinder for a little over a year. I'll be on it for a few weeks, delete it for a few months, repeat. So some of that was before you had to pay. I was more picky then, but now I swipe right for everything. The $10 a month is nothing for the results. And I'm definitely not getting any dates with girls less than 7/10.
New to Tinder. Set up a profile but I'm not happy with my Facebook pictures. Other than selfies I don't have many flattering pics, so I'm working on that, actually taking pics when I go out with friends. But until then I have no idea what to put in the about me. Don't want to leave it blank and I feel like any witty comment would sound forced and lame coming from me. Don't go to college. Just work, play vidya, music, drink and do weird shit. I think I'm a pretty interesting person, I just don't convey that in 500 characters of text.
Any tips would be appreciated.
Well shit, I've always avoided ever bringing up anything computer related with chicks, even though I'm also majoring in computer science.
I'm really new to this stuff, but I feel like your 3rd picture looks better than your main.
I think there is a bad image of people who major in computer science, but I also live in Seattle which is a huge city for computers. I'm also a bartender which a lot of girls have commented to be fun. In most cases I wouldn't have put it, but I'm taking into account the types of people I want to attract and other factors.
I switch from third and first all the time. Currently experiencing with other pictures as well.
I have glasses lol I wear them at least 90% of the time, but I only have them on for like half my pictures
Dude, I'm so jealous of the west coast. I'm gonna shoot hard to get an internship with Amazon (and Google, but that won't happen) to see what it's like over there. I'm in Ohio. Fuck Ohio.
>taking into account the types of people I want to attract
Ha. You do have a lot of options, it seems. I hadn't even considered that there are guys that would intentional alienate a portion of the girls that cross their accounts.
Good choice with the beard. I'm 19, and I think a beard would really help on my profile.
I think all you're missing is a picture with a kitten. You could visit an animal shelter, Petsmart or something without adopting one to get that.
Just hooked up with a girl from Akron who was on spring break. Feel kinda bad about her having a boyfriend, but shit happens.
Amazon has a great intern program. I'm shooting for Google, too.
I know what I like and I know what type of people to avoid. No reason to settle even if it's tinder.
Beard definitely gave me a lot more matches. I had a picture with one of my German Shepherds which got attention. I need to retake it, thought I looked too young.
When did beards become a big thing?
Also I'm bald so I think a beard would just make me look aggressive. I leave the 3 days growth sometimes and that looks alright though.
There's definitely a Consensual Sax joke in their somewhere...
I wouldn't have that pic as your main btw, maybe switch it with your last for now
Or try take another pic like your last, but with better lighting
>thought I looked too young
just put it like as 2nd or something. That way, they'll know that it's a much younger picture of you immediately when they get to it.
You know how chicks like that stupid eyecatching "deep" quote crap in the bios? The first picture can also work as an eyecatcher as well. I once saw a picture of a dude riding an ostrich backwards with a bio saying "What's on the inside doesn't get you free drinks" Most brilliant shit I've ever seen.
However, you get enough girls that you still want to filter some out by showing who you really are: an intelligent dude that doesn't want to "amuse" some vapid whore.
Idea: first picture is that 3rd picture you had since it seemed the most eyecatching, 2nd picture with the dog, follow with the stuff that is who you are. Don't change the text whatsoever; there's computer science in the first sentence.
When did the chick from Akron bring up her boyfriend? Also, don't start a long term relationship with a girl cheating on her current boyfriend; she'll do the same shit to you. That's probably old news, but it's a well said piece of advice that I've heard.
That does suck to kind of enable someone cheat on their boyfriend... It'd be cool if you told him afterwards or something, but as long as you have never cheated on your own girlfriend, I feel that you are probably still a pretty cool guy.
Does her bio mention a kik, snapchat, instagram, or other kind of account? If so, you may want to hit her up there? Otherwise, yeah, I get that shit too. I feel like just hitting them up every 2 or 3 days until they tell me to fuck off
I plan on taking another one with the beard. It'll probably get better reception.
I wish I had a picture of me doing something so awesome. I've learned that funny bios work really well. I mess with the bio all the time. Had this one up for three days, it's going well.
I'm not really looking for a girlfriend. I mean, if it happens it happens. Just got out of a relationship and I need some new sex in my life. She told me after. I'm not getting involved. I don't know that guy, it's none of my business. If she brings it up to him then cool. But I'm not going to butt into this dudes, possibly, perfectly happy relationship just to tell him that I fucked his gf.
I wouldn't ever cheat, been tempted, but that's just when I'd run to my gf. However, now that I don't have a gf, I can easily succumb to temptation without guilt.
>when did beards become a big thing?
I don't think that's relevant. Just know that it's something that women are looking for now.
Even though you are bald, I'd recommend trying it out. And don't be dumb about your beard. Trim and maintain it. Shape it, even. It will probably help your chances with women.
