>more mature >more intelligent >usually chubby which floats my boat >affectionate, lots of cuddles >not judgemental at all
Vs young guys
>i'm so hot look at me i'm an attention whore, let me take 400 selfies so everyone knows i'm hot omg >yeah we're chatting but my phone is glued to my hand and i'm on grindr >you're a bear? Lose some weight you fucking slob >i know you just bought me tons of drinks but i wanna fuck him more. Wanna watch? >i just took 6 loads up my ass, woohoo! >general utterly retarded behavior >can't have a conversation without using emojis and 'lol'
I know you asked girls.. but same coin, different perspective.
Experience, maturity, attitude. I enjoy how they express their sexuality. And i'm just attracted to raspy voices and that wise look some have going on. Theyre very overwhelming and greater in size. I like feeling little.
I'm 32, I fucked a 19 year old Peruvian girl from work for a few months. She was an intern, I was her direct supervisor. She flirted with me at work all the time but I never did anything. After she got fired I started texting her and eventually we started kind of dating. She told me, "....and yeah, I have daddy issues." as part of a conversation once. I always felt weird being in public with her though. I'd take her out to dinner or something and every other word was something along the lines of "like" "ummmm" "uhhhh" We went to this little homely Chinese place on lower greenville once. There was a guy near my age with his wife, also near my age, and a daughter maybe 8 years old. The place we were at was very small so the tables were very close. She was going on and on about some fight that she had with her mom....because she still lived with her mom. I was honestly embarrassed.
But.....dat young ass. Goddamn she was hot as fuck.
I feel an older man is more intellectual than a man of my age. 22 here, in a serious relationship with a 37 year old. Neither of us are wealthy and we didn't find out each others' ages til after a few weeks of meeting each other, we met somewhere in the middle and were so enthralled in actual conversation that age ultimately didn't matter.
Yo how do I tell my family I'm dating a guy 15 years older than me?
I am 54 and just married my 23yo wife, who I met here on /soc/ 4 years ago. Neither of us were looking at all, it just clicked. I get along with her family just fine - definitely awkward moments but usually laughable.
>>22753013 >giving your assets to your spouse >ever Especially in a age gap situation, keep that shit separate. You can have joint accounts, but keep big stuff like 401k etc separate. Its 2015 and joint stuff just serves to cause problems one way or another.
>>22750629 Better taste in music and food, can cook, have a car, a place of their own, aren't afraid of their own opinions, better in bed. It's a longer list even than that. I'm 20, guy I'm about to hook up with is 39.
I'm 19 and prefer older guys (50+). Yes, I have daddy issues and feel protected and more comfortable with older guys. I don't want a "relationship" and don't want to settle down. A lot of guys I've "dated" have been married and I don't want to disrupt their married life, just have some fun.
>>22750629 I think it's just how I feel like I can rely on them ya know? They have their shit together, they're experienced, they know how to handle me or whatever. But definitely daddy issues, too, for sure.
But the thing about me is, it's less of a sexual thing? I mean I look up to them so I expect them to have good morals or whatever lol and not go after a girl way younger than them. For example, when I was 16, I had a huge crush on my 27 year old teacher and when he started to flirt back, I was disgusted because in my mind, he was supposed to be a good guy and not flirt with a 16 year old for obvious reasons.
It's kinda weird that way for me? I feel like I can definitely end up liking an older guy but end up feeling let down if they reciprocate the feelings because they're not who I thought they were. ugh
I'm also into younger women, somehow I like it a lot. And not just sex talk, but also usual talking. If any younger women are interested, give me your Kik and maybe we connect. Also just for talking about it.
Since I was 11 I used to be the toy of many men online. Once I was 15 a lot of them left but a few stayed. When I was 16 I got a boyfriend my age but that didn't go well, I really wanted an older guy. The older I got the more upset I was that less guys were interested in me. I think my web whore phase really influenced my preference in men.
>>22752990 Greetext story please - I love romance and age gap - it didn't work out for me, I'd love to hear about it working out for ya'll.
Idk. I dated an 18 y/o as a 29-30 year old - we had an ongoing relationship that was sexy and fun - but ultimately was empty and not the real thing. I thought we both wanted it to be. But she was too immature and didn't know what she wanted or some shit. "Different seasons."