I'm not as familiar with tinder, but maybe it's a pride thing like she can't get many matches but she likes to know that people think she's hot. I know there's chicks out there that'll flirt with you for a week or two just for fun -- you are their "amusement" because their life is so vapid.
She could be too retarded to notice that she is able to do that.
Another possibility is that she is nourished by your tears. Maybe she likes to pretend to be a prude.
All of the possibilities I have thought of bring to mind a pretty solid recommendation: bother her solidly until she does unmatch you. Get a reaction out of her. Perhaps just send a cheesy pic up line like every 1 or 2 days, progressively getting more aggressive in nature?
I've considered posing on a desk with an old CRT monitor that I was given to use as a 2nd monitor where I work (taking a semester off for a co-op). I had a picture of Bill Gates in mind, and I think I look a decent amount like him. I have definitely been compared to him a couple times. But, that would probably be much more fucked up than "doing something awesome."
>funny bios work really well
Fuck. Of course they do. I don't do it, but I probably should. They really seem to look for that "personal amusement" element first, then the actual kind of guy you are second. However, I'm sure guys are just as guilty.
>I'm not really looking for a girlfriend.
>Just got out of a relationship
K. What year are you in college? I get worried about getting a girlfriend before I graduate lol I'm not like a fat neckbeard, but I've been single a while
>She told me after.
You have nothing to feel guilty about, but now I'm more clear on what you meant by how you felt bad about it.
>I don't know that guy, it's none of my business.
>If she brings it up to him then cool.
>I'm not going to butt into this dudes, possibly, perfectly happy relationship
Good point. I have always thought it would've been the right thing to to, but I doubt I would ever actually do it.
>I wouldn't ever cheat
Yeah, you're fine man
Raise some hell, anon lol you won't be able to start off going hard, and you probably shouldn't. It's great to speak your true mind to people, but your guts and occasionally conscience can get in the way
How can i make it apparent in my bio that im only interested in hookups without sounding like an asshole? I get a lot of matches but i wanna skip the bullshit
Do you get them to at least meet in person?
I heard if you don't meet them in person within a few days, and you go on messaging for like 2 weeks, you're just their entertainment.
How about you entertain them for like 2 days, 3 at most, then get more assertive about meeting up. Emphasis on my choice of the word assertive. Don't get aggressive, but be like if they just show "no interest in meeting up in person" then you have "no choice but to stop messaging them." I guess it's basically a straight up ultimatum: meet up or fuck off because I'm not just here for your amusement (flirting).
Some girls are just there because they enjoy the witty flirting. You will threaten to cut this off. No profile changes necessary.
Posted here a few days ago, was told I need to "work on my sexy". I trimmed up my beard a bit and took a more recent photo, does it look shitty?
The girl sees no need to message him back, probably because his message makes him come across as someone she doesn't want to talk to. There's nothing vapid about not wanting to both deleting matches. I don't do it either.
Also your suggestions just scream severely desperate
Support is useless and there seems to be no fix for it. The only way around would probably to use a a combination of a new facebook, a new phone number, and an emulator, then maybe you could install it on a phone. I'm having the same problem currently and I feel like tearing my hair out because I just want to get laid :(
My pet peeve: Women with kids who are trolling for husband material. I just want to fuck you, and you obviously put out and maker poor decisions with men, so why can't we just have fun without me having to be some savior to your kids?
im clearly doin somethin wrong, getting zero matches. halp
Stop looking so god damn sad in your pictures, holy fucking shit it's depressing.
Also, get BETTER pictures. You know. Of you doing things. Preferably with friends. You should probably go to the gym every once and a while, too, just sayin'.
Also, change your bio. That thing is boring as fffuuuuccckkkkkkkkkkkk.
/terrible/ photos. You look blazed as fuck in all of them, and not in a good way. In a creepy, "I smoke weed because I have no redeeming qualities" sort of way.
take that out
take that out, nobody cares
>chillin out and couch forts
Basically everything I told the guy above you. New pictures of you doing shit, change your bio to something not boring.
Sorry for being harsh, but y'all need some help.
My pictures all look blurry as fuck fuck(and they are taken 2012-2013) but still gettin tons of matches. Weird as fuck
But one tip reset your tinder and do a bio! Also I have found out that putting music genres you like is a good option.
Currently have House/hardstyle and alot of chicks seems to comment on that.
Also the number of matches you have/get dosent really matter I would say 1/10 is a hookup after some chatting in my experience.
Oh one more tip or my method actually
Match on monday-wendsday>immeadeatly start chatting>flirt a little not too much but not too little either otherwise it will stall> get number or get asked number after maybe 30min-4h tinder chattin say something like "tinder is laggy as fuck and I really really really really really really really like talking to you (that shitty pop song reference just as an example)> talk with girl in whatsapp> bring up meeting on wendsday-thursday> ask girl to your place for movie maybe dinner and drinks too>repeat next week or if you like her stick with it
Sorry on phone so text is fucked
what are some good things to say to flirt? like compliment them, call them cute? comment on their body?
I can talk to women but im bad at making it like sexy and romantic. i pretty much just have the convo that id have with a guy friend
Would not really comment on their body before maybe wendsday-thurday also becouse it might seem to them like your a creep or only interested in sex.
You should comment on their face, also look for anything out of the norm on her face and focus on that. One girl had beautiful big blue eyes and i just focused on them. Like; Your very beautiful but your eyes make you perfect etc.
Also when talking to girls dont use profanity if she does not use it and try to talk about common interests. Its okay to talk to here like a guy but you just got to be more "careful".
Can you give some examples on how you would talk to them and maybe I can help give some pointers
Also when giving a compliment change the subject after that or otherwise it might stall a bit also use smileys as much as she does. Basically try to mirror the girl in texting with length of messages/smileys/profanity
Me: You look amazing like wow! :O
Her: Aaw thanks <3
Me: Hey tell me about (hobby) it seems really interesting? :)
This chick is in love with me. Sends me nudes anytime I ask for em. Shes so fucking hot too.
What do I say now? I wasn't expecting her to respond.
Straight up 9/10 dude and i already did fuck thats why shes in love.
Shes a nympho. Likes being tied up and tossed around, calls me sir and shit. I dont even know hoe to be dominant.
She asked for a dick pic cuz she was horny amd i sexted her a little bit and this happened lol.
am i the only one that just fucks with them half the time?
Yeah that's better than your previous one, >>21559068
You just need more pictures dude they seem fine to me, also make your main pic only of you
Take pictures a but further away from your face also some group pics with a friend or friends should be added
Should I change anything in the pictures?
I would say remove the shirtless picture. I mean you don't look bad but from what I've been told by girls having mirror shirtless pictures is a no-go. Beach photos taken by someone else is okay. Also imo the guitar pic should go first.
Yeah I've heard mixed things about the shirtless pic, my ex says I should definitely have it up, but also I've read that most women say don't put one up but that the results always beg to differ
I amnt even searching for a relationship seeming as Ive actually already found my gf there but I keep doing it for my self-esteem. Anything I should change?
Hory shet you look justl ike the guy from LAHWF
You have very unflattering pics, try taking them a little more from the top and making sure your stuff is on point. It doesnt really matter if you always look like that but the point is that most people that swipe right do it based on your best - not your average.
What kind of a fucking one-liner is that?
Your second pic looks kinda WT and the third just screams "loner" but it doesnt look too bad really
First pic; Rapist
Second pic; High as fuck
Third pic; Priggish
Change up the pics
In your fourth pic you look like you are 11 and you always look very douchey.
Did you mum sleep with Hades or something?
Hory shet I havent even thought about it before. Id hope, I also want a cerberus.
Ive never seen a single person cosplay the Joker without being a little fucked in the head themselves. Dont take it personal, its just my opinion and thought.
The fourth and second sure but the fifth Ive found is kind of needed to show that I can kind of smile.
Oh its not a cosplay it was a Halloween drug party lol, everyone was dressed up, joker was just cheap and easy
Yeah leave in the fifth if you want to show smiles but I've heard men that don't smile get way more reaponses, definitely remove the fourth and second though or take a new one from a different angle or something like looking away
New to tinder. Also recent had to make a new fb so not many good pics yet. Pic suggestions or bio advice?
>girl starts up chatting with me
>We have interesting conversations
>Stops messaging me today
>still liking my moments
I'm gonna give it a few days, but what the fug is up with this? How do I get her attention back?
Push comes to shove it doesn't work, whatever.
>>21558481 here. this is better?
No idea what to do here, I think my general 'sitgma' puts girls off, I look like a general long haired rocker guy and off course most girls aren't into that shit. I literally swipe right to all girls now and sift through the shit later ... but there is nothing to go through, I hardly get ANY matches... like ... 1-2 a week at most...
Would this be a better main pic? I usually wear glasses but just scrolling through what I have right now. (I looked tired as fuck though because I was)
Cut your hair, get rid of the ridiculous 90's german dj facial hair, and stop dressing like you're a rockstar, you're not. Mentioning that you're tattooed and pierced is just further proving that you're trying way too hard. Or don't do any of that and go meet your dream girl at an all ages show or hot topic
"Wanna reenact sims so I can get to know both you and the game better?"
I honestly think it's fucked anyway. "sounds like sims" is a short answer as it is and means she didn't put the effort into responding
Wow guys, srs, I thought /soc/ are usually cool guys. For the record, I do not think I'm a rockstar, I'm just a guy that has long hair and dresses that way (Apart from the picture where I look like the village people, that was an old job I used to work at a bar on a theme night). As I said before - I get that girls on Tinder are usually pretty standard girls who like pretty standard guys, and I'm obv an alt guy that most girls aren't into.