That's the other side of it - you can be older man and established and comfortable in your own skin + life... and young grill will reject you because they get scared by something that stable + healthy.
I've been into older guys since I was 14. I'm 22 now. The biggest age gap I've had was about 8 years. Most of my boyfriends, however, have been within 5 years of me--I don't consider that an age gap at all.
>What do I like about older men? Generally speaking, girls seem to mature at a faster rate than men. I like an experienced guy. Someone with a career and a plan. I want someone who has seen a little more of the world than most people my age. I'd like to travel some more and sooner or later start a family. That is still a bit of a way off for me, but guys my age usually can't even imagine themselves that far in the future. Older men seem to have a better idea of what they want in a relationship and what works for them. I really appreciate that because although I'm smart, I'm still learning. It's difficult to learn anything from a boy who is less experienced at life and relationships.
>inb4daddyissues? Sure. You could stay it stems from daddy issues, but not in a creepy way. I've spend a good 98% of my life without a father. So I've been "adopting" older men my whole life--teachers, friends, etc. Many of them made me who I am. I asked a million questions about life/guys/sex/the world and I have a few older men to thank for their patience in answering them.
So now that I'm no longer a teen, I have my own career in development and my views more or less hashed out, I feel like I'm ready to keep growing and evolving but guys my age (generally) cannot help me do that anymore. Not terribly long ago, I tried dating a guy 5 years older than me. It was a mess. I was helping pay HIS bills, helping HIM find a new job, helping HIM with everything I could...and I got nothing in return. No more boys, please.
and >>22754118 is attractive, but sets of my red-flag alerts.
This is very bizarre. Why would you flirt (I.e. initiate sexual interaction) and then feel disgusted when they reciprocate? If you are strictly looking for a platonic father figure then treat that person as you would a father - meaning dont fucking flirt with him. Flirting with someone then acting grossed out when they flirt back is what crazy bitches do. You are putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation and you are definitely making the guy feel like shit by initiating a sexual interaction then reacting to him like a gross deviant when he responds to your come one.
Seriously, get your shirt together and figure out what you want before you come across someone as crazy as you who will end up stalking and/or raping you
>>22754936 It is completely unfair to flirt with a guy and be disgusted if he flirts back. I think what she was saying, however, was she was looking for or hoping for someone who would be above that, because of her age.
Surprise, surprise, I used to underage girl too. Many men are not. Regardless, it is a double standard to expect him not to respond. It doesn't show much emotional maturity.
>>22754936 I've never felt disgusted by that situation, but I can give some perspective.
Back when I was a young teenager I was definitely interested in older guys. But it's kind of a catch 22. It's a bit of a red flag if 23+ year olds are pursuing a 15 year old girl.
Two interactions come to mind from that year. One guy tried hitting on me. He was obviously late twenties. I was visibly uncomfortable and told him I was 15. He said "That doesn't bother me" which was not a good sign.
Another guy approached me saying his friend ditched him for dinner and wanted to know if I'd join him. I was admittedly naive and just saw free food, so I grinned and agreed. He saw my braces and got a look of panic. Asked how old I was, and after finding out he babbled about where my parents were and oh god he's so sorry and he thought I was older And he literally ran away. I thought it was sweet that he didn't want to creep on young girls and wished that he didn't sprint off since I still wanted that dinner.
I had always fantasized about a respectable older guy kind of grappling with his feelings and me slowly seducing him and making him succumb to the degeneracy.
Now that I'm older and not jailbait, I don't feel that older guys should struggle with a deep moral decision in order to sleep with me. Though I kind of like it when I see that hesitation in their eyes when they hear my age. I watch the wheels turn: >oh god she's so much younger than me >but she's an adult, right? She can make her own decisions >look, she's smiling at me. She's into me. She knows how old I am >okay. Okay. This is okay.
It kind of tickles my seduction kink and I do like it when there's a dynamic of me being the younger, naive, little thing to be taught. And he's the older, wiser, big man who I should listen to.
I get her twisted reasoning, I'm just saying its a fucked up thing to do. Who knows what the other guy is going through - maybe he's lonely, maybe he has marriage issues. Adding "omg u old perv" on top of that isn't helpful to anyone.