Didn't have to be massive dicks about it
Nah bro, Tinder girls are whores who want Chad. If Tinder was made in 1980s you would've had a shot. Now you look like some guy that always talks about "Oh how I wish I was part of that era".
Mate, I fucking hate glam, I hate old fuckers who won't shut the hell up about how bands from the 80's were better and shit. It's wank and over and they need to deal with that shit and get with the times.
I'm going to take all your 'kind' words as 'don't look like a dirty fucking rocker'
You misread my post:
>You look like a Christian Rocker.
Okay, well you do.
>Do you really get laid with Tinder? I'm 28... man I wish this was around when I was 19.
I didn't mean "do YOU really get laid" as if I was incredulous, I meant this in a general sense. Do you (or people in general who use tinder) get laid using this? Or does it just end in small talk? I'm genuinely curious.
Just started on Tinder.
Could use some advice
Dude..for the love of of God as I mentioned earlie, Tinder is full of sluts, not women. They all want a C.H.A.D. Take off that J.R.O.T.C. costume and post pics with you + some friends.
>No Gay shit (unless...well that's you)
Stop looking so Asian too...your face says "I have a small dick but a great personality/future, please give me a chance".
Anyways I stopped using Tinder after the Jew update, so fuck me and my opinion.
>go on tinder
>have a program swipe right automatically
>fucking shit ton of hits - didn't expect it at all
>literally end up spending hours debating to un-match chicks depending on how attractive they are
>haven't messaged anybody because of bad anxiety
>freak out when I get messaged
>un-match at the speed of light if it's an ugly chick
>tfw I use tinder only as an ego boost, literally just to see which chicks swiped right to me that day
Really? ive only dated via okcupid and that deosnt work there. This is the first time ive looked for casual stuff and not a relationship.
I am really good at oral too so i guess ill mention that.
How doe's this look? the main is the best pic of me since I'm dressed out an dout somewhere fancy. My gf is next to me though and while shes ok with me fooling around with other girls and want's to join in one day i wonder if it might turn off matches. I'm worried i look too stiff though
As for the other pics, me with a cupcake as the photo came out really weirdly and i think its funny, me on holiday and me playing minigolf.
Get a fair amount of matches but there's always room for improvement, right?
maybe put a picture with your face showing as your main. take out the fuckboy part. of course a fuckboy would immediately deny himself while not knowing what a fuckboy is.
i would immediately swipe left because of your bio, but at least you're being honest about what you're looking for. you'd have to be an 11/10 to pull that off, for me at least. have you been getting matches? you look sweaty and greasy in your main, try to find a better one.
you're cute! maybe put in two more pictures if you have good ones, your bio is decent.
Thanks! Unfortunately I do, yet I don't. The other pics I could use are from the same dates with respect to what the pic is. It would be a bit weird to have multiple pics from the same place, no? I seldom take pictures, despite my friend's protests. I don't know why. I'll have to start, to get them off my back, haha.
Oh Jesus dude, I'm not trying to be mean, but take better pics. Especially your main. You look like you haven't showered in days.
Cut your hair too, long hair oft looks horrid on people that are overweight.
Yeah im a commited relationship so i want to make it perfecrly clear all i want is bjs ans possibly sex not love or whatever and i have no idea why i look that way i was completey clean and dressed to the nines that night. My hair gets oily fast even if i wash it every day
just added a bio, but I noticed that I get more matched without one
my friends don't take pictures, that's why it's all horrid profile photos
I get a fair amount of swipes for where I live, but nothing ever comes of it. Why?
Can I get some feedback/advice?
Have had mixed success, but now I've changed the profile to the one on the right.
Which do you think is the better profile pic?
I really like the profile pic, maybe a photo of you smiling as well?
The bio could be expanded a bit more, maybe what kind of music you like, and what do you mean by computers? For work or leisure etc?
You have good photos, I'd maybe just include one that's a full body photo (not a shirtless selfie).
It's tough getting photos when your friends don't take many, I know that feel.
B-but I'm not a fuckboy.. And I feel like now showing my face in my main is what makes people actually go to the other pics and read my bio, but I'll try it out. Don't use Facebook too often so these are the only half decent pics I have, but I'll look for better ones.
Holy shit I know you I've seen your pics on /fa/
You dress like a huge fuccboi. You are like a huge fashion victim in all of your pics.
>dadcore on a twink
Fam you need to burn everything and try again.
It says : "Looking for someone to bring to family events. Sex is tolerated."
Major rip-off from the internet.
Guess I could use some work on my pictures. Anyway feel free.
Also, I enjoy dressing prep, so until that changes, fuck off. Sunglasses are cheapo I know, but meh. They look cool enough. Also in the process of growing out my hair, and I FUCKING LOVE MY RED PANTS.
And I'm not a fucking twink ffs.
saying it in your bio though makes you sound like one. make a new album and set it so that only you can see it. then you can upload whatever pictures you want to use on tinder w/o people seeing.
one on the left. both of the photos of you in front of the lamp are pretty odd. i'm imaging you set up a tripod and put a timer on to take them. alternately, use the axe picture as your main.
maybe your game's shit, i dunno. do you usually message first?
looks good to me and yeah it's weird that you have four pictures that are basically the same thing but at least you're attractive.
yeah obviously, why would you make that your bio? it makes you look like a cunt. and why would you capitalize cunt? write something about yourself. find a better picture to use as your main or at least figure out how to take a decent selfie. hold the phone at eye level so you aren't looking down, try to not look depressed.
Changed it to this, thanks for the feedback. Thoughts? Think I should have gotten rid of both the indoor photos?
keeping one would've been alright but these photos are all good too. it's important to show off your axe throwing ability, imo.
also, tinder has stopped notifying me of new messages when i don't have the app open, and i get no new match notifications ever. even if i swipe right and match someone right then, it doesn't tell me, they just show up in my match list the next time i check. should i remove and redownload the app? will doing that delete all of my matches?
Pretty hit and miss. Met up with a couple, only one of which went further that night. Do your worst /soc/
First thought is maybe keep one tattoo if you want, keep the other to show if they ask? Might be a good conversation opener.
The pics of your face are a little blurry, probably can't be helped if they are taken at night though.
Sick beard and mo' though :D
Good idea about the tatts.
Yeah they were all night/club pics. Pretty much all other good pics didn't have a beard so didn't want them.
Cheers duds, over the past 6 months it's really grown on me.......(ﾟヮﾟ)
what do you guys think? Throwing myself out there, will this pay off? And before you ask we've exchanged some messages already over the course of like 2 days. Just small talk about dreams and catholic school mostly
I haven't had a match in days, but I don't see any possible reason I'd be shadowbanned. If anything I'm too polite to the women, they probably get bored.
My pictures can't be THAT bad surely (this is me >>21566606
It's up to you and how you feel about it. How long have you been going out? About five weeks?
That's when I breached the topic with my last girlfriend. It went down really well. If you feel it's the right time, by all means go for it!
i just recreated an account two nights in a really densely populated area that usually gets me a ton of matches, relatively
i know at least one girl unmatched me because of what i said (though it wasn't offensive at all), but i'd definitely say it would be because of this risqué shirtless pic i have up (you can see bulge)
it wasn't a problem on previous accounts which i had up for months before, but things might be different since tinder sold out
Could be any number of things. Give it a couple more days and see if you still don't get any matches I guess?
I know my old matches are still there, just haven't had any new ones in a while.
True, as I said, it really depends on the relationship maybe. Often I wouldn't feel comfortable dating a girl if I felt she was sleeping with someone else at the same time for example.
23 y/o kissless virgin male here. Recently put myself on Tinder. Not expecting much tbh but finally just to put myself out there at least see what it's like.
Does any1 know what's better: Smug semi-far away body shots or close up smiley head shots?
I see both but It'd be cool if sum1 could definitively tell me what's best for a profile pic.
Aw shit same here m8. I used to get a shitload of girls to swipe but now it's almost nothing and that goes for a populated area. And even after forcing tinder to show me matches and swiping girls I got ZERO matches today (after resetting my account) while I normally get at least 9 a day.
Could be something fucking up on their servers I hope.
Well i'm very new to it, but last couple of days I just straight up stopped getting any matches, whereas before I was getting at least one a day (light use). Today I even used up all my likes (first time it ever happened) with zero matches. Could be a server thing? Maybe just bad luck
Redid some things, found a picture that is slightly older but might be better.
I've been on Tinder for a little under a month now and already have 95 matches with some super QTs, which is great because apparently I'm not as terrible looking as I always thought I was (and I only have two pics up), but I feel like such an awkward inexperienced goof because I haven't the fucking slightest where to begin conversing or what to say; what little bit of message have been sent have had no sexual tones or attempts at me being forward because I feel awkward as shit and constantly overthink what I should say since I don't want to come off as too forward/creepy.
Should I just stop being an idiot and ask every single one of them whats up and say random stupid shit based on their profiles? How soon do you try and go for a number or something? god nothing has ever made me feel more like I may have some aspects of aspergers than this..
You look like you're trying too much
one might find it cute, I find it sad...
What are you saying? I am asking stupid questions formed around their bios and have had basic convos/brief exchange of messages, but I suck at showing attraction or pushing forward without being awkward atm, so I haven't gone farther than basic laughs and hey whatsup type shit
Ask them what they do for fun, something they mentioned in their bio like a tv show, work/school, etc... After that in the 2nd or 3rd message I hit on them but then its just ignored.
Posted this in the dead thread, so reposting here. Let me know how it works for you nerds.