Luckily for me, I usually brush shit like that off and move on with life, but I can totally see how a man would start thinking like a misogynist after a few encounters like that
I'm 22, make 120k a year, have my life together and honestly tired of running into deadbeats my age doing nothing. Who are obsessed with the party lifestyle that I'm not into anymore. Of course there are others like me but they are far and few in between and the majority are already taken.
I've had more luck going after single older professionals seeing as we actually have more in common and I'm not getting used for my stability and money.
>>22755080 I'm not expecting anyone to believe me its the internet. I work as a software engineer and got a job right our of school as I was working with them on a two year internship. (So I had two years experience over everyone else my age applying for similar positions)
>>22755122 Ever heard of 5 year co-op placement degrees. Where parts of my courses are actually acquired while working in my feild. Aka two year internship with online courses supplemented at the same time.
Younger girls are so much fun in bed and they get excited about traveling, trying new things and actually being out of the house. The negative is that some of them are a little baby crazy or they talk your ear off about absolutely banal shit.
I have a lot easier time believing you making $120k/ur than you being an emotionally mature guy at 22. Ten years ago I was making stupid money along with other young guys refinancing properties during the subprime boom. I was never into partying - always career kind of guy. But Jesus fuck does your perspective changes from when you're 22 to when you're 32.
Not taking a dig at you brah, just sharing experiences
>>22755159 Grabbing paycheque statement when I get home. Honestly I'm not rich, I'm getting by comfortably but I still need to be smart with money and spending (plus paying off student debt still) >>22755160 Oh I dont doubt that, I've been on dates with people 35-40 and I can tell right away I have a lot more growing up to do before I reach an age where I am compatible 100% with them. While I have my life together I'm not going to lie and say I'm mature enough to long term date someone 15 years older than me. >>22755163 I work in Foster City, SF
Why do couple with a big difference of ages disturb me so much?
Not that I would ever want people who are happy with each other to not be together because I find their relationship weird, but I would never go out with someone 7 years older/younger than me, and it is beyond me how can someone not find this uncomfortable.
>>22755201 >Why do couple with a big difference of ages disturb me so much?
Because you're not into that yourself. No different than having the same reaction when you see a weight difference or race difference or whatever other thing you wouldn't want for yourself. Shit, I get bothered looking at 40 year old insurance salesmen sometimes because I would want to kill myself if I was in their shoes, but for all I know they're happy as a pig in shit so whatever
>>22755255 No, it isn't like that I'm not gay but don't get bothered by gay people, I wouldn't date a paraplegic person but I have nothing but admiration towards people who do and the list goes one, but a old and young couple is straight up disturbing to me (again, not that I would wish them to be apart)
There must be some psychological thing in me who make me get uncomfortable around them, but I can't quite understand what is it.
>>22757183 >go over to friends house >waiting for friend to get back from babysitting >mums out with her little brother at golf >chilling with dad in the lounge area watching tv >remarks how well Im looking today >return the compliment >moves from his seat over to the couch I'm sitting on >one thing leads to another and bang there it is
>>22750629 I used to be into it, but not anymore. It just gets very confusing and makes less sense the more it works out. How can I say I like them for their maturity if they're interested in starting a relationship with someone like ten years younger than them? They like my youthfulness, but not when I'm a brat. When I got into college, I met a whole bunch of people who were mature and ambitious, but also my age or younger. I met older guys who were anything but, so how can I generally say I like older guys because of qualities that don't always come to them? The last time I attempted this kind of relationship, just really sealed the deal, that I wasn't looking for someone older just someone who made sense. I guess the reason why older guys appealed to me in the first place was because my teachers showed concern for my well being, and I'm straight. I couldn't confide in people my own age because I felt like a burden, but now that I've actually made good friends, I don't really need that anymore.
>>22757353 Yeah, I realize that some people get into for sexual reasons, but I guess I was aiming for the non-obvious. It's just confusing to know that a lot of people get into this relationship because the older person is more responsible or mature, but then when they start a relationship with a younger person it just seem to hold true.
>>22757474 Explain that your friendship to his daughter is important to you, and that you don't want to be the source of any pain caused to her, like what would happen if her parents divorced because of her.
>>22757456 I guess in a specific case, this older guy I was talking to told me to go on video chat and I told him no, I don't want to. When he kept pestering me about it, I just told him I had better things to do than talk to, and I quote, "some old fart like you."