This is a line that I've had success with in irl situations. I don't use tinder but I'm sure it's adaptable. tl;dr:
>Hi, I'm Anon
>>Hey Anon, I'm Lana
>Oh good, I haven't dated a Lana before.
Since tinder gives you the name of your match straight up you could probably just jump straight into the last bit.
Uhh, I don't think so. The best lines have hooks in the first message. The first response is the big hurdle in going from match to date. Your first message is just dull and the pay off is whatever.
I was pretty clear in saying that the first message is dull, and the pay off is underwhelming. No need to be defensive about it.
>whole thread of people asking "how do I talk to these girls?"/"what do I say to start conversation?"
>give a line that works for me irl and how to adapt it
>"uhh it's dull"
>point out exactly what I meant
>"durr you try it then"
Any advice on mine?
I like the bio. Delete picture with kid, some may think it's yours. Pictures are mostly good except maybe get a better-lit main. I don't like the bottom left and what is with the top right?
Your selfies are terrible, top right contributes nothing. Get better pictures. Get a whole new bio also.
Would delete bottom right, Golden Gate, and top right. Get more pictures with friends, you're coming off as a loner even though you obviously aren't. Bio is fine
I think your bio could be a bit more concise. Photos are decent but I'd wanna see one of you smiling or doing something cool.
I actually like your old bio better. Not a big fan of any of your selfies, I'd get one of you but taken by someone else.
from the other thread's OP
>Thread consensus is that your bio should be limited but include your height if you are taller than 5'10" but not if you're the jolly green giant. Also include your occupation and anything BRIEF that is interesting like a hobby (sailing or something similarly cool). Keep it short and cut the fucking bullshit. Two lines or bust.
your profile is pretty solid.
When is it too late to message someone? I've got a good range of matches but I still haven't messaged any (pussy I know, had a bad breakup last time so I sorta don't wanna go through all the hassle just for it all to go to shit sort of thing, that and being a pussy when it comes to social media)
Not too sure because I feel mine lacks too but maybe add what's your personality like?
I'm probably nitpicking but perhaps a picture with you smiling normally? Feel like most your pictures are the same shot minus one with the silly face. Other than that I think it's fine
Anyone got tips for mine?
I personally like you last photo with your tongue out the best, I would put that as my main. But that might just be me. Makes you look fun and stands out from all the other girls on Tinder a bit, it also matches your profile of being fun and quirky.
Which of these two pictures do you think would be better for a profile pic?
Umm, thanks, would you say this is better? Should I rearrange anything
When a woman has no profile information and just a few pictures of herself, what's a good opener? Is it safe to assume she's looking for hookups?
What do you say in these situations? Just copy/pasta lines like the koala/bf+gf ones?
I have no pictures where I look good tho, unphotogenic as fuck, what about stuff like this though
>What do you say in these situations? Just copy/pasta lines like the koala/bf+gf ones?
this is it a to a tee. occasionally I'll just do whatever. this seemed to work last night. you might try it, but it obviously has to be used immediately after they match you.
I don't know, man. simple smiles are the best expressions.
Christ, this is tragic!
You need some more pics of you with friends and/or doing interesting things. Go do a bungee jump / hike up a mountain, etc.
You're relying on the fact you're hot, so whilst most of us would swipe right anyway, you need some more personality & fun in your Tinder life!
If you haven't noticed, I'm not the type to sugar coat this shit so at least from me you get some decent feedback.
Reply if you need me to elaborate further
anybody still lurking? mediocre success here
default the one with your tongue out, get rid of the top right, less makeup in general
I'd drop the top right, you look like a little kid with lip gloss on in it, take out "Height" and just put the numbers
not bad, but you'd benefit from pictures in a group setting
for the love of god get rid of that bottom middle right now. You look like a doofus.
As a general piece of advice to dudes in general, have some pics (preferably your default) not looking into the camera.
If you have light eyes, face a window with sunlight coming through it and stare out the window instead of the camera when you snap the pic. It'll bring out a ton of color in your eyes.
Mexibro is a happy man. Mexibro had a threesome thanks to tinder. Mexibro should get sted tested.
On the other hand, Mexibro has met a woman who besides being cute and smart, knows to cook. Mexibro loves eating and will settle.
It's been fun around here. Wish you the best to all of you.
And when in doubt always think "what would a jerk do?". It has worked for me.
Hey, you look like Edward Norton. Neat.
Nice! Threesomes are fucking amazing. Had only one in my entire life, but I'll never forget it. Good luck with the cooking girl too!
I guess I could use some advice too. Not getting too many matches, though I don't really mind since it's just for ego and shits (have a gf already)
"About you" says "I write, draw, play [instruments] and do maths, though nothing particularly well. Mechatronics engineering
student. I cook better than you [stole this one from here]. Hi!"
Since the fucking OP didn't do it, I shall carry this torch.
old thread at:
Tinder General: Redeemed Pasta Edition
If you want your profile rated, post in edit mode. Remember that your profile is extremely important, especially your primary picture. It should grab attention when in a stack of other primary pictures.