I say I like older guys but usually what it boils down to is me projecting my attraction to one or two older guys that I may or may not know onto a demographic. For instance I find my chiropractor sexy as all get out, and he's an older man, but he's healthy and loves motorcycles and gets out. But the reality is that 90% of the older dudes I meet, especially those that are into me, are just as whiny and immature as many men my age - and there are in fact many men my age who are mature, responsible and attractive. But there is an elevated element of sexiness to older men just because they seem so unattainable due to the difference
>>22755186 When I read 120k I immediately wondered if you were in the bay area. Making that much money at 22 would be sick almost anywhere else in the country. It's such a bizarre situation to be making over 100 and just barely feeling middle class.
32 year old guy here who also works in Foster City. Making a bit more than you, though with minimal debt. At least I can afford to live without roommates!
My first sexual experience was with another girl who taught me that age gaps are normal and great because that's what the guy molesting her told her. We were both nine years old. It did some pretty weird things to my sexual development. I don't think I'm a typical case, though.
Mostly, I see daddy issues being it. That, or just being forbidden fruit is fun. Even if you're old enough to not really be forbidden anymore, just taboo.
I mean if you want a romantic, emotional relationship it's a lot harder to have one with a married guy. That kind of relationship means a lot of time together talking, cuddling, dining out, etc...
If you're just looking for something uncomplicated, meaning a good sexual partner, a married guy who isn't getting what he needs from his wife if great. He can be uninhibited, kinky, highly sexual and after an hour you can kick him out back to his wife and kids. He doesn't want more, you don't want more.
>>22763428 Not really. I mean - I've found some good conversation, don't get me wrong. It's just mainly that I thought I've found decent guys but they all turn out to be clingy and needy as shit. Like one tonight asked me if I wanted to date and we hadn't even spoken much - thirty minutes tops.
>>22763513 Christ... did you guys even live remotely near one another? I get that vibe from a lot of people here. There want to get in big serious relationships really quickly, and for what? A lot of them are seperated by hundreds of miles.
A lot of the people I've talked to either 1.) fit your clingy stereotype and want inordinate amounts of attention or 2.) are just so completely far away from me in the progress of their life that we cannot relate.
Every once in a while I do find someone that's actually fun to talk to and has a level head.
28/m here... I met my ex on /soc/ years ago... She was 17, and we spoke as friends until her birthday, then I asked her out... She was hot as sin, smart, and we had a lot in common... Unfortunately immaturity became a factor as well as her family hating me for not being an Asian doctor. I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss her, but c'est la vie. There were a lot of memories made that I wouldn't trade for the world.
>>22763583 It really depends on their walk of life. I enlisted in the Marine Corps at 17. In a profession where men die young, you mature rather fast. Not saying I didn't have more to go after I got out, but it definitely put my maturity on the fast track.
>>22763559 Nah. He lived on the east coast and I'm a minimum of 2k miles away from me. I don't see the point of a relationship so quickly. Like, you just met. Slow your fuckin' rolls, you know? But in the same turn, to each their own.
The ones that can provide good conversation / aren't batshit are the rare ones. As for what I'm looking for, honestly - fuck if I know, honestly. Good / non clingy conversation? And if it goes places, it goes and If it doesn't, no big deal.
53/m I've had 3 FWB relationships with 20 something girls. They have been rewarding both as friends and lovers. All have had Daddy issues and we roll played often, and always hot. Sadly my last "daughter" moved with a job. I miss her! If you get a chance, go for it!!
>>22763661 Them depends are fucking brutal. Kinda sucks, there are a lot around. I am now a civilian, and run a very successful bail bonding company... Now they all think pussy will get them a part of my business.
>>22750629 I'm having the exact opposite issue. Girl I'm fucking right now said she wouldn't date me because of my age. I asked her if I would have just pretended to be younger would she be willing to date me and she said probably. Literally the only reason she wouldn't date me is our age gap.
>>22755115 You expect underage girls who flirt with far older men to be sane and or mature about their feelings? HAH! What a joke! Even plenty of girls and boys who can legally drink are super immature and not sane enough.
>>22750629 Honestly a lot of people in their early twenties are pretty boring. We haven't lived out our stories, we're still trying to get our shit together, we don't know who we are yet, etc.
Obviously those issues aren't universal but it's usually just easier to go for someone older. Plus I get to learn from them which helps me get farther in life and has even furthered my career at times.
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