Thread consensus is that your bio should be limited but include your height if you are taller than 5'10" but not if you're the jolly green giant. Also include your occupation and anything BRIEF that is interesting like a hobby (sailing or something similarly cool). Keep it short and cut the fucking bullshit. Two lines or bust.
Always be closing. Get her number and a date as soon as possible. Dawdling can kill your conversational reserves and torpedo you when it comes time to take her.
The opening message is also incredibly important. Cute pick up lines can work wonders, but only use lesser known ones. When a girl matches you (instead of you hitting yes and getting the notification) you can guarantee that she's actively swiping other men too and getting bombarded with matches. Your opening message is the key to surviving this stage of the event. You need to get her to respond. After that, talk to her about things you can gleam from her profile. Always ask lots of questions and close as quickly as you can.
If it's a bot, you'll know by her messages. Stop asking.
If you have any suggestions for the OP pasta, please post them in the thread. If you make the next thread yourself please include this pasta.
Advice? I get some matches now and again but none ever have anything to say.
Tertiary pics are with family, which I hear gets bonus points.
Sure, why not? I'm 30, and do decently well (for a smallish college town in the middle of buttfuck nowhere). There are enough older women on it too.
You will be reject-swiped by a majority of younger girls, but if you're in a big enough city, there's bound to be some youngins who'd go for a 40 year old.
Willing to help you guys out, sitting at around 1500 matches right now. Ask if you'd like some pointers!
How do you get 1500 matches? Do you never unmatch? I guess I've only been using a week, but I'm only sitting on under 10 right now. Then again I've only ever run out of swipes once as well.
In your opinion is it important to list height? I think i'm bang on 6ft or close to it, but I don't have tape measure to check for sure.
I think I handled this well.
I rarely unmatch, but I've never listed my height. I'm 6' so it's never really been an issue. If you think being tall is an asset then I'd put it down, most girls I know would think it's douchey.
I've also found that mixing in the occasional basic tinder moment like"late night netflix" with a picture of your tv does wonders for getting girls to talk to you, because if they like your moment you know they're interested.
Second photo as the lead photo, ditch the current lead and the two ones with the fucked face and add one of you with some friends.
The bio could work, I've found just putting some basic shit and not trying to be funny works better.
Ah okay, I tend to unmatch when I lose interest or if it's going nowhere. So many girls are just dull as dishwater I give up on them. Maybe I'm using tinder too much like OKC?
I didn't want to list height, since it's never been a problem or asset, but I just keep seeing so many women list their height I wasn't sure if it's meant to be necessary.
I've never used a Tinder moment, but I'll start using them, thanks!
Honestly, tinder moments have kinda restarted tinder for me. I just keep girls on because you never know when they'll post a slutty moment themselves or the moment you post can restart conversations you've forgotten about or got stalled on.
Pretty much if you think something couple be seen as making you a douche bag I'd avoid it. So no shirtless pictures, car pictures or anything like that. Find a puppy, puppies are a gold mine on tinder
I disagree, a female messaging first would actually pique my interest much, much more. Especially if it's a good message rather than 'Hey'. When a female messages first I always respond, unless it's someone I really don't like or have absolutley nothing in common/no attraction.
Since tinder is making me sign up with facebook, do people on my facebook know I'm using tinder? Dating in the closet is kind of hard, and I don't feel that ready to come out to everyone yet.
No, it should be completely anonymous. I've been using it a week and it hasn't had any affect, and I've known friends who have used it for months and I'd never have known unless they told me.
If you're really concerned you can make a fake facebook, but I don't think it's necessary.
Where did I go wrong
had that problem yesterday and today it worked. I got it by entering an additional number to the end of the phone number. The example I saw on reddit wasif your number is 456-1237 then type 456-12377 but when I repeated the last digit of my phone number it didnt work. today I added a different last number to the end 456-12375 and it worked. idk bro goodluck just know there is light at the end of this particular tunnel
Basically the Tinder App just looks at your interests (liked pages basically) so if someone has a matching interest it'll say so.
EG: If a girl likes Seinfeld and you also like Seinfeld it'll mention that with her photo (Shared Interests: Seinfeld).
You still write the bio independently from Facebook.
Photos can only be photos that are on Facebook, but I just made a private Album that only I can see for my Tinder pics, in case there were any that I didn't want to share with friends. Nothing obscene, but I had to crop some friends out or better crop the picture to get my face etc, so I just did that then dumped them all into one private album for ease of access.
You choose who you want to show your photo to. So if you're gay you can say you're male and only want to show photos to other males or vica versa. I think it's got filters for 'males looking for males' too, but I can't remember.
What do guys like girls to have in their bio? I have no idea what to write. Pls give bio help
why are you horizontal in every picture? Obviously you're hot af so everyone would swipe right but this is pretty much 4 of the same picture, all of which you have the smug pepe face going (especially 2). Also, I read "bored" as a code word for definitely want to hook up. So if that is what you are trying to convey then it is working extremely well.
Sucks to look young on this shit. Idk what to put in the bio so it just says "electrical engineering student at UnB" (its impressive)
>What do guys like girls to have in their bio?
Also, you have the same fucking pose three times (the main and bottom right look literally identical minus the shirt colour). Makes you look like you're trying too hard and vainly cherry-picking what angles people see you. Switch it up.
FWIW, I'd swipe you away instantly. Seems like a garden variety bitchface.
Then put your hobbies in there and personalize it. Do you watch sports, do you read, do you like art, like to go dancing.. anything like that. Anytime a girl has ever texted me "I'm bored.." it has had sexual connotations and I assume most guys have had the same experience. I read it as a code word at this point.
those selfies are shitty. Work out to improve facial definition, get better glasses, get a better haircut (what is the shortest you've had it? Try and get to a point where you can lose the jew fro), don't post any pictures with your braces showing. If you still have braces then just weight a few years until you don't have them and try again.
>Sucks to look young on this shit.
It's even suckier to be ugly. *ahem*
>"electrical engineering student at UnB" (its impressive)
LEL. It's really not. Engineers are already widely regarded as nerdy boring manlets, which is largely true. You aren't defying stereotypes, even if you tip your fedora in the mirror at your STEMly godliness every morning.
Lose the photo where you're glaring at the girl.
K well then absolutey take out any pictures with braces in them as I 1000% guarentee they put you in instant swipe left territory. Also you shouldn't be taking your own pictures. Get your friend to do it for you, with your sharpest looking clothes new haircut etc. If you have to ask some rando on campus to take a picture of you by a campus landmark or something. Get your mom to take a picture of you in front of something scenic next time you visit your family. You might not be blessed with aesthetics but you are shooting yourself in the foot here
So girls stop replying but continue to like my moments. Why?
Please be gentle as you tear me apart.
" if you go outside the amount of attractive people on the streets will increase by a significant 1 "
no major comment, i just suggest you change your glasses to something more plastic and squarer. based on personal anecdotes i find the hipstery type glasses look most attractive.
main picture too close & blurry + same advice as above.
not all guys are good with chatting up girls with nothing at all to build a conversation from. some little info about you / what you like , is very helpful to get us started. picture-wise you're on point.
you ruined it with the fuckfaces you got.
second picture would work better imo.
i do get a fairly decent amount of matches and i'm quite good with chatting them up, they tend to not reply very often in the middle of a good chat sadly. though very few of them turned into dates, any tips for me?
ofcourse i forgot picture.
You look hot but it might just be camera angles, take some different pictures and put them up, pretty much what >>21580550 said
Right now it just looks like you want to hook up, by your pictures and bio
I don't use a standard "line" because people see thorough those things, and because its boring. Find something you can strike up.
>rate muh profile
Rate my profile? Any pic changes? I noticed that when i had a pic of a 9/10 girl my matches dropped
Very boring selfies and shitty bio. How about some facts about urself or some shit to do with your life? idk but i would swipe left.(i am verry selective)
Good job on your face though, not bad at all.
Start over you are fucked with all those pictures
Not bad but losethe glasses take better pics
No changes needed.
Not bad good pics and handsome you should do great
social recluse here
what the fuck do i say to my 3 matches?
one of them is a weeaboo, one of them is a web design major and one of them thinks tinder is lame apparently.
i have no idea how to start conversations pls help
ADVICE NEEDED /SOC/TINDER/ BROS. Just hit my first match that I would really like to get with. How do I break the ice and get things rolling?? I have age on my side (I'm 21, she's 18) So i figure it shouldn't be too hard but my game is pretty rusty atm, any tips? If it helps, she seems like the tatted, pierced, artsy, stoner type.
you didnt answer her question. she was probably trying to ask you if you wore a suit every day to work, aka do you make a lot of money
also the 3 messages is a bit much. A good rule of thumb i follow is never send two in a row
lol but I just so happened to lose my virginity to a girl of the same name.
I was thinking of saying something along the lines of "I like your style and I thing we should grab coffee and smoke a J sometime" would that be acceptable or should I be more assertive?
Nigga, it doesn't have to be true. Unless you have her name tattooed on your chest you'll be fine.
Also, lines like that are what everyone hits girls with; the idea is to do something to stand out.
Its going all right on tinder, anything I should change?
Anything that needs to be changed?
Any suggestions on what I should use as an opener if a female that I'm matched with doesn't have a bio.
Thanks in advance
I got this app yesterday. Im not an ugly guy im quite average looking, but a good physique. I must of pressed yes on 75% of girls and 0 matches. Is this because im new so one has seen my profile hardly?
How can I say I won't do it again if I don't know what I did